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runningwestward
post May 14 2006, 11:57 AM
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This thread is for sharing bullying stories from grade school all the way up into the workplace. For those of us who are in a bully situation I want us to be able to use this as a support network because in the workplace there are very few things you can do about the bully. And if you do have suggestions that would be awesome. It's bloody hard to stand up to these people.

Wanting to start this thread was spurred by the recognision of a bully over the weekend. He's in my lab where I work. He's junior to me but is a few years older. Everyone in the lab can't stand the guy. He's inappriate, sexist, believes that his is always the right way and the only correct and valid opinion... you get the picture. And until a few weeks ago I had just dismissed him as an ass. That is until he actually had the nerve to point at a physical flaw (something that took me year to accept and be alright with) on my body and pester me about it. And he did this in front of about 10 people at work. I was floored. I didn't know what to say and all the memories of people who look at it funny and all the shame I used to feel about it came back in a flash. I bit my tongue though. Stuttered out an answer. But that night I went home and cried. I've been harbouring some resentment (to say the least) to this guy since and it all came out this weekend. We were hosting a conference and I was working the registration desk and he starting critizing the way I was doing my job (picture having 30 people in a line and having to write out receipts answer questions remember to ask them certain ones all in about 30 seconds a person... a little stressful...) and I just snapped. I told him to leave me alone and I'd answer him when I had a chance but he kept pushing. Saying I wasn't doing it right, saying that it wasn't good enough, saying that I should be working faster... and I lost it. I told him to f*ck off very loudly in front of 4 of the most important people at the conference: the keynote speaker and the guy I want to work for in a few months included. I just couldn't stop myself. And he just played the victim. Saying loudly for everyone to hear "what's her problem" "what did I do". I wanted to just cry. It felt like grade school and high school all over again. I am so sick of people defending him with "oh he's just a jerk" or "it's a personality thing" "it's not personal" (my ass it isn't... why doesn't he treat everyone like this then??!!!?? and why only the women?) and the fact that the responsiblity of remedying the situation fails into the victims hands. I don't know how to approach this guy and tell him to lay off without giving him more power over me. That approach backfired in highschool with that bitch AC and crew. I doubt it will work now on an ex Israili military jerk. I don't want to feel the way I felt when I was younger. I had my fair share of emotional breakdowns and stress related illness back then thank you very much. But I can feel it all coming back and I don't know how to stop the flood. That felt good to say. Thanks for letting me vent.
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runningwestward   The Scary Playground of Life - The Bullied Thread   May 14 2006, 11:57 AM
kittenb   The Scary Playground of Life - The Bullied Thread   May 14 2006, 12:10 PM
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mornington   The Scary Playground of Life - The Bullied Thread   May 16 2006, 06:01 AM
laurenann   The Scary Playground of Life - The Bullied Thread   May 16 2006, 09:10 AM
runningwestward   The Scary Playground of Life - The Bullied Thread   May 17 2006, 09:55 PM
girltrouble   *bumpy*   Jul 9 2008, 11:21 PM
pollystyrene   Thanks for resurrecting this thread, gt. Very tim...   Jul 10 2008, 07:00 AM
girltrouble   no problem, polly. i needed to get in touch with ...   Jul 10 2008, 10:33 AM
auralpoison   Oh, fucking A.   May 27 2009, 05:57 PM
auralpoison   *bump* Just in case anybody finds it useful. Why ...   May 27 2009, 06:06 PM
girl_logic   I was recently reading a book called Letters to a ...   May 27 2009, 09:42 PM
geoff   Hi, I'm Geoff, and yep, I'm a newbie. Bull...   May 28 2009, 10:34 PM
auralpoison   Girl on girl cruelty in the Scientific American   May 29 2009, 03:54 PM
thirteen   When I think about my entire time in school, I fin...   Jun 9 2009, 08:29 PM
lunia666   When I think about my entire time in school, I fin...   Jun 10 2009, 05:33 PM
ululah   Been getting bullied a little lately. Thought I w...   Jun 21 2009, 09:39 PM
auralpoison   The frequency with which this kind of shit is happ...   Jan 30 2010, 09:50 AM
zoya   that is just so fucked up - and the whole "th...   Jan 30 2010, 01:18 PM
auralpoison   Between shit like this & that little gal getti...   Jan 30 2010, 02:19 PM
culturehandy   I'm disgusted with that sort of thing. It...   Jan 30 2010, 05:40 PM
girlygirlgag   Update in Phoebe's case. http://www.theboston...   Feb 24 2010, 11:17 AM
culturehandy   GGG, thanks for the update. I'm curious to see...   Feb 25 2010, 12:51 PM
auralpoison   Nasty little cyber-bullying bitch may get comeuppa...   Mar 5 2010, 02:24 PM
koffeewitch   Does anybody know the legalities of being bullied ...   Mar 24 2010, 02:56 PM
anarch   koffeewitch, I think you're right that if your...   Mar 24 2010, 05:43 PM
koffeewitch   Thanks much anarch; those are great places to look...   Mar 26 2010, 07:40 AM
auralpoison   Another update on the Phoebe Price case, kids are ...   Mar 29 2010, 10:24 PM
auralpoison   Eighth grader hospitalized after months of bullyin...   Apr 16 2010, 07:51 PM
auralpoison   The main Fatshionista gal, Lesley, was turned onto...   Apr 20 2010, 09:40 AM
auralpoison   Phoebe Price case even more complicated than the m...   Jul 22 2010, 02:12 PM
auralpoison   *bump* Dunno how far back you might have gone in ...   Aug 6 2010, 12:46 AM
arkadystar   *bump* Dunno how far back you might have gone in ...   Aug 6 2010, 07:55 PM
Persiflager   Roleplay it with someone you trust! Husband or...   Aug 9 2010, 03:12 AM


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