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KeraBear
QUOTE(skindeep1991 @ Feb 18 2012, 10:39 AM) *
YAY that's great news!!! How did you feel about it and how did he take it, is there a second date planned? =D you go girl!!!


Well, at first i was a little self conscious yea and at first i did think about it a lot. But then as the evenign wore on and on, i was thinking about it less and less. He seemed to take it well. I mean he didn't say anything about it. I am glad too because i would've turned a million shades of red! And it's not like i was gonna ask. lol He said that he had a great time and wanted to do it again. But that was like a few weeks ago and the we've been out together with a group and that's it. Does that count? Now i am not so sure. unsure.gif

QUOTE(skindeep1991 @ Feb 18 2012, 10:39 AM) *
I've let my boobies run free recently and seeing as my dog ate my favorite padded bra and my other one hurts my nipples cause of the piercings at the moment I'm going unpadded too...it feels great actually. I recommend it to all of the busties.


Niiiiice!!! I rarely do that, except for when i am at home i like to set them free. lol Since you have piercings though, doesn't that draw MORE attention to your boobs? Not that that's a bad thing i guess, because booblets are hot. wink.gif Have you gotten any comments? Your dog ate your bra??? LOL!

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but recently I've realized that my weight issue has a lot to do with my boobies. Because my breasts are on the smaller side of small, it means that my tummy pokes out further than them... Now I think if I had bigger breasts that I probably wouldn't have so much of an issue with my weight, but seeing as I've learned to love my boobies and I constantly make jokes about them and talk openly about them opposed to making them something to be ashamed of I guess I will either have to step up the exercise or embrace the fact that my breasts will never ever EVER stick out further than my belly...EVER. *sigh*


awwwwwwww sorry to hear that you are struggling. sad.gif Yeah... i guess you will have to learn to embrace it. All sorts of tummys can be cute though. Maybe get a belly button ring to dress it up a lil? smile.gif

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also Dee you can't blame yourself for this, if he's never had problems before then you know it's not you...I think sometimes as a self conscious girl you're willing to see the negatives in yourself rather than the positive and when something happens like that you automatically twist it so you take it personally and make it something negative about you. I think you're fantastic and you should think of the awesome things you have, you're beautiful and you should be confident about that as for this fwb...he's probably feeling REALLY self conscious about this issue also as I know guys get easily self conscious about there man parts.


Took the words right outta my mouth!! But yea, i second this. It's not you. I'm sure of it.
KeraBear
QUOTE(discowombat @ Feb 20 2012, 12:13 AM) *
Well, I finally ordered from The Little Bra Company. Considering that I've never had a bra that fits properly in the first place & the petite sizing complicates it further, I just ordered a small range of the same style with the intention of finding my proper size and returning the ones that don't work. When I get them I'll let you guys know what I think. I really hope one of them works out. I kind of feel like this place is my last hope!


Good idea. I hope it works out!!! Or you could just do what Skindeep is doing and skip the bras entirely? Save money at least. lol
skindeep1991
QUOTE(KeraBear @ Feb 20 2012, 06:06 PM) *
Good idea. I hope it works out!!! Or you could just do what Skindeep is doing and skip the bras entirely? Save money at least. lol


haha yeah its the cheaper way...although unintentional. Just get a puppy they save the money for you haha.

I've had a very VERY bad past 10 minutes D= ... My boyfriend left himself logged into this website he goes on and out of curiosity i wanted to see what kind of things he likes looking at. Anyway I found him posting comments about other girls saying things like 'she's so hot' about some other guys girlfriend and some stupid pictures of famous girls he's like 'i'd destroy that so hard that there wouldn't be any fillings left" and now I feel like shit.
I know he wouldn't cheat but I'm extremely insecure when it comes to boyfriends and he's gone and made me feel like shit. Things were going so well, so passively aggressively I posted pictures of hot buff topless guys on my tumblr cause he hates it when I do. I feel like shit now I dunno what to do =[. I know this is crazy but I have trust issues due to previous relationships as I'm sure a lot of you understand and my insecurities have all come flying back, especially cause I was thinking of how happy I am with him and how he makes me feel better about myself. I'm just really upset.
skindeep1991
Oh and to make the whole thing worse he commented pictures of a girls large breasts saying 'beautiful fucking titts' I don't know what to do I've been in a state
karategrrl
Hey hey, sending special love to you, Skindeep. Forgive my being a little blunt, but if I may be so bold, it seems like:

1. He's acting like a bit of a douchebag (notice I didn't say he IS one; he's acting like one)
2. You have the right to be hurt
3. You don't have to apologize for the way you feel or make excuses for him.
4. This is less about "your insecurities" and more about your right to be treated with respect.

I admit I have a big problem with the "he'd never cheat" thing. Sure, lots of men would never actually insert their penis into another woman's vagina but they do a whole host of other shit that is inappropriate, disrespectful and just plain not right. Being monogamous is more than just not cheating--it's having respect for your partner, your relationship and their gender in general.

I also have a biiiiig fucking problem with women expected to be "secure" and "confident" in the face of their partners doing disrespectful shit. You are reacting in a completely understandable way, my girl. There is nothing wrong with YOU! An interesting way to test this theory is to flip the situation around. You say he's bothered when you post pics of hot guys, but he expects you to be unaffected by all he's doing? Would he flip if you were looking at pics of big cocks and posting, "Awesome fucking COCK!"?

The fact that you've posted pics of guys just to get back at him sounds like a cry for help, a desperate attempt to make him feel what you feel, when all other logical, grownup attempts to make him understand where you are coming from fail. I know--I've been there! So don't apologize for that, either.

Now, I say the following not as an excuse for his behavior, but hopefully to help you out of your funk a little. Remember that "online" is a very safe, anonymous place where people often do and say things they otherwise would not and; guys in particular are prone to the male "pack" syndrome, where he may say things to go along with the crowd (even an online one) and feel like one of the guys (asshole guys, yes...but he wants to belong). So keep in mind that his asinine comments are no reflection of YOU, your worth, or sexiness.

Right now I would like to slap him but you say he has redeeming qualities so I trust that. Just lookin' out for my fellow busties and feeling protective!! mad.gif wink.gif
skindeep1991
QUOTE(karategrrl @ Feb 21 2012, 05:48 PM) *
Now, I say the following not as an excuse for his behavior, but hopefully to help you out of your funk a little. Remember that "online" is a very safe, anonymous place where people often do and say things they otherwise would not and; guys in particular are prone to the male "pack" syndrome, where he may say things to go along with the crowd (even an online one) and feel like one of the guys (asshole guys, yes...but he wants to belong). So keep in mind that his asinine comments are no reflection of YOU, your worth, or sexiness.

