I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, but here goes: I have not received the February issue of BUST and both of the e-mails I've sent to BUST customer service have been ignored......can an administrator please direct me to someone who will help? Thanks.

hi oliva! good to see you!

i say call their 800 number and try talking to a live person, oilvarra, if you haven't already

Thanks Crazyoldcatlady, I'm going to give them a call Monday. I'm kind of having BUST-mag withdrawals.

Hey Girltrouble! I know I haven't been around the Lounge much lately - this semester is so busy! I'm gonna try to post more often

good, o!




happy valentine's day,busties. i love you all!!!!
take care of yourselves, k?

is there a "rant" thread?

the "cob" thread just isn't intense enough for the putrid, vile things i need to rant about. it doesn't fit in any of the current threads, and i don't want to derail them, anyway.

i would love to blow a gasket in something like, "You know what really grinds my gears?"

any takers/dissenters?

I bumped the Virtual Fight Club thread in F&F for ya, COCL. Rant away!

Is it possible to delete your account and how would I go about doing that?

Most folks just choose to leave & never come back. It seems easier.

....kinda like my men... (sorry, couldn't resist )


(except they all eventually come back...heh)

hey, i'm somewhat new, and i was wondering if there could/should be a thread in Our Bodies, Our Hells for people with epilepsy, or who know people with epilepsy? it's a more common problem than a lot of people think but if there doesn't seem to by any response then that's okay. just making sure cause it can be isolating, stigmatized, etc....

That doesn't answer my question.

It was just a suggestion. Whatevs.

Your answer is no you can't delete your account yourself. PM the Modsquad, they are the ones who have the power to delete your account. Not that they don't already have enough to do around here.

the technical answer, is no. aural is right.

usually the most done is the account is deactivated-- essentially the account is unusable. all of the posts remain, you just can't log in anymore. aural's first answer is basically the short answer. you can send the email, but what's the point? easier just to leave.

i hope you're asking out of curiosity more than intent. i'd hate to see you go.

-gt

Does anyone still have access to the o-o-o-old Lounge archives? I tried going through Archive.org, and I was able to pull up some of the topic pages, but none of the actual *posts*. Didn't someone here keep a link or a stash or something of all the old stuff?

i think most of those were lost in the various lounge moves.

you can find a tiny tidbit from a link in the mutual admiration thread someone pulled a page or two. it's not much. are you looking for something? how far back?

Nothing in particularly... I was just kinda sitting here reading my old posts and marvelling at the gyrations my life has taken in the past three years... and I was curious to read further back.

Self-indulgent time-wasting, really.

rudderless - after many many attempts on many many busties' parts to find AP's legendary Manifesto of Fuck somewhere in the world of web archives, it's become universally accepted that pretty much anything prior to about 2005-ish was eaten in the infamous dingo attack just before the servers were switched / new software installed.

sucks, because I'd like so read some of my old stuff, too. When I first started posting in the lounge, I was still with my ex and WOW I've changed since then! I agree, it would be interesting to read!

Oh, man, I'd love to read some of that old stuff. I was just starting to write seriously then & stuff just came out in unmanageable torrents. I'd like to have a laugh at myself & compare then to now.

How would Busties feel about a general sports thread? Something that covers our college/pro sports interests? I've checked various threads, but haven't found anything suitable. If I'm missing it, please do tell.

I have a fondness for hockey & boxing & the futball, but I'm willing to chat about whatever.

i was thinking about a sports thread, aural... i didn't know if it would get much play, but i heard an interview with dave zirin, who i adore-- if you aren't familiar he takes the sports world and talks about why and how it has social relevance. he's pretty amazing. i'm reading snippets of one of his books, welcome to the terrordome. he has a great chapter on the nba and hip hop, and another chapter about how people in power exploit sports that goes into the whole story of pat tillman... good stuff.

AP, i think a sports thread would be great. i played sports most of my life (volleyball, softball, and basketball--i was the best at softball). i've read about sports since i was a kid. although, i will admit that i feel out of touch with some of the currents sports. do you have a name for the sports thread?

