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tinyk
I am new to the group, although this is not my first time poring through the entries on this thread. I desperately wish that I could just squash my insecurities and be happy with my breast size... I sort of always figured that I'd come to accept my 32A someday. *Sigh.* 25 years old, and I'm still tortured by it on a daily basis. I have a fantastic boyfriend who loves me very much and swears up and down that I'm the most beautiful girl he's ever seen (sweet, sweet lies...) I'd like to believe him, but evidence points to the contrary. He is a huge fan of porn, and whenever I've happened upon his un-deleted internet history, I am deluged by images of giant boobs. I want him to think I'm as sexy as those virtual girls, so I try to spice it up in the bedroom by wearing little lingerie outfits and whatnot... The other night, I put on a hot (I thought) red, see-through 2-piece set, gave myself a once-over in the mirror, and thought "Hey, I actually look pretty fierce..." He responded by saying "Aww, don't you look adorable." Not exactly what I was going for. He has never once complimented my breasts (in nearly 2 years), and all but ignores them in sexual situations. This heightens my insecurity exponentially! I am 4'11" and 80 lbs, and it's tough to feel "womanly" and "sexy" with a body that could easily pass for that of a pre-pubescent middle-schooler. I love that this forum exists, it is definitely a bit comforting to know that I'm not alone...
karategrrl
Tinyk, a big huge welcome to the group, and congrats on "coming out," ha.

First off, let me say I have a similar body type, so I feel I can relate to a lot of your concerns.

As for porn, it's not something I'm a big fan of (because I've seen it wreak havoc on relationships--others as well as past ones of my own), but it seems that men just view it differently than I think a lot of women do; for them, it's no big deal. Remember, men are quite the visual creatures and advertising and porn capitalizes on that primal drive; it's a multibillion dollar business. Men are used to being bombarded with these images and therefore don't see it as any big deal. I personally DO think that sexual "energy," if you will, directed toward any other person than the one you're with IS a big deal, but I also try and understand that many people don't agree with me (including my husband, unfortunately). As for the breast size of women in porn, remember that 98% of women in the industry are going to have large breasts by definition (fake or real) and the ones that are built like us are typically found on "Barely Legal"-type fetish sites. So I wouldn't freak over the fact that the women he's looking at are large-breasted, because porn is largely about overdoing everything--the "more is more" approach--lots of makeup, big hair, big breasts, big butts, women with insatiable sexual appetites, etc. etc. Think of fertility statues they've dug up from archeological sites--they usually are these tiny little figures with gi-normous breasts--quite funny, actually. I think most porn is along those same lines.

What concerns me is feeling like you have to somehow "compete" with these imaginary women. There is no competition--not because you aren't sexy, but because they are all fantasy whereas you are a real live women in the flesh who CARES FOR your man. That gives you a huge advantage over any fantasy image, grrlfriend. When your BF calls you "adorable," I wouldn't rule that out as a compliment. In my experience, men can be kind of dopey when it comes to saying what we want to hear. We all want to hear, "Damn, you're so fucking SEXY!!" but often it doesn't come out that way. wink.gif I'd say to remember that "cute" or whatever is a VERRRY sexy version of womenness. That turns me on in a woman much more than a dime-a-dozen stereotypical "sexy" woman, honestly!

As for him not paying attention to your sexy breasties, have you spoken to him about it and made your needs known? Though I've had lovers who were alll over my breasts to where I had to say, "Enough!" but mostly I've had the same experience. I honestly don't know what it is. Maybe by definition we attract men who love legs, butts, or some other features besides breasts, and therefore they pay more attention to those other things?

If you haven't, you might read some of of our older postings related to porn and such. Also what helps me a lot is to counteract the boobfest images I'm bombarded with, with images of sexy small-breasted women--think Keira Knightley. We had some lists going on here of such hotties.

Have you seen the movie "Sirens?" There's a lot of nudity in that film. I saw it years ago and felt kind of bad all through it because the women in it are mostly large-breasted. There's one small-breasted woman who refuses to take off her clothes all through the movie until one of the final scenes. In that scene, one woman (Elle MacPherson)pops out of the water, big breasts knocking around, then another big-breasted one, then...little breasted hottie pops out (Portia De Rossi), all in her glory with her small self---and I was knocked over by how much HOTTER she looked than the others. I surprised myself with my reaction!!! Think fairy-nymph goddess hot. That, my friend, is YOU.

God(dess), I'm talkative today!!!! biggrin.gif
i see eleven
TINYK

i may just be venting here but i hope this helps. knowing kinda what you're going thru i hope i can offer some sort of encouragement.
first of all i wouldn't feel the way i do or say these type of things had it not been for the girls in this thread that have helped me directly or indirectly.
i'm married almost 4 years, have one 2 year old son. i'm 29years old 5'1" and between 85-95 lbs (i really can fluctuate) and a 34 NA (nearly A). anyway about 2 years ago my husband was unfaithful to me by gropping a co-worker's boobs at work. he told me reluctantly what he had done, and i was absolutely devistated and sickened to say the least. come to find out my husband has been addicted to pornography and masterbation since grade school. this shouldn't be a suprise since i've known he had 4-5 sexual partners before we were married. i was a virgin. anyway, i never really had issues with my breasts till i got married. realizing there wasn't much to have fun with i became so very self conscious. then to have him do this to me was beyond devistating to me and my self esteem and self worth and other things. i thought i'd get a boob job to save our marriage so he wouldn't want to look at anyone else etc. but i'm so glad i didn't. among the many reasons i decided not to, i knew in my heart big boobs don't save marriages and relationships. real true healthy relationships aren't about boobs. and boobs no matter how big small ugly, beautiful, lop sided or simetrical (sp?) won't make or break a relationship, and if you think it is/does it's usually an underlying issue.
i still however want to believe my husbands answer when i ask him why the hell me married me, small breast and all when he obviously prefers big breast or actually breast other than mine if "breast" were so damn important to him, why didn't he decide to marry some slut fake boob or naturally big boob whore. (that's how i felt/feel) he sais that he married me for much more than my breast, we connected on a lot more important levels that he has never had with others. apparently that's not enough to be faithful either but anyway....i'm getting off track..
i've been obsessing over mine and other boobs for so long. until this thread i realized that no one else can make me happy with what God gave me besides me. i can get fake boobs and hope all will be well but the reality is, is that if we're not happy with who we are, nothing and no one will/ can make us happy. in my last few posts.....ahhhh crap i have to go so i'm going to have to finish my thoughts later....just know there's hope in being happy with yourself every part of yourself but it's up to you darnet! smile.gif anyway, hang in there and know that confidence is what makes someone sexy not their body. know that you're blessed for having the healthy beautiful body that you do. and say "F*** you world, for encouraging me to feel bad about me." be a rebel and like/love your body despite everyone/everything.
till next time beauties!!!
tinyk
karategrrl and i see eleven, thank you so much for your responses. You ladies are awesome, and I love the idea of this alternative electronic sisterhood... My friends are always supportive, but they don't *quite* understand how I feel. smile.gif
I generally dislike the idea of porn, and the younger version of me would have made a huge deal out of a boyfriend watching/ looking at it, but as I've gotten older, I have realized that the demon lies moreso in my own insecurity than in the man's motives. I doubt I'll ever feel completely comfortable with the idea of my partner ogling other chicks naked, but I know that most guys are going to look at porn no matter what (some are better at hiding it than others, of course) so I just deal with it nowadays. My current boyfriend's specific porn choices, however, seem to indicate a definite sexual interest in breasts, which is why I'm so bothered that he has such little interest in mine. If he were trolling for photos of petite ladies such as myself, or checking out ass-related sites, I might not mind as much, because I blow all of those 1-D bitches out of the water wink.gif In all seriousness, though, it is becoming harder and harder for me to enjoy having sex with him. In the midst of what has always been such a loving and passionate act, I have to fight away images of him jerking off at his computer because the screen is full of giant boobs. Ew, I wish I could just pull an Eternal Sunshine and erase my memory of said porn discoveries. No one wants to feel insecure DURING sex, it's bad enough to experience such an emotion in a much less intense setting.
As for broaching the subject with my man... Admittedly, I haven't. I know that he would be sweet about it, and might pay more attention to the girls upon my request, but I don't think that would satisfy me. I don't want him to feel me up out of obligation or to appease me. I guess I just wish he'd magically become so turned on by the sight/ feeling of my little rack that he can't stand it... I also wish I'd receive an anonymous ten million-dollar donation, so I suppose sometimes we just need to face the fact that not all of our desires will come to fruition. Am I right?
neurotic.nelly
Hi tinyk. Welcome.

