[ritzyreese]

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[LoveMyPugs]

Ok, so I hope that everyone doesn't think I'm some kind of freak once I'm done with this post. What most attacted me in the beginning to my 10+ year man was how confident he was. He wanted me when he wanted me and that was it. Sure I wanted him too but the last few years I've not "wanted it" as much as he has. I've read books, watched videos, tried to self stimulate to get myself going for him. Nothing worked. He felt unattractive and I felt like all I meant to him was his next lay. We even went to therapy. Three weeks ago I told him that I just want him to take control sometimes. Be the man confident man he used to be. He said he didn't have a problem with that but didn't want me to flip if he got alittle "rough". I told him that I promissed I wouldn't. So.... One night we were kissing in the kitchen while we were cooking dinner together and he said "I want you so bad." I told him that I had a rough day at work and I wasn't in the mood. He said, "I don't care cause I want it tonight and that's it." I told him good luck cause it's not happening. Well....it happened. It was great. I was one of the best nights of sex we'd had in I can't remember. We did it twice more that week. (we were originally down to once or twice every two weeks) We have continued this way for the last three weeks and things are great. We are both less tense all together. He is more affectionate towards me, always wanting to cuddle at night while we watch TV. Now, he doesn't even have to get "rough" he just has this tone in his voice that makes me quiver. He is so attractive to me lately. So masculine. I love it. I don't know if this will help anyone but it helped me. One thing is to definately keeping talking about it. When you stop talking is when you've just given up and you can't give up. Not on what the two of you have together. Especially, if you have a lot of time invested in your relationship. I don't know if this is a long term solution to our problem but it's a fun temporary one. Good Luck!