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pyrexions
QUOTE(tesao @ Nov 12 2006, 06:10 AM) *

hi, everyone!

i was really intrigued by the pyrex vibrators, so i've been looking at a LOT of them on line. they look really interesting! i'm thinking that i may just need to drop the cash on one.....they are also stunningly BEAUTIFUL,and some of them have different throb levels, that change by themselves, while little red and blue lights throb in time to the beat. VERY cool. maybe i will ask for one for a yule gift.



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Erica4U
I enjoy masturbation! It is convenient and I can imagine whatever I want to and about whomever I want. The slow process of the nerves withing your body react! The heartbeat races as you are getting closer and the feeling from within is something I wish I could have 24/7! When that moment arises when you are aware that there is no stopping now, I usually slow the pace and stroke slowly and I can feel the pressure from within as I get ready to release and then I explode and the ripples of excitement rush through my body with hair standing on end and goosepimples@ It's wonderful@ I love watching others get themselves off and I even enjoy helping!
go_kayte
I just ordered this (my 8th or 9th toy). I wanted something sturdy and waterproof. Let's hope it rocks!
faerietails
go_kayte, let us know how it is! I was actually eyeing that one.

I might drop by Babeland tomorrow. I want the freakin' Hitachi Wand! I've just been putting it off because of the cost, but dammit, I will have that baby before Christmas!
go_kayte
Unfortunately...the G-swirl packaging says "water resistant", but Babeland advertised it as "water proof"... I think I'll be sending them an email asking about it. I wanna know if it's just waterproof enough to be cleaned or if I can take it in the shower with me, which was one of the main reasons I got it.

fairietails, have you seen the ideal rechargeable? Looks like a good improvement on the hitachi--That's going on my birthday wishlist.
faerietails
Ooooooooooh...I want! And the price is pretty comparable to the Hitachi, too!
mouse
question: boiling silicone toys to disinfect. how long? and can i do it in a pot that i will then later feel comfortable cooking in? tongue.gif
faerietails
mouse, from the Toy Tips page on early2bed:

"Silicone toys can be washed with soap and water or sterilized in boiling water for 3 minutes, or washed in the top rack of the dishwasher. Silicone can last for years, but once you get a tiny nick or cut in it, it will tear easily, so keep your toys away from cats claws, teeth and other sharp objects. Never use silicone-based lubricants on silicone items. The additive in the lube that keeps the silicone liquid can hurt your new toy."


Has anyone ever used a Wahl (or know anyone who has)? Now I'm debating between that and the Hitachi. I just haven't had the chance to go into the city yet to do my holiday "toy shopping." tongue.gif
anna k
I masturbated to the sounds of a couple having sex in the room next to me. The guy was named Joe, I knew that because the girl kept going, "Joe, Joe, omigod, Joe, I want you to come inside of me," and she bleated like a porno girl. It was fun.
tesao
kayte: i have a g-swirl! i love it. love love love. however, i would not use it in water. i don't think that it is waterproof.....only water resistant. and alas, it has NOT helped me to gush. sad.gif

on the other hand, it gives me multiple orgasms. yum.

and i really love that it reminds me of the hookah-smoking caterpillar from Alice. tongue.gif
mouse
okay, boiled for 3 minutes.......can i then feel comfortable still cooking out of the pot it was boiled in? i mean, i would assume if that sterilizes the toy it would sterilize the pot, but......
go_kayte
Honestly I'm not sure if this belongs in the butt thread or in here. I just gotta say, I got this a few weeks ago and I am fucking loving it. I don't want to masturbate without it now!

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Yup, it's a butt plug. My first one. I was a little hesitant at first, worried I wouldn't be able to get it in myself or it would be too big, but it's perfect. Whenever I look at it I just wanna stuff it in my butt. tongue.gif


