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lightchested
I have no idea if I am doing this right...I couldn't do a new thread. Are we supposed to keep replying to each other even if we are not actually replying to a previous post?

I've been reading this forum for months to get me through very hard times, so first off, I want to say thank you to you all. I love how having small breasts has become almost a feminist issue on this site. It gives me new directions to go in to deal with my smallies...I think I'm going to re-read The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf for more inspiration in dealing with this "affliction" (this is a joke, to do with the link I posted below).

The reason I decided to post today is to show you all an article that went up on the web over a month ago. I don't know if you've already seen it, so I apologize if it's already been posted. I am usually VERY sensitive about my smallness, but even I had to laugh at this article. I hope it does not offend anyone: the author is not making fun of small breastedness, but at the industry that makes us believe there is anything wrong with it.

http://www.theonion.com/content/news/plast...eneral_warns_of
karategrrl
Yes, neurotic Nelly, you understood my meaning in what I posted about porn. No, jacking off to porn is not cheating, technically. But, like you said, anything done to the extreme can be detrimental to aspects of life--it's a matter of balance.

I speak from personal experience about the porn, as I've been with people who COULDN'T get off unless there was porn involved--a real woman (such as me) wasn't enough. So no, the pictures/movies, etc. do not themselves destroy relationships--people who are obsessed with porn do. And the ease with which one can access tons of porn, of any kind and suiting any taste--from Playboy-type stuff to downright tasteless and grotesque stuff--makes it easy for many people to form an obsession with it. In some ways it can be..how should I say...educational... wink.gif but in the grandest scheme of things I think it does more harm than good. But it doesn't matter--porn has always existed in some form or other and always will, I think--I mean, cavemen drew cave art with people fucking and stuff.


Topic change:
As for the large-busted women saying their thread has absolutely nothing to do with men, I disagree. We all form our opinions of ourselves, to some extent, based on feedback from other people, men included. If we all lived in vacuums, we'd never grow or have anything to experience, good or bad.

Am I the only one who sense a tad of pride in that comment, "Well, no shit Sherlock. That ain't the fuckin' point. What goes on in here isn't about finding/keeping a man." No, that's not what it's all about. "
starship
i think its almost inevitable that most guys will watch porn at least a little bit. i dont mind as long as its not excessive and if its always the same sort of women (i.e big boobed 'perfect' model type ones) then i get kinda insecure and annoyed about it. It's one thing that makes me wish the internet wasnt invented- i could easily deal with a couple of magazines/dvds stashed under the bed but a whole WWW worth or porn is abit argh. if i was to find a bf looking at porn containing all sorts/types of natural looking ladies though i dont think id have a problem with it, even if it was quite frequently. itd be reassauring in some ways

i dunno why the big boobed busties (well, the one quoted) have to use us as a negative comparison. i think ive acknowledged before how the topics of convo are so different in the two forums but not with quite the same tone...

I was in john lewis the other day looking for xmas prezzies and noticed they had quite a few bras stocked in AA & A sizes. mostly plain ones but still means theres one more shop on the list of places i can actually buy bras

i bought a gorgeous new lepel bra from an ebay shop that arrived today. it's lacey, pink and completelyyy unpadded!!! usually i have trouble finding those sort of bras in a size that actually fits snuggly so im pretty happy about my find:).

hi lightchested! yeah this is kind of like one big continuing conversation rather than smaller, more particular ones like you might find on other websites. keep posting:)

As its coming up to christmas- Has anyone got any stories about receiving lingerie gifts? i know it can be quite a traditional present from bfs but id hate the idea! Itd be pretty impossible for them to get the right size and even then it might not fit me/wouldnt be flattering so id feel uncomfortable. Id love if i was a Bcup so my bf could easily just go into a store and pick up something sexy he'd like to see me in:(
lightchested
My husband wants to get me boobs for Christmas. That's my Christmas story. I keep telling him no. He's not a bad guy...he's doing it so I'll stop obsessing about them. But that's not the way I want to resolve my obsession so I keep telling him no.
crinoline
lightchested - my husband would get a kick in the balls that Christmas!! Good for you, you don't need them!

starship - What about a chemise? If you know whether you're a small or xsmall, then it would be easy for the bf to get something sexy that would fit
like
this
or
this

yeah, my boy once got me a beautiful silk lingerie set (that I had picked out) and I've never been able to wear it, because the cups remain empty when I put it on. I was waaay too hopeful that their 32B (the smallest size they made) would fit my 32A frame. BUT he's had great success with silky nighties, rompers, or cami sets!
Vendetta
my bf got me lingerie for christmas 2 years ago, he bought a corset with matching panties at Intimissimi. I believe it is size 1 or something since he asked for the smallest size available. It's just slightly padded and it doesn't fit me at all, it remains with just two empty cups. It's beautiful but I only wore it once. So it was the first and the last time I got lingerie for present.
strongirl
lightchested...may I point out that it makes no sense for your guy to get you boobs for Christmas because you already HAVE boobs.
strongirl
On the porn issue, wow, it sure is a complicated topic. I have been an anti-porn activist. I have also masturbated to porn and enjoyed sex with my bf while we enjoy porn together. This ain't no easy issue.

There's porn and then there's porn. I'm totally with Nellie that the more natural the better - in terms of boobs, action, and responses from the participants. The worst porn for me has fake boobs and fake arousal/orgasms from the women. That sort always pisses me off like crazy. It's ugly, exploitive, and I can't relate to anyone that gets off on it.

But nowadays there's lots of good stuff out there, in my opinion. Betty Dodson is one of my personal heroes for her work on making sexuality in a wide variety of forms acceptable. Her thoughts on the topic are well worth researching for any of you who are not familiar.

I am a strong advocate for full, joyous, generous sex lives for everyone. So when porn promotes that, I like it. When it causes pain and suffering and the retreat from a person's own sexuality, I hate it.
lightchested
Stronggirl and Crinoline, I really appreciate your comments. Though I doubt I'll kick my husband in the balls for wanting to buy me "the gift that keeps on giving"...a.k.a. the gift of serial surgeries to last a lifetime (initial surgery + repairs & replacements), I must admit I was a bit shocked that after telling him profusely that I was not interested in his surgical display of love. that he, days after my refusal to submit to becoming a Bolt-On, brought the topic up AGAIN.