Your last post made me think about my boyfriend, and our trials with porn. I like porn, eh. as much as one with a feminist perspective and locked, loaded, and ready "critic" can enjoy it. Here's what I know: men and women watch porn differently. I mean for men, it's like their "stories", and they know all the leading ladies.

But getting back to my experience with my boy... he used to be very careless about leaving the history up after he was finished. And to his credit, he looks at a variety of women. But, sometimes, I'd come across Brazzers.com, this site for men with big boob fetishes, and I'd get more annoyed and furious than feel insecure, but I am sure a small part of me was insecure.
I'd start fights about it too, and make fun of them and him. Then it spilled over to more than just big boobs, and I'd start fights about the porn itself, because I didn't understand why he felt the need to look at porn so much, I mean, we had just started living together, and I had no desire whatsoeva to look at porn, because I used porn to get off, that's it. So, we're in love, we have each other, porn shouldn't even be an issue. But. It. Was. And he started getting very defensive about it.

And so I started doing research. I had a friend take a survey of all the guys that she worked with (she's in security) about how much they look at porn, and whether or not having a girlfriend influences their viewing. These guys are from a very very very liberal place, so as teens and young 20 somethings they looked at porn all the time. But, as they got older, eh. not such a big deal, they said they'd rather be with a real girl. And when they have girlfriends they don't look at it as much. So, I think access to it and age plays a role in a man's desire for it. So, maybe your boyfriend, like mine, is a late bloomer, so to speak.

And you're right men are very visual. My girlfriends who look at porn, all acknowledge that we look at porn differently than the men in our lives. We can take it or leave it.

My boyfriend and I still got into fights about porn, until he wised up, and erased all evidence. I don't mind him looking at porn, as long as I don't know what he's looking at. I have decided that porn and masturbation is a very very solitary indulgence that I cannot share and I do not want him to share with me. We tried, and we had horrible sex afterward, or we fought. Now, if we stay together for the next ten years, all this may change, I might enjoy watching it with him, never say never.

I guess I am saying all this about porn to help you cope with your man's attention towards it. One last thing: (assuming all the equipment is running properly) men wake up everyday with a hard on, it's not their fault. They need release. Porn helps them with that. They'd do it anyway. Also, a lot of porn sites are made so that you have no idea what you're clicking into because they name things like G.W. Bush would name things, they make no sense. Until he is a subscriber of a particular site, he's just browsing and it's like an obstacle course, you never know what you are going to get.

eleven: I am loving your perspective overall, welcome to you too!

karategrrl: I will have to go rent Sirens. I love that mythology anyway.

This is my word and I'm out: "Alright Ladies! You are all Beautiful Sexy Creatures, now chin up, and shoulders back and swing those hips!"
Vendetta
Hei ladies, it has been a while.. I've been reading you lately and relating to some of your posts. My relationship is still a mess, not even our holidays helped out. I think our sex life is over. Not for him, but for me. And having him expecting me to be ready for sex everyday when clearly i'm not is killing me. I don't know why i'm still with him...
Vendetta
My boyfriend loves me but has a preference for bigger breasts. Why does this hurt me so much?
tinyk
QUOTE(Vendetta @ Aug 18 2008, 12:24 PM) *
My boyfriend loves me but has a preference for bigger breasts. Why does this hurt me so much?


I guess we all wish to be an "ideal" partner for our mates... I know that, although my boyfriend loves me 'no matter what,' I will always be hurt by his apparent breast preference. The thing is, I don't want him to be "okay with" my small breasts, or to "deal with" the fact that I don't have massive orbs attached to my chest... I want him to LOVE my body. Perhaps you feel similarly? It's disheartening...
Vendetta
Yes, I feel somewhat like that. Like I want him to love me without any "but". In my case there is no "apparent" preference, he says he doesn't have that preference now but only since when I asked him to stop making comments. He loved big breasts and he fell in love with me and I was a confident person at that time. He could say whatever he wanted and he did. He made a mistake. Now he wants me to believe the opposite but I can't. His words and attitudes echo in my mind all the time. I lost my sex drive since I feel so insecure and self-conscious in bed and actually started looking at myself differently. And I became a person I never thought I could be. I stopped thinking about why are breasts so important, at least to me, I'm just tired. It's dumb but real. It's not a matter of being happy with the person I'm with but a matter of being happy about myself cause I'm not anymore. He keeps asking me to make an effort more than I have been doing, we keep breaking up, but our sex life is just gone. I keep struggling against surgery, even though I don't have the money, I do have that desire for myself. I keep having these images of him being turned on by the chest of another woman. Why in the hell would a relationship end up because of a preference for breasts? Why in the hell I can't pass that on and it does keep hurting me... I feel like I got sick of jealousy, frustration, hate, envy and sadness and that was not the person I was before.
karategrrl
One thing about porn I wanted to mention is that just because someone has checked out a particular site doesn't necessarily mean they have a special craving for it. I admit I've checked out a few weird porn sites out of sheer curiousity or the "car wreck" factor--you don't want to look but feel compelled to do so anyway, then it's like, "OH!" and "EW! I should not have looked!!"