GT, speaking of hip hop and the nba, i'm reminded how chuck d was influenced by marv albert for his rapping vocal style.

lol... i never heard that star... that's a riot. the book i was talking about has a forward by chuck d....

i can't resist-- for the sports thread:

sporty spice!

my .02 cents..... I think a sports thread sounds cool, but maybe it would be good to clarify the intent of the thread (like maybe through it's title) it sounds like the thread would be more about team sports, or sporting events (ie: tennis, golf) than our actual participation in sports.
ie: I snowboard, and of course like to talk about gear and mountains and stuff - but it sounds like what would be more appropriate in the thread would be to talk about say... the US Open of Snowboarding.

Just thinking that somewhere in the title it might be good to make it clear that it's a thread devoted to the discussion of watching sports and sporting events, and following the teams and athletes, as opposed to actually participating in them.

now as for a title, I have no idea. Brain isn't quite functional at the moment.

Perhaps something like "It's not just men who like to watch/talk about sports" or "no, we're not talking shopping ... we're talking sports"?

I'd love a thread for march madness and the NBA or a place to laugh at the Dominicans getting they ass whupped by Netherlands in BASEBALL. High larious

how about a "stating the obvious" thread?
like:

or:

For the sports thread, "We don't need cups!" or "We are athletic supporters!". Not my best, but off the cuff.

Although, I did get to drink from the Stanley Cup once.

I was thinking about a thread after reading the moooooving on stuff, and watching Sita Sings the Blues. What about a worst way you've dumped someone or been dumped?

I don't know if that'll bring up bad memories or good laughs...

AP - i LOVE "we are athletic supporters" or at least something containing "athletic supporters"

CH - wow...as much as I think that could be funny, I know there are times when it would just bum the fuck out of me. Of course, there is always the "idiotic things our dates have told us" thread, which has gone there at times.....

Oh AP! That makes me think of the line from Grease..."If you can't be an athlete, then be an athletic supporter."

I like the title you suggested alot.

Star, you & your Grease fixation.

Yeah, on the sports thread, there doesn't seem to be much interest outside of the three of us, so there's no real point in starting it.

Would there be a problem with having more than one film thread? Our current film thread is GREAT, don't get me wrong, but it leans towards the more esoteric, artsy-fartsy, high-minded, Landmark cinema features. Which leaves a lot of people feeling left out & limits the conversation somewhat. Anybody that wants to post about whatever random film they enjoyed/hated recently gets frustrated when it's all, "I Am Curious Yellow" or "Rashomon" or "Suspiria" or some such.

Maybe something along the lines of, "Mainstream?! My Stream!: The Movie Thread". or "Pass the Popcorn!: The Movie Thread".

Having recently been kicked in the teeth (Undeservedly, I might add.) makes one proactive, so I'd really appreciate some support on this. I know a lot of Busties avoid the film thread because they just want to talk about fun pictures rather than delve into semiotics & whatnot. So if you want to talk about seeing a movie that isn't art house fare, do get behind me on this please. Let's start a film thread for popcorn movies.

AP you are not the first to have mentioned this, just the first with the ovaries to do it publicly. I love girltrouble's critique and her passion for films but other posts in the thread can come across as cliquish and esoteric. Recently I wrote a long post about a film I had seen, which I had hoped would generate discussion, and my post was more or less ignored (I think because it was too mainstream, being an Oscar contender and all). I don't suspect but rather know that other people bypass that thread because they are intimidated (case in point: in the lead up to the Oscars the kvetchies discussed films in Kvetch Up rather than the movies thread, so it's not as if there isn't potential discussion). Anyway, I have no objections to a second movies thread ... if we can distinguish between them, e.g. "Pass the Popcorn!: The Mainstream Movies Thread" to avoid confusion of new members.

As someone who appreciates the in-depth analysis that the current film thread provides, I think a second, mainstream thread would actually be a great idea. I feel lucky that when I am in the mood for discussing aspects of film noir in contemporary cinema there's a forum for that. Sometimes, though, I feel like posting about The International or He's Just not Into You (or anything starring Clive Owen, really) so it would be good to have a place to discuss popular films too.

