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neurotic.nelly
I have just watched about three ten minute clips of the BBC's Tribal Wives. Don't get me wrong, I find it interesting and enlightening and entertaining and curious, but I also find it offensive in the same breath.
And I cannot fully articulate why, nor do I care to.
But OMG! The older woman from the Kune or Kuna Tribe was just BEAUTIFUL to me and filled with such vigor and passion. And very perceptive in her analyzations of her foreign friend. Wow! I wish I could see the whole episode. sad.gif
Anywho... back to more clips.
karategrrl
Hello hotties,

I just spent an extended weekend at the yoga place I've told you all about before--the place with the nekkid jacuzzi/community shower area. I have to say that though I spent a fair amount of time discreetly observing other womens' boobs and saying of some of them, "dang, I wish I had those," overall I was proud, threw back my shoulders and said to myself, "Fuckit! this is who I am." So let it be known I was representing all you ladies and our sweet smallness. Every time I go there I am so awed at the amazing variety in women's bodies. I mean, everyone has two arms, 2 legs, a torso and a head but the different configurations of sizes and shapes of breasts/nipples/hips/butts/legs are endless, and all are beautiful in their own way.

Also of note:

1. A young woman in the program I was taking. She had even smaller boobies than I and one day was totally shameless in a tight white tee with no bra. The next day she had on a lightly padded workout top. I guess we have the versatility to go however we wish--"au naturel" or built up a bit. wink.gif

2. March Oprah magazine (U.S.). In a fashion column, someone wrote in for advice on how to dress when you're "flat-chested." Though I hate that term, I have to say I really liked that the tone of the advice was positive, playing up the variety of things small-busted ladies can wear rather than, "You poor dear, this is what you're limited to."
strongirl
Thanks for the uplifting post, Karategrrl! Glad you had a nice time at the yoga place. It's so cool to be able to see and appreciate the awesome variety of the human form.

I just watched this indy movie, YPF, last night. It profiles several young couples before, during and after the act of having sex (YPF stands for Young People F__ing). All but one of the women actors were small breasted! And all were presented as "hotties".
karategrrl
QUOTE(strongirl @ Feb 18 2009, 07:55 PM) *
All but one of the women actors were small breasted! And all were presented as "hotties".

Yaaaaaaay!
honeybunch
Nice story, karategrrl.

Now that I've lost a bit of weight, my boobs look way better. I still haven't reached my goal with my abs or my butt yet though. I really wish I could just spot reduce. My goal is to add 2-3 inches to the butt and lose 3 more inches off the waist. I haven't lost much booby, maybe a little.

I know we've talked about his before, but I think there will come a time when many women have breast implants. In my department, 2 women have implants and one is having the operation next month. I think part of it is the operation is getting cheaper and cheaper.

There is this certain air of nonchalant attitude about having surgery. I will admit one of them has a really goold job, but it pains me to see this becoming more and more common.

I kept thinking about that article about the guy who couldn't find a women who hadn't had surgery.
starship
im still pretty skinny (gah) but i have gained a little weight-and its all gone to my bottom half! I thought my boobs grew abit but alas, it was just my mind playing tricks on me. It seems like from my waist up there's barely any fat on my body at all, but from the waist down i've got the lot- bum hips thighs tummy you name it. i love my curvy bits and dont think im majorly out of proportion (in normal woman terms at least) but i wish my body could be more balanced. sigh
Feeling kind of exhausted right now (depression) but as soon as i have some more energy I definately want to get working on some upper-body toning. You all seem pretty expert so can anyone suggest excercises that can be done at home? I'm saving up for stuff so gym membership is a no-no until summer:(

fake boobs are definately becoming too normalised for my liking honeybunch. I dunno if its a bad thing to say but I think i prefered it when women with implants were stereotyped as erm promiscuous? That sounds mean but I don't think it's healthy and sad for it to be seen as a regular everyday thing. It used to be connected to young low-IQed(?) aspiring 'celebrities'. nowadays i wouldnt be surprised if my gran announced she was popping out for some DoubleDees.