Tinyk, you said:
"As for broaching the subject with my man... Admittedly, I haven't. I know that he would be sweet about it, and might pay more attention to the girls upon my request, but I don't think that would satisfy me. I don't want him to feel me up out of obligation or to appease me. I guess I just wish he'd magically become so turned on by the sight/ feeling of my little rack that he can't stand it... I also wish I'd receive an anonymous ten million-dollar donation, so I suppose sometimes we just need to face the fact that not all of our desires will come to fruition. Am I right?"

Honey, I, too wish my man would be driven so crazy at the sight of me that he would tear my clothes off. Alas, this is not the case, and I doubt it has anything to do with my breasts or lack thereof. He used to be much more amorous and aggressive--which I loved--but I think since now since winning me is no longer his "goal" (men are goal-oriented, remember) and he has accomplished that task, it's just not as big of a priority for him. Wah. sad.gif

And I agree on your last point. I think a big part of becoming mature and grown-up is accepting that no, we won't have all we want in life (unfortunately). We must figure out what are the few key things that we can't live without, though, and try our best to satisfy those needs. If having a partner who LUVS and appreciates our small breasts is a "can't live without" item, we are entitled to that.
ailurophile
Hi Girls:

Like TinyK, I'm new too. I totally feel for you all. I have been so depressed and disgusted with myself that I needed to search for a support group because I don't know what else to do. I have seriously thought of implants but they are so bad for many reasons. I'm so very tired of being the only person I know with no boobs. When I see other girls in public like myself, I kind of want to introduce myself and be their friend. Weird? Like someone said previously, my friends also are supportive but they just do not understand what it's like to be this way. I am 37 and never married and feel that having no boobs just turns men off. I recently met this guy that I've had crush on for months, he asked me out (Yippeee!) and we finally got intimate after a month. He went "there", but never took off my bra or shirt, kind of just went inside. I didn't take them off because I was embarrassed and he did not maybe because he didn't want to embarrass me or figured what's the use. Not sure. We never discussed my tiny breasts or my insecurities about them. He could have been disappointed too after discovering what was under my padded bra. Prior to the intimacy, we rented a movie that had alot of nudity in the beginning. After a while of it, I said.. "What did you rent? Porn?" He said... "What? It's not that bad." It probably wasn't but I get so offended and I knew he didn't understand that I was embarrassed about not having what they were showing.

But I got to say that I do feel inadequate and I have these two little pathetic things on my chest, it is humiliating. I somehow want to hear from him that it is okay and that's not why he likes me....or maybe he likes them the way they are. Whatever.... you know what I mean? I just feel like I am probably the flattest girl he's ever been with, as I always seem to be. I have very low self esteem and I think much of it is due to being flat.

Has anyone ever heard of Brava breast augmentation? Please check out this website and tell me what you think. (www.brava.com/home.asp) Am I nuts? This is supposd to be an implant alternative. I haven't spoken to my doctor yet as the site suggests.

I just want to look feminine.

oceangirl
has anyone ordered from barenecessities.com? you can choose by size. they have a really big selection.
Vendetta
airulophile, I feel you. So much.
karategrrl
ailurophile, BIG HUGE hugs going out to you!!!

First off, I have to say it makes me feel bad to hear you saying bad things about yourself. You don't have "two little pathetic things" on your chest--you have breasts. big or small, large-nippled or small, riding high or hangin' low, just because yours have a particular appearance doesn't make them any less what they are. I would bet they look just fine, honey!!!!

If your new beau was so turned off by you, I'm sure he wouldn't have come near you. Maybe he sensed your apprehension and therefore decided to just not "go there" not because he wouldn't like it, but because he didn't want to make you feel disrespected, offended or hurt. You never know. and you don't know if you're the "flattest" girl he's ever seen. You simply don't know. And so what if you are? Maybe you're also the nicest, smartest, or have the prettiest legs or ass or some other feature.

Baby, you are in good company--the likes of Keira Knightley, Portia De Rossi and Gwen Stefani--hotties who are steming sexy because of their small breasts, not in spite of. We're out there, and we welcome you with no big boobs or implants in the way of our close hugs!! Ha. tongue.gif I'm glad you found us and I hope you stick around. There's a lot of good discussion going on here. I can tell you it's helped me tremendously.

My friend did the Brava bra thing, and I can tell you it's not worth it. I can't find my prior postings about it, but it takes like 10 hours a day and causes skin blisters, and in the end just doesn't work.


" I just want to look feminine."

I feel ya, sistah. In my ideal world, I'd have B-cup knockers. But try to remember that you probably look more feminine than you think you do. Just you being female make you strong and hot already. laugh.gif

Check back, often new friend. <<<HUGS>>>
anna k
ailurophile, speaking as someone with D-cups, having big breasts is overrated. They're nice, but they're not better or more "womanly" than smaller breasts. You have breasts, you are a woman, not more or less based on the size of your breasts. Men who put down small breasts and fetishisize big ones are creepy and childish and immature.

Like karategrrl said, your breasts are just one part of you. If you feel uncomfortable with them, you can find another body part to show off as your feature, like your legs or your eyes or your arms or whatnot. I don't like my breasts to be the center of attention, so I generally wear a button-down shirt over my tank top and will highlight my lips or dress my legs in long narrow trousers to make them look longer and leaner.
Vendetta
Anna K, I appreciate your support but it's kinda easy for you to talk. You're not the one who can't wear a bra cause there's nothing to put in, you're not the one having a man that pays no attention to your flat chest cause he actually likes breasts. I can't put down a man for loving breasts, cause they're supposed to be part of a female physique, altought it hurts me.
karategrrl
Vendetta, I've been observing something for some time now and up to now I've kept my lips sealed (or should I say my typing fingers still?) on the topic. I'm going to risk being knocked over the virtual head and open my mouth. wink.gif

It seems that whenever someone tries to build us--or you--up, you shoot them down. It's like you are determined to feel bad. I can appreciate that your situation with your BF has put a strain on you, but if things aren't getting any better, maybe it's time for a serious change of some kind. Feeling so bad and carrying all those feelings of frustration and anger around inside can't be good for you. Is there someone you can talk to? You mentioned that were going to see a counselor. How did that go?

