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post Sep 7 2008, 02:30 PM
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post Oct 11 2008, 08:52 AM
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From: St Cloud MN, USA

I've been doing some thinking.

First, I'd like to thank roseviolet for teaching me once she saw that I was ignorant. I really didn't understand what I was doing, and I certainly didn't know that I was hurting more than helping. You're right, I don't want to stay here, but I don't agree quite as to the reasons. You probably won't want to read the rest of this, my final post.

Auralpoison, you have aptly named yourself. The really peculiar thing is, and I still don't get why I care at all, is that I pity you and thritiesgirl. Years from now, I'll be happily married, moderately successful, and have lots of kids, while you are alternately "rogering" yourself and picking scabs, miserable as ever. I still can't fathom why you actually "salivated" that I was about to post something in response to one of your foul mouthed missives. Why you gave me such influence over your life, especially since I never wanted nor asked for it, really implies just how empty your life must be. You actually sat there, WAITING for me to write something?! Feel free to reassure yourself to the rest of this thread that you're correct in your assessments, but it's not going to make one iota of difference in your life.

thirtiesgirl will have a few rare relationships, but will end up single, stewing in her own juices, and bitter as ever. I think the difference between us is that I continually admit I'm wrong at a lot of things, and try my level best to learn. Neither of you are doing that in the slightest. I'm going to keep screwing up, but I won't ever quit learning from my mistakes. At least I'll make all new mistakes instead of the same old ones you yourselves seem to prefer. It's comforting being miserable, once you get used to it, because it's all you know. It's frightening doing something different, isn't it?

As for the rest of you who decided to chime in, you were far too quick to jump on the bandwagon. Kinda shows just how little free will and how a deep need for approval from your peers is so necessary in your lives. The only one of you that really tried to do differently, did the opposite, trying to show me how I was coming across and how to change. She even did it without crudity, which is why I responded so readily. No, you don't have to worry, I won't be back. If I could figure out a way to totally delete my profile, I would do it IMMEDIATELY. I think my one of my female friends were right, I shouldn't have allowed any of you to have an effect on me at all, it's not worth the time and energy.

Still I learned quite a lot, roseviolet and a few others provided the positive examples, while auralpoison, kittenb and the rest provided the negative ones. At first, some of you even confused me with this "Steve" character, and others like him. That really speaks of your own collective paranoia, which I tried to lay to rest by simply baldly stating who I am, figuring that there was no way a "troll" (whatever that is) would do that sort of thing. I don't need nor want to hide behind these layers of masks that the internet seems to encourage so readily. If this is the result of spending all of one's time online, then I for one am really glad I don't have the patience to sit still for so long. Sure I type fast sometimes, but staring at a screen for hours just isn't my cup of tea.

I'm going to tell you all a little secret. The reason why you keep getting folks like "Steve" who just pop up frequently is that you go into a tizzy with every appearance. If you simply blocked yourselves from seeing their posts, you wouldn't have this problem. Hell, I even pointed out this little tidbit to thirtiesgirl, who obviously didn't pay attention. These people desperately need attention, which you so willingly grant, as if one person could EVER even remotely affect a small fraction of the enormity that is this forum! This thing is HUGE, didn't you notice? Even if someone spent all their waking hours posting, they couldn't possibly contact, let alone harm, everyone here!

Good luck to all of you, I think you need it.... Goodbye.