The second time he brought it up, we were in the car. He said, "If I buy you boobs for Christmas, you'd better get them" (so he wouldn't waste his money on a procedure/mutilation & not getting his money's worth). I told him firmly, "Then don't buy them." We drove on in silence for a bit after that.

Stronggirl, to your point, you're right. Thank you for the reminder. As stupid as it sounds, I do often think of myself as "boobless". But you're right. I do wear a bra, and I "couldn't" go braless in public without feeling extremely awkward, so you're right. It's not like I don't have boobs. It's just that I don't feel like I have the boobs I "should" have, which is the issue that I really need to address. (Obliterating the "should" in my mind, rather than trying to turn my boobs into "that pair").

Boobs are a journey. I'm trying to enjoy the ride. This site makes it easier. I am so grateful that this board exists.
karategrrl
strongirl:
I could have written your post myself (about the porn issue). Thanks for articulating perfectly what I feel I was saying rather clumsily. I, too, hate the fake stuff mostly because there are guys out there who think it's really real. I speak from personal experience: My ex (the sexually dysfunctional, porn-obessed one) was always comparing me to the porn girls--which, according to the crap he liked, were all busty, sex-craving nymphos who supposedly took it up the butt all the time, came in .2 nanoseconds and were into threesomes, fivesomes, forced sex, whatever...whenever...wherever...so, because--Goddess forbid--I wasn't that extreme, I was "frigid." There are a lot of fucked up people out there... (And if any of you are wondering why on earth I tolerated that, he was my first bf--I had no other point of reference. If I ran into him now I'd probably spontaneously slap the shit out of him.)

crinoline:
LOL about the kick in the balls comment! Bwahahahahahaha! I almost choked on my coffee reading that! laugh.gif

About lingerie: yep, chemises, tank styles and camisoles are made for us!!! We don't need any "support," so we can choose these very pretty styles.

You girls who have the lingerie that's too big in the bust:
Maybe try taking it to a seamstress or someone who can sew well--maybe they can adjust the cups?? Just a thought.

My best lingerie story: Several Christmases ago, my man (now my ex) and my friend conspired and went shopping for me at Victoria's Secret. He knew she had great fashion style and understood my body type. (I have to say he also carried around my measurements on a little card in his wallet. The sales girls were always impressed when he'd whip that out instead of saying, "Duh, I don't know what size she wears.")

Anyhoo, I got two sets of gorgeous lingerie that year. I opened it up and was instantly overcome with grief, thinking, "Oh my god, this is all SOO beautiful, but it will NEVER fit my breasts!" But, shockingly, one of them fit my bust perfectly and the other one was very close--I put little pads in the top and it was fine. I felt like a million bucks wearing that stuff, and still do! wink.gif
ailurophile
I have been only "lurking" these past few weeks. I have had so much to say yet not enough time as I have been sooo busy with the holidays coming. But my Christmas shopping is done!!! Those of you who celebrate Christmas may be able to appreciate that. I have to catch up on the past few days here though. I've only been skimming and there's some good stuff I can certainly relate to and would like to comment on. Not to change the subject but I have a complaint about my bf:

My new bf (of close to 5 months now. met him just before you girls) pissed me off the other night. We have not fought yet about anything. But I had to let him know that what he did bothered me and he's not the communicative type so it's not like I could "discuss my feelings". We were watching TV and there was a commercial kind of interview thing on with volumptuous girls, already large breasted girls with additional padding and underwires, and little sexy panties, the Victoria Secret looking type girls. We were talking and they came on the TV and his eyes bugged out and he said "Whoah!!!" I said "Whoah?????" He's like , "Yeah" I said, "You wanna lose a nut??" It just came out. I didn't even think first. He said "Why? What's wrong with that??" I just gave him a look like I didn't appreciate that and he dropped it. Was I out of line??? Because if they were 32 barely B's with a little pot bellies, he would not have said, "Whoah!!!" How should I have felt when he stopped mid-sentence to exclaim his instant excitement over these well-endowed, perfectly shaped women?? I am a fairly new girlfriend still in the impressionable stages. How does he think I felt??? I hope he got the point that that was inappropriate. I am the jealous type as it is, which I am working on and do not show my jealousy around him but I'm sorry...that was inappropriate!!!!! If he wants to look or exclaim to his friends....whatever! ....but I don't want to hear it! Am I overreacting??
neurotic.nelly
ailurophile, i think your reaction was appropriate. imo, he has no filter, and just blurted it out. so, in that instance of complete disregard for you and your feelings, your filter dropped and you questioned his attachment to his balls, and rightly so.

after hearing what you ladies have gone through with your boyfriends, i am so grateful for my current boyfriend, and the ones from the past. they never ever made me feel inadequate about my beautiful little ones. and if they would have ever made me feel less than for having less than, i would've snatched up a nut and kicked them to the curb.

i love my breasts. i love love love having smaller breasts.
~nn
loonydaray
QUOTE(neurotic.nelly @ Dec 10 2008, 11:40 AM) *
your filter dropped and you questioned his attachment to his balls, and rightly so. ~nn


hahaha the way you phrased that was brilliant biggrin.gif
ailurophile, i don't think you overreacted at all. guys honestly are just stupid sometimes (okay a lot of times). some don't seem to connect the fact that excitement at big boobs make us feel out of place since we have small boobs
karategrrl
ailurophile, NO you were not overreacting, and personally I think it's great you told him what you did right at that moment instead of stewing.

I have been in similar situations with bf's only about, oh, 1,298 times. looneydaray's right--sometimes they are just stupid. Now, before anyone attacks me, let me clarify--men often just don't have a fricking clue. We've commented on this before here, so I won't reinvent the wheel, but honestly I think it's not they're trying to be mean or insensitive, it's just that they don't understand--it's that simple. (Of course, we could get into a long debate over what's worse--to be intentionally insensitive, or to be insensitive and completely unaware. The latter is what has driven me to want to stab myself in the eye with a dull metal object on many such occasions--trying to explain to a man the concept of what I see as a common courtesy or the most obvious thing in the world, and having him act like I'm makingit all up, or worse, I'm "just insecure.") Grrr... Where is that metal object? Just thinking about it makes me simmer...

(Side story: Someone I had just started dating had a similar reaction to a ballerina at a very high-class, high-profile NUTCRACKER BALLET performance in New York. I mean, we were sitting among filthy rich, upper-crusty folks in tuxedos, and he was acting like he was in a strip club. I wanted to crawl under my seat.)

