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lilyblue
post Jan 17 2007, 09:52 PM
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I wanted to resurrect the Busties of Color thread. Allies welcome.

Reading in another thread about what is feminist/not feminist got me thinking about how people perceive women of color. For me, being black, I have constantly spent most of my life being told that I am not black enough. Even my grandmother has said that to me.

I remember sitting in my hairdresser's chair and asking if we could turn the news off. I simply found it depressing. She then said that "my grandmother was right, you do think you are a white girl". I was crushed. It still hurts to think about because I just want to be myself. I am just me, yet it's not good enough.

Sometimes I wonder if I should call myself feminist or womanist. Am I betraying other WOCs if I call myself feminist? Do I really think I'm white?

It's been the bane of my existence for years. I've been depressed over it and I would love to discuss stuff like this.

Also, in what ways does the feminist movement still exclude women of color?
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bustygirl
post Jan 31 2007, 11:25 PM
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lilyblue   There's More Than One Way To Be A Bustie Of Color   Jan 17 2007, 09:52 PM
girltrouble   your post made me think of this song Artist: ...   Jan 17 2007, 10:20 PM
lilyblue   I like that song, I gotta find it somewhere. I...   Jan 17 2007, 10:35 PM
girltrouble   hey i didn't get a copy either. damn. as for ...   Jan 17 2007, 11:10 PM
lilyblue   see, i have a trouble with the phrase sell-out. i...   Jan 17 2007, 11:25 PM
kickitkickitkickit   Also, in what ways does the feminist movement sti...   Jan 19 2007, 08:27 AM
lex   I can somewhat empathize with the not black enough...   Feb 5 2007, 01:40 AM
bustygirl   My best friend gt the 'not black enough' t...   Jan 19 2007, 08:43 AM
greenbean   (cross-post with "Pop Culture Feminism")...   Jan 24 2007, 12:36 PM
faerietails   I can totally empathize with you. I've been ...   Jan 24 2007, 11:17 PM
lilyblue   faerietails, i'll get to the rest of your po...   Jan 26 2007, 07:33 PM
greenbean   Has anyone seen that new Killers video? this one?...   Jan 26 2007, 08:13 PM
anna k   Their video for "Bones" features the mod...   Jan 27 2007, 01:35 AM
aviatrix   sigh. all of the mag talk reminds me of 'honey...   Jan 29 2007, 08:13 PM
bustygirl   Fuck thyself, troll.   Jan 31 2007, 11:25 PM
auralpoison   It's weird. I know I'm a freak. I've...   Feb 1 2007, 04:33 PM
greenbean   Thanks for the link Lex! I too get crap from ...   Feb 5 2007, 12:40 PM
stargazer   i've been meaning to read this thread and post...   Feb 7 2007, 10:33 AM
greenbean   yay stargazer. My white side and my mexican side ...   Feb 7 2007, 11:11 AM
lilyblue   lex, thanks for that link. it's something i re...   Feb 10 2007, 05:01 PM
anarch   lilyblue, could you send me the Shimizu article (o...   Feb 13 2007, 10:24 PM
girltrouble   i think i do the same thing lily. although my circ...   Feb 13 2007, 11:43 PM
auralpoison   Anarch, I have a friend that's one of those gu...   Feb 14 2007, 06:25 AM
anarch   auralpoison: He didn't understand why it was c...   Feb 17 2007, 10:45 PM
bustygirl   A guy I dated once told me he only dates white gir...   Feb 18 2007, 09:51 AM
faerietails   One time I had to do group work for a (college) En...   Feb 18 2007, 12:22 PM
girltrouble   *shudders from faerie's tale* yeah, there is ...   Feb 18 2007, 01:28 PM
auralpoison   See, now, being from middle America where young te...   Feb 18 2007, 02:01 PM
girltrouble   i guess it all depends on context. ricer. hmmmph...   Feb 18 2007, 02:08 PM
lilyblue   gt, it's weird. i watched lisa lampenelli and ...   Feb 18 2007, 04:44 PM
auralpoison   Up where you live you actually have Asians, GT. W...   Feb 18 2007, 05:15 PM
girltrouble   i find all of them funny and not funny (except chr...   Feb 18 2007, 06:07 PM
lilyblue   I dunno how I feel about the new breed of race c...   Feb 18 2007, 06:29 PM
lex   Personally I can't stand Lisa Lampanelli, I ju...   Feb 19 2007, 03:22 PM
stargazer   yeah, i knew about mencia being from honduras. in...   Feb 20 2007, 08:33 PM
girltrouble   i know what you mean sg. there is this guy who has...   Feb 20 2007, 11:31 PM
lex   I'd only dated white guys before my current bf...   Feb 21 2007, 12:36 AM
lilyblue   going back to race comics, what do y'all think...   Feb 24 2007, 06:46 PM
girltrouble   i...think i just spit up a bit in my mouth. the w...   Feb 24 2007, 08:52 PM
auralpoison   I may not agree with Shirley, but it is where I go...   Feb 25 2007, 12:27 AM
lilyblue   gt, i am agree with you. i don't think it...   Feb 25 2007, 01:11 AM
girltrouble   maybe it's me but are they wayans capable of ...   Feb 25 2007, 01:16 PM
auralpoison   Word, GT, that's excactly what I was thinking...   Feb 25 2007, 03:50 PM
girltrouble   oh, i know. i listen to xclan and think about how ...   Feb 25 2007, 08:00 PM
lilyblue   oh hell yeah! i keep wondering what happened ...   Feb 25 2007, 09:35 PM
Torch   oh hell yeah! i keep wondering what happened ...   Aug 10 2007, 02:28 PM
girltrouble   oh hell yeah! i keep wondering what happened ...   Aug 21 2007, 06:27 PM
girltrouble   oh shit! did we unionize? (finally!)altern...   Feb 25 2007, 09:44 PM
lilyblue   ha! of course there is a union. it's a se...   Mar 16 2007, 12:18 AM
girltrouble   damn. i was just hoping for a decoder ring.... so...   Mar 16 2007, 10:40 AM
lilyblue   gt, i get what you are saying and i'm not tota...   Mar 16 2007, 08:57 PM
stargazer   lily, you should really read bell hook's talki...   Mar 17 2007, 01:40 PM
lilyblue   ok busties, here's a topic for ya: don imus, r...   Apr 12 2007, 09:03 PM
stargazer   i kinda feel that imus has said worse things and t...   Apr 15 2007, 07:51 PM
mouni4   I don't know if someone has already seen it, b...   Apr 22 2007, 03:46 PM
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Moonpieluv   I embrace all the distinctions and differences bet...   Jul 17 2007, 07:54 AM
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chinichin   Hey! A new thread for POC issues ... um, new ...   Aug 2 2007, 06:41 PM
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