Let this be a deterrent to you all tongue.gif http://www.uglybreastimplants.com/
yikes
you can tell most of the women were teeeeny-boobed 'before' and i bet they looked wayway hotter

This site's kinda cool http://www.beautiful-breasts.co.uk/gallery.htm but not specifically for small boobs- no A-cups though:(
honeybunch
Well,I just hope the day doesn't come when small busties are expected to want and to get implants.
starship
It's the women not the men!- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4BtPq0dfAzc
honeybunch
Starship, very interesting video!!! I'll keep that in mind.

Also, of the two girls who've had the implants, they don't seem satisfied. Now one wants a nose job and the other still makes comments about breasts being too small.
neurotic.nelly
Hey starship, thanks for posting those two links. The ugly breast implant one is an eye popper, really. Damn! - it's gotta suck to look at your breasts in the mirror with those deformities strapped to your once soft supple chest.

The beautiful breasts website is awesome. But, my head is boggled because my eyes are seeing a pair of breasts that are obviously a large A and they are labeled an AA cup, another pair of breasts were labeled a C cup and they were clearly not. Another pair looked like an A cup but it read a B cup. Ummm... really?

I went bra-less today and ummm... the girls get more attention when they are allowed to breath and bounce a little.

I am going to watch that vid now....!

ETA: That video rocked because the host has his head right, at least as far as breasts are concerned. I love that he praised Keira at the end! I was almost out of my seat shouting, "Yes, Yes, Thank you!" The girl he interviewed, OY! What a premadonna?! I wonder if her breasts are actually implants. Women compete for the attention of men. Most men's eyes are simply drawn to a big chest because they're easy to see. Everyone's eyes are drawn to a big chest, it doesn't mean a thing. It's eye catching, in the same way that a nice voluptuous ass is eye catching IMHO. It doesn't mean a thing. You never, ever base your relationships on a body part or an image. That's what I learned growing up (I was so skinny I didn't attract a lot of male attention), so I had lot's of time to observe my friends with the bodies and attitudes date and have "relationships". Never, ever base a relationship on a body part or image or sex appeal. Unless it is a for-sure fling. Then, rock the bells!!
loonydaray
hey just wanted to let everyone know that that bbc show 'my small breasts and i' is airing again!
march 7 at 7
starship
QUOTE(neurotic.nelly @ Feb 22 2009, 04:01 AM) *

ETA: That video rocked because the host has his head right, at least as far as breasts are concerned. I love that he praised Keira at the end! I was almost out of my seat shouting, "Yes, Yes, Thank you!" The girl he interviewed, OY! What a premadonna?! I wonder if her breasts are actually implants. Women compete for the attention of men. Most men's eyes are simply drawn to a big chest because they're easy to see. Everyone's eyes are drawn to a big chest, it doesn't mean a thing. It's eye catching, in the same way that a nice voluptuous ass is eye catching IMHO. It doesn't mean a thing. You never, ever base your relationships on a body part or an image. That's what I learned growing up (I was so skinny I didn't attract a lot of male attention), so I had lot's of time to observe my friends with the bodies and attitudes date and have "relationships". Never, ever base a relationship on a body part or image or sex appeal. Unless it is a for-sure fling. Then, rock the bells!!


i knowwww! i actually eeee-ed when he said the end bit about keira- it was so unusual to hear someone who wasnt a small-breasted woman say things like that about her. As soon as the girl started speaking I thought 'yup, she's had a boob job', she was rather defensive i think and not too impressed with the man's praise of the natural look.
and youre spot on about the boobs/relationship thing too:). i just need to drum this fact into my mind now.
anddd i also thought alot of the women on the beautiful breasts website had got their sizes wrong. i know that even boobs that are the same cup size can look totally different but some of them were way wayy out. not surprised though- apparently 80% of women wear the wrong size bra!:/

honeybunch, a lot of people who have surgery seem to go back for more. it must be adictive somehow- like tattoos or something. i guess if you strive for something that doesnt exist(perfection) you'll never be satisfied. i just read a magazine article about botched surgery- the woman wanted a pprettier face but ended up 'looking like a man' (her own words). she had to have several operations and sell her house just to get back her original face. mad

