[jezabelle]

Oh I'm so here! My man is 38, I've been with him for 5 years and we now have two kids. Since I've known him he's been talking about getting a job, I'm talking 5 years! I have now have 4 kids (5 if you include him), and I'm at home on disability as I have Lupus and Fibromyalgia. The topper is he does nothing to help me out around the house, not with the kids the housework nothing! I tell him to leave about once a month, but he won't go! Why can't he just be a man, get and job and provide for his family?!!

[venetia]

I have a related problem which is that my bf won't mooch off me, yet he hates his job and wants to be a starving artist. So we have to keep our lifestyle to one he can afford, because we split everything 50/50. It's ok at the moment but I'm worried because he wants to save up, quit his (horrible) job, and live off his savings while he does his creative work. When he does that he is going to be so broke. I feel really anxious but at the same time I don't want to kill his spirit or try to force him to have a 9 to 5. He's not lazy - he works really hard on his creative stuff now and full time shift work. But he's not practical and has no head for money. I want to change our situation so that I can support him a bit without him noticing too much, but I'm still a student myself.