[roseviolet]

Looks like the old version of this thread was accidentally deleted, so it was suggested that it be revived. Well, here it is!

[culturehandy]

I don't try and defenf myself when someone of either gender offers advice, and I have many very close friends who are men. Hell, one of my best friends is a man!

You're friend is offering sweeping generalizations of women.

I can appreciate that when things are written some times they come acorss as snark, rude or condescending. And I've stayed out of the deprssion thread (again, because I feel me going in there while not suffering from depression and offering advice is rude and completely unwarranted), but dude, some of your posts come across as rude. We have no problem with someone, no matter who they are or gender or whatever, offerig advice, but it's the delivery of that advice. there are more eloquent ways of putting things. I don't doubt that you were trying to help, but think of how YOU would react if someone said things to you in a way that may hurt you. It's not so much offending but hurting people.

If I went into the depression thread and just posted, Suck it up buttercup, then I'd deserve a tongue lashing. I don't really care if you stick around or not, our paths don't cross, we don't hang out in the same threads, but if you do decide to stick around, just read your posts and few times and take what we are saying seriously.

Awwww thanks AP, that is so sweet. I hearts me some AP.

[funk0039]

dude, some of your posts come across as rude. We have no problem with someone, no matter who they are or gender or whatever, offerig advice, but it's the delivery of that advice. there are more eloquent ways of putting things. I don't doubt that you were trying to help, but think of how YOU would react if someone said things to you in a way that may hurt you. It's not so much offending but hurting people.

If I went into the depression thread and just posted, Suck it up buttercup, then I'd deserve a tongue lashing. I don't really care if you stick around or not, our paths don't cross, we don't hang out in the same threads, but if you do decide to stick around, just read your posts and few times and take what we are saying seriously.

If this is the case, then how do I change that? I asked a friend of mine if I came across as arrogant/condescending in day to day life, he thought about it and said he doesn't think so. He knows me REALLY well, so this can't be a personality quirk, it's got to be a screw up in the way I type my posts. I sure as hell don't want to hurt anyone! I was serious about wanting to learn something, I just didn't see how I was being rude, otherwise I would have never posted what I did. Would you help me deconstruct how I'm posting so that I can figure out where I went wrong?