Hey tesao, I like the g-swirl too, but I can't really get my g-spot with it, and it's not quite thick enough for me to love it as an innie vibe. Oh well, it's a good one-handed clit vibe.
I've had bad luck trying to find a g-spotting vibe. I have the g-orchid, and it's a really powerful vibe and it's waterproof so I love it for the clit, but it's hard plastic so I don't really like how it feels inside. I can't say I'm not having fun trying different things though. Sex toys are like pizza.. wink.gif
dayglowpink
On the whole sterilization thing, boiling something does not sterilize it. It might disinfect it, but to truly sterilize something, it has to go through an autoclave at a certain temperature and pressure or sit in a cold sterilization liquid (very strong chemical, not something people have sitting around the house) for a period of time. So disinfecting by boiling will kill some bacteria/viruses, but there are others that can live through 3 minutes of boiling water. IMO, the only way to be super safe with sex toys is to use condoms on them or just to have certain ones that are only used for certain people/places. I don't know about using the pot afterwards, I guess I would say to boil some more water in there and then scrub it really well with hot water and soap.
pepper
generally speaking, bacteria and viruses can't live outside the body for very long anyhow so disinfecting by boiling is more than sufficient.
kelkello
Good lord, I've never boiled my toys. Just lots of hot water and soap. And I've lived to tell about it and everything. I'm not knocking the boilers, btw. However, it does give me some very weird soup imagery.
anna k
I love the round ball at the end of my vibrator. I love how it makes me jump and make short breaths, it's so exciting and makes me feel so inside of my body. Sometimes I get so used to it that I worry that ordinary, penetrative sex won't turn me on unless I really really like the guy. So for now this baby is giving me all the pleasure I need.
dayglowpink
I mean, I don't actually boil my stuff, either, I just wanted to make sure people were informed! smile.gif I just wash with soap and hot water every now and then. Usually it's only me and my one FWB using it anyway. I guess if I had a bunch of other people involved, I might be more cautious or have certain toys for certain people or something. There are some viruses that can live outside the body for quite a while, though, including hepatitis B and HPV. Again, I just wanted to make sure people were clear on the definitions.
maddy29
hey there, can anyone recommend a good vibrator/dildo? i've had the same vibrator since college (1998) and while i love it, it's just for the outside-the clit. i'd like to find something that still does that, but also goes inside? i don't know how to describe it-i was just watching sex and the city where charlotte gets the rabbit, and that looked pretty cool. i'd like to practice playing with my g spot.

i don't want to spend a ton, but i want one that is sturdy and will last smile.gif


ok, can i just say that this: "Whenever I look at it I just wanna stuff it in my butt" is fucking hilarious!!!! heh heh go-kayte.


oh, and no batteries-i need plug ins. batteries go too fast.
go_kayte
Maddy, I don't have one but I think the hitachi magic wand is considered by a lot of people to be the best plug-in vibe out there, with the silicone "innie" addition (they sell it at babeland and blowfish)...but that will run you $100 for both I believe. The rabbit vibes are all battery powered I think. I don't mind battery ones and the ones I have that take at least 2 aa batteries don't run out too quickly. They call what you're describing "innie/outie" or "japanese style" or "rabbit style". Just make sure if you get the rabbit one to get the elastomer because the other material requires that you use condoms with it.
maddy29
thanks-wheneve ri look online for them, i feel like i want them all!!!!!!

but i think i'm going to get one. once i decide which one to try.

i was on goodvibrations website and they have these really nice vibrators that are a totally different shape-they cover the whole vulva area, they look pretty nice-just lookign at them makes me feel excited
go_kayte
Maddy, post a link! I wanna see!
maddy29
http://www.goodvibes.com/ItemList--Emotional-Bliss--m-14

i just like seeing vibrators that don't look like penises. i dunno, they just look so pretty and friendly and nice smile.gif


re: masturbation-i'm sooo frustrated! my trusty vibrator pretty much always delivers. every once in a great while, i can't cum, but not very often. lately, it's been more and more often that i can't cum. last night i ended up crying and yelling because i was soooo fucking frustrated! grrrrr

i don't know if it's emotional, physical, or what. i just know that i'm so damn sick of this. i just feel broken, damaged. i feel like i'll always struggle with this and it'll never get better and i'll never be able to experience full sexual pleasure. it's even difficult for me to tolerate feeling the pleasure. i want to come pretty quickly, and just have the orgasm. the pleasure leading up the orgasm is nice, but it's also scary feeling at the same time, and i can't tolerate it for long.

i feel so jealous of people on here and irl that are so sexual and free, that can just experience so much pleasure. i get so MAD that i'm not like that. i didn't even know about masturbation until college- i didn't know girls did it. i didn't have an orgasm til my senior year-ironically not until after i read my first book on sexual abuse.


i know i know, practice, get to know yourself, what your body likes, blah blah fuckity blah. that pisses me off, sexual expression is my birthright, as a human! why should i have to work soooooo hard at something that just comes naturally to most? and this whole "oh lots of women don't cum" is bs to me! why is it so easy for men? gah!

