Well, I DO live in Alabama.
And yes, I buy my toys online, not because they are unavailable, but because I'm too embarrassed to go to the nasty sex shop here.
They do actually sell sex toys here, but I think it's similar to buying say, a bong. In the store you have to call it a "waterpipe" or, in the case of sex toys, I believe it is an "educational device".
Saying the law is "a bit prudish" is indeed an understatement. It really is a different world down here in the Bible Belt. And the quote "laws are made to protect the public, sometimes you have to protect the public from themselves" is referring to protecting the public from committing the SIN of masturbation. You see, the law is in place to keep us from going to hell.

I found these quotes interesting:
"Sexual matters are not to become a nuisance to people and the community," he said. "We have enough problems with sexual-oriented crimes without enticing or promoting it."
- ...what??? How many sex crimes do we really have that were caused by the availability of sex toys?!? I'm guessing zero.

Randy Brinson, chairman of the Christian Coalition of Alabama, did not have any comment. "It seems we have better things to deal with than that, but I need to study it more," he said.
- Hells yeah! Even the evil ridiculously right winged CCA thinks it's stupid.

Loretta Nall, the 2006 Libertarian gubernatorial nominee, recently began a "Sex Toys for Troy King" drive in protest of the law, which she called a waste of time and an invasion of privacy.
- I actually read about this in my local paper. This lady is very cool, she said that she wanted everyone to gather up their sex toys so she can go dump them on King's desk, to show how very normal it is for Alabama women to have sex toys.

So, in conclusion, yeah it's a ridiculous invasive law, one of many down here unfortunately. But it doesn't really make any difference in what people buy / use. We're kinky in Alabama too! (just don't tell the government!)

Also, despite laws like these, we really aren't as backwards as we may seem. Its just that our local government sucks and the crazy people get all of the press.

Crin, I betcha that the baptist preacher is the worst offender, he probably has sex with plushies.

There are more important things than masturbation to be dealt with. I'd whip of a sex toy to Alabama to help the cause.

What a wacky politician.

And I personally have held up a liquor store with a dildo before, a big 10 inch purple thing.

wow, my roomates have all gone and I got the chance to run a bath with no worries of being too loud heheh, I think i've discovered a new level of my orgasms so much that I feel I should post. I'm not exactly a beginner at this but I'ts my first time posting here at all, actually...so Hello!


The whole AL situation reminds me of that John Waters movie a A Dirty Shame..funny movie.

I don't own a vibrator or any sex toys, I never have sooo..does anyone have have any suggestions for something to start me off??

Thanks.

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My first vibe was a pocket rocket, and I love it, i burnt through that one, so I had to replace it, but I really enjoy it.

I have got a few different vibes...I say go to a sex shop and take at what they've got, the staff is always friendly and knowledgable.

Bustirubi- I have the Layaspot and it's awesome! It's very cute, not intimidating like a giant blue penis or something. It works well, is easily incorporated into partner play (we use it with intercourse), and it's fairly quiet. It's a good beginner toy, powerful enough but not too strong.
I'm actually thinking of getting something stronger, for when I need a "push". We have a roommate, so it can't sound like a weedwhacker. Any suggestions people?

Crin, I have a great vibrator with 8 different settings, I use it as an anal toy, it's quiet and great, but I don't remember what it's called, when I get home I'll look. It's amazing!

Has anyone here tried the cone? I'm so tempted, it looks really interesting. I was going to buy myself a toy for a christmas gift but my computer died today so I had to buy a new laptop. I'd like to get something new in the next couple of months though.

ahahha, I had to post this.

I was trying to get rid of some tension so I could concentrate on my schoolwork and turned to ye old vibrator, right? Ok, well I started to worry about my paper and my wrists hurt so badly from writing this 30+ page paper that I got bored and started massaging my wrists instead. I'm pathetic...

That's funny, ophelia. I can't even try to write papers at home, because I start getting bored and looking at porn and masturbating. I've never massaged my wrists before, though!

What is the deal with that cone thing? I have seen it online, but I can't really figure out what's going on. It does not look like it would be comfortable to me, and I'm not even sure how one would hold it. Maybe I'm missing something.