Yay for you for setting him straight. Hell, it may have been the first time anyone ever spoke up.

Heh...next time you see a guy with a nice butt, or some billboard with men's underwear advertised, make a comment and see how he responds. (It may take awhile for this to happen, since men aren't sexualized in popular media the way wome are) . My guess is he wouldn't be too thrilled himself.)
loonydaray
exactly, thanks karategrrl for helping me claryifing the men's stupidity thing. it's very true that the minds of men and women work completely differently. your bf probably doesn't realize he hurt you with his reaction.

if it happens again, i definitely think you should explain it to him. if he truly cares about you, he'll be more careful. the issue a lot of times definitely isn't that guys are trying to be mean, piggish, or spiteful, they just aren't used to either a. being with a girl who is vocal about that kind of respect and b. they simply can't understand how we work and aren't expecting the conclusions we draw from their small actions. guys do this too. it's very natural for us to read a lot more into another's actions than they mean by it.

but you know, maybe it wasn't the big boobs in that commercial that really made him excited, could've been their legs, or butt, or just the fact that boobs were being flaunted in general. doesn't necessarily mean he cares about the size of the boobs. just because seeing those chicks in the commercial, doesn't mean he wouldn't be 9999999999999x more excited to see you and your oh so sexy little boobs up on the screen. point is you should be his ultimate view of sexiness. sure, he's gonna think other chicks are sexy, he may think big boobs are sexy, may think boobs in general are sexy. but the way i look at a relationship is while he may think all this other stuff is sexy, as long as he thinks i'm the sexiest than it's okay. go ahead, let some chick walk by him and flaunt her big boobs, remember he's not with her. he chose to be with you and your small boobies. and he should think you're perfect, cuz, uhm. you are! small boobies are sexy too and if a guy can't appreciate that then forget him! anyway. that's just what i think smile.gif
mynameislala
QUOTE(loonydaray @ Dec 10 2008, 03:49 PM) *
but you know, maybe it wasn't the big boobs in that commercial that really made him excited, could've been their legs, or butt, or just the fact that boobs were being flaunted in general. doesn't necessarily mean he cares about the size of the boobs. just because seeing those chicks in the commercial, doesn't mean he wouldn't be 9999999999999x more excited to see you and your oh so sexy little boobs up on the screen. point is you should be his ultimate view of sexiness. sure, he's gonna think other chicks are sexy, he may think big boobs are sexy, may think boobs in general are sexy. but the way i look at a relationship is while he may think all this other stuff is sexy, as long as he thinks i'm the sexiest than it's okay. go ahead, let some chick walk by him and flaunt her big boobs, remember he's not with her. he chose to be with you and your small boobies. and he should think you're perfect, cuz, uhm. you are! small boobies are sexy too and if a guy can't appreciate that then forget him! anyway. that's just what i think smile.gif


WHOAHHHH!!!!!!

Your confidence makes me excited, lol. I aspire to have such a level of confidence one day. I'm still not in the stage where if some DD woman - wearing only a sports bra - jogged by him and he checked her out, I'd be confident enough to not let it get at me. It'd probably be in my mind forever!

But anyway, I think we'll all agree on this... I'd rather have huge amounts of confidence than having huge breasts. Confidence never fails, confidence is a winner. Big breasts, on the other hand... well, not. Sure, it'd be nice to have biggish breasts and be proud, but breasts don't make you confident.

I was checking out the galleries at 007b.com today and it made me feel better. Not to be mean, but from what I saw (a huge diversity too!), the smaller breasts had indeed better shape than some of the bigger ones. Just my opinion though.
loonydaray
now don't get me wrong, if a girl like that jogged by and he checked her out i would still probably smack him. because that's just disrespectful honestly

but you're right the thing to have is confidence. big boobs won't give you confidence definitely. the big step for me (that this forum totally helped me come to smile.gif ) was realizing that i really do like my body it's just all the media and boob attention that makes me feel the need to change. but just reading some of the girl's stories here ended that need. what's most important is that you are happy with your own body. what i've gathered from guys, confidence is more sexy than any physical characteristic *shrugs*
Vendetta
We got drunk last night at the inauguration of a photography exhibition that some of our class mates did and me and my class mate Marcia have been really close lately. She has been talking about how she wanted to taste being with a girl so... she pulled me into the bathroom and we did you-know-what. It was the first time I felt embarrassed with a girl for wearing padding since she was trying to reach my boob throughout all that and she couldn't. I dropped a nervous line about how she went exactly to where I had none and she laughed and said something like "me too" or "I understand" meaning she also had small boobs. I grabbed her perfect milky white B-cups underneath the unpadded bra and just thought christ, they are so beautiful, just the right everything

I guess It's just me and I guess I'll just rest in peace when I have my B-cups.

Me and the bf fought a bit about porn today, I guess it came because he doesn't let me use his computer so I assume it has something to do with downloading porn or something related so when I asked out if he still watches porn he responded positively. In the middle of the fight I just stopped and went out for a beer. When I got back I just said to him "I'll praise and remind the confident person I was and the beliefs I had before I met you, so I won't fight over this again in anyway. You do whatever you feel like doing, I just don't give a shit anymore."

On the moment I settle up my life with this wished and achieved new job, I'll be a happy single woman again. Cheers
ailurophile
Thanx so much, girls, for the support. I wasn't sure if I was overreacting because the way he said, "What's wrong with that?" (him Woa-ing those models) and me being the jealous type, I thought I might me. He is not the jealous type at all.

We got into a little discussion the other night because I was telling him about our new friend here whose husband wants to by her boobs for Christmas and in the middle of the conversation he had said, "Wha--they're alright" meaning my boobs. I thought about it over the next day until we were out last night. I don't want to be alright. I want to be like some of you whose bfs/husbands think your boobs are totally hot/sexy. I am really working on my confidence here and have come such a long way. So if he doesn't think they're hot, that would kill me. Sooooo, last night while out shopping, we got on the subject of his penis. So I said................."It's alright". He was like, "Huh?" I reminded him of our convo the night before and proceeded to explain. Then in a joking way I said, "You were supposed to say, 'Your tits are so hot and sexy, darling' ". He didn't say anything for a minute. I got scared. Then he got really close and said, "I looooove your tits baby. I love them." He hasn't even told me he loves me yet so that was big. I said "Now that's the right answer!" Then he asked me how I could even think that he doesn't like them because he is always playing with them. And he has more recently. So what he said the other night about them being "alright", maybe he meant small boobs in general are alright meaning no better than big boobs? Or just a misspeak? I don't know but I do feel better now. And with your feedback on the "Whoa-ing" big girls thing, I have something to say if it should happen again and I know I'm not being a prude or a jealous gf. So, thank you!