rant over. for now.
go_kayte
I totally know what you mean with the frustration maddy. I used to masturbate just with my hands all the time, since as far back as I can remember but I had just these really shallow weak orgasms (which *I personally think* is the kind of orgasms most men have without prostate stimulation). When I was a college freshman I got my first vibe and it took me sooooo long to figure out how to have a vibrator orgasm. When I figured out how to have a g-spot orgasm (which I usually can only have during sex, me on top and backwards and holding a vibe on my clit) IT. WAS. HUGE. But it's not like I can just do that on command it has to be the right mood, the right setting emotionally, and I still haven't figured out how to do the gspot orgasm by myself. That's my next sexual goal. The butt plug helps though smile.gif smile.gif smile.gif
dayglowpink
maddy29- I know exactly what you mean. I have so many of the same feelings. Over the past year, it has been getting much harder for me to come, especially with a partner. It's a rarity now when it used to be no problem at all. And sometimes I will have a hard time when I am masturbating, too. Also, now I can pretty much only come if I am lying in a certain position with my legs a certain way. I used to at least be able to get myself off while a guy was fucking me, but that's gotten almost impossible now, too. I completely identify with what you are saying about the buildup and just wanting it to happen. Sometimes I sort of psych myself out, I just want to come fast, and then I don't allow myself to get enough of a buildup, and then it just never happens or takes forever. It is frustrating, and I also get jealous of other women who don't seem to have such a hard time. I try really hard to relax about it and not stress or worry, and it's usually okay, but I do worry about whether it will ever get better. I think that for me it does have to do with emotional/psychological stuff.
maddy29
that's totally how i feel too-i psych myself out worrying about it. and yeah, i just want the big O, and i want it NOW!
boblink
QUOTE(maddy29 @ Dec 20 2006, 09:34 PM) *

that's totally how i feel too-i psych myself out worrying about it. and yeah, i just want the big O, and i want it NOW!

Maddy29 ... you're not alone with your concerns and there's no one-size-fits-all solution. I wish I could help, but the best I can do is perhaps to put the problem into perspective and maybe trigger further thought in another box.

Boys, on average, begin masturbation at age ten. Some of them begin Little League Baseball at the same age. By the time they've progressed through Little League, Junior High School, Varsity High School, and American Legion ball, they're pretty good at playing baseball. And quite good at masturbation.

A young woman who has her first masturbatory experience in college may need a lot of practice in catching up.

A man who knows what he's doing will keep you aroused for an hour or so before penetration.
He'll probably hold your hand, caress your arm, nuzzle your neck and your cheek, kiss, kiss, and kiss; then caress a breast or two, twiddle a nipple while kissing etc etc. And then, after you're steaming hot, chances are that, one way or another, he can bring you up to the cliff and nudge you over into that free fall to glory.

Some women can almost come on command -- two minutes or less. But the slow build up of steam pressure
either solo or with a mate -- is a highly desirable foundation for a great big O.

Books, magazines, or half an hour or so of simple daydreaming, can help develop some useful steam.





doxy
Edited because I should have posted the previous in the frustration thread, rather than this thread...that's how long I've been away from bust. I'm moron.
Happy Holiday masturbation, friends!
starpiste
The motor on my laya spot died tonight (so sad!). I'm not in a position money wise to replace it but want something similar. Anyone have reviews of the natural countours line? I'm looking into the "petit" model because it's comparable in shape and size. noise and strength of vibe info would be appreciated most. TIA.

LoveMyPugs
Recently, I’ve only been able to reach the big O alone but even then it’s labored. Could have something to do with the fact that I got fired two weeks before Christmas and my fiancé and I are broke and I’m terrified about my life right now. dry.gif In all honesty things are probably going to be fine and I’m just worrying for nothing. I just can’t focus when we are having sex. I end up telling him just to finish whenever he’s ready and I give up. He hates this cause he doesn’t enjoy it as much if I just lay there pissed and frustrated at myself and my brain not being able to let shit go so I can enjoy myself. mad.gif It sucks. I haven’t even enjoyed masturbating either. I think I’ve rubbed my clit two inches into my body I’m working that little thing so hard tying to cum. blink.gif I’m working on getting my shit in order so maybe things will get better soon.