This is, of course, a safe place for you to vent. Lord knows I've done it here, and I am grateful for the support. But what concerns me is it seems you've been feeling really bad over a pretty long time span with not much variation in your feelings. We all feel crappy from time to time, and our self-esteem can fluctuate on a day-to-day or even hourly basis, but this seems different.
crinoline
Thanks for the cross-thread support annak! It's good to hear things from the other side, the grass usually isn't greener after all!

(((busties of all sizes)))
neurotic.nelly
QUOTE(deschatsrouge @ Aug 20 2008, 08:36 PM) *
I'm with you on that. I feel unlikeable or uninteresting. The only good part about me was my tits. It was one of the reasons I stopped having relationships with men. They were only in it for my tits.

I got this quote from the large breast support group. No, it would seem, the grass isn't always greener.

You know, (vendetta) having larger breasts will not make life's problems go away, something will always be an issue. I think you should take heed karategrrl's comments down below, they are insightful.

Vendetta
hmm yes you are right Karategrrl. And the reason for me to use this thread is to vent, as support I can get from the people in my life. I just felt with annak something like, if I want to win the lottery and someone that did tells me that winning the lottery is not that great... I won't agree. Probably that someone is right, but I'll never now because I had never experienced that. If I cannot vent on an internet thread, where can I? I have been on counseling yes, but that hasn't moved me from wishing to have breasts. I still miss that part on me. I still have to accept that my boyfriend loves breasts. I'm probably a good candidate to breast implants, alone. My bf has nothing to do with that as probably I would end the relationship if I did that. Not having breasts is not what defines me, or you, but in the end, we are all in this thread for some reason.
Vendetta
And thanks for the support again. I've become a negative person with nothing but negative feelings since this has started to happen. I've been experiencing feelings I never did before like jealousy and envy and I've been angry, frustrated and depressed. I'm not dealing with this since puberty, it has "only" been a year. It was like a shock to me. And thanks for being there
karategrrl
QUOTE(Vendetta @ Aug 22 2008, 10:15 AM) *
I've become a negative person with nothing but negative feelings since this has started to happen. I've been experiencing feelings I never did before like jealousy and envy and I've been angry, frustrated and depressed.


We have something in common. I've experienced more jealousy-type pain than I ever have since I got married. I'm not really sure why. The best I can figure is I care about this guy more than I have about anyone, and it's a bigger commitment than I've ever had where I stand to lose more than I ever have. (And I guess I have some silly, old-fashioned notions about monogamous relationships--like that one should not indulge in their attractions to anyone else.) So the times when he's flirted or had more than a passing glance at someone else it's felt like a sharp, hot knife going through my heart whereas when it happened with other people it still hurt, but not as much since in the back of my head I always felt like, "Well, I'll just dump you, asswipe...your loss!"

And about large-breasted women saying big breasts aren't all they're cracked up to be, I truly appreciate the honesty and it does make me feel grateful for what I have and helps me realize that every body type has its challenges. However...I never wanted gi-normous breasts anyway--just B cups, which as far as I know do not cause back problems, difficulty finding big-enough bras or tops, or men to leer like convicts just freed from prison. wink.gif
Vendetta
And about large-breasted women saying big breasts aren't all they're cracked up to be, I truly appreciate the honesty and it does make me feel grateful for what I have and helps me realize that every body type has its challenges. However...I never wanted gi-normous breasts anyway--just B cups, which as far as I know do not cause back problems, difficulty finding big-enough bras or tops, or men to leer like convicts just freed from prison. wink.gif
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That's what I mean grrrl. I don't want big breasts, just B-cups. Just SOME breasts. Big breasted girls have to deal with many physical problems whereas some small ladies usually have to deal with psychological problems. Big breasted women psychological problems can be big like having jerks staring at their chests but what the hell, they love having breasts and ask any of them if they do and I bet they'll say yes. I'm not saying our situation is worse, I'm only saying that I would prefer having men staring at them if that meant the person I choose to be with does too, than looking at myself in the mirror and see a pre-pubescent chest. Anyway, since I don't want huge breasts, that wouldn't even happen. I keep saying to myself that its discomfort is okay when everyone around me has at least a hint of cleavage. And jesus, I find it soooo beautiful, so how and why wouldn't he??
ailurophile
Thanx girls. Do I feel better already? Well, no. I do, however, feel a tremendous amount of support. I know the responses are from people like me, less than a B cup, not from my friends or family who have small boobs (B or C cup) and think they understand. They are not small boobs to me. They are HUGE boobs.

karategrrl... You are very inspiring. Have you ever felt like me? It seems that you may have been unhappy about your size but you can deal with it now. I wish to one day be comfortable with myself. As you suggested, I'm trying to find something I do like about myself. I have lost about 20 lbs over a period of time. My belly and butt look so much better (they were really gross) but of course what little "umf" I had in my breasts from the extra weight has gone. (When I gained the weight originally, I still wore the same bras, I just filled them up better. Of course, I was the only person who could tell they were ever bigger. Now there is extra space in my bra.) Anyway...I can wear cuter, tighter clothes now and that makes me feel better about myself. I guess I have to take the bad with the good.

annak...Thanx for your input. I guess if we all put our problems in a circle and were able to pick the ones we'd rather have, we would take back our own. I do, however, agree with vendetta, you just have no idea what this is like, just as I don't know what having big boobs is like. But do you feel womanly?? I do not. I feel like a little girl. I blossomed at the end of sixth grade (the last girl to do it, mind you) and they stopped growing in their tracks. Like vendetta said, "I don't want big breasts, just B-cups. Just SOME breasts". We're not selfish. Like girls with large breasts, I get looks too. But it's different. It's more like they can't believe it. I think they look away in embarrassment...or pity. We both have issues but they are very different. My problem hurts my self-esteem.

I feel the same things as vendetta..."jealousy and envy and I've been angry, frustrated and depressed" However, I've been like this since puberty. Now at 37, it's sooo bad that I've become obsessed. I've considered counseling, but just don't see how that can change things. I'll still be flat.