i came across a girl in some public toilets today. her water bra had leaked and she was frantically trying to dry a big wet patch covering her boob under the hand-dryer haha. i couldnt help but laugh to myself.and then nervously eyed my own gel enhanced cleavage:/... definately made me think about going natural more often
karategrrl
I love you all. I agree totally with all the recent comments here. Yeah, the ugly implants page is pretty hilarious (in a sad sort of way). I, too, am pretty mortified at the popularity of breast enhancement surgery. I'm not saying I'm against it all the time, in all situations, but it's true that it's getting more and more available, more acceptable, and yes, cheaper and thus more available (still not "cheap" by any means, but definitely more so as implants continue to become more popular, fostering competition between doctors). Ugh. It's just so sad and as you ladies saw on that web site, it's warping everyone's perception of what "small" and "large" actually are. The way things are going, in 20 years maybe we'll all be considered microscopic! blink.gif

I wish I could see "My small breasts and I," but I'm in the US!

The clips of that other show I saw on youtube were a bit disturbing in the sense that all but one of the teens who got the implants hd them way too big but did not see it that way. One in particular was quite slender and tall but had these C-cups (and she had originally wanted D's!). They looked totally disproportionate on her. When she woke from surgery, she looked down at her chest and said (though her anesthesia fog) "I've got boobs, I'm a woman." Funny, I was thinking over the weekend that getting your period used to be the milestone to becoming a woman!

honeybunch
QUOTE(karategrrl @ Feb 23 2009, 02:03 PM) *
I love you all. I agree totally with all the recent comments here. Yeah, the ugly implants page is pretty hilarious (in a sad sort of way). I, too, am pretty mortified at the popularity of breast enhancement surgery. I'm not saying I'm against it all the time, in all situations, but it's true that it's getting more and more available, more acceptable, and yes, cheaper and thus more available (still not "cheap" by any means, but definitely more so as implants continue to become more popular, fostering competition between doctors). Ugh. It's just so sad and as you ladies saw on that web site, it's warping everyone's perception of what "small" and "large" actually are. The way things are going, in 20 years maybe we'll all be considered microscopic! blink.gifI wish I could see "My small breasts and I," but I'm in the US!


We already have small booby syndrome, so I wouldn't be surprised. mellow.gif

QUOTE
The clips of that other show I saw on youtube were a bit disturbing in the sense that all but one of the teens who got the implants hd them way too big but did not see it that way. One in particular was quite slender and tall but had these C-cups (and she had originally wanted D's!). They looked totally disproportionate on her. When she woke from surgery, she looked down at her chest and said (though her anesthesia fog) "I've got boobs, I'm a woman." Funny, I was thinking over the weekend that getting your period used to be the milestone to becoming a woman!


I kinda agree with one of the posters on youtube-she looks like she could do porn. I don't mean having big breasts =porn, I mean she's got those stereotypical porno implants. Oh gosh I hope that makes sense.
karategrrl
QUOTE(starship @ Feb 21 2009, 09:58 PM) *
It's the women not the men!- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4BtPq0dfAzc


Skyyjohn for President. That's all I gotta say. (When Obama's term is up, of course.)
loonydaray
help help help!
tongue.gif

okay i need some major bathing suit help...
first there's me. 32a cup (although nearly a fits maybe a bit better?) and pear shaped. so like..what looks good on my shape?

but mostly my mom really needs help. she had a double mastectomy back in august and decided against reconstruction. she's looking for a tankini that will hopefully cover up her scars.... what are some good websites or places to go? i mean there's absolutely no breast tissue so it's been really frustrating trying to find something...everythings got padded cups. ridiculous. help! please smile.gif
karategrrl
QUOTE(loonydaray @ Feb 24 2009, 06:40 PM) *
help help help!
tongue.gif

okay i need some major bathing suit help...
first there's me. 32a cup (although nearly a fits maybe a bit better?) and pear shaped. so like..what looks good on my shape?

but mostly my mom really needs help. she had a double mastectomy back in august and decided against reconstruction. she's looking for a tankini that will hopefully cover up her scars.... what are some good websites or places to go? i mean there's absolutely no breast tissue so it's been really frustrating trying to find something...everythings got padded cups. ridiculous. help! please smile.gif


There was much discussion of bathing suits awhile back. You might look at those posts again. I personally like Venus, Delia's and Newport News for swimsuits. Delia's is geared toward teen girls so their tops are flattering for smallies (with little to no padding! Woot!) Venus and Newport News allows you to buy many tops and bottoms separately--you choose the cut and size that works best for your figure. I wonder if you mom might open up her options with those waterproof silicone breast pads. I found some in a sewing/crafts store. I mean, she is not trying to be something she's not, just re-creating what once was, right?