I’m in mourning for my lost O!
maddy29
yay! my boyfriend and i just exchanged presents, and he got me a sweet g-spot vibrating dildo-thingy! it's purple and soft and sooo cute and curved. It's called Venus or something. i'm really excited about it and so is he smile.gif of course he forgot to get batteries, so i have to wait to try it out but i feel relieved. like, ya know, not everyone can just easily cum during sex or whatever, so i'm going to take all the help i can get. also i think it'll be good for helping me and him figure out more about what i like. smile.gif)

i hear ya lovemypugs-the lost O. once i relax and stop trying so hard, and give it a few days, it's fine, but i get so frustrated!

that sucks about your job, and such bad timing too sad.gif
anna k
I didn't know where to place this, but thought it was worthy here:

I had a very vivid sex dream. I had met with an Italian-American construction worker, very Brooklyn "how you doin'?" type. He was into me and we flipped around a lot on his bed, laughing and trying different things. I stroked his penis, which was made up of different colors in a Dr. Seuss way, saying it felt prickly and hot. He kept jumping when I touched him, it was as if it was a live animal. It was all very intimate and funny and sweet, just playing around and kissing and orgasming and joking with each other. smile.gif
euphorically
Perhaps you ladies can help me.

My partner hates me masturbating and says I should want to make love more if I want to. He believes there should be no secrets and that we shouldn't do it and save it for each other.

To be honest, I enjoy it and now feel all guilty-like. We have been together five years, so you can imagine that the sex has cooled down somewhat.

As a feminist, I cannot believe I feel guilty but I do do do!
go_kayte
QUOTE(euphorically @ Jan 4 2007, 11:07 PM) *

Perhaps you ladies can help me.

My partner hates me masturbating and says I should want to make love more if I want to. He believes there should be no secrets and that we shouldn't do it and save it for each other.

To be honest, I enjoy it and now feel all guilty-like. We have been together five years, so you can imagine that the sex has cooled down somewhat.

As a feminist, I cannot believe I feel guilty but I do do do!


Don't!
auralpoison
Euphorically, that's ridiculous! Demanding "honesty" & that you "save" your sexuality for only the two of you is emotional/physical blackmail. Sex doesn't always have to be about sharing with your partner. The sex you share is the sex you choose to share; he doesn't own your vagina & can't tell you that you can't make it happy by yourself just because he doesn't like it.

Sometimes you just want, nay NEED a little solo sex. Maybe you're bored, tired, stressed, etc. or maybe you just want to get in, get off, & get out without worrying about the other person's pleasure.

Questions: Are you not getting enough sex with your partner or are you just pleasing yourself to please yourself? Is he jealous? Feeling inadequate? Got Catholic guilt? Either way, ya'll need to talk cos that just ain't cool.
pepper
sick. that man's mind is sick. the more sex i have, the more sex i have with myself. seriously.
maddy29
yah really, who the fuck is he to tell you you can't masturbate? whoa dude. that's pretty whack.

last night i was like hmm, should i do it now or wait for boyfriend to come over? then i was like i just want to cum!!!!!!!! right now!!!! and i didn't want to bother with his pleasure or anything, i just wanted to cum a bunch of times, and i did, and it was great. i told boyfriend later and he thought it was hot. if he ever tried to forbid me to do that, i'd flip the fuck right out. and laugh in his face.
pleiades
oh help.

i have never ever ever had an easy time having an orgasm during sex. i've only recently enjoyed really GOOD sex at all... i was married to a no foreplay 5 minute man for seven years. (very frustrating, my shower head and i became great friends during that time) suddenly i have this awesome lover, and the ACT of sex is just fantastic. he did actually manage to get me to cum AND orgasm, but the orgasm was sooooooo itty bitty.

ever since he and i got together... my orgasms just suck. they're quick little things and i barely notice them. i used to be able to have really nice drawn out ones with very little effort. now i have to work and work and work and then there's just no bang. i'm just sortof done.

what the heck???

help me.
tesao
hi, pleiades!
have you changed anything else recently? medications? hormonal contraception? anything else you can think of? did your marriage end bitterly? any fall out from that?

any major change (and lots of little ones that add up to a lot!) can change how you respond to sexual stimulation.

it is difficult to tell with only the information that you have given us what might be the difference. one thing that you hint but are not clear about is that you were able to have easy, satisfying orgasms when you pleasured yourself, but NOT with your ex. and now you are able to have good sex with your current lover, but the orgasms aren't as good? do i have that right?

if so, part of that might be just that you are no longer doing this alone. having someone else there may be part of the problem as well as the solution.

what else can you tell us?
pleiades
actually yeah... this is an odd odd time.

i'm much better off without my ex... BUT, he and the woman he cheated on me with and left me for (like, right after he met her) just had their baby. a few days shy of them knowing each other for a whole year. ex took off almost a year ago to be with her far far away and our kids never see him and he rarely even calls. i'm usually fairly okay with all this, but the holidays and the baby thing definately make things harder.

also. the situation with the new lover is strange. we were sortof friends for a long time but usually managed to avoid each other. i lived with him and his wife while i was figuring out what to do. him and the wife were more friends than anything else and have broken up before... lover is poly (which is fine by me), and wife thought that if she allowed him to actually go out with other women that it would fill that lack of romance gap and they could stay married. so she actually approached me about that, because she knows me and trusts me... and i turned the idea down flat. they broke up not long after. lover and i have since gotten romantically involved and while i'm still friends with lover's ex, it's a reeeeeeeally awkward situation. no one is lying or sneaking around or anything sketchy. it's just uncomfortable. so yeah, i guess that answers the question.