Thanx for being here for me.
Vendetta
I've been on counseling and it hasn't been helping at all. I'm still flat when I get out from that door. The only good point about it is that I'm paying for someone to listen to me. And that someone has nothing against implants and thinks that sometimes, in the end, there are things that need to be done altough i'm there to talk myself out of it. In "the end", we'll see. I still think that I don't want to live a "life of misery" (drama queen lol) and probably the only way to get the issue out of the table is to do it. I know a person that has been like me a whole life and at 45 years old surrended herself to surgery and says that, when she looks at herself in the mirror, she is so sure that it was the best thing she's done. They look so real that it's impressing. Mind you that this is my opinion for myself and my experience, i'm not saying breast implants are a good thing for everyone. For some reason i'm paying hard to be listened to, instead of paying for my "unholy womanliness" already lol
Cheers
Vendetta
I was smoking this weed cigarrette with one of my best male friends, whom I know for ages and he asked me if he could make an indiscret question. This friend of mine had been trying to talk me out of implants until this once when I said that I just wanted to have what my bra offered me and he was like "what? that's not yours?". I was wearing this awesome tight dress reminding the 60's with a heavily padded bra that gives me the look of a large B-cup and he asked "is that how much you want to put on?" referring to implants. I said yes but probably just a little less. He was kinda shocked with the "less" answer but stare at me for a minute and said "you do look really nice. That figure suits you perfectly." Thank you.
honeybunch
QUOTE(Vendetta @ Aug 22 2008, 10:40 AM) *
And about large-breasted women saying big breasts aren't all they're cracked up to be, I truly appreciate the honesty and it does make me feel grateful for what I have and helps me realize that every body type has its challenges. However...I never wanted gi-normous breasts anyway--just B cups, which as far as I know do not cause back problems, difficulty finding big-enough bras or tops, or men to leer like convicts just freed from prison. wink.gif
That's what I mean grrrl. I don't want big breasts, just B-cups. Just SOME breasts. Big breasted girls have to deal with many physical problems whereas some small ladies usually have to deal with psychological problems. Big breasted women psychological problems can be big like having jerks staring at their chests but what the hell, they love having breasts and ask any of them if they do and I bet they'll say yes. I'm not saying our situation is worse, I'm only saying that I would prefer having men staring at them if that meant the person I choose to be with does too, than looking at myself in the mirror and see a pre-pubescent chest. Anyway, since I don't want huge breasts, that wouldn't even happen. I keep saying to myself that its discomfort is okay when everyone around me has at least a hint of cleavage. And jesus, I find it soooo beautiful, so how and why wouldn't he??


Please add me to the I-just-want-bcups club!!! I really wouldn't want to be bigger than the half size between b and c. I know if they were just a bit bigger I could have a bit of cleavage. That's all I really want.

I feel inspired by the women here who can accept and love the small breasts, I'm just not there yet. This has been a big issue for me for a long time. sad.gif

IA with the bold.
karategrrl
QUOTE(ailurophile @ Aug 23 2008, 06:49 PM) *
Thanx girls. Do I feel better already? Well, no. I do, however, feel a tremendous amount of support. I know the responses are from people like me, less than a B cup, not from my friends or family who have small boobs (B or C cup) and think they understand. They are not small boobs to me. They are HUGE boobs.


I too feel the pain when people refer to Bs or even Cs as "small." I'm like, "What the Fuck??!" If that's "small," I'm practically concave in comparison. laugh.gif

QUOTE(ailurophile @ Aug 23 2008, 06:49 PM) *
karategrrl... You are very inspiring. Have you ever felt like me? It seems that you may have been unhappy about your size but you can deal with it now. I wish to one day be comfortable with myself. As you suggested, I'm trying to find something I do like about myself. I have lost about 20 lbs over a period of time. My belly and butt look so much better (they were really gross) but of course what little "umf" I had in my breasts from the extra weight has gone. (When I gained the weight originally, I still wore the same bras, I just filled them up better. Of course, I was the only person who could tell they were ever bigger. Now there is extra space in my bra.) Anyway...I can wear cuter, tighter clothes now and that makes me feel better about myself. I guess I have to take the bad with the good.


Wow, I'm amazed I'm inspiring, and that you'd wonder if I ever felt like you!! I'm very flattered and I thank you! To answer your question, yes, I have felt like you. I hadn't thought about it, but yes, I guess overall I have felt much, much better about this issue in the past year or so--definetely since discovering this online forum! The internet has really been a big help to me--this place has been a godsend to me--an anonymous place to talk to other women like me (not women with B and C cups who are "small"...GRRR!). And also reading all there is to know on the internet about breast implants has been a huge help in shaping my feelings about my body. There was a time when I thought seriously about implants, and I set out to research all I could about it. I was honestly shocked to find all the negative possibilities that come with the procedure, and I've come to realize how much I actually do love my body and breasts because I could never go under the knife to change them. I think if I got implants, there'd be a part of me that would miss my little ones and wish I could have just loved them as they were. don't get me wrong--if they got bigger due to menopause or pregnancy or something, I'd be totally grooving on them, but there would be no inner conflict because it happened naturally. Hope that makes sense. I know I may be contradicting myself because I've said here in the past that if there was some totally safe and simple way to enlarge my breasts--no more complicated or harmful than dying my hair or using maekup--I'd probably do it. Surgery is just a line I won't cross.

Maybe some of my liberation has come from my age and life experiences, too. I'm nearing 40 and in a lot of ways feeling like I no longer have anything to prove to anyone. I feel more confident in my feeling of, "If you don't like me as I am, then fuck you!" Ha. Also, having lived through some really difficult things, It's put the breast size issue into perspective for me.

Ailurophile, we must be built very much alike. I, too, have lost some weight recently and though it has done wonders for my butt, it's made my already small breasts even smaller. If only we could selectively gain and lose weight from various body areas...ha.
anarch
"If you don't like me as I am, then fuck you!"

Hell YEAH!

I started feeling that way in my early 20s (I'm mid-30s now). It's a built-in asshole-filter, and my cod there sure are a lot of 'em to slog through.

Also with you on the "B or C cup is not small, WTF?" Man. That change has happened just in the past couple decades. Our society's technology outpaces its ability to treat women with respect as individuals.
strongirl
There's some good shit going down in the large breast support group on loving our bodies and celebrating our wonderful breasts, regardless of their size. For those of you who can't listen to large-breasted girls appreciating their breasts without feeling envious, don't visit. But if you're more into body acceptance and appreciation regardless of shape or size, check it out, by all means.

In keeping with that sentiment, I am dedicating my evening to loving my body and adoring my sexy little titties and I recommend you all do likewise!

I have such smokin' hot little 34A's that my boyfriend cannot keep his eyes nor hands nor mouth off them! And I just got back from the clothes-optional hot springs and hey - neither could anyone else! While AnnaK in the large busties group feels like a Russ Meyer babe or a cartoon superheroine (when she's feeling "titty positive"), I feel like a sexy little Catholic schoolgirl, a wide-eyed seductive little waif, a skinny 1960's miniskirted gogo dancer, a wood nymph dancing naked in the moonlight surrounded by hairy satyrs with enormous hard-ons! I love my little titties and I know other people do, too!