Right now I would like to slap him but you say he has redeeming qualities so I trust that. Just lookin' out for my fellow busties and feeling protective!! mad.gif wink.gif


Thank you karate it's funny you say that because that's what my mother said and when I asked him why he even said 'I don't know I was just showing off for comments, I didn't mean them' ...but he must have meant them to some extent because the thought wouldn't have crossed his mind to say it anyway. He spent hours crying to me last night about how he's 'sorry' and about how he doesn't want to lose me. I told him that I need time to calm down and think about things because at the moment I feel like everything he's ever told me about my body being gorgeous, about loving me the way I am and about how there's no one else for him is a massive lie.
And you know the breast comments he made, those are the ones that hurt me the worst. I cant believe he did it, I honestly would have bet my life that he wouldn't have done this. I was always telling people how amazing he is to me and about how comfortable I am with him . I know it's a cliche the whole ' I never expected it from him ' but I really didn't he's the crying type usually really shy and I had to kiss him first. I just feel so betrayed right now.

To be honest I just keep thinking about what is wrong with me for these things to happen, there must be something wrong with me if a nice guy that claims he loves me and talks about wanting to move in with me will do these things.

I dunno, It's not been a very good few days.

Thank you so much for your kind words though

secretsights88
Oh skindeep, you poor thing! I can only imagine how you feel... I mean, I once had an ex comment on women with big breasts and I felt so self conscious, I really never got over it when I was with him... but I was younger. Good thing is, the self consciousness was only with him, if any other guy shows interest in me or makes good comments about my breasts, I don't doubt their sexiness.

What your boyfriend did was douchey. But, as much as I hate this expression, "boys will be boys". It's no excuse, though. It was disrespectful, and he will have to understand that. But please remember it has NOTHING to do with you... please, please, PLEASE remember that you're a BEAUTIFUL, SEXY woman. Don't let his comments interfere with how you see yourself, I've been there and it's the worst form of self-sabotage one can get trapped into when it comes to body image. I know it's really hard, but remember that who you are is not defined by anyone else's comments or opinions but your own.

I find it so pathetic that society has encouraged this "boys will be boys" mentality in men (and some women, too). The idea that men are supposed to objectify women because it's the "manly" thing to do, which I find so stupid. And many guys do follow that just to "belong". I find it so sad, because in many cases, guys truly don't mean what they say or post and they just do it in order to seem "manly", which is really sad because they allow peer pressure to get the best of them. Whenever I come across a respectful guy who doesn't follow this "pack mentality", I'm just overjoyed. Sadly, they're hard to find.

I think men do get a clue, but much later in life. Hang in there skindeep. You have to decide how you handle this, and your boyfriend better gives you the time and understanding you need for this. But like I said, please remember that his behavior is no reflection of you. You rock, you're sexy and beautiful. Own it!
discowombat
Not to change the subject, but I got my bras from The Little Bra Company and gave them a test run. I ordered Lucia, which is considered to be their standard sized bra, in 3 different sizes to see what worked best since I'm not used to having options. For reference I am 5'3" 110 lbs (26" underbust, 30.5" overbust) and suspected that I should be wearing a 28B in non-petite sizes based on how my previous bras fit. I generally ignore the old "add 4-5 inches" rule because it has never worked for me.

Verdict: Little Bra Company runs small in the band & a little small in the cup because they are sized for petite and/or small framed people. I ended up going with the 30B and I have to wear it on the loosest hook. The band still felt a little tight on my first wear, but it might just be because I'm just used to my bras being too big. I expect that it will stretch a bit after a few wears as all bras are apt to do. The cups are very close together and contain some angled padding which did nice things for my boobs despite Lucia not being a pushup bra. There's more padding in there than I'm used to but it doesn't look or feel ridiculous. It's actually really comfortable and my boobs more or less stay where I put them even when I move around. Time will tell, but they seem pretty well made and the lace actually lays really smoothly so it doesn't show under shirts. Considering that I usually have to spend $30 just to find something that's close to my proper size, it's worth the extra cost for these. Assuming this first one holds up well, I will definitely be buying more the next time I find a coupon code/sale.

If anyone has any questions feel free to ask.
DeeRayy
hey guys!
just popped in to share some nice news. i was able to semi-remove my bra in front of my fwb last night! We were going about things as usual, and while i was on top of him he started feeling me up through my bra. and i was caught up in the moment, so i unhooked my bra and placed his hands underneath the cups of my bra so he could feel my actual boobs. i have no idea what his expression was like during all this (the lights were off), but he ended up pulling me towards him so our bodies were pressed together, and it was a really nice feeling (my bra was essentiall hanging from my torso at this point). i still had to put it back on right away when we switched positions, but i'm really glad i was able to make a little progress! and to make things even better, he was able to orgasm for the first time in like, a month despite his ed problems he's been having! so overall it was a really nice experience. i still would never let him actually SEE them, but i feel like i made a breakthrough last night smile.gif
discowombat
:-) I'm so happy for you. I understand where you are coming from and any progress is great!

DeeRayy
betty dodson and carlin ross discussed my question on their web show!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wHzfYwSfOJg...mp;feature=plcp
KeraBear
QUOTE(DeeRayy @ Feb 29 2012, 08:00 PM) *
betty dodson and carlin ross discussed my question on their web show!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wHzfYwSfOJg...mp;feature=plcp


Wowy, you are becoming quite the web sensation, aren't you? smile.gif. i do agree with pretty much all that they said though. Especially that bit about how when he is... umm... into you... he is most likely not being critical of anything about you. He's just haopy to be there! Plus he DID orgasm after getting hus hands on those hot lil booblets of yours, no? Just sayin'... oh yea and btw major props to those two for doing what they do. i mean i can't see myself putting myself out there on youtube telling the world about how my nipples are hardwired to my clitoris (even though its sorta true lol). Now that takes some serious balls!

Skindeep - any new updates on you and your bf?? That reminds me soooooo much of my senior year in HS when i came onto this board in tears after discovering porn on my exes computer. I went on to check my email and instead found these tall, busty, curvy NEKKID blondes staring back at me. I was devastated!! Not just because they were other women, but mostly cuz they were the opposite of my short, smallie non blonde self. I cried myself to sleep that night. sad.gif But if anything good came out of it,it forced us to talk about stuff like that and got it out in the open. i was foolish to think that he wouldn't look at porn. i mean most teen boys do. But still it broke my heart. sad.gif PM me if you wanna pick my brain about it.
DeeRayy
just wanted to let you guys know that i'm currently going on dates with four different guys right now, which means i'm living proof that you can still be a playa playa without even the slightest hint of cleavage smile.gif
karategrrl
QUOTE(DeeRayy @ Mar 5 2012, 10:46 PM) *
just wanted to let you guys know that i'm currently going on dates with four different guys right now, which means i'm living proof that you can still be a playa playa without even the slightest hint of cleavage smile.gif


I like this. smile.gif You go, girl.
wondermist
Hey everybody!