Vendetta: Is it not considered cheating if it is with someone of the same sex? That worries me. I am happy for you that you got to have the experience I know I wish I had just once but you do have a bf. Just my opinion...but that's for another talk show...or thread.
loonydaray
ailurophile: that's awesome! good boyfriend tongue.gif i'm happy for you hon, that sounds like a really good step for you. keep up that sexy confidence!
Vendetta
Well, that was an experience for her, not for me, I've been having girls for years. My relationship with him is dead.
karategrrl
Ailurophile, the open conversation you and the bf are having is just great! It's really good to hear, thanks for sharing!

And no, you didn't ask me this, but yes, sex with somone of the same gender is still sex, so it is still cheating if one fools around with someone else--even of the same gender--when you're supposed to be exclusive with someone else.
Vendetta
Yes, I also think it is cheating. My ex didn't mind at all and we even had a thresome at one point (she was his friend and they had something going on together years ago: yes, that's how I trusted him) but the now close-to-be-ex does. We don't trust each other, at all.
lightchested
I know what Ailurophile means, as I'm sure we all must, about taking offense to comments like "all right" in reference to my or any other small boobs. Lukewarm responses like that always seem to indicate to me a "grudging accpetance of them", despite their obvious "shortcomings".

I "MAY" be a little sensitive on this issue (!!!!!) but I've just heard too many things throughout my life- comments directed at me, or just comments that I hear or read- or men's reactions that I view- that just don't give me a good feeling about even lukewarm comments towards my or any woman's small breasts (or small breasts in general).

To me, comments like "small ones are okay", or "as long as it has a nipple I'm happy", "anything more than a mouthful is a waste", "guys like all breasts", or even "I like small ones", said in a "wow! believe it or not!" tone of voice that denotes some kind of FAVOR that the man is doing for me, or suggests that he is some kind of one-off, bucking the system by claiming to like small ones, I feel like men are saying, "It's okay. I'll take small if small is the best you can come up with, but we both know I wish you had big ones." Like Ailurophile, that is NOT what I want to hear! Not at ALL!!!

If men can't fake some enthusiasm for my breasts, they are history. Now I've got this husband who has ignored mine for three years and wants to get involved again. However, involved, so far to him, means encouraging me to get Macrolane (it's become almost a daily conversation since I last posted).

I keep telling him why it's not the "quick fix" that it appears- at least not for me!- due to the psychological gravity of it. That procedure bolsters them, them dies back down again between 6 and 18 months. Can you imagine if I "grew boobs" (and yes, I know I do have some now, thanks to a fellow poster who kindly reminded me) and then they were GONE one day when I woke up? To give me that crutch, and then one day the crutch is GONE// To live in fear, wondering when they are going to go, and how they are going to look as they die down? (do they die down evenly??)

It's just not as simple as it seems to him. I can feel that it's not right for me. I need to accept my body as it is.
lightchested
I know what Ailurophile means, as I'm sure we all must, about taking offense to comments like "all right" in reference to my or any other small boobs. Lukewarm responses like that always seem to indicate to me a "grudging acceptance of them", "despite" their obvious "shortcomings".

I "MAY" be a little sensitive on this issue (!!!!!) but I've just heard too many things throughout my life- comments directed at me, or just comments that I hear or read- or men's reactions that I view- that just don't give me a good feeling about even lukewarm comments towards my or any woman's small breasts (or small breasts in general).

To me, comments like "Small ones are okay", "As long as it has a nipple I'm happy", "Anything more than a mouthful is a waste", "Guys like all breasts, regardless of size", or even "I like small ones", said in a "wow! believe it or not!" tone of voice that denotes some kind of FAVOR that the man is doing for me, or suggests that he is some kind of one-off, bucking the system by claiming to like small ones, I feel like men are saying, "It's okay. I'll take small if small is the best you can come up with, but we both know I wish you had big ones." That kind of "reassurance" is NOT what I want to hear! Not at ALL!!!

If men can't fake some enthusiasm for my breasts, they are history. At least, that's the way I was when I was in the dating world! Now I've got this husband who has ignored my boobs for three years and suddenly wants to get involved with them. However, "involved", so far, means him encouraging me to get Macrolane (it's become almost a daily conversation since I last posted- him telling me all the reasons why I should, me saying why I shouldn't).

I keep telling him why it's not the "quick fix" that it appears- at least not for me!- due to the psychological gravity of it. That procedure bolsters the boobs, but then they die back down again between 6 and 18 months. Can you imagine if I "grew boobs" (and yes, I know I do have some now, thanks to a fellow poster who kindly reminded me smile.gif, so can you imagine if I grew my already-existent boobs, and then they were GONE one day when I woke up? To have that crutch, and then one day the crutch is GONE// To live in fear, wondering when they are going to go, and how they are going to look as they die down? (do they die down evenly??) and how they'll look afterward? (some women have reported a lumpiness with the Macrolane) And what would I have accomplished? To convince myself that my natural breasts are "wrong" and in need of synthetic enhancement?

It's just not as simple as it seems to him. I can feel that the Macrolane is not right for me. I need to accept my body as it is. Somehow.
lightchested
Okay, since I accidentally posted twice, like a numpty (a word I learned in England recently) I am going to let you girls in on something that has me absolutely blown away.

You are the only people I know who I can show this to, and who may perhaps share in my interest in the men's reactions.

Quick background:
A girl who I've never met hates me (she is on another support forum that I joined a while back). She seems to be psychotic, based on the things she's done to me (having never even met!) but this particular thing she did backfired on her, because I don't think I got the reactions that she had expected!!!

She posted a profile for me on a "hookup" board (I don't know what they're called?) and you would not believe the profile she posted.

BETTER!!! You would not believe the RESPONSES I'VE GOTTEN!!!!

words can't describe this
you have to check it out
it's all about 'flatboobs' (the name she gave me on this board)...you've gotta see it & the men's reactions (surely not what she'd expected!)

She set it up and pointed it towards my email address that she knew from another forum. As you will see, she is not the purest of hearts. But once you get beyond reading the profile, check out the messages "flatboobs" received. They keep pouring in and notifying my email address that she pointed this account towards!!

http://www.plentyoffish.com/inbox.aspx
the login name is: flatboobs
password: imabitch (notification of this was sent to my email account...)