And <<<<HUGS>>>> to your mom for all she's been through!!! <3
starship
i couldnt find a decent picture of the style of bikini im thinking of going for this year but this pic is close
http://product-images.paidonresults.net/3/272533-400x400.jpg
ive seen lots around though, like bandeau tops with a twist in the middle. the knot on the twist adds abit of bulk to my chest and because its bandeau i dont have to worry about any cleavage issues (i.e. my lack of) or the embarassment of not filling out cups without padding. i hate padding on bikinis! you come out of the water and two hours later your boobs are still wet. oh and the tops that ive seen like this have had almost like boning at each side of the chest bit which i think will give me abit of a push up (most of my boob fat is on the outer sides if that makes sense)

someone posted a link not that long ago to a gorgeouss one piece suit they were getting. out of my price range though if i remember rightly:(

your mums more tricky. there are a few websites especially for women with masectomys, like this http://www.nicolajane.com/category-Tankini...kinis-SWIMTANK/ but you said she isnt looking for padding and other than having 'pockets' i cant see the difference between these and alot of regular tankinis.


karate i think alot of people already consider us microscopic! a few years ago some boys in my school class were looking at some topless pictures in a trashy newspaper and commenting. the smallest girl on there was a large C/small D Id say, but one boy pointed at her and said quite seriously sometthing like 'i wouldnt go with her, she's really small'. clearly ignoring the fact that she was drop dead gorgeous and i suspect if she turned up on his doorstep he's be thanking his lucky stars. some women have the same dwarped idea of 'small' too. like all those with perfectly good C-cups putting themselves through surgery rolleyes.gif


karategrrl
QUOTE(starship @ Feb 25 2009, 02:08 AM) *
like all those with perfectly good C-cups putting themselves through surgery rolleyes.gif

That totally goes up my ass sideways. mad.gif I'd like to trade breasts with someone like that--I'll take her perfectly natural good B-cups and she can take my A's and make them into quadruple D's if that's her thing. Just joking--I wouldn't want someone else's boobs.

Starship, the bikini you like is really flattering for our busts. More bandeau swimsuit top options
loonydaray
thanks loves smile.gif
and thanks karategrrl.. she's done really well. strong as hell


on another note here is a dose of sexy little boobs happy.gif
(breasts are showing just fyi)

breasticles
crinoline
looney- for you, I think that bikinis with more interest (beading, ruffles, embroidery, stripes) on the top than the bottom goes a long way to balancing a pear shape.
here are some examples of what I mean:
bandeau
beaded
embroidered

and here's one designed especially for smallies! got no cleavage? why not show it all??

I really like designer swimwear, because it is cut smaller and more likely to be unpadded. You just have to comb the 'net for the great sales!
angie_21
honeybunch - I think the day is already here that a helluva lot of girls have implants. but as far as I have been able to tell, that makes natural boobs, no matter the size, all the more attractive. Any guy I've EVER talked to wants to know he is getting the real thing, and finds the bubble boob off-putting. Nothin like perky little boobies that you know will stay perky after the age of 25.


looney - I have the same problem. I find that no style is universally flattering. some boy-cut bikini shorts make my booty look so fabulous no one is looking at the boobs, but others are downright hideous. I just try on pretty much everything in the store until one works right. And I am not afraid to go with some padding - hides the nipples anyways. I think small chested girls actually have the advantage with bikinis, since we don't need as much support and can try a wider variety of styles because of it. Also, if you have a nice flat belly, work it, baby! Just draw attention to your best features and that is what people will look at. I can honestly guarantee that 95% of the people out there don't give hoot how big your boobs are, and the other 5% are creepy anyways.