Recently, I learned that those "I <heart> BOOBIES!" wristbands that everybody's been wearing around school is apparently for breast cancer awareness. Your thoughts? ((Though this may be old news...))

I personally feel that the bands do not... help breast cancer awareness at all. They're mostly sold in adult stores or something from what I've heard. They do not have the logo on them either so how is this suppose to help? I'm very curious. Mostly boys wear them to no surprise.
Anne_Ecdote
wondermist, have you missed the entire recent susan b. komen drama

like how that little pink ribbon is a symbol of their bs

and utter hypocrisy

their logo represents NOTHING except wasted monies

i <3 boobies page

you seem to be very biased though you admit to knowing nothing about the wristbands

except that you think they are sold in "adult stores" and that only "boys" wear them

i can assure you that they are available in many reputable places

to many kinds of people

not just pervy "boys"

and there is nothing wrong with "adult stores"

they exist so that adults can get their freak on without offending the childrens

or the uptights
KeraBear
awww anne, lay off a bit eh? Wondermist is only 15! (or 16, i forget which). I don't recall seeing anyplace in there where she was railing against adult stores. But I can certainly see where the confusion might lie with the meaning of the bracelets. And i detinitely have no problems imagining many a teenage boy wearing one! Lol
DeeRayy
hey all. so i recently got an interesting proposition from a friend of mine. he's a guy i was once dating but had to friendzone (first time i've ever done THAT to someone). anyway, we've gotten pretty close and he now knows about my boobie issues. and on tuesday night he heard me cry over it for the first time on the phone while he was asking me about it (i still cry over it at least a couple times a month sadly). i even admitted to him that i can't take off my bra during sex and that i've never let anyone see them because i don't feel like a normal woman and he kept reassuring me that i was worrying over nothing. and so i, being the stuborn person i am, replied "well you've never seen them", to which he replied, "then let me see". i took it as him hitting on me and scolded him. and he explained, "look, you've already turned me down so i'm not gonna try to get into your pants. i just want to give you my honest opinion so you can see that you're worrying over nothing.". i said that if he was gonna be honest then i wasn't sure if i really wanted to hear what he has to say about them, to which he simply replied, "i can assure you you'll feel much better if we do this. you can't hide them forever. maybe it'll help you feel more comfortable in the future. and i promise you lots of guys will share my opinion because to us, boobs are boobs [[damn that stupid line!!!]]". he even went as far to tell me that he's been with a girl smaller than me and he simply looked at them as breasts, not as anything "inferior". i'm seriously considering doing this, but what do you guys think?
KeraBear
QUOTE(DeeRayy @ Mar 15 2012, 10:07 PM) *
hey all. so i recently got an interesting proposition from a friend of mine. he's a guy i was once dating but had to friendzone (first time i've ever done THAT to someone). anyway, we've gotten pretty close and he now knows about my boobie issues. and on tuesday night he heard me cry over it for the first time on the phone while he was asking me about it (i still cry over it at least a couple times a month sadly). i even admitted to him that i can't take off my bra during sex and that i've never let anyone see them because i don't feel like a normal woman and he kept reassuring me that i was worrying over nothing. and so i, being the stuborn person i am, replied "well you've never seen them", to which he replied, "then let me see". i took it as him hitting on me and scolded him. and he explained, "look, you've already turned me down so i'm not gonna try to get into your pants. i just want to give you my honest opinion so you can see that you're worrying over nothing.". i said that if he was gonna be honest then i wasn't sure if i really wanted to hear what he has to say about them, to which he simply replied, "i can assure you you'll feel much better if we do this. you can't hide them forever. maybe it'll help you feel more comfortable in the future. and i promise you lots of guys will share my opinion because to us, boobs are boobs [[damn that stupid line!!!]]". he even went as far to tell me that he's been with a girl smaller than me and he simply looked at them as breasts, not as anything "inferior". i'm seriously considering doing this, but what do you guys think?


Wellll... hmmm.... tricky. well i normally would counsel not letting anyone pressure you into doing anything you are not comfortable doing. Buuuuut I also believe that in some cases stepping out if your comfort can be a good thing. I think this just might be one of those times. I mean, i obviously don't know this guy, but from how yo've described him so far, he doesn't sound like (as Karategrrl would eloquently put it) an asshat. He sounds "safe". Certainly far from your first boyfriend when it comes to boob perspective, that is for sure. I say go for it. smile.gif
skindeep1991
QUOTE(DeeRayy @ Mar 16 2012, 02:07 AM) *
hey all. so i recently got an interesting proposition from a friend of mine. he's a guy i was once dating but had to friendzone (first time i've ever done THAT to someone). anyway, we've gotten pretty close and he now knows about my boobie issues. and on tuesday night he heard me cry over it for the first time on the phone while he was asking me about it (i still cry over it at least a couple times a month sadly). i even admitted to him that i can't take off my bra during sex and that i've never let anyone see them because i don't feel like a normal woman and he kept reassuring me that i was worrying over nothing. and so i, being the stuborn person i am, replied "well you've never seen them", to which he replied, "then let me see". i took it as him hitting on me and scolded him. and he explained, "look, you've already turned me down so i'm not gonna try to get into your pants. i just want to give you my honest opinion so you can see that you're worrying over nothing.". i said that if he was gonna be honest then i wasn't sure if i really wanted to hear what he has to say about them, to which he simply replied, "i can assure you you'll feel much better if we do this. you can't hide them forever. maybe it'll help you feel more comfortable in the future. and i promise you lots of guys will share my opinion because to us, boobs are boobs [[damn that stupid line!!!]]". he even went as far to tell me that he's been with a girl smaller than me and he simply looked at them as breasts, not as anything "inferior". i'm seriously considering doing this, but what do you guys think?


I think it's a good idea to boost your confidence, but seeing as he's your friend will it make things awkward? because you'd have to see him face to face eventually and would you be alright with the idea of knowing he's seen them? I think although its a fantastic idea you need to really think about the situation you'll be putting yourself in. Also if you are to take one and send it to him just take it of your breasts (no face or anything) so no one can say it's you just to be on the safe side. I'm a little over paranoid about these things I guess haha. Tell you what though I've sent mine to kerabear and vice versa and it does make you feel better even if its just to know you're really not alone. So if you ever feel like you'd want to I'd trade pictures of you or I'm sure one of the other girlies would.
If you feel like he'd be honest then my dear I say go for it, what have you got to lose?
wondermist
QUOTE(Anne_Ecdote @ Mar 14 2012, 03:44 AM) *
wondermist, have you missed the entire recent susan b. komen drama

like how that little pink ribbon is a symbol of their bs

and utter hypocrisy

their logo represents NOTHING except wasted monies

i <3 boobies page

you seem to be very biased though you admit to knowing nothing about the wristbands

except that you think they are sold in "adult stores" and that only "boys" wear them

i can assure you that they are available in many reputable places

to many kinds of people

not just pervy "boys"

and there is nothing wrong with "adult stores"

they exist so that adults can get their freak on without offending the childrens

or the uptights

Hey!