Along the top of the site, after logging in, there are some options to click on. View the profile! It is unbelievable what she wrote.

The read "messages"

You just won't believe it. I can't. I simply cannot believe men are pouring in to meet "flatboobs"!!! Not just because of the flat, but because of how she described me in the profile. (and by the way, I'm not 44, I don't have gray hair, and I'm very thin!!! despite what she wrote)
karategrrl
QUOTE(lightchested @ Dec 15 2008, 06:52 PM) *
I "MAY" be a little sensitive on this issue (!!!!!) but I've just heard too many things throughout my life- comments directed at me, or just comments that I hear or read- or men's reactions that I view- that just don't give me a good feeling about even lukewarm comments towards my or any woman's small breasts (or small breasts in general).

To me, comments like "Small ones are okay", "As long as it has a nipple I'm happy", "Anything more than a mouthful is a waste", "Guys like all breasts, regardless of size", or even "I like small ones", said in a "wow! believe it or not!" tone of voice that denotes some kind of FAVOR that the man is doing for me, or suggests that he is some kind of one-off, bucking the system by claiming to like small ones, I feel like men are saying, "It's okay. I'll take small if small is the best you can come up with, but we both know I wish you had big ones." That kind of "reassurance" is NOT what I want to hear! Not at ALL!!!

You're NOT being sensitive. This is something I have always felt, and commented on here. I agree totally!

I will check out the plentyoffish posting, but have to do it from home, not work!
ailurophile
Just quickly b/c I'm at work....

Lightchested: Cute name by the way..... "Lukewarm" response. Good way to put it. Also, she must have changed your password. I cannot get into your profile.

I do feel that he is only accepting my boobs as part of the package. I am sure he would have preferred if they were at least of average size. My ex didn't even blink when he saw big breasts. Didn't phase him one bit. (Probably the only thing I miss about him, though.) Current bf notices big breasts and apparently is now comfortable enough to exclaim in my presence. I saw him "notice" a well-endowed girl in a bikini on our first date. We walked around beachshops and some women were still in swimsuit tops. Let's hope I stopped the "whoa-ing" early enough though. I will be heartbroken if he didn't understand that it hurts me and does it again.

Karatgrrl: The conversations we have are not really all that open. He is not the communicative type. It's like I have to force him to talk about it...like he ends up with no choice. As soon as I hear what I want to, I drop it. He was in a pretty bad marriage/divorce apparently, which we have not talked about. I found out through someone else. I talk about only some things that bother me. There are many other things I'd like to talk about but I don't want to be knitpicky. I know I can be and I don't want to ruin it. But the Whoa-ing thing had to come up and then it truly bothered me when he said they were "alright". If they are just alright, don't bother to touch them. You know??
mynameislala
I get the thing bout "lukewarm" responses. I also hate how men always say those cliché phrases thinking they're somewhat saving our self esteems or something. I really wish they kept their mouths shut sometimes. Those are like pity answers... I can relate because it's always the same thing "Oh, but as long as it fits in my palm it's ENOUGH". Enough... like it's the minimum for it to be a good breast. Such fucking shit! I'm sorry but it just pisses me off, because then they are ogling the breasts in Maxim or whatever and they just say "oh, no, no, they're just so big it's impossible not to notice, it doesn't mean that I want you to look like that!". Yeah right.

My boyfriend has told me "I love your breasts, really they are hot, but I do prefer bigger ones". I appreciate honesty. Really. But I hate feeling like second best or something. I did make a male-like mistake once, though. I was younger, and we were just beginning to date. I was telling him a story that once I walked into my sister and her then boyfriend having sex. I hated that boyfriend of hers, he was so annoying, so I told him "Ugh, he was so ugly and I didn't like his personality, but at least he had SOMETHING to be proud about". I said that joking, not really thinking much. Yeah, he was big, but I would never want to be with someone too big (ouch). My boyfriend however, sometimes, will still get jealous if he remembers that. I've tried reassuring him that he pleases me a great deal as it is, and that too big is surely painful. I've also told him that the guy was really ugly and most of all ANNOYING as hell, which are huge turn offs. That my turn on are faces, mostly eyes, and my boyfriend has deep brown eyes with thick long lashes that I just love. I, however have never said something like "Oh honey, I LOVE your penis, but I prefer bigger". Nah, because he's the perfect size. I know this is cruel, but at least he has experienced the insecurity I've felt when he has made comments about big breasts or when he says something like "Your breasts are smaller, I wish they'd go back to when they were bigger".

But maybe he doesn't really like big big breasts too much or maybe he doesn't really mind much, because thinking about it, most of his exes have small breasts. One of them is actually flat chested, and damn am I jealous. She has a gorgeous slim figure and an even more gorgeous face and smile. But anyway, the point is that maybe men just say things or don't really care.

Sometimes I really think that guys just have problems with semantics. They really just don't know how to pick the right words to what they mean. Maybe when they say "enough" they mean "they're hot and I wouldn't want them any other way". But then again, maybe I'm just optimistic.

Anyway, now I have other issues about my breasts that are more important than size. Yesterday I started feeling some pain in my lef breast when I touched it. It's kind of swollen I think, and I did feel a little hard something inside, though it doesn't feel like a lump, more like a fibrous flat patch of breast tissue. But still I'm scared as hell and I'm visiting the gyno ASAP. I'm too young and I'd be crushed if I never get to breastfeed.
MariCat187
About the "lukewarm responses" - Hmm... Forgive me if I seem to be in the minority about this subject, but I don't feel that they are "pity answers". I know honesty is the best thing, and that's great that your boyfriend can be really honest with you mynameislala, though know that must have hurt.... it would hurt me too! But maybe the men who say that they really don't prefer the bigger breasts really mean it? I would feel bad for the man - if he says he prefers bigger ones, the female gets hurt. If he says that he does like that the female has the smaller ones, the female gets hurt. It'd be like.... he can't win either way, lol.

If they are not the answers you want to hear, then what would you prefer (and the "you" isn't directed to one specific person, they're for everyone lol)?

Maybe I don't grasp the concept because I've been around males who honestly do prefer A-cups. I have a male friend who went out with someone with a C-cup, and that was even too big for him. My boyfriend tells me all the time how I have the "best boobs ever" (34A), and how he prefers A-cups as well..... And this is a guy who (when we were single) had a drunk and naked girl in his bed (who was like, a C/D-cup or something), and he DID NOT take advantage of it, and he slept on the couch.