BUT... orgasm during sex has NEVER really happened except on maybe 4 or 5 occasions. and it was never like this mind blowing awesome thing. pretty good orgasms by myself were also pretty recent and i was sortof looking forward to where that might lead. so what i'm saying is... even if the recent BLAH orgasm thing is because of all the stress (which i'm sure it is)... where the hell are the awesome orgasms on a regular day??
euphorically
Ha, I think you are right ladies.

I think he gets jealous, although in my book, its an entirely different thing.

I appreciate you all validating my masturbation habits, so thanks again.
jack67
QUOTE(maddy29 @ Jan 5 2007, 04:52 PM) *

yah really, who the fuck is he to tell you you can't masturbate? whoa dude. that's pretty whack.

last night i was like hmm, should i do it now or wait for boyfriend to come over? then i was like i just want to cum!!!!!!!! right now!!!! and i didn't want to bother with his pleasure or anything, i just wanted to cum a bunch of times, and i did, and it was great. i told boyfriend later and he thought it was hot. if he ever tried to forbid me to do that, i'd flip the fuck right out. and laugh in his face.


Well put!

Women who masturbate are hot! I am suspicious of one who doesn't. I feel that if a women cannot get herself off what are the odds that I can? I had a friend recently give me the, "when I think of you I touch myself line" and I could not get to her place fast enough! I like women who matrbate, I like to watch, I like to hear about it. I think that they are better lovers. If a guy tells you not to, kick him to the curb!
maddy29
it's kinda cute and funny, cause my boy loooves it when i masturbate with him there in bed with me, or whenever. but he's still too shy to do it himself. i'm not sure why, i guess i should ask him. i definitely think it'd be hot to watch him please himself-i mean, not stare at him the whole time or anything... wink.gif that might be a little awkward.
jack67
QUOTE(maddy29 @ Jan 10 2007, 04:23 PM) *

it's kinda cute and funny, cause my boy loooves it when i masturbate with him there in bed with me, or whenever. but he's still too shy to do it himself. i'm not sure why, i guess i should ask him. i definitely think it'd be hot to watch him please himself-i mean, not stare at him the whole time or anything... wink.gif that might be a little awkward.



I have asked and watched. A woman has never asked to watch me but I am open minded! wink.gif
dayglowpink
Yeah, I love to watch a guy jerk off, too. I used to be self-conscious about doing it myself, but I have gotten over that pretty much. I still feel a little embarrassed about having them be totally staring at me the whole time, but I love for them to watch me and hold onto me when I rub my clit or use my vibrator or whatever.
greenbean
I love watching guys jerk off too, especially cuz it seems that all guys do it slightly different. Some guys go fast, others real slow, some stroke their shaft, others stay on the head, etc....a wonder if it says something about the guy? That would be a funny personality test!
katiebelle2882
this might be drastic to say euphorically but as a feminist, not only should you NOT feel guilty, but you shouldnt be dating a man like that. what AP said was right, its emotional blackmail, and i cant imagine it doesnt show up in other places of your relationship. really, not cool at all.
polecat
I am looking for some advice on toys! Has anyone tried vibrators with the different sensations, such as rollercoaster, etc? Are they worth the price?
starpiste
My laya spot had three differnet pulsing sensations and I never used them. They weren't bad, they just didn't do anything for me.
hamburg
my first post since agens and just some o/t observation i made: lots of drugstores here in hamburg/germany started selling sex toys some weeks ago. real ones (various vibrators, smart ball like vaginal exercise balls), not neck massage devices that can be misused. what also catched my eyes was the fact that the products are based in the sanitary napkin/tampon section of the store i went to.

another thing that suprised me was a commercial for lubricant airing during the gilmore girls break this week. biggrin.gif i think that's just great.
starpiste
In both Canada and the UK I've seen vibrators marketed that way in drugstores. It always makes me really happy.
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