Just wanted to apologize to you all if I came off as really biased. I wanted to come on here and expand my knowledge on it a bit ^^; Now I know a bit more. I think I'll be scurrying off the boards now, haha.

Sorry if I have wasted any of your time and such. laugh.gif
DeeRayy
QUOTE(wondermist @ Mar 19 2012, 08:27 PM) *
Hey!

Just wanted to apologize to you all if I came off as really biased. I wanted to come on here and expand my knowledge on it a bit ^^; Now I know a bit more. I think I'll be scurrying off the boards now, haha.

Sorry if I have wasted any of your time and such. laugh.gif


not at all! you're one of the younger ones so know one here expects you to know everything. please continue to think of this place as somewhere where you can ask questions without feeling naive. i know i've posted plenty of things on my bad boobie days that i later shake my head at. but that's what this place is for ^.^
discowombat
QUOTE(DeeRayy @ Mar 20 2012, 02:12 AM) *
not at all! you're one of the younger ones so know one here expects you to know everything. please continue to think of this place as somewhere where you can ask questions without feeling naive. i know i've posted plenty of things on my bad boobie days that i later shake my head at. but that's what this place is for ^.^


I second DeeRayy on this!
DeeRayy
happy story time! biggrin.gif

i've been going on dates with a new, really sweet guy (the one mentioned earlier, he managed to make his way out of the friend zone) and after a few more dates i felt comfortable enough with him to bring him back to my apartment. we didn't have sex or anything, we just canoodled on my couch for a bit. but while he was kissing my neck he started you know, moving downwards and he pulled my blouse down until one of my boobies was exposed and started kissing it, but i got embarrassed and tried to pull it back. but instead of letting me he cupped them both with his hands and said, "babe, please don't be embarrassed, these are perfect". then he proceeded to take off my entire shirt and bra and continued to kiss and fondle them.

sooo, this was important because it was the first time i've ever let a guy see my breasts! i'm so happy that I was finally able to do it, because just last month i thought i would never be able to be completely naked with a guy because of my boobie issues. we've seen each other multiple times since this incident and i still blush and cover them a little when he first takes my bra off, but he just says something sweet like, "i don't get why you cover them up, all it does is block my tongue.". or if it comes off in the heat of the moment and i get self conscious after i've processed that i'm topless and ask to put my bra back on, he simply says, "no! i'm not finished with them yet!". and to top it off, the first time he saw them all he said was, "don't mind if i do!" with the biggest smile on his face. he really is a gem and i'm soo thankful to have met him. i know that finding a partner who adores your body is only half the battle. i still struggle with my BDD and it's still hard to really believe a lot of the things he says, but this experience has really showed me that it is possible for me to show my boobs to a guy without the world coming to an end, and it showed me what true intimacy is really like smile.gif
skindeep1991
QUOTE(DeeRayy @ Mar 24 2012, 11:56 AM) *
happy story time! biggrin.gif

i've been going on dates with a new, really sweet guy (the one mentioned earlier, he managed to make his way out of the friend zone) and after a few more dates i felt comfortable enough with him to bring him back to my apartment. we didn't have sex or anything, we just canoodled on my couch for a bit. but while he was kissing my neck he started you know, moving downwards and he pulled my blouse down until one of my boobies was exposed and started kissing it, but i got embarrassed and tried to pull it back. but instead of letting me he cupped them both with his hands and said, "babe, please don't be embarrassed, these are perfect". then he proceeded to take off my entire shirt and bra and continued to kiss and fondle them.

sooo, this was important because it was the first time i've ever let a guy see my breasts! i'm so happy that I was finally able to do it, because just last month i thought i would never be able to be completely naked with a guy because of my boobie issues. we've seen each other multiple times since this incident and i still blush and cover them a little when he first takes my bra off, but he just says something sweet like, "i don't get why you cover them up, all it does is block my tongue.". or if it comes off in the heat of the moment and i get self conscious after i've processed that i'm topless and ask to put my bra back on, he simply says, "no! i'm not finished with them yet!". and to top it off, the first time he saw them all he said was, "don't mind if i do!" with the biggest smile on his face. he really is a gem and i'm soo thankful to have met him. i know that finding a partner who adores your body is only half the battle. i still struggle with my BDD and it's still hard to really believe a lot of the things he says, but this experience has really showed me that it is possible for me to show my boobs to a guy without the world coming to an end, and it showed me what true intimacy is really like smile.gif


This makes me happier than you can imagine! I'm so glad you've found that and I'm glad he's so supportive. It will get easier and being nervous about it at first is normal. I remember when I first started sleeping with my boyfriend I used to cover up straight away and freak out like that. But the support from him is fantastic! I'm so happy for you Dee I hope this is the beginning of changing the way you see them.
I know you shouldn't need men to make you feel good about yourself but it really helps when someone finds them attractive!


KeraBear
QUOTE(DeeRayy @ Mar 24 2012, 07:56 AM) *
happy story time! biggrin.gif

i've been going on dates with a new, really sweet guy (the one mentioned earlier, he managed to make his way out of the friend zone) and after a few more dates i felt comfortable enough with him to bring him back to my apartment. we didn't have sex or anything, we just canoodled on my couch for a bit. but while he was kissing my neck he started you know, moving downwards and he pulled my blouse down until one of my boobies was exposed and started kissing it, but i got embarrassed and tried to pull it back. but instead of letting me he cupped them both with his hands and said, "babe, please don't be embarrassed, these are perfect". then he proceeded to take off my entire shirt and bra and continued to kiss and fondle them.

sooo, this was important because it was the first time i've ever let a guy see my breasts! i'm so happy that I was finally able to do it, because just last month i thought i would never be able to be completely naked with a guy because of my boobie issues. we've seen each other multiple times since this incident and i still blush and cover them a little when he first takes my bra off, but he just says something sweet like, "i don't get why you cover them up, all it does is block my tongue.". or if it comes off in the heat of the moment and i get self conscious after i've processed that i'm topless and ask to put my bra back on, he simply says, "no! i'm not finished with them yet!". and to top it off, the first time he saw them all he said was, "don't mind if i do!" with the biggest smile on his face. he really is a gem and i'm soo thankful to have met him. i know that finding a partner who adores your body is only half the battle. i still struggle with my BDD and it's still hard to really believe a lot of the things he says, but this experience has really showed me that it is possible for me to show my boobs to a guy without the world coming to an end, and it showed me what true intimacy is really like smile.gif


This makes me so happppy!!!! smile.gif Of course as we talked about many times here, we shouldn't depend on men to make us feel good about our hot lil booblets, but not gonna lie - experiences of honest appreciation does help. smile.gif This guy seems soooooo sweet. i am so happy for you, Dee. This is so huge for you! yay! I only hope that my next time goes as well. It's been over a year since a guy has been lucky enough to see my booblets and frankly the idea does make me a lil nervous. unsure.gif now that i am dating again i am sure it will happen sooner rather than later. But this is encouraging
secretsights88
I'm so happy for you, Dee!!! I know this was a huge step for you, but I'm so glad that your guy was so appreciative. I'm sure it feels like a small boobie victory for you... I hope it keeps going well for you, because honestly, the pleasure that comes from boobie loving is tremendous... I've even had orgasms just by that, when the right guy has done the right things... I didn't know it was possible, and it was... I don't always have orgasms by breast stimulation, but I've had, and it was awesome! And still, even when there are no orgasms, breast stimulation is still awesome.