"Know thyself." Socrates
"This above all to thineownself be true." William Shakepeare
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." the Bible
These 3 laws govern who I am, whether or not you like it.
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roseviolet   Take It Outside   Sep 7 2008, 02:30 PM
thenewrussia   Does anyone have Facebook? Does anyone play the a...   Sep 17 2008, 04:00 PM
stargazer   russia, this is the wrong thread to post your ques...   Sep 17 2008, 04:11 PM
pollystyrene   First of all, don't single me out as the one s...   Sep 23 2008, 04:30 PM
girltrouble   dood. i can't believe that you interrupted tha...   Sep 23 2008, 04:52 PM
girlygirlgag   Alrighty. GT, I think you are great, but you need...   Oct 1 2008, 11:27 AM
girltrouble   so if i reply then it's just another hissy fi...   Oct 7 2008, 12:35 PM
erinjane   so if i reply then it's just another hissy fit...   Oct 7 2008, 12:43 PM
girltrouble   honestly, i had no issue with you, ej, i took you...   Oct 7 2008, 01:20 PM
bunnyb   I think bunnyb made a good point that she feels li...   Oct 7 2008, 02:17 PM
erinjane   I'm sorry I made you feel that way, erinjane. ...   Oct 7 2008, 02:47 PM
girltrouble   thank you bunny, that's awful sweet of you. i...   Oct 7 2008, 02:39 PM
vixen_within   while we are on the topic, pepper, what have you...   Oct 8 2008, 09:46 AM
girltrouble   i disagree, vixen. my question was about how thin...   Oct 8 2008, 10:17 AM
kittenb   I was trying to be offensive. I don't even t...   Oct 9 2008, 09:52 AM
pollystyrene   I'm going to break the "one you'll ne...   Oct 9 2008, 10:19 AM
bunnyb   Why whatever do you mean, polly? I dislocated my ...   Oct 9 2008, 10:24 AM
pollystyrene   LOL, bunny. Kitten, that was definitely a health...   Oct 9 2008, 10:26 AM
culturehandy   I read the last line in one of his posts, I just w...   Oct 9 2008, 11:32 AM
candycane_girl   Oh lordy, I don't know what else to say except...   Oct 9 2008, 11:47 AM
auralpoison   He's found his niche here. He's dug his t...   Oct 9 2008, 12:06 PM
gradgal   I agree with all of you ladies! I have been...   Oct 9 2008, 12:19 PM
thirtiesgirl   He's a 'savior guy,' and it's hard...   Oct 9 2008, 01:30 PM
auralpoison   I am salivating as I type this. He's gonna be...   Oct 9 2008, 05:05 PM
funk0039   I had no idea so many of you thought me destructiv...   Oct 9 2008, 05:12 PM
funk0039   If you all collectively believe me beyond salvage,...   Oct 9 2008, 05:14 PM
kittenb   You've heard our opinions. Leave.   Oct 9 2008, 05:17 PM
auralpoison   Again with the martyr schtick. Get off the cross,...   Oct 9 2008, 05:20 PM
gradgal   I think that you hit the nail on the head and poin...   Oct 9 2008, 05:39 PM
funk0039   I think that you hit the nail on the head and poin...   Oct 9 2008, 06:14 PM
auralpoison   Gradgal, *long slow clap* You hit the point right...   Oct 9 2008, 06:04 PM
hellotampon   Yeah, go eat a bag of dicks. :lol: I really hope...   Oct 9 2008, 07:22 PM
auralpoison   We don't think you're setting us up. We t...   Oct 9 2008, 06:49 PM
auralpoison   Make yourself a t shirt & you'll never for...   Oct 9 2008, 07:38 PM
girltrouble   wait.... did i miss a slow clap for a bag of dicks...   Oct 9 2008, 08:18 PM
thirtiesgirl   In connection with the bag of dicks theme, I'l...   Oct 9 2008, 08:29 PM
pollystyrene   In the Cameron Frye voice, auralpoison, you're...   Oct 9 2008, 10:22 PM
stargazer   I asked a female friend of mine a few minutes ago,...   Oct 9 2008, 10:34 PM
girltrouble   ok, i guess i can say it without reservation: my f...   Oct 10 2008, 12:12 AM
auralpoison   "When Cameron was in Egypt's land . . . l...   Oct 10 2008, 01:26 AM
bunnyb   There are women & men here that I'd get on...   Oct 10 2008, 04:42 AM
roseviolet   Funk, I think the others would agree that I'm ...   Oct 10 2008, 08:36 AM
funk0039   [font=Georgia]Funk, I think the others would agree...   Oct 10 2008, 04:20 PM
culturehandy   I don't try and defenf myself when someone of ...   Oct 10 2008, 09:34 AM
funk0039   dude, some of your posts come across as rude. We h...   Oct 10 2008, 04:08 PM
auralpoison   :wub: Count me as drunk on the love. Dude, if RV...   Oct 10 2008, 09:51 AM
mornington   Funk, that is *exactly* what rose is saying - that...   Oct 10 2008, 07:07 PM
pollystyrene   We don't care, don't have the time or desi...   Oct 10 2008, 07:25 PM