This site has some funny little pictures demonstrating the different ways you can use it but I still don't quite get it either.
http://www.comeasyouare.com/index.cfm?fa=C...;ProductId=2188

erinjane, a friend of mine wrote about her experience with The Cone here.

Wow, I must say that I am intrigued by the cone.

Mr. Pug bought me a Hitachi Magic Wand and the G Whiz attachment for Christmas. It came in the mail the other day and I didn't open it cause it wasn't addressed to me. I set it on the table and ran out the door to the post office. When I got home Mr. Pug was there. I asked him what the package was on the table and he said, "What package?" I walked into the living room and it was gone. He was smiling so I knew he'd just hid it from me. After bugging him about it for two days he finally said, "Do you want it early?" I said yes and I opened it and there it was. It's a pretty serious piece of equipment. It's heavy duty and vibrates like a son of a bitch. I really wanted to try it on my own first cause I was nervous about it I guess. Everything I read on this thing it's like the cadillac of vibrators. When I told him I wanted to try it on my own he looked kinda disapointed but said it was fine. I felt bad so I said I'd try it with him. So I laid down and turned it on and WOW! I kid you not when I tell you I came in less then 90 seconds. We were both very impressed. Usually I can come multiple times with a vibrator but this thing kinda wore me out with just one time. I really like it. I think we are going to try to use it next time we have sex. I'm always telling my girlfriends that they should all have a pocket rocket. I think I'm going to start telling them to buy this thing. It's incredibly powerful. It's a must have. Can't wait to try the G Whiz attachment.

Thanks everyone for your suggestoins!
I can't wait to do my shopping, now everything wont seem so strange to me, I'll be able to recognize 'em now.

I don't know If I'm quite ready for the "caddilac of vibrators though"..we'll see


-Rubi

That's what my magic massager is like. I'm thinking its the Adam & Eve "generic" version of the Hitachi. It looks exactly like it except its red instead of the blue accents. And WOW!! I can't use it often cuz it makes me numb for a while. But its quick and very efficient! LOL

Yay! I orderd a new vibe today since my other one broke

The magic wand is incredible. I'm on my second one (I used to have an cordless one, but it burnt out).
I think I may buy a new vibe as a late Christmas present though.

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i think that if you enjoy it, you should just do it as much as you want !

I don't think it's selfish at all. Does your husband tell you when he masterbates? I think it's a personal deal that you do as much or as little as is cool with you.

Okay, I know there are dozens and dozens, but does anyone know of a good toy store in Manhattan. I'm thinking about trying a few things, and I'd like to go somewhere classy, well-lit, and maybe with a bit of a focus on women. Also knowledgeable staff would be a plus, because I'm new to this. Thanks!

They're your genitals & your sexuality; your wanking is your business. Do it when you want to, I'm sure he does.

Toys in Babeland, Starkitty. There is a location in Soho off of Mercer & another on the LES off of Rivington. They have all of your toy store needs covered.

I think I'm going to buy a Cone & a Delight.

So I am a 25 year old educated feminist who is confident and successful in all walks of life, well, except one: I have never had an orgasm. I just started trying to masturbate with my husband who I love dearly. He is very encouraging and has even tried everything--manual stimulation, oral sex, etc--to try to bring me to orgasm. I rise right to the peak, and then, nothing. It's like a diet that plateaus: I can't get past that point of just breaking through to the other side. When he gets home from band practice tonight, I am having him run out to the store to buy the hitachi magic wand. I just want to try it on my clit and see what happens. I do get very turned on by bisexual fantasies, but I am easily distracted, and therefore, not able to focus fully on my own pleasure. ARGH! It is so fucking frustrating. My husband and I are pretty open about our feelings. We both have bisexual tendencies, but we have not acted on them. We are highly compatible, and sex feels good, but I never get that sweet release at the end. Any advice would be so wonderful.

well, I have had many an orgasm, but the only way that I can have one with my man is if I am on top and I am rubbing my clit while he is inside me. I haven't tried using a vibrator while my man is inside me, he is very...hmm...how can I put it....shy when it comes to sex toys and even talking about sex.