Most guys I know love boos, all boobs, and quality is far much more important than quantity!
angie_21
Oh, and also - I think there are specialty stores that sell bras and swimsuits specifically for women who have had a masectomy. My mom had a sponge "breast" and other types of padding to deal with these problems. I would check at specialty lingere stores. Or check in with a breast cancer charity to see if they have any products.
angie_21
And one more thing while I'm at it...

Retouch of a magizine "model" to make her breasts (and other feautres) appear bigger. http://demo.fb.se/e/girlpower/retouch/

Survey of men about implants. the article is biased though, as you can tell by the sentence "A spokeswoman for More magazine, which commissioned the poll, said: "Women would be better off spending their money on new dress and shoes rather than fake breasts."
http://news.sky.com/skynews/Home/Sky-News-...200806413546467

Website with a ton of photos of breasts of all sizes. Showing that not only our idea of perfect size, but also our ideas of perfect shape, are completely unrealistic!
http://www.007b.com


I also found this on the internet - don't know if it's true or not:

Audrey Hepburn, Grace Kelly, and Jackie Kennedy were all A cups

The wide-mouthed Champagne class was originally modelled on Marie Antoinette's breast. Marie Antoinette, Queen of France, was one of the most sought-after women of her time, chased by men of all stations. Her breast, which became the toast of the town, was only an A cup, based on the original mold still held in France. This woman was considered extremely sexy, extremely attractive, and she was proud enough of her breasts to celebrate them as a Champagne glass! Marie Antoinette certainly didn't consider her breasts small. She considered them to be the perfect size!
crinoline
angie - add Katherine Hepburn to your A cup classic ladies list!
dj-bizmonkey
unfortunately, just a myth about the champagne glass: http://www.snopes.com/business/origins/champagne.asp
i looked it up several years ago after some one told me the same story. but it is a nice story regardless.
strongirl
Wow, thanks for the factual verification, DJ! I had heard and retold the champagne glass story using the Empress Josephine version. I loved the bit re. the Folies Bergere turning down girls who overflowed the glass! I've noticed before that most Vegas showgirls tend to be small breasted as well.

A toast to all of your lovely small breasts, ladies! (with champagne glass raised)
honeybunch
QUOTE(crinoline @ Feb 25 2009, 11:33 AM) *
and here's one designed especially for smallies! got no cleavage? why not show it all??

I really like designer swimwear, because it is cut smaller and more likely to be unpadded. You just have to comb the 'net for the great sales!

I looove microtops.



And the pic of the small bustie is lovely!!!
Here's someone I've had my eyes on... Small bustie
honeybunch
QUOTE(angie_21 @ Feb 25 2009, 03:29 PM) *
honeybunch - I think the day is already here that a helluva lot of girls have implants. but as far as I have been able to tell, that makes natural boobs, no matter the size, all the more attractive. Any guy I've EVER talked to wants to know he is getting the real thing, and finds the bubble boob off-putting. Nothin like perky little boobies that you know will stay perky after the age of 25.
looney - I have the same problem. I find that no style is universally flattering. some boy-cut bikini shorts make my booty look so fabulous no one is looking at the boobs, but others are downright hideous. I just try on pretty much everything in the store until one works right. And I am not afraid to go with some padding - hides the nipples anyways. I think small chested girls actually have the advantage with bikinis, since we don't need as much support and can try a wider variety of styles because of it. Also, if you have a nice flat belly, work it, baby! Just draw attention to your best features and that is what people will look at. I can honestly guarantee that 95% of the people out there don't give hoot how big your boobs are, and the other 5% are creepy anyways.

Most guys I know love boos, all boobs, and quality is far much more important than quantity!

IA with the bold. I just hope natural boobies don't became a scarcity. I take that back, I know 4 women at work who want or have boob jobs, not just 3. That's just in my itty bitty department,too. I'm just gonna take a step back and really think about why so many people feel the need for that.
purplestain
I like the other myth mentioned on the champagne glass page. It says that auditioning members of the Folies Bergere dance troupe had to undergo a breast test: if one of their boobs couldn't fit inside a coupe, they couldn't dance with the troupe. I like the story even though it's not really true.... for once, small breasts gave women an employment advantage!
karategrrl
Angie 21, that is a GREAT link to that retouching site!!! I found it very fun to toggle back and forth between the "before" and "after" with the breasts! Hahahaha!