girltrouble   um, mornington, right now, i am so super jealous o...   Oct 10 2008, 07:27 PM
StarryStacey   Oh my gosh. I think I hacked the fuckers account. ...   Oct 10 2008, 11:04 PM
StarryStacey   Oh my gosh. I think I hacked the fuckers account. ...   Oct 10 2008, 11:24 PM
ModSquad   Hold it right there! The ModSquad wants to le...   Oct 11 2008, 08:56 AM
culturehandy   yes starrystacey sent me a message informing me of...   Oct 11 2008, 08:59 AM
crinoline   slow clap for funk's amazing Miss Cleo imperso...   Oct 11 2008, 09:41 AM
culturehandy   Ahhhh there he goes again with the condescending t...   Oct 11 2008, 10:06 AM
faerietails   HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!! okay, i had t...   Oct 11 2008, 10:24 AM
culturehandy   I wonder where he got his PhD from.   Oct 11 2008, 10:28 AM
roseviolet   Funk, I tried to help you earlier. I was willing t...   Oct 11 2008, 11:11 AM
girltrouble   pot meet kettle? i'm going to hazard a guess...   Oct 11 2008, 11:21 AM
thirtiesgirl   Oh, fuck off, funk and go the hell away. You...   Oct 11 2008, 11:39 AM
pollystyrene   Sorry, I'm too busy laughing my ass off at fun...   Oct 11 2008, 11:48 AM
kittenb   You know, I've never been a part of running so...   Oct 11 2008, 12:00 PM
hellotampon   I like how he was constantly inviting all his ...   Oct 11 2008, 12:16 PM
culturehandy   Bwaaahahahahaha Kitten. I shoulda come wif a pit...   Oct 11 2008, 02:33 PM
auralpoison   Oh. My. God. I really needed that. I did. I d...   Oct 12 2008, 08:39 AM
thirtiesgirl   Ok, mouse, continuing our argument from the Hallow...   Nov 2 2008, 03:19 AM
mouse   ok, first off, this took place outside the store, ...   Nov 2 2008, 05:26 AM
thirtiesgirl   i don't want to sound holier than thou and i r...   Nov 2 2008, 12:30 PM
sybarite   I may regret this, and I don't mean to be redu...   Nov 2 2008, 09:33 AM
mouse   thank you syb, that explains it nicely. thirties...   Nov 2 2008, 02:54 PM
roseviolet   the point is, i crossed a bridge, treated someone ...   Nov 2 2008, 03:27 PM
thirtiesgirl   I agree it sucks, what has happened with Latino fa...   Nov 2 2008, 04:33 PM
mouse   well i guess we'll have to agree to disagree.   Nov 2 2008, 05:32 PM
zoya   what I believe mouse did was make herself "hu...   Nov 2 2008, 08:10 PM
roseviolet   From the Sufferin' Suffragettes thread ... [q...   Nov 8 2008, 12:03 PM
girltrouble   i think this is the first time i've been in th...   Nov 8 2008, 01:16 PM
anarch   I admire your condemnation of the concept of ...   Nov 9 2008, 01:49 AM
culturehandy   Nohope your comments about Islam being gibberish a...   Nov 10 2008, 06:24 PM
girlygirlgag   NoHope is the worst kind fo troll..... He just say...   Nov 10 2008, 06:37 PM
culturehandy   GGG, you're right. I should no better, but thi...   Nov 10 2008, 07:36 PM
auralpoison   If it ain't black & white (Or Red.) politi...   Nov 10 2008, 07:49 PM
culturehandy   If no hope is really that miserable, why doesn...   Nov 10 2008, 08:27 PM
auralpoison   You pick a name like "NoHope", you know ...   Nov 10 2008, 09:10 PM
culturehandy   AP, I always love your posts. They give me a panty...   Nov 10 2008, 09:15 PM
auralpoison   This poppeded into my head: "No heroes, no l...   Nov 10 2008, 09:20 PM
culturehandy   Awww, AP :wub: I so want to be a part of the prol...   Nov 10 2008, 09:23 PM
auralpoison   I'm petite bougie as a motherfucker. Exploit ...   Nov 10 2008, 09:35 PM
culturehandy   Oh exploit me exploit me!   Nov 10 2008, 09:54 PM
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auralpoison   Naw, there is something so effervescent about ...   Nov 10 2008, 10:08 PM
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auralpoison   *A long slow clap for Mouse* I have a lot of rega...   Nov 10 2008, 11:09 PM
culturehandy   I also studied religion in University, I took a ve...   Nov 11 2008, 08:15 AM
nohope   So, NoHope, why don't you get a fcuking clue...   Nov 11 2008, 01:45 PM
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nohope   i don't know where his recent anti-choice I a...   Nov 11 2008, 02:03 PM
pollystyrene   I think he's never been disrespectful until no...   Nov 11 2008, 09:22 AM
missladyj   I think nohope is a total douche . I don't kno...   Nov 11 2008, 10:00 AM
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