Anyway, I would definitely understand and be hurt if my boyfriend was like, "I love C cups, but yours are good too." THAT would be a pity answer to me. But something like "I like small boobs!" and really meaning it? I don't think so.... :\

Am I making any sense, or am I just babbling? lol. sad.gif

::goes back to forum stalking::
Vendetta
I agree with you maricat in some ways, it feels like they can't win ever. I've been there, I have over-analyzed every sentence about my breasts and got hurt. I won't do that again. I'll just accept that everyone has their preferences and I don't want to know which are them.
lightchested
Any guy saying he prefers small breasts is cool. I have no problems with that statement.

The lukewarm responses I was referring to are:

"Small ones are okay": This is lukewarm at its best. It implies, to me, a grudging acceptance, like, "Well, if that's the best you can do...that's okay." How big of him to be so understanding. Because of course our breast size is so important to HIM (any man). Who are THEY when it comes to our breasts? Who has to deal with the fibrocystic pain? Who has to worry about cancer? Who has to find a bra that fits??? Where is this man in all that? He just wants a toy. To comment on a gift like that is just rude. Imagine giving someone a Christmas gift, and they say, "This is okay." That's not good enough. Fake it if you have to, but for God's sake show a little respect and gratitude about a woman's breasts. That's how I feel.

"As long as it has a nipple I'm happy": This offends me for two reasons. One is that many times guys say this when they don't know if a woman actually still has her nipples. Women who have had breast surgery sometimes lose theirs, so I find it EXTREMELY offensive when a man acts as though this is all that is important TO THEM for some kind of entertainment purposes, when that entertainment value is nothing compared to how important those nipples are/were to the women who have lost theirs. And to hear this must be a knife. I hope no women who has had hers removed has ever had to hear this phrase, but I doubt it. Even if they heard it BEFORE they had to have theirs removed (we've all heard it)...how would that make a woman feel when she is faced with a mastectomy, thinking back on these heartless comments that men have made? Now besides that reason, I just find it crude that we "owe" men some kind of entertainment, and apparently the nipple is "the least we owe". I just don't think we owe them a god ****** thing. Not even a nipple. If they can't be happy without one, then **** them.

"Anything more than a mouthful is a waste": This says to me, "I wish there were more, but oh well...good enough." (I hope I'm not making anyone feel bad...I know I'm overly sensitive on these things and see them negatively)

"Guys like all breasts, regardless of size": This says to me, "We PREFER big ones of course, but we manage to find some merit in the small ones." (I know I'm sensitive!) It doesn't tell me they LIKE small ones necessarily, but that they lump us into the "general breast" category, to which they can apply their "breasts are good" rule. But it doesn't give me the impression a guy is happy to be with ME (or rather with MINE), but rather that he's happy he is with BREASTS. Maybe I am a narcissist, but I want someone to say, "DAMN! LOOK AT THOSE!" about my particular breast configuration, not "I LIKE BREASTS AND THOSE THINGS YOU'RE SPORTING THERE LOOK LIKE THEY FALL WITHIN THE GENERAL BREAST CATEGORY."

"I like small ones", said in a "wow! believe it or not!" tone of voice that denotes some kind of FAVOR that the man is doing for me: This is different than "I prefer small ones". When said in the tone of voice I described it is more of a "If you can believe this...I will actually find a way to amuse myself with small ones!" In the same way someone might say, "I like the smell of gasoline!" Is gasoline really what anyone WISHES to be smelling at any particular moment? It's more like some people find it surprisingly bearable, in its own way. But when people say they like the smell, they use a tone of voice that says, "Believe it or not..." as though it is hard to wrap one's mind around liking such a smell. This is the tone of voice I'm referring to that, when accompanying, "I like small breasts!" makes my skin crawl.

Overall, the idea of any guy making a comment about breasts from a "man's point of view" I find revoltingly patronizing. Why do they think we care what they think? Do they think we sit around worried about how THEY feel about what's on OUR bodies? Do they think we have nothing better to do with our time than worry about whether or not we're providing enough entertainment for them? Maybe we should outfit our boobs with a remote control and a joystick so they can play some kind of game with them from their gaming chair. Maybe if we had blinky pinball lights on our boobs then we could make them more fun for them. Whatever it takes...since surely our main goal is to please men and make sure they are having a good time.

Dude, would you like a beer with my boobs? Can I get you a sandwich and some Oreos to go with them? Is the lighting okay, or do you need it darker to withstand the sight of my not-quite-34D's? Whatever I can do for you, you just let me know, since I'm surely just here (on this Earth) to please you.
ailurophile
Mynameislala: Ugh!!!! I got the "enough" thing a couple months ago. I had a tank top on with no bra and I didn't think I looked all that bad. Tiny... but I thought I might be comfortable going out in public braless with that top. I asked him if he'd be embarrassed if I did that. He cupped my left boob with his hand and said, "Why would I be embarrassed? You have enough." as he bent over and looked at it as if examining it.
starship
"small ones are ok"- i can see how that's offensive, yeah. ive never had it said to me but would definately get upset. although i can also see it from the guys perspective- he probably likes big boobs (nothing wrong with that) but his world doesnt revolve around them so he is trying to reassure a partner who he knows is conscious about her breast size. admittedly, men arent always the brightest of buttons when it come to putting their foot in it.

"as long as it has a nipple im happy"- i dont really see this as a serious comment on a guys prefences/thoughts towards breasts. maybe its just me but it just seems like a thoughtless, half-joking remark. i've never really felt offended or given that one much thought myself

"anything more than a mouthful is a waste"- the classic. a guy once said this to me in his attempt at a comforting tone- i nodded wisely, stroked his hair and said yeah, dont worry sweety, i feel the same way about cocks. haha the look on his face was priceless. again though, i think its just one of those generic comments floating about that doesnt reallyyy mean anything and a lot of the time is said in a joking nodd-nodd-wink-wink kinda way, or as an easy reply to get out of a potentially tricky conversation.

"guys like all breasts, regardless of size"- I think this is true! (obviously there will be exceptions and preferences, as in all areas of life, but still true!)