Yep, I get insecure sometimes, and yep, sometimes I think bigger would be better. But deep down I know mine are totally hot just the way they are. I love my little titties!


dani1983
I used to LOOOOVE my boobies. 34 b, high up there. Gorgeous! but then i lost some weight, then i regained it, and now i don't like them anymore. They are still 34 b, high up there, but..I don't know.. maybe its time that momma gets some new boobies
strongirl
For those of you who consider getting "new boobies", as I have occasionally, and for whom part of the problem is a big-breast favoring boyfriend (unlike mine), I'd like to propose the concept that maybe you should get a new boyfriend instead of new boobies.

I can't say for sure since each relationship is unique and there's always the whole situation to consider. But think about the possibility that it would be:

1) Cheaper and better for your finances.
2) Better for your physical health.
3) Better for your mental health and self esteem.
4) Better for your sex life, with a new boyfriend who loves your tits.

I don't know but I do think it is something to consider.
Vendetta
The problem is when the person herself is a bigger-breast favoring and there is no boyfriend that can change that. I suppose that when a person thinks about implants, she wants to do that for herself, not anyone else?
karategrrl
QUOTE(strongirl @ Aug 26 2008, 02:29 AM) *
I feel like a sexy little Catholic schoolgirl, a wide-eyed seductive little waif, a skinny 1960's miniskirted gogo dancer, a wood nymph dancing naked in the moonlight surrounded by hairy satyrs with enormous hard-ons!


laugh.gif laugh.gif laugh.gif laugh.gif laugh.gif laugh.gif

Grrl, let me just say YOU MADE MY DAY.
anna k
QUOTE
I have such smokin' hot little 34A's that my boyfriend cannot keep his eyes nor hands nor mouth off them! And I just got back from the clothes-optional hot springs and hey - neither could anyone else! While AnnaK in the large busties group feels like a Russ Meyer babe or a cartoon superheroine (when she's feeling "titty positive"), I feel like a sexy little Catholic schoolgirl, a wide-eyed seductive little waif, a skinny 1960's miniskirted gogo dancer, a wood nymph dancing naked in the moonlight surrounded by hairy satyrs with enormous hard-ons! I love my little titties and I know other people do, too!


I love that! You sound so deliciously sexy!
Vendetta
ETA, I almost NEVER go into the small bust thread. It makes me feel bad about myself because there is a lot of harshness there. Somehow it hurts more when another woman calls you a slut/disrespects you simply because you have big boobs.

I took that from the large forum. Auch. She may not be reading the same forum I've been.
karategrrl
QUOTE(Vendetta @ Aug 26 2008, 04:50 PM) *
ETA, I almost NEVER go into the small bust thread. It makes me feel bad about myself because there is a lot of harshness there.


There's a lot of harshness here?????
strongirl
On the "harshness", I don't think any Busties are being intentionally mean ever, but I do think there is a theme that appears in both threads that goes something like this:

"My (insert word 'small' or 'large' here) breasts may not be perfect but it's better than being too (insert opposite word here)."

The big girls don't want to feel less feminine. The small girls don't want back pain and stares. OK. That's all valid and I've done it too. But...isn't it better to emphasize body acceptance and generosity, toward ourselves and others? To revel in the beauty and sensuality that we possess and to reflect and appreciate others' beauty when they share it with us? I sure think so. And I think they're related - the more we can embody the self-loving perspective that AnnaK and I indulged in (in our respective threads), the more natural it is to feel generous and appreciative of others, rather than jealous or disapproving.

So I urge - nay, DARE - all of you to do something similar to what AnnaK and I did, either here or just to yourself in the mirror or with your lover in bed. (And thank you, Karategrrl and AnnaK for the positive feedback - y'all sound like red-hot babes yourselves!)

Flaunt it! Celebrate it! Love your beautiful breasts and share them with others joyously!

You may be surprised at what happens.
karategrrl
QUOTE(strongirl @ Aug 26 2008, 06:51 PM) *
So I urge - nay, DARE - all of you to do something similar to what AnnaK and I did, either here or just to yourself in the mirror or with your lover in bed. (And thank you, Karategrrl and AnnaK for the positive feedback - y'all sound like red-hot babes yourselves!)

Flaunt it! Celebrate it! Love your beautiful breasts and share them with others joyously!

You may be surprised at what happens.


Ha, this is great! I may just do some sharing and just see what happens!!! wink.gif I'm a red-hot babe?? Aw, shucks! tongue.gif

I can't visit the large busted section without feeling envious, though, so I will steer clear.
ailurophile
strongirl: I have mixed feelings here. I don't know if I am happy for you, envious of you or angry with you for being so positive or angry with myself for being so negative. Don't take that personally. I am very embarrassed about what I lack, therefore, also bitter. My new boyfriend seems to like me as I am...but he's still very new. But as I said previously, when people can't keep their eyes off my tiny tits, I don't feel it's because they are smoking hot. I think it's because they're saying, "Dear God...that poor girl." Also, it sounds that maybe yours may be small yet pretty. Mine don't even look pretty. They are sooo not nice looking. That's why I call them "two little pathetic things on my chest".... that karategrrl has tried to discourage me from saying. In the end, I think I am happy for you and envy you.

vendetta: I consider implants all the time but I don't think it's worth it. I am so afraid of the risks and complications such as hematoma, necrosis, deflation/rupture, bottoming out, changes in sensation, gel bleed, infection, interference with mammography, death on the table due to complications with anesthesia (like that recent 18 y/o girl), dissatisfaction with results (looking like two balls as I see in before and after pics) amongst several other risks... and if nothing else, at least these are mine and not synthetic. I would really like to be proud of or at least comfortable with them one day like karategrl and strongirl, etc. I don't think I want my man getting off on something that isn't really me.

honeybunch: Regarding --> "I feel inspired by the women here who can accept and love the small breasts, I'm just not there yet. This has been a big issue for me for a long time." As the song goes... You took those words right out of my mouth.... I'm with you!!!

I checked more into Brava. Despite all the great testimonials on their website, there is a website with all negative feedback (called something like bravargh) with other testimonials from people like karategrrl's friend and even a husband saying how little or no result for something that is so much work and money. I just keep hoping there is hope. I called my doctor who referred me to a plastic surgeon to see if there are other options besides implants and brava. I considered scheduling an appointment but I think if there were more options, they would be suggested on the internet. I think the only option may be to accept me as I am and feel pretty. (????) The other thing is that when I asked the receptionist (who I know well) about breast augmentation, she literally exclaimed, "Good for you!!" I was surprised and disappointed. To me that meant...it's about time you're doing something. I figured she could have said...you sure you really want to do that?!?