Loove the micro bikini top, too! I've always wondered where to get one. I'm considering it.

And that is one wicked hot photo of the small-busted hottie (with the black jacket). OMG.

You all just build me up so much! <<<HUGS>>>
karategrrl
Hey ladies, need your help....

Anyone know where I can get a bikini that's not only small-bust flattering, but with bottoms that are cut a little higher than usual on the hips? I don't want those high-waisted bottoms, I just can't wear all those low-rider-type bottoms that are so popular right now b/c I have short legs and they just make me look stumpy. I want something narrow-cut on the sides (but preferably not side-tie strings) but that is kind of angled high--not straight across the hips. Anybody??

Thanks!!
anarch
o/t, but I thought some of you might be interested in this article & discussion about breast cancer & breast augmentation

thanks angie_21 for the 007b site. Very interesting to see real boobs of all shapes and sizes and life stages.
karategrrl
Thought some of you might enjoy this article. It's worth reading just for the comments at the bottom.
(Warning: This is anti-implant!)
http://www.gigglesugar.com/2774217

Also an interesting poll about what people think of breast implants:
http://www.quibblo.com/quiz/5Kk8Wm/breast-...ants-hot-or-not

Interesting to note is that I found another "poll" an a site that was clearly a portal to breast augmentation doctors. It had the opposite results!
KeraBear
Hello small breasted sisters! I haven't really posted a lot, but i've been a regular reader of the thread. I posted a long time ago when i was feeling really down about my tiny breasts (or as i like to call them, my "booblets" ha ha). i am 16, short, with a boyish figure and for the longest time i had a bit of a complex about it. It seems like everywhere i go, i am surrounded by boobs, boobs, boobs! Even my 13-year-old lil sis is sporting a nice pair of C cups (ARGH!). It made me feel like less of a woman (especially during swimsuit season. yeeesh)

Anyways, as i said before, even though i have not posted a lot, i've been reading some of the conversations on here for quite some time now. I'd like to thank you regulars for helping to change my view of my booblets. i used to think "what can i do about my "problem"? or "Why can't i be "normal" like other girls my age"? But now i am starting to see that it's not what is wrong with me, but what is right. This is me and I am beautiful. If somebody thinks otherwise then they are not worth my time. I realize that i am still young and puberty may not be done with me yet (i got my first period at 15, so that may well be so), but in the meantime i am learning to love my body for what it is.

Here's an observation i've made. On some of the teen forums I go on, ocassionally (okay, frequently) a girl will make a post about how sad she is that she has small breasts, yadda, yadda, yadda and then other girls come to her aid saying things like "Be glad you don't have large breasts, they are ugly and saggy" Now i can see why they would say something like that to try to make her feel better about herself, but then how are the girls with big breasts supposed to feel. Can't we lift up our small breasted sisters without resorting to putting others down?

Anywho, keep up the good work!
loonydaray
hooollllyyyyy crappp. i didn't even know that was a cup size! kkk?? she must have to sleep sitting up... can't lay on her stomach and if she lays on her back she probably can't breathe! geez...why?? why????

however those comments were HILARIOUS
karategrrl
KeraBear, thanks for posting. It gives me hope that you've gotten something out of this forum. If more young women can feel good about themselves, no matter what their breast size, that's a good thing.

Also, I hear ya about not wanting to knock our big-busted sistahs. As we've said before, I haaate people saying, "Oh, you don't want big ones because (fill in 10,000 reasons why). I never said I wanted big ones. I'd just love average ones! And comments like that DO knock naturally large-busted women.
Persiflager
*delurks*

I'm a larger-boobed Bustie and I lurk here for the super-zoomy vibes of positivity! The posts here make me feel gorgeous and strong in every way, not just in the bosomy area smile.gif

*relurks*
KeraBear
QUOTE(karategrrl @ Feb 27 2009, 09:06 AM) *
KeraBear, thanks for posting. It gives me hope that you've gotten something out of this forum. If more young women can feel good about themselves, no matter what their breast size, that's a good thing.