Now, as for me, I have a question about breast envy sad.gif I feel like such a fool because of this! I have a friend who is a 36C or 34D depending on the bra, and she loves her breasts... she loves wearing tight fitting or low cut tops, and when I'm around her and around men, I feel so invisible. I know, it's stupid... but I also get a bit jealous when guys seem to pay more attention to her or call her beautiful and hot, or when they "like" or comment her pictures on Facebook (coincidentially only the ones in which her breasts are noticeable by either cleavage or tight clothes).

It's such a stupid situation... because for one these guys can't help finding her attractive and it's ok, and also because I know I'm pretty, smart, fun and talented, too, and yet I let some stupid guys' opinion make me feel down, I take it personally, and I know receiving that kind of attention is also creepy and not important, and yet sometimes I honestly find myself wanting it... has anyone gone through something like this? And how can I "de-stupidify" myself? I mean, I'm not even looking for a boyfriend, and yet I care about male attention... ugh... I make myself so angry sometimes...
skindeep1991
QUOTE(secretsights88 @ Mar 24 2012, 09:43 PM) *
Now, as for me, I have a question about breast envy sad.gif I feel like such a fool because of this! I have a friend who is a 36C or 34D depending on the bra, and she loves her breasts... she loves wearing tight fitting or low cut tops, and when I'm around her and around men, I feel so invisible. I know, it's stupid... but I also get a bit jealous when guys seem to pay more attention to her or call her beautiful and hot, or when they "like" or comment her pictures on Facebook (coincidentially only the ones in which her breasts are noticeable by either cleavage or tight clothes).

It's such a stupid situation... because for one these guys can't help finding her attractive and it's ok, and also because I know I'm pretty, smart, fun and talented, too, and yet I let some stupid guys' opinion make me feel down, I take it personally, and I know receiving that kind of attention is also creepy and not important, and yet sometimes I honestly find myself wanting it... has anyone gone through something like this? And how can I "de-stupidify" myself? I mean, I'm not even looking for a boyfriend, and yet I care about male attention... ugh... I make myself so angry sometimes...


I know exactly how you feel. I act exactly the same, I'm in a relationship but male attention is nice, It makes you feel desirable. And I used to have a friend DD that used to wear next to nothing whenever we went out and especially around my partner. It used to really put me off introducing her to anyone. But my envy is ridiculous to the point I don't want my boyfriend meeting half the girls I know in case he'd find them attractive. I think I'm still a little hurt about previous issues with him though.

Sadly enough I don't really know how you can 'de-stupidify' yourself because I haven't been able to, It's just there in my brain. I fixed that issue by not being friends with her anymore because she wasn't a very good friend but I suppose maybe you could talk to your friend about it? These situations clearly put a wedge between the friendship. I know this so called friend and I used to compete constantly. Well I'd feel like we were competing all the time because she enjoyed the attention and I like attention sometimes too. It wasn't a healthy friendship. I don't know much about your friendship or what this girl is like but if you guys are close maybe you could mention how you feel about it. She'll probably reassure you and talk about her insecurities as well which will make you feel better to know you're not alone. I think what we forget sometimes is that EVERYONE has insecurities regardless of what they are. so even though you're envying her breasts she might envy something about you that she's insecure about.

Sorry if I'm not much help I just replied to let you know you're not alone and I go through these crazy envying moments all the time.
we're only human. "grass is always greener" and what not
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karategrrl
DeeRayy, your story totally made my day, and I will probably be thinking about that for years! thank you for sharing--whether he knows it or not, that sweet guy has not only boosted (boob-sted??) you up but all of us as well. It's nice just knowing that there are people out there who can appreciate what we have.

Secretsight, I can relate to the breast envy thing. This is tough, especially when it's someone you come into contact with a lot in person, on FB, whatever. One of the things we've touched on in this forum is the fact that, for whatever reason, people (okay, mostly men) seem to make a big deal out of breasts, especially big ones--at least publicly. I dont' see anything significantly changing that in my lifetime. Don't feel stupid for feeling the way you do--they're your feelings and you are entitled to them! (Ha, enTITled.)

Men--and people in general--can and do appreciate all kinds of boobs and bodies and asses and everything. Proof of this is DeeRayy's new guy! Woot! But the big boob thing seems to be something that is much more popular or acceptable among people with big mouths and strong opinions that they make known.

For your own sanity and happiness, remember your own awesomeness and hotness especially when you are around her and, not to be catty--but this may really help you-- is there some physicial characteristic you possess that she does not? Keeping in mind your great hair, smile, eyes, legs, skin, pretty hands, even something fun you are wearing, can help build your confidence when you are around her. That said, if you have to limit certain situations with this person, do so. You're worth it.

I won't lie--this IS tough, but remember that it's something that many, many people must go through in some fashion. Some short guys are envious of tall guys, and think the girls only like them for that. Some people think they're too pale and envy those with mocha skin. Some people think blue eyes are best and envy those with blue eyes. Some people are missing a leg and may envy those with two, who can run easily. It goes on and on. I could guarantee that at some point in your life, someone envied YOU and/or attention YOU got.
DeeRayy
QUOTE(secretsights88 @ Mar 24 2012, 02:43 PM) *
Now, as for me, I have a question about breast envy sad.gif I feel like such a fool because of this! I have a friend who is a 36C or 34D depending on the bra, and she loves her breasts... she loves wearing tight fitting or low cut tops, and when I'm around her and around men, I feel so invisible. I know, it's stupid... but I also get a bit jealous when guys seem to pay more attention to her or call her beautiful and hot, or when they "like" or comment her pictures on Facebook (coincidentially only the ones in which her breasts are noticeable by either cleavage or tight clothes).