I went to the large breast support group out of curiosity. Their issues are very different than ours so I'm all set with that. Also, they have the option of reducing their size and that is very different than putting foreign objects in your body and becoming something you're not.
i see eleven
Again i have to start my reply with gratitude for this thread and you girls. what an inspiration you are to me, every one of you! i wouldn't be anywhere near as accepting of myself as i am without this thread.

two thoughts right now... i realize this is a very sad attempt at trying to feel better about ourselves but (sometimes anything helps)...i was looking in the mirror and the thought came to me, 'anybody can get big boobs but not everyone can get small boobs.' i'm not for sure that that statement is absolutely true and i know there are exceptions but do you see kinda where i was going??? i know it feels like we're a rare breed and i know that we wish our kind of breed either didn't exist or were extict by now but, for second there i felt special and thankful and appreciative of my breasts. even if no one else feels that way, at least i felt that way and i felt like my body responded positively back to me. i know that sounds weird but.... which brings up a movie/documentary? that you all might enjoy and want to check out...it's called "what the bleep do we know" you should be able to find it in your library. it talks about the law of attraction etc, but the most special part of it that really touched me was the part where this woman decided to love herself. it was a beautiful part of the movie. you all might like it.

the other thought i had may not be a very good thought in the long run, but when i read these threads sometimes i think it would be nice to have us all get together and have a girls night out. be with girls of our own kind. girls we can relate to. i'm with the girl who said that whenever she sees another smaller breasted woman she wants to go up and introduce herself and make friends with her... i too want to do that same thing. but then i think she probably doesn't have issues like me. i just think i'd be great to once a year (or more!) have a small breasted women convention. like the "little people" do. or like the 'twins' do. you know what i mean. i personally don't see enough small breasted woman around. i wonder how many of those padded bras there are out there that hide their true, beautiful, natural size. that's why i stopped wearing heavily padded bras. i wanted to start supporting small breasted women and go against society. it was my way of rebelling and saying "F-U world!" at the same time saying "THANK YOU GOD!"
so anyway if anyone is in support of a convention, lets set one up! smile.gif ps, NO BRAS ALLOWED! smile.gif smile.gif j/k.

again this has been therapy for me to express in writing what i feel and think. Thanks girls for your help!

LOVES!
i see eleven
For the girl who isn't thrilled with the therapy idea (like me), i know there are other ways, other kinds of therapy that must help. you all are going to think i'm a crazy woman but i find the study of energy work to be very therapudic, just like yoga and tai chi are types of energy work, this other type of healing also comes from the orient...called EFT, emotional freedom technique. web site is: www.emofree.com i'm all about natural healing and self healing and finding balance in life etc, yall may not be but i just thought i'd mention it in case there was/is and interest or that it's an avenue that hasn't been taken. again, it's more for self acceptance than the actual God granting the breasts of ones desire. and likewise if any one else has similar ideas like that let me know.
by the way, i'm just curious, has anyone besides me actually prayed or tried to use the power of the mind or law of attraction/the secret to get bigger boobs? i'm to the point where i'm sick of wanting bigger boobs, again, it takes so much precious energy to want something you don't have and may never get or to hate what you've got. that's really bad energy to me. it's better to love and be grateful. but that's just me...i hope not. wink.gif
God bless
ailurophile
I believe that's me you (i see eleven) are talking about. I agree...we are a rare breed. Funny you should say "no bras allowed". A convention would be the ONLY place I would EVER show up without a bra but I would do it! When I do see smallies like me in public, besides wanting to introduce myself, I find myself staring or taking sneak peeks because I cannot believe there is another like me. I wonder if others notice me as well.

Sometimes I actually do think about going braless or using just a sports bra and screw the padding. It's not me anyway. Maybe that will help me accept me as I am. But I hate the thought of going braless b/c I have two little points which just look stupid. But anyway, haven't had the guts. There is a trainer at my gym who is flat, wears tight shirts and looks cute. If I had her body, I would consider it. She looks so much more comfortable and confident than I.

Thanx for emofree.com. I'll have to check it out.

i see eleven
)))Ailurophile((( (how do you pronounce that by the way? i'm not good. does it mean something? just curious...

as someone else put it, "it sounds like we're built the same" also. i'm wearing a "nearly A" bra (playtex?) and i was thinking that i look too curvy with it on. i took it off; went braless and saw the same thing/s you did! i know how you feel. i don't like the padded thing either but i need suuuumthing till i can get to "that point."


we talk about how we look and all that but it's different when you actually see someone... i'm not talking naked, just normally clothed. does someone know a safe website or blog spot that could leave us annonymous if we want? i'd do it for that reason of not just saying or talking/typing about it. again, this may not be a good idea in the long run and may not be as productive as i'd think it would be, but if someone gets what i'm trying to say and know's what my intentions are and knows something i don't...by all means, let me know.

and yeah, b cups and c cups are huge! that's my opinion! we're all entitled so i don't wanna hear it! wink.gif

-IC11
crinoline
QUOTE(strongirl @ Aug 26 2008, 01:51 PM) *
On the "harshness", I don't think any Busties are being intentionally mean ever, but I do think there is a theme that appears in both threads that goes something like this:

"My (insert word 'small' or 'large' here) breasts may not be perfect but it's better than being too (insert opposite word here)."

The big girls don't want to feel less feminine. The small girls don't want back pain and stares. OK. That's all valid and I've done it too. But...isn't it better to emphasize body acceptance and generosity, toward ourselves and others? To revel in the beauty and sensuality that we possess and to reflect and appreciate others' beauty when they share it with us? I sure think so. And I think they're related - the more we can embody the self-loving perspective that AnnaK and I indulged in (in our respective threads), the more natural it is to feel generous and appreciative of others, rather than jealous or disapproving.

So I urge - nay, DARE - all of you to do something similar to what AnnaK and I did, either here or just to yourself in the mirror or with your lover in bed. (And thank you, Karategrrl and AnnaK for the positive feedback - y'all sound like red-hot babes yourselves!)

Flaunt it! Celebrate it! Love your beautiful breasts and share them with others joyously!

You may be surprised at what happens.


strongirl makes an excellent point. The important thing is to move toward body acceptance both for ourselves and for others. So sg - I'll take you up on that dare tonight, I'm sure the boy will appreciate it. wink.gif

I have noticed a sort of unconscious harshness toward our larger breasted sisters in this thread. It's similar to the "skinny bitch" syndrome, where it's okay to put down thin women because they've achieved an "impossible ideal". The bias isn't fair in either case.