"i like small ones!"- i think we have to be fair on the guy here. cos lets face it we are all (men and women) lead by society/the media/etc to believe that all men take a 'bigger is better' approach. we sit here and discuss how we are discovering (sometimes to our pleasant surprise) that this isnt true and there are infact lots of men who love small breasts- so why should it be any different for men. if they pick up lads mags/watch porn/step outside their front door(!) they are bombarded with boobs so maybe they are left feeling slightly abnormal for not being as obsessed with size as they are told that other men are. Plus it kinda is like theyre saying 'believe it or not' as lightchested said, because the majority of women do actually believe that men only like small breasts


on the other hand....its hard to think rationally and objectively about such comments at times, as we probably all know all too well. Im the worst at taking the slightest off-hand remark and over-analysing every syllable, always coming to the same conclusion- he wishes my boobs were bigger etc. sometimes theyre just being brutally honest, sometimes im being an oversensitive nelly and other times (i.e most of the time) he's quite simply a bit of an unthoughtful oaf.

I hate it when a guy im with even glances at a pair of big boobs. but if im honest- i do it too! perhaps its different because im looking in an admiring kind of way rather than a sexual. either way Id be lying if i said it didnt sometimes hurt.

i was imagining what it would feel like if i got implants today (after watching a surgery program). I know myself pretty well and can honestly say that i would probably feel disgusted with myself it wouldnt solve any of my problems. in the past ive imagined it in moments of weaknes and only envisioned the good feelings- bra shopping, sexy underwear, feeling like a goddess infront of any man. but now ive thought about it more deeply i know id end up depressed and feeling nothing but self loathing. it's kinda helped me to banish any leftover thoughts towards surgery from my mind:)

mynameislala- im sure it'll all be fine at the Dr's:). let us know how it goes though. scares like that really put the whole size issue into perspective
strongirl
Wow, lots going on here. I'm not even sure how to weigh in - my experiences have been so positive and so different from many of yours. Some of the men quoted in here sound like real jerks to me. But at the same time, some of what you/we women are saying sounds like yeah, no win for the guy, no matter what he says.

One point I think is important to make and lightchested touched on it in her "Small ones are okay" paragraph : my breasts exist to give ME pleasure. If men (or women) also enjoy them, visually, tactilely, whatever, that's great. But their primary function (now that I'm done breastfeeding my son) is for MY sexual stimulation and enjoyment. And anyone who wants to be lovers with me better get that right.

Some of you sound like the guy has to have a clear and articulately stated preference for small breasts in order to avoid hurting you. That really does seem off-balance and overly sensitive to me. Does he have to feel the same way about your haircolor? Your eye color? Your butt? Your race? Do you feel that way about him - that no other feature of any other guy can compare to him? That seems rigid and unrealistic to me.

I love my small breasts and I find many other women's small breasts hot. I also find many other women's large breasts hot. My boyfriend feels similarly. Neither of us has a size preference.

Sometimes I think the hardest thing is for the small-breasted women in here to truly believe that our breasts are wonderful and sexy. And even in the face of positive feedback, our own belief that "bigger is better" poisons the message so that all we hear is negative.
Vendetta
Exactly strongirl. I think that if breast comments make one get hurt, then I think the subject should be avoided. If one truly loves her own breasts, then those comments shouldn't hurt. I'm just saying this based on my own experience, I got hurt because I felt insecure about them. I still don't love' em so I just avoid the subject.
Vendetta
Exactly strongirl. I think that if breast comments make one get hurt, then I think the subject should be avoided. If one truly loves her own breasts, then those comments shouldn't hurt. I'm just saying this based on my own experience, I got hurt because I felt insecure about them. I still don't love' em so I just avoid the subject.
Vendetta
ups sorry about the double post
karategrrl
QUOTE(lightchested @ Dec 17 2008, 01:34 AM) *
Maybe we should outfit our boobs with a remote control and a joystick so they can play some kind of game with them from their gaming chair. Maybe if we had blinky pinball lights on our boobs then we could make them more fun for them. Whatever it takes...since surely our main goal is to please men and make sure they are having a good time.

Dude, would you like a beer with my boobs? Can I get you a sandwich and some Oreos to go with them? Is the lighting okay, or do you need it darker to withstand the sight of my not-quite-34D's? Whatever I can do for you, you just let me know, since I'm surely just here (on this Earth) to please you.


Lightchested, LOL!!! You are great! laugh.gif laugh.gif laugh.gif laugh.gif laugh.gif Bwahahahaha!

Starship, I agree totally withyou on the surgery thoughts. I have, too, had thoughts of how great it would be to go bra/lingerie shopping and parade around in front of hubby on the beach or in the bedroom with larger breasts. BUT...in the quiet moments of my life, it would hate myself for doing it, for not just loving myself enough as I already am. Can't do it. Me love me. rolleyes.gif
loonydaray
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"anything more than a mouthful is a waste"- the classic. a guy once said this to me in his attempt at a comforting tone- i nodded wisely, stroked his hair and said yeah, dont worry sweety, i feel the same way about cocks. haha the look on his face was priceless.


haha, starship you are my hero for that biggrin.gif

lightchested, all your recent posts freakin made my day XD omygod you are amazing hahahaha
karategrrl
"anything more than a mouthful is a waste"- the classic. a guy once said this to me in his attempt at a comforting tone- i nodded wisely, stroked his hair and said yeah, dont worry sweety, i feel the same way about cocks. haha the look on his face was priceless.

Awesome. Simply awesome.

Vendetta
He got pissed off at me a long ago for a couple of days when I expressed my preference for circumsized guys (I don't know why or who brought up the topic). I just told him that he had to accept my preference the way I had to accept his...
alluna
I looked down last night and my lefty said to me, "Hey. At least you're skinny." The righty concurred with the usual criticism, "Yeah, that's the only way you can pull us off. Maybe if you gave us proper names we'd grow a little."
lightchested
I have some bad news, Alluna: I named mine Gertrude & Bertha (punishment names) a year ago, and they've still not grown! In fact, they had the nerve to get a bit smaller when I lost ten pounds last January! ohmy.gif mad.gif sad.gif

Boobs. They are so completely insubordinate, are they not?

I have told mine time and time again, "Okay. This time we're really going to do it. You two are going to push yourselves beyond your limits so we can wear some C-cup helmets. I'll eat some lentils & almonds to help you out, but you've got to do the rest."

After three lopsided A/AA (right/left) years of gentle and not-so-gentle persuasion, pleading, arguing, and full out threats towards them if they do not comply (implant invasion), I swear to you that these boobs are the most recalcitrant little buggers I've ever known.