It's such a stupid situation... because for one these guys can't help finding her attractive and it's ok, and also because I know I'm pretty, smart, fun and talented, too, and yet I let some stupid guys' opinion make me feel down, I take it personally, and I know receiving that kind of attention is also creepy and not important, and yet sometimes I honestly find myself wanting it... has anyone gone through something like this? And how can I "de-stupidify" myself? I mean, I'm not even looking for a boyfriend, and yet I care about male attention... ugh... I make myself so angry sometimes...


hmmm, well what kind of attention are you talking about when you say "that kind" of attention? are you talking specifically about attention to your breasts, or are you talking about sexual attention in general? because if you are referring simply to sexual attention, anytime you catch a guy checking you out, or even any time you get asked out on a date, you're getting "that" kind of attention. sure, guys don't constantly stare down my blouse, but i think that anytime a guy shows any interest in dating/getting to know you , it's basically a given that he's attracted to you and would jump at the chance to have sex with you. yes big breasts catch a lot of stares, but that's because they're BIG. they're just more in your face than smallies, but smallies can be just as appreciated in a sexual situation. i mean, there's more than one way to garner sexual attention. and if you really feel like you want guys to stare at your chest, just try out wearing a push up bra for a day. it might be aided cleavage, but it's still your cleavage.
DeeRayy
Hey all!
So I'm taking a class on skepticism/the human belief sytstem (shout out to my psych majors out there!) and I just recently read a fascinating article on why humans are so good at maintaining irrational beliefs. and the jist of this article was that as humans we are pretty much hardwired to do so. And, as I was reading this article I automatically connected the concepts in it to my beliefs about my own body. I'd like to think of myself as an intelligent young lady, and I try to be as rational as I can, yet I still can't truly discard the fears I have in my head about my boyfriend not really liking my boobs/body as much as he says he does (i made the guy i talked about iin my last story my boyfriend, pretty smart decision if i do say so myself ^.^) even though he does nothing but show affection and enthusiasm for my body when we have sex. and i still can't explain why i still cringe and cover up when i have to take off my bra in front of him even though he has always reacted positively to seeing them. it just puzzles the crap out of me! he's always teling me how attractive he finds me, and i know at he's already seen my boobs and reacted positively to them before. so why the heck can't i just believe him when he tells me that he likes them and be comfortable with him seeing me naked? it's just so frustrating! but reading this article really gave me some insight as to why it's so hard to get rid of my negative beliefs about my body.

the article starts off by explaining that we are programmed to learn and make connections to things that co-occur rather than things that do not because the human brain naturally looks for patterns. (e.g., we think of our friend sally and she calls. we are now more likely to associate the events despite the countless thimes that sally has called us without us thinking of her beforehand because events that occur in unison have more impact on us). So , at age 18 when my first serious boyfriend broke up with me just two weeks after he had criticized my breasts, i made a connection in my brain to the two events and since i was looking for some sort of closure in the relationship i blamed everything on my breasts, which is what initially started this terrible cycle of hatred towards my body. and as we all know, it is very hard to simply un-learn a connection once it is made, especially if there i s a lot of emotion involved in the event. and here i am at 20 years old still fighting this association that exists only in my own head.

the article then talked about how human perception is largely a reality that we construct ourselves, and that our own biases and beliefs play a large part in constructing that reality. so, since i made a strong connection to my boobs and male disappointment long ago i am predisposed to inrepreting events in such a way as to support that association. so, whenever a new guy came along, he was already dissapointed by my boobs as far as i was concerned. and there was simply no way that the guy could win, because even if he had done nothing to make me think that he didn't like my body, the belief was already there in my head.

the article also states that the same rules apply to memory. our memories are also largely influenced by our belief and emotions, so we also tend to recall experiences in such a way that aligns in our beliefs. and i do this as well. when i was having casual sex with my neighbor, i would sleep over at his house and wake up the next morning, but in the morning would remember the sex in such a way that confirms my own beliefs about my body. for example, i'll think to myself "oh, he didn't even protest when i said i wanted to keep my bra on. he must not even have wanted to see them since they're so small/gross/dissapointing, etc." even though the reality was that i had never let him take off my bra before so he just probably didn't feel like trying anymore.

i know that my issues are a little more complicated than just a few connections that i made in my brain a couple of years ago, there's also the media and societal expectations and my own personal beliefs about womanhood. but this has really helped me take a look at my own faulty belief system and i think it's a starting point to figuring out how i can make an effort to look at situations (especially sexual situations with guys) logically instead of through my own personal biases. and hopefully this can help some of you too!
Gen♥
Hi everyone! I've been reading this forum for a while and I just really felt the need to thank all of you, this forum helped me so much... Each time I feel down because of my breast I come here and it's the only thing that truly helps me feel better. It’s incredible how I can relate to all of your posts, it makes me feel less lonely and stronger to know that I'm not the only one who thinks the way I do and also that you can live happy with your small booblets smile.gif

I'm 19 years old and my breast grew slowly until I was like 14 years old. When looking at the past, I feel a bit stupid because no one ever laughed of me or directly said anything mean about my small breast. I've always been around good and respectful person and I've been lucky for that... I've been the one starting jokes and negatives remarks about my breast but my friends never got to much into it. Still, as being teenage girls, we talked about breast and I was definitely the smallest one. No one ever said something negative but I've always feel like I was being taken in pity, like "having small breast is not the end of the world but... Yeah it sucks for you". I've been thinking about breast implants a long time but I realize it's truly against my values. Now, everything reminds me of my breasts, I'm probably thinking about them 50% of the time, it's an obsession. I need to be careful with the movies I watch because if there's a remark about small breast it makes me incredibly sad, I need to be careful with the music I listen, pop especially. Because of one song where they talk about big breast each pop songs makes me think about my breast, I'm very careful on the internet because of those ads where the breasts implants of some "sexy russian girl" who is "really attracted to eastern men " wants to meet me. Anyway, I feel like it's everywhere and it's very hard but I'm also conscious that it's mostly in my head, that I perceive everything negatively...

Oh well... that was long, sorry if some sentences are incoherent, english isn't my first language... and thanks again, I know it sounds cheesy but because of this threads I see a brighter future ahead of me smile.gif
skindeep1991
QUOTE(Gen♥ @ May 6 2012, 08:19 PM) *
I'm 19 years old and my breast grew slowly until I was like 14 years old. When looking at the past, I feel a bit stupid because no one ever laughed of me or directly said anything mean about my small breast. I've always been around good and respectful person and I've been lucky for that... I've been the one starting jokes and negatives remarks about my breast but my friends never got to much into it. Still, as being teenage girls, we talked about breast and I was definitely the smallest one. No one ever said something negative but I've always feel like I was being taken in pity, like "having small breast is not the end of the world but... Yeah it sucks for you". I've been thinking about breast implants a long time but I realize it's truly against my values. Now, everything reminds me of my breasts, I'm probably thinking about them 50% of the time, it's an obsession. I need to be careful with the movies I watch because if there's a remark about small breast it makes me incredibly sad, I need to be careful with the music I listen, pop especially. Because of one song where they talk about big breast each pop songs makes me think about my breast, I'm very careful on the internet because of those ads where the breasts implants of some "sexy russian girl" who is "really attracted to eastern men " wants to meet me. Anyway, I feel like it's everywhere and it's very hard but I'm also conscious that it's mostly in my head, that I perceive everything negatively...