I had my most intense orgasm with a woman. I think it was do to the fact that we felt so comfortable with our bodies and each other.

Good luck

well, I have had many an orgasm, but the only way that I can have one with my man is if I am on top and I am rubbing my clit while he is inside me. I haven't tried using a vibrator while my man is inside me, he is very...hmm...how can I put it....shy when it comes to sex toys and even talking about sex.

I had my most intense orgasm with a woman. I think it was do to the fact that we felt so comfortable with our bodies and each other.

Good luck

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Thanks, AP. Soho is perfect.

Thanks sexysandee! My magic wand will hopefully do the trick, though you are right: being on top is the best. I guess I am in the shy one in our relationship and it has taken a long time to get to the point of even talking about masturbation.

I used to have the exact same prob!
porn/masturbating sure does help to break up those long, dull papers tho.

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Um, okay, maybe I'm confused, but why exactly can you not have a wank/fuck whilst astride the cotton pony? I find that it eases cramps & makes me feel less pooky.

ETA: I just started yesterday & I certainly had a party in my draws last night, blood or no.

Whenever I ahve my period, I'll whack away as well. Same with fucking, if you bleed heavily and don't want to make a mess, then put down a towel.

When I masterbate when I am on my period I have found that for me it actually feels better and my orgasms are more intense...

I just haven't been able to have sex with someone when I am on my period.
Maybe I will be inspired by you all....

I am so happy to find a place where everyone is so open

When I'm fucking and I have my period, I get dirty, as in raunchier than usual.

I hardly bleed these days, so it's not an issue.

I've been krazy honry even though I got fucked nine ways to Sunday last weekend. It's all because of Aunt Flo. She makes me krazy honry. She's a wicked one, she is.

Yeah same here. I want to fuck everything that moves--even one of my co-workers--which is weird... I'm only attracted to him due to Aunt Flo. He grabbed my tattoo yesterday on the nape of my neck, and I almost came. Honry indeed.

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What is fisting?
Okay, I am a wee bit innocent, but is it exactly what it sounds like and doesn't that hurt?

fisting is exactly what it sounds like, one has a fist inserted into their vagina or ass.

hmm, I wonder if I could do that?

OUCH! That sounds very painful! I've seen it on porn before (BLUSH) But it really looks like it hurts. I saw this one chick getting fisted and was like "holy moly, how will she ever enjoy a penis again!" damn! I dont want my stuff stretched out that way.

I have been using a vibrator when I masterbate and I have only been able to put two fingers inside me. I have been thinking that may be why I have never been able to squirt. I am thinking about experimenting by myself and seeing what I can take. I'm not a small girl, but I cannot handle very much inside me

Fisting is not something you jump into, there is proper technique, and you need LOTS of lube.

As for not enjoying cock again, babies come out of vagina's and they are a hella lot bigger than a fist.

thats true, I forgot about that. But still!

I can agree on that, I've never done fisting, as much sex as I've had and masturbating I've done, sex can still be painful, particularly with the current boy du jour.

People just need to take fisting slowly; it's HELLA intense. My last partner and I attempted it a few times...everytime I told him to grab the lube. Everytime he ignored me. I get very wet, but it really does take lube to go that extra couple of centimeters. Plus, it needs to be done slooooooooooooowly--the average hand, even a smallish one, will need to take time to stretch out the perineum and vaginal opening. I've not had someone complete it, but wowie! It's over the top incredible even at 80% with the right partner.

Y'know, ever since I saw a gay porn where a guy's ass was so open it looked like you could drive a backhoe into it, fisting has terrified me.

And yeah, sometimes sex is a bit eighties-Madonna-esque even after being active for upwards of ten years. It can still hurt, particularly with my current partner (Aren't we lucky, CH? Teehee!). I have small plumbing & if there isn't adequate foreplay & lube, it ain't happening.

That's awesome! lol I'm not brave enuff to try it though.

AP I agree, we are lucky. Sometimes I feel like my vag is going virgin again, especially with this boy, and I do get hella wet, like soaking through my jeans wet.