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oceangirl
has anyone ordered from bare necessities? they have a really big selection of A size bras and nearly A.

lightchested
I've ordered from there- I think they ship fairly quickly too. Also good are figleaves and knowknockers.co.uk (specializing in A's and AA's, like lulalu.com and aa-lingerie.com, but not as well-known)

I love bras...I love buying, wearing, and organizing bras. They make me happy. They give me some weird kind of grown-up feeling. Like, "Look at me! I'm old enough to wear a bra!" Sure, I'm 38. But my mom made me wait so f***ing long before she'd let me get one (well, I guess I was only ten when I got my first bra, but I wanted one from when I was eight! those were two of the longest years of my life!!!) that I still get excited every day when I wake up knowing my reward for showering is... I GET TO PUT ON A BRA!

Yes, every single day from now until I die, I GET TO PUT ON A BRA IF I WANT TO! Mom can't take this back away from me. I fought hard to earn this rite of passage, and now it's completely out of her control. I'm the boss of it now. And the bra can be any colour I want- it doesn't necessarily have to be white- because I'M in control of the bra purchasing now. So f*** white! Yes, Mom, you heard me! I WEAR BRAS THAT AREN'T WHITE! So what're you gonna do about it... ground me???

As I said, I love bras.

I may have OD'ed on my St. John's Wort today.
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lightchested
I found it on a breast surgeon's website:

The vast majority of women who undergo breast enlargement are very pleased with their results and report years later that they would unequivocally undergo the procedure again. In fact, it is not infrequent for the daughters of previously augmented patients to seek out the procedure themselves.

http://www.creasman.com/breast_enlarge.htm

I reacted strongly to this paragraph for two reasons.
First, regarding the vast majority of the women who get augmentation and "would unequivocally do it again"... well, that's good, because they're going to have to. Implants are not a one-shot surgery, as I'm sure we all know. So it seems a little "after the fact" for a woman with implants to decide she'd "unequivocally do it again". She's pretty much given up the right to make that decision by the time she's implanted, because one way or the other...she will be doing it again! (whether it's a medically-required correction, a cosmetic revision, a re-do to a bigger size when her existing pair start to sag, or the eventual explantation)

Secondly, to use the fact that daughters of augmentees frequently get implanted themselves as some kind of proof that it's a good thing to have done is a completely flawed argument. The daughters are probably getting it done not because the surgery itself is so wonderful (what surgery is???) but because their mothers have taught them to be dissatisfied with the small breasts they've likely inherited from their implanted mothers. And on what grounds can a mother logically refute a daughter's plea for implants if she could not resist the temptation to pop a pair in herself?

To me, that line about the daughters is more a reason not to get implants than a convincing argument that implants are indeed the way to go. I've wondered what the psychological impact is on daughters whose mothers have implants. It's interesting that a surgeon, who has noted a positive correlation, doesn't hide the fact, but rather uses it as a sales tactic to draw in potential gel bag host organisms who may be "on the fence" about whether they're ready to take a pair in. As if a woman would think, "Well, if implantees' daughters feel bad enough about themselves to throw themselves under the knife with reckless abandon... then so should I!"

I am all over the map on the future of my boobs. I can't imagine getting implants, but it doesn't stop me from researching them on a consistent basis. Why won't they just grow for God's sake? I bought a $30 .pdf tonight about using creative visualization to grow one's boobs. I am truly desperate, out of control, and pathetic! rolleyes.gif huh.gif (But at least I realize it?)
karategrrl
lightchested, you are totally cracking me up today!! laugh.gif

Luuuv your avatar, first of all.

And, since a big part of this last year has been in learning about and harnessing the power of positivity in my life, yes, the thought occurred to me to try that in an effort to grow my breasts. "Sheet," I thought, "People have supposedly cured their own cancer with positive affirmations and such...why not grow bigger breasts??" I have to say that while i doubt that my breasts have actually grown one iota, I see them in the mirror now and they look good, even bigger than when I was obsesing about how "small" they looked. It's like seeing the glass (or should I say, <ahem> "cup") half full.

This weekend I watched on YouTube an augmentation procedure done through the belly button (TransUmbilical Breast Augmentation, also known as TUBA). While I have to say that in theory it looks a lot less traumatic to the tissues than the traditional cutting through the skin/muscles under the breasts, under the armpit, or (yik) under the nipples, I'm assuming that when it's time to remove them (as one day it would be), you'd still have to be sliced open to do so.

I had to laugh b/c the whole video was so cheesy--it was obviously an infomercial for a particular surgeon, done up to make it look like a health segment on a talk show--first of all, in the "consultation" with this patient who underwent the procedure, he showed "before" and "after" pics of a woman who looked ridiculous afterward--like, the breasts were the size of her head and stuck straight out--and he was saying, "See, they look totally natural." Yes, about as natural as a penis growing out the top of my head.

The other thing that amused me was that in the topless part of the consultation (they did not actually how her breasts on camera, though), the surgeon said, "Well, you look like a large B or small C. We can make you a large C or maybe a D. That would look natural on your frame." And she was jonesing for, like, double D's and she was a petite woman. What kind of surgeon would take a perfectly good pair of B-to-C cups and operate on them, shove foreign objects into a woman's body that are not medically or aesthetically necessary and that are known to cause possible future health issues???? Doesn't that violate the Hippocratic Oath? (Of course, in this video, there was NO mention whatsoever of possible negative outcomes...just positive ones, just "recovery was so easy, it was a piece of cake, not like all my other friends who had it done the usual way...they are all jealous of me, blah blah." Bleargh!!!


But I digress...yes, lightchested, I also find the reference to daughters of implanted women to be appalling. I once worked for a real jerk who had bought implants for his wife. They had a daughter and son, both in grammar school. I asked what was going to happen, psychologically, with the daughter when she started puberty and saw that she wasn't developing like mom. This jerk said, "Well, that will be an option for her, too." The irony was, this guy had passed on his big nose to his son, who was already being teased about it in school. He was all about his son "learning to accept it" and not listening to the mean kids. Ummmm...male/female double standard, perhaps?? Ah, what a great legacy to pass on to your children.
ailurophile
I never named my breasts. .........Should I? huh.gif
Vendetta
I lost some weight and my boobs like... where did they go?? I feel like they're smaller than ever. I'm sad *sight*
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