Gen I know exactly how you feel, apart from one 'friend' I've not really had negative comments but even my mother used to take pity in me because of my breasts. I've gotten past it though and I hope one day you do as well. Your obsession with breasts is upsetting to hear because you shouldn't compare yourself to others. Maybe instead of concentrating on the big breasts concentrate on all the small ones out there. That's what I do, Instead of looking at to 100+ women in the movies with large breasts I notice the 2 with there small breasts and look at how gorgeous they are and how they carry themselves. Instead of making your breasts something you're ashamed about you should make them something to be proud of. Covering them up with a lot of padding is not going to help your confidence with them, Maybe make them something unusual, show them off. Trust me the men will look and they will not be displeased. The only negative comments breasts get are comments made by other insecure females.
My confidence has improved so much with them since I got them pierced (I'm not suggesting that this should be what you do if you don't want to) but perhaps by gorgeous lacy underwear that makes you feel sexy or wear tight fitting tops with no bra or very little padding. Start of just doing it around the house (this is how I did it) and look at them in the mirror from the side under your tight fitting top. I'll tell you now you're not going to be disappointed.

Think about it this way, How often do you see big breasts (not that they're not gorgeous also) and how often do you see false breasts. And because they're around all the time they become the norm right almost a little bit boring?...well small breasts I find are a lot more intriguing and I think most men think that as well. Sort of like a taboo, something that isn't seen often. Did you know that some beaches in Australia do not permit small breasted women in bikinis because its found to be too sexy?

Honestly, you need to learn to love them because they're part of you and they're going to be around forever, You will love them as you and your friends get a lot older and yours stay perky and small. They may even make you look younger. You need to stop worrying about other people and how you may be perceived, It's all about how you perceive yourself. If you love them, everyone else will. Wear those babies with pride =]

Also you mentioned songs about big breasts so I thought I'd drop this here too
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F2IB_1GuC7k

skindeep1991
Also Gem I thought these pages might be of help to you when you're having a bad day =]

http://theittybittytittycommittee.tumblr.com/

http://hoorayforsmallboobies.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahsmallboobs.tumblr.com/

DeeRayy
awww, it's been so dead around here
(sadface sad.gif )
earlgreytea
Hey everyone! I'm new here. I decided to join after reading this thread.

I'm 22 and have less than A cups.
Outlaw
I have been reading for a month or so. Just registered. I am 45 and less than A cups too.
DeeRayy
QUOTE(earlgreytea @ May 15 2012, 08:20 AM) *
Hey everyone! I'm new here. I decided to join after reading this thread.

I'm 22 and have less than A cups.



QUOTE(Outlaw @ May 15 2012, 04:25 PM) *
I have been reading for a month or so. Just registered. I am 45 and less than A cups too.


ahaha. those sounded like they came from sort of twelve step meeting. so i'll continue. hello ladies, my name is Deerayy, and i have small A cups,
*hello Deerayy*

welcome to you both! if you guys have any topics or questions you'd like to talk about in particular, please tell smile.gif
earlgreytea
QUOTE(DeeRayy @ May 15 2012, 09:08 PM) *
ahaha. those sounded like they came from sort of twelve step meeting. so i'll continue. hello ladies, my name is Deerayy, and i have small A cups,
*hello Deerayy*

welcome to you both! if you guys have any topics or questions you'd like to talk about in particular, please tell smile.gif


Well yeah, in a way I am seeking to actually at least like my boobs (I HATE them), so I could use a 12-step program right about now...
skindeep1991
Gisele here 20years old, Less than A's and I love them =]

welcome ladies I really hope you benefit from this blog I did. Love those boobies they're sexy

xXx

Gen♥
And Genevičve here, 19 years old, smallish A cups, learning to live happilly with them in this world tongue.gif
DeeRayy
QUOTE(earlgreytea @ May 16 2012, 07:55 AM) *
Well yeah, in a way I am seeking to actually at least like my boobs (I HATE them), so I could use a 12-step program right about now...


ah, i still feel like that on my bad days. i'm not sure where to start...have you tried anything thus far in terms of trying to embrace them? have you had negative experiences? i know my negative experiences when i was youger were what brought me here in the first place.
earlgreytea
QUOTE(DeeRayy @ May 16 2012, 07:47 PM) *
ah, i still feel like that on my bad days. i'm not sure where to start...have you tried anything thus far in terms of trying to embrace them? have you had negative experiences? i know my negative experiences when i was youger were what brought me here in the first place.


I haven't really tried anything in terms of trying to embrace them because I don't even know how to do that. I don't know where to start. I tried to find cute tops that flatter my bust, but while all XS tops fit in the bust area, they are too tight in the rib area, so I can't wear those. And size small tops are too big in the bust area. So all of my tops are unflattering. I've tried just wearing v-neck t-shirts, but someone told me they aren't flattering because they aren't feminine enough on me or something. :/

I have had quite a few negative experiences. A guy friend said I have "the figure of a 12 year old boy", a lady friend once compared my boobs to grapes, another lady friend (when we were trying on tops) said "You'll only be able to fit into that if you stuff." Random other strangers on the internet have said things like "Why is there a huge gap where your boobs should be", "implants are better than NOTHING", said that I'm completely unattractive, partially because I have "no boobs" and "am flat", etc.
Outlaw
QUOTE(earlgreytea @ May 17 2012, 09:06 AM) *
I haven't really tried anything in terms of trying to embrace them because I don't even know how to do that. I don't know where to start. I tried to find cute tops that flatter my bust, but while all XS tops fit in the bust area, they are too tight in the rib area, so I can't wear those. And size small tops are too big in the bust area. So all of my tops are unflattering. I've tried just wearing v-neck t-shirts, but someone told me they aren't flattering because they aren't feminine enough on me or something. :/

I have had quite a few negative experiences. A guy friend said I have "the figure of a 12 year old boy", a lady friend once compared my boobs to grapes, another lady friend (when we were trying on tops) said "You'll only be able to fit into that if you stuff." Random other strangers on the internet have said things like "Why is there a huge gap where your boobs should be", "implants are better than NOTHING", said that I'm completely unattractive, partially because I have "no boobs" and "am flat", etc.


