[girlygirlgag]

I don't know where I should put this, but I am watching this woman on TV. As a survivor, I really want to skewer this woman. I am outraged!!!!!!!!!! She is the victim?


She is killing survivors and the survivor movement.


" I went and picked him and his cousin . and they did what they wanted."


The main problem with that assertation:" She went and picked them up."


FUCK THIS MONSTER

They were 13, she was 24. This was not the first time.

And now they are blaming being Deborah being bi-polar.

Why is she not being treated like a man? Because she is hot.?.?

[yuefie]

Well, as someone who not only began having sex 16, but also got married at 17 I have to agree that no matter how mature you seem for your age, you ARE still a child. And no, I do not have children yet, so that is not the reason why I feel that way now.

What's scary to me is that I was seeminly mature enough to baffle them with my bullshit, making my way through premarital counseling and getting the blessing of of our parents. I put on such an adult act. I didn't feel like I was acting at the time, but hindsight is 20/20. Our motivation for wanting to be married was simply that we didn't want to "burn in hell" for screwing our brains out and felt our only alternative was to get married. We were not really dedicated to eachother, we were not ready to build a life together, we just wanted to be able to have sex without the burden of guilt. We were kids, through and through and you best believe that sham of a marriage didn't work out.

Teenagers are still children. It is still a parents responsibility to teach and protect them. You can't say because someone "seems mature" they are ready to handle all the shit that comes with being sexually active. So, because they "seem mature" means if they end up pregnant (cause let's face it, part of having sex is taking the risk of becoming pregnant. Nothing is 100%) and the father bolts, they are going to be able to handle it? I don't know grown women who can handle these types of situations without it taking a huge emotional toll on them, but they certainly can handle it better than they could have at 16.

I had a friend in school who seemed to have to wisdom and maturity of a grown woman, and was like the mother hen of us all. When she got pregnant by her 20 year old boyfriend at 15, her mature facade crumbled. They got married, suddenly she was thrown in to this life, making adult decisions. She used to call me crying, all she wanted was her mom. She's now a depressed alcoholic who hates her husband and her kids. She feels like she was robbed of her youth. Tell me she was mature enough to be making those decisions. Horseshit.