The thread got a little negative for a while, so I stopped posting as frequently. I'm encouraged by all of the body-positive, breast-positive talk around here lately, though. I'm with AP on the point that we're all women, we all have breasts, we're all on the same team. Now, whether your membership badges are big or small, you're still an important member of TEAM TITTIE!

V- I was confused when you said that nixing the current boyfriend would not help your situation. I remember you saying that you were once body positive and confident just as you are, before him.
ailurophile
i see eleven: ailurophile (ay-loor-o-feel) means one who likes cats, cat lover. I checked for a blogspot for ya. I can't find anything in what you are looking for. I understand what you mean though. We get excited when we see other girls like us in our "rare breed", if only to know we are not alone.

crinoline: I haven't been here long...a week to be exact. I admit I feel a harshness toward not just large breasted girls but anyone with breasts to speak of. But I'm working on it. That's why I'm here.
dani1983
QUOTE(strongirl @ Aug 26 2008, 04:19 AM) *
For those of you who consider getting "new boobies", as I have occasionally, and for whom part of the problem is a big-breast favoring boyfriend (unlike mine), I'd like to propose the concept that maybe you should get a new boyfriend instead of new boobies.

I can't say for sure since each relationship is unique and there's always the whole situation to consider. But think about the possibility that it would be:

1) Cheaper and better for your finances.
2) Better for your physical health.
3) Better for your mental health and self esteem.
4) Better for your sex life, with a new boyfriend who loves your tits.

I don't know but I do think it is something to consider.



No that's not my case, I don' t have a bf, not even thinking about getting one right now! and all of my exes loved my boobies, they always say they were the right size and so perky. I just want my C cup back! (they grew when I started taking birth control pills)

Vendetta
crinoline - yep, I was. Or I guess I wasn't that much or I wouldn't wear those heavily padded bras and wouldn't had been so sensitive about it to this point. Now I guess I dislike my breasts more than he does. And nothing seems to be changing that. I am at a small breast support group because I don't like my breasts, not because my bf prefers bigger ones. I see myself dreaming about bigger breasts with this guy, alone or with any other guy.
karategrrl
OMG, what great thoughts bouncing around in here!!!!!

About "harshness" toward larger busties, I know I've said a few things that may have been along the "skinny bitch" vein, and also I've said many things that I didnt' mean that way but were perceived that way. I honestly try to be accepting of everything, especially everyone's opinions about everything, but I have to admit to a certain amount of palpable frustration when it comes to certain things, such as large busted women saying, "lucky you, no back pain!" or ESPECIALLY when people with B or C cups complain about their "small" breasts and how they should get augmented. WTF???! It's like someone with a million dollars trying to tell me what a burden it is to manage all that money. Ha.

No, I don't have back pain and people typically don't talk to my chest, and believe me, I try and count my blessings. I can't change my breast size so I do my best to feel good about what I have, and sometimes the only way I can do that is to say, "Yay, no back pain!" and "I can wear any kind of shirt!" and "Implants...UNHEALTHY!" but then when I do, I get blasted for being insenstive to people who have back pain, have limited shirt options, or are considering (or who have gotten) implants. Sometimes I feel like I can't win no matter what I say. laugh.gif I'm not trying to be harsh or insensitive to anyone, but one of the ways we process thoughts and feelings is to get them out in the open. Quite honestly, this is the only place I can think of where women get together and talk about this topic. I feel bad that anyone has steered clear of this forum because it seemed harsh. <Mental processing complete>

Anyhoo, ailurophille:
"Good for you!"???? Interesting comment, but I guess not totally surprising from someone in the plastic surgery realm. I remember seeing a documentary that followed a few women as they got breast implants. There was a receptionist talking to a woman before she went into surgery, to prep her and tell her what to expect. I expected the usual talk about "When you wake up you will have pain, and when you do, you can take the pain pills..." that sort of thing. Instead it was, "Your clothes will fit better, you will feel better about yourself, you will feel like a woman finally..." She might as well have said, "you poor thing who nature gypped with no breasts like everyone else. Let's fix you!" Interesting.

i see eleven:
Your comments=LOL!
1. I would SO do a convention!! (Bras optional!)
2. I also have been doing the positive thinking thing, and though I'm far from being great with it, I have to say it has really helped me, and continues to help me, with this breast issue as well as everything else in my life.
3. YES, I have had "I will grow my boobs!" thoughts!!! Though the times I've done it, I've made sure to approach it in a positive way, just having fun with the possibility but totally loving and appreciating my breasts, health, and life as they are--already perfect. I have to say, I have had moments where I caught a glimpse of my naked boobies and said, "Wha?? Are they bigger?" and then realized they aren't, but b/c my perception is changing, I'm seeing the glass (or bra cup?!) as half full rather than half empty.
strongirl
Karategrrl, you are so right - this thread is on fire right now with exciting thinking. It's awesome to see.

>>I do my best to feel good about what I have, and sometimes the only way I can do that is to say, "Yay, no back pain!" and "I can wear any kind of shirt!" and "Implants...UNHEALTHY!" but then when I do, I get blasted for being insenstive to people who have back pain, have limited shirt options, or are considering (or who have gotten) implants. Sometimes I feel like I can't win no matter what I say. <<

I know. That was very well-said! I think it is useful to consider what it might be like to have another person's blessings and curses; it can help us appreciate our own place in life. But at the end of the day, the more time we spend comparing ourselves to others and the less time we spend simply enjoying our own lives and bodies for what they are, the more unhappy we are going to be. And it can be utterly baseless and just a reflection of our own insecurity - your mistakenly thinking your tits were bigger in the mirror reminds me of when I was taking one of those trendy pole-dancing classes and the girl next to me was this gorgeous, slender dancer type. I thought "Shit, why can't I have legs like hers?" I felt like an ugly cow next to her; I was wallowing in self-loathing. Minutes later we were on the floor with our legs spread in the air, and told to raise our heads up. When I did, I saw legs in the mirror and thought "Ugh, there she is again with those gorgeous legs"...until I realized I was looking at MY legs. It was a good lesson. Seen through the filter of my own insecurity, I looked awful...tricked into removing that filter, I actually WAS the girl I was envying.

Ailurophile: >>But I hate the thought of going braless b/c I have two little points which just look stupid<<
Just to make you question that assumption, my bf and I were having very chatty sex last night and he voiced how much he loves the look of tits that have no surrounding breast tissue but are just pointy, cone-shaped nipples. Is that what yours are like? If so, please stay away from my bf! smile.gif








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