I think 'mainstream' should definitely go into the title FWIW. To combine suggestions: 'Pass the Popcorn: the Mainstream Movies Thread' ?

Okay, that's three votes, two more & I'll start the thread.

ETA: I appreciate the current thread, but as I said, I'm being proactive here & doing what my detractor failed to.

The new movie thread sounds cool. I actually like the first title you came up with AP "Mainstream? My stream!: The movie thread." The other one mentioned is cool too.

Me too!

Though I feel the need to point out that I don't feel intimidated by the discussions in the current movie thread, I just don't join in because I've not seen any of the films they're talking about.

Done & done.

Yes, my word choice isn't indicative of most people's feelings, or even my own. I find a lot of the film analysis interesting, I've learned stuff from that thread and have a long list of films to watch but sometimes it can come over as being quite highbrow and some of us feel as if we don't have anything to contribute, even when we are cinephiles.

Anyway, the point has been made and AP has her votes.

eta: cross-posted with AP.

Thank you, AP, for starting the new movie thread. I glance over the other one, but I'm too intimidated to post in there 99.5% of the time. Sometimes you just want to watch a movie, and that's it, y'know?

If it's not too late, I'd like to see a sports thread. I seem to remember, years ago, that there was a thread for sports, but it fizzled pretty quickly. I wouldn't post about March Madness, but definitely the tennis competitions, pro wrestling, and UFC-type fighting, maybe even football.

Well, if we get one more vote of confidence on the sport thread, I'll, ahem, get the ball rolling.

I'll hold your balls ANYTIME!

waving a big #1 foam finger sports thread sports thread!!!

i support a new movie thread too...

Since the newbies thread was deleted (and re-started) I was unable to find a beautifully succinct message to quote so I will summarise from memory:

The lovely tesao used to periodically post a welcome message in the newbies thread that covered all of the finer points of lounge etiquette. One of the best points was that the lounge (a forum, not a blog) was like one big party where we socialise, have random conversations that can be fun and/or deep and meaningful, meet new people and get to know them. As she said, at a party, it is nice to approach a conversation, listen, sense the vibe of the talk and the people talking and then join in if it interests you; at a party it is rude to jump into the conversation without introducing yourself, therefore introduce yourself in the newbies thread. However, what tesao said also applied to busties -seasoned and newer- as it is rude and inconsiderate to post in a thread without acknowledgment of the posts that have come before ... simply put, it is bad manners. Non sequiturs have their place in specific threads (write a letter/ little pieces of happiness) but when you post in a thread where daily discussion is taking place or people are speaking about their relationship problems or their depression or the kinks in their sex life (applicable to many threads) then it is ignorant to post about yourself for paragraphs without at least apologising for the self-absorption. I am not the manners police nor am I trying to be exclusionary but you wouldn't walk up to a group of family, colleagues or friends, let alone practical strangers, to immediately talk about yourself so why do it here?
It seems, at times, as if some posters aren't even reading and engaging with the discussions going on in the thread but are using it as a platform to write about their own issues; if this is actually the case then why not write a blog?

*disclaimer: this is not directed at any one person but something I have noticed happening more and more often recently, although usually it's the same people.
I am also speaking for myself and offering my own opinion and not representing a specific group of BUSTies/clique.

I think everyone here has had the experience of having their posts ignored & being talked over. I find it a strange way to post too, but it seems really common here/nothing new.

There is a newbies thread for a reason, and I agree, it is rude to barge in, not introduce yourself then only talk about yourself.

Perhaps I wasn't clear enough: I'm referring to people using threads for their own selfish and often self-involved purposes. I wonder at times whether people actually read the previous posts to see how the thread operates: in the case of kvetch up and the okayers thread there is a conversation taking place, people are discussing their day(s) (and not merely kvetching), commenting on other people's stuff, offering vibes, support and hugs. It is rude to just jump in and post your own me-me-me drivel; the polite way to join a conversation on bust is to acknowledge that you are de-lurking, or say that you don't normally post in that particular thread, or that you're sorry for being self-involved but that you have to vent.

I am starting to think that people in general are just ignorant.

Yeah, seriously. Get a friggin' blog if you need to vent THAT much and aren't one for conversation.