Also, I hear ya about not wanting to knock our big-busted sistahs. As we've said before, I haaate people saying, "Oh, you don't want big ones because (fill in 10,000 reasons why). I never said I wanted big ones. I'd just love average ones! And comments like that DO knock naturally large-busted women.
.

Hooray! I am the hope for my generation! lol I know what you mean about wanting "average" ones though. Being short, with virtual no hips, my tiny booblets create the illusion that I am a 16-year-old who has not yet hit puberty... and that's sorta annoying. Oh well! :-)
Vendetta
I
Vendetta
I don't come in here for ages and I won't. Sometime on my "boob rehab" I thought I was wasting too much of my time thinking about it and posting about it. And it worked. When I come in here, it makes no sense anymore. I'm still struggling for my surgery but I won't spend my time anymore talking about how my lack of makes me feel whatever it does. It does and my time to solve it will come. In the meantime, I'm gonna waste my time on something useful. I'm single for good and so happy about it. Thanks for being there girls, you meant a lot to me. Cheers
karategrrl
QUOTE(Persiflager @ Feb 27 2009, 02:25 PM) *
*delurks*

I'm a larger-boobed Bustie and I lurk here for the super-zoomy vibes of positivity! The posts here make me feel gorgeous and strong in every way, not just in the bosomy area smile.gif

*relurks*


YIPPEEEE! laugh.gif laugh.gif laugh.gif laugh.gif


QUOTE(Kera Bear @ Feb 27 2009, 02:25 PM) *
Being short, with virtual no hips, my tiny booblets create the illusion that I am a 16-year-old who has not yet hit puberty... and that's sorta annoying. Oh well! :-)

OMG, I so know what you mean! I got my period at, like, age 11, but without breasts (at a time when all my friends were sporting hormonally-induced large teen breasts), no one really knew. Sometimes I felt like, "What do I have to do to prove it--wave around a used tampon?" Ew, I know. But you catch my drift? wink.gif
honeybunch
QUOTE(anarch @ Feb 26 2009, 02:04 PM) *
o/t, but I thought some of you might be interested in this article & discussion about breast cancer & breast augmentation

thanks angie_21 for the 007b site. Very interesting to see real boobs of all shapes and sizes and life stages.


Geez@ the doc's comment!!!

I was reading in the February issue of FitnessRx for women (love the mag!) that breast implants increase risk of some rare breast cancer. That couldn't have come at a better time for me.
hellotampon
QUOTE(KeraBear @ Feb 27 2009, 02:12 AM) *
Here's an observation i've made. On some of the teen forums I go on, ocassionally (okay, frequently) a girl will make a post about how sad she is that she has small breasts, yadda, yadda, yadda and then other girls come to her aid saying things like "Be glad you don't have large breasts, they are ugly and saggy" Now i can see why they would say something like that to try to make her feel better about herself, but then how are the girls with big breasts supposed to feel. Can't we lift up our small breasted sisters without resorting to putting others down?


Thank you thank you thank you! I totally hate that. Some girl will say (right in front of me), "I wouldn't want big boobs anyway because they're disgusting [in some specific way]." Or, "At least I know I got everything I have in life because I deserve it and not just because I have big boobs" and I'm like hey, maybe you got that job because you have a great ass!? laugh.gif

I have a flat, shapeless butt. I WISH I had a nice one. Big butts are pretty much on par with big boobs these days, and either way I'd look more proportional if I had one. I can't imagine myself disrespecting women with more ample bottoms than me... I don't even see how that would make me feel any better?
angie_21
QUOTE(hellotampon @ Feb 28 2009, 11:39 AM) *
Thank you thank you thank you! I totally hate that. Some girl will say (right in front of me), "I wouldn't want big boobs anyway because they're disgusting [in some specific way]." Or, "At least I know I got everything I have in life because I deserve it and not just because I have big boobs" and I'm like hey, maybe you got that job because you have a great ass!? laugh.gif

I have a flat, shapeless butt. I WISH I had a nice one. Big butts are pretty much on par with big boobs these days, and either way I'd look more proportional if I had one. I can't imagine myself disrespecting women with more ample bottoms than me... I don't even see how that would make me feel any better?



So true! Besides, I can see that it might be a lot harder for large-chested girls facing discrimination and assumptions about their intellgence. I constantly run into a stereotype that I am intelligent or prudish, between haing glasses and small boobs. It's annoying, but it would be so much worse to be judged the opposite way!

I used to have a friend who was self-conscious about her weight, and would make herself feel better by putting down skinny people, saying things like, "she itn't even hot, she has no boobs at all!" right in from of me. I wanted to shake her silly! But I know it is about her insecurities, not mine - a lot of people have no idea of the effect of things that they say.

Anyhoo - as some people have said here, it is good to take a break! the more you obsess about it, the more important it seems. I rarely think about this in my day-to-day life, but I am here because I want to help give support to those girls that are still self-conscious about their own body issues. But when I go out into the real world, I don't let my cup size (or butt size!) influence any decisions I make or how I feel about myself, because it's not how we look that's important.
KeraBear
QUOTE(karategrrl @ Feb 27 2009, 01:29 PM) *
OMG, I so know what you mean! I got my period at, like, age 11, but without breasts (at a time when all my friends were sporting hormonally-induced large teen breasts), no one really knew. Sometimes I felt like, "What do I have to do to prove it--wave around a used tampon?" Ew, I know. But you catch my drift? wink.gif


Ha ha... yea, but for the longest time I couldn't even do that much. I didn't get my first period until the summer between my freshman and sophomore years. And yes, ew. laugh.gif
starship
for any UK-ers the 'Teen boob jobs' program we were talking about before is on ITV1 in like 10minutes. it'll probably be too late by time anyone actually reads this but heyho

xx
purplestain
This article (http://www.thefword.org.uk/features/2008/12/i_was_saddened) was linked over in the Big Busties thread. It's an essay in which the author describes growing up with what many called a "perfect figure" (23" waist and E-cup breasts) and how she was treated because of it: groped and harassed by strangers, constantly put down by women, stereotyped as an airhead. I'm linking to this because of the points she makes near the end of the essay, which apply to all women, no matter their breast size:

"It’s not my problem that my breasts “don’t suit my personality”. The problem is that there is a personality type associated with having big breasts in the first place. We don’t need implants and breast reductions. What we need is to cure our society’s complete obsession with breasts. We need somehow to do away with the idea that breast size is directly proportional to sexual attractiveness, and that a sexually attractive woman is somehow deserving of harassment and contempt."
honeybunch
Im gonna come back and say more later, but I do want to say that I'm disgusted and horrified teachers or anyone else would stand by and watch her get sexually and verbally assaulted!!!
karategrrl
Oh. My. God. What a powerful essay!!!!!

It's crazy how I could relate on so many levels. Having a totally different body type (tall/thin/small breasts), it is so interesting to read about her experiences from "the other side" but actually, I had many similar experiences. My small breasts by themselves didn't get attention, but I think I had that Lolita look: half girl/half-woman which somehow drove some males nuts. I remember a creepy teacher making comments and another idiot who exposed his penis to me on the street on my way home from school when I was in FOURTH GRADE; being groped on public transportation; propositioned by strangers in cars or on the street; having my ass grabbed by half a class of boys in junior high school (and then having my "friends" blame ME for not "doing anything"--as if I was supposed to fight off 20 boys by myself...)... The list goes on and on.... One of my most horrifying memories was walking home from college and having some asshat stopped at a Stop sign say, "Why don't you give me head while I wait?" My anger only turned to horror when I complained to my dad about it and he said, "Oh, that's not that bad." WTF??!!!

I remember seeing big-breasted girls get grabbed and talked about in school, and it made me mad. I have to agree with the author that it's not breasts or bodies of whatever size that cause problems, it's our damned attitudes. My body type is different from the authors', but I've experienced so many of the same things--unwanted male attention, women saying they "hate you" like it's a compliment, people perceiving that how I am as a person goes according to some mental filter of how they think people with my body type "are."

...and if you will all forgive a man-hating moment, I wonder if men (perpetuators of most of this behavior) would keep doing it if they had to endure any of it growing up and knew what it was like. I can't tell you of how many times I've tried to communicate my experiences to boyfriends/male friends and they DO NOT GET IT.

Very powerful article. Thanks for sharing, purplestain.

PS: The "Melons" contest--in a school!!???
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