I'm so sorry to hear you had those negative comments. I know how hard it is to simply dismiss them. While I am much older than most or all on this forum(45), I can remember EVERY negative comment I ever got about my breasts when I was young. I will say that things get better as you get older. I found that once I got well into my 20s, no one cared at all what my breasts looked like and all negative comments stopped. I definitely cared more than anyone else. But we live in a breast obsessed society and it's really hard to be a woman who does not have what society says makes us "sexy" and "womanly." That point cannot be minimized. I have enjoyed reading the kind words and and support on this forum. It has helped me. But I do admit that while I am much more accepting of my breasts now, I still wish I had more and it has been an issue for me my entire life. I wonder if it is harder for young women today as there are so many getting fake ones. Oh and keep looking for flattering clothes. They are out there. It's a lot of work but trust me it's possible. I have struggled with that too.
DeeRayy
QUOTE(earlgreytea @ May 17 2012, 07:06 AM) *
I have had quite a few negative experiences. A guy friend said I have "the figure of a 12 year old boy", a lady friend once compared my boobs to grapes, another lady friend (when we were trying on tops) said "You'll only be able to fit into that if you stuff." Random other strangers on the internet have said things like "Why is there a huge gap where your boobs should be", "implants are better than NOTHING", said that I'm completely unattractive, partially because I have "no boobs" and "am flat", etc.


oh wow. i am very sorry that you've had to go through that. i've had a few negative comments but nothing quite as bitter as what you have heard. just know that those comments were probably more about making you feel bad than about your appearance. some people just like to bring others down. my last two sexual partners have repeated the "boobs are boobs, it doesn't matter" phrase multiple times to me. heck, my most recent boyfriend practically tried to hardwire it into my head! it suprises me that you've recieved such comments. and if that is indeed you in your profile picture, let me just say that you are GORGEOUS. if anything the other women were probably just jealous of how thin you are. trust me when i say you have nothing to worry about in the looks department

and if any of the old busties are around, i have a new dilemma! me and my last boyfriend (the one who practically worshipped my body) just recently broke up. i know, it's a shame but i'm just not in a place where i can be in a healthy relationship with someone right now. first i must work on having a healthy relationship with myself, or else i'm just gonna keep driving my future boyfriends crazy with my insecurity and refusal to be completely intimate. plus it was long distance and those hardly ever work in college.

anywho, it's been a month since we've been broken up and i just got invited to over to a new guy's apartment on monday night. and i'm pretty sure he's expecting to hook up. the thing is, i got kinda used to my ex's super positive reaction to my body, and i'm really afraid this new guy is going to react lukewarm at best. idk what to do. i haven't had sex in a month so i'm not dying or anything but it would be nice (especially since i find him really attractive). but i'm not sure if i'll be able to handle the anxiety, and i'm afraid i'm gonna go back to leaving my bra on during sex again, which would make me really sad since i made so much progress with my last boyfriend.
DeeRayy
Went on a date with a new guy this weekend and had sex without apologizing for my boobies for the first time ever! i was even able to take off my bra (well i mean, i was able to let him take it off haha). progress progress progress!

if there are any young girls reading this, it gets better with time, it really does! just half a year ago i was contemplating never being naked with a guy, ever. and now i've been able to take it all off with two guys, and both of them reacted positively smile.gif
skindeep1991
QUOTE(DeeRayy @ May 21 2012, 06:06 AM) *
Went on a date with a new guy this weekend and had sex without apologizing for my boobies for the first time ever! i was even able to take off my bra (well i mean, i was able to let him take it off haha). progress progress progress!

if there are any young girls reading this, it gets better with time, it really does! just half a year ago i was contemplating never being naked with a guy, ever. and now i've been able to take it all off with two guys, and both of them reacted positively smile.gif


That's brilliant news! I'm so happy with how far you've come de, you must feel so empowered right now =D remember you are one sexy lady and as long as you think that others will think it too =D
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earlgreytea
QUOTE(Outlaw @ May 17 2012, 05:42 PM) *
I'm so sorry to hear you had those negative comments. I know how hard it is to simply dismiss them. While I am much older than most or all on this forum(45), I can remember EVERY negative comment I ever got about my breasts when I was young. I will say that things get better as you get older. I found that once I got well into my 20s, no one cared at all what my breasts looked like and all negative comments stopped. I definitely cared more than anyone else. But we live in a breast obsessed society and it's really hard to be a woman who does not have what society says makes us "sexy" and "womanly." That point cannot be minimized. I have enjoyed reading the kind words and and support on this forum. It has helped me. But I do admit that while I am much more accepting of my breasts now, I still wish I had more and it has been an issue for me my entire life. I wonder if it is harder for young women today as there are so many getting fake ones. Oh and keep looking for flattering clothes. They are out there. It's a lot of work but trust me it's possible. I have struggled with that too.


I certainly hope it does get better for me as I get older. I have a bf, and he says he loves my boobs. He says it is more about "the whole package." But he also said "I have nothing against big boobs." This phrase pops up in my head every time I feel terrible about the fact that I barely have any boobs.
Are there any particular stores you've discovered that have flattering clothes for members of the itty bitty titty committee?

It does really suck that our society is so obsessed with breasts-- and not just breasts, but big breasts or at least "average" sized.

QUOTE(DeeRayy @ May 18 2012, 02:02 AM) *
oh wow. i am very sorry that you've had to go through that. i've had a few negative comments but nothing quite as bitter as what you have heard. just know that those comments were probably more about making you feel bad than about your appearance. some people just like to bring others down. my last two sexual partners have repeated the "boobs are boobs, it doesn't matter" phrase multiple times to me. heck, my most recent boyfriend practically tried to hardwire it into my head! it suprises me that you've recieved such comments. and if that is indeed you in your profile picture, let me just say that you are GORGEOUS. if anything the other women were probably just jealous of how thin you are. trust me when i say you have nothing to worry about in the looks department


It surprised me that I would get such comments too, but pretty much because I can't understand why anyone would consciously be so cruel. Surely they must know how hurtful their words are, but they act as though I'm being oversensitive. If I dare get upset, then obviously I'm the crazy one. Sigh.

"Boobs are boobs" is a good mantra. Sadly, since I have less than As, I just don't believe it would apply to me.

Sadly my profile pic is just a particularly good pic of me. I don't look that good in real life. I feel that I am average-looking at best. :/ I look more like this:

http://i.imgur.com/JtkpP.jpg
http://i.imgur.com/jQvNO.jpg
Outlaw
QUOTE(earlgreytea @ Jun 7 2012, 11:45 AM) *
I certainly hope it does get better for me as I get older. I have a bf, and he says he loves my boobs. He says it is more about "the whole package." But he also said "I have nothing against big boobs." This phrase pops up in my head every time I feel terrible about the fact that I barely have any boobs.
Are there any particular stores you've discovered that have flattering clothes for members of the itty bitty titty committee?

It does really suck that our society is so obsessed with breasts-- and not just breasts, but big breasts or at least "average" sized.
It surprised me that I would get such comments too, but pretty much because I can't understand why anyone would consciously be so cruel. Surely they must know how hurtful their words are, but they act as though I'm being oversensitive. If I dare get upset, then obviously I'm the crazy one. Sigh.

"Boobs are boobs" is a good mantra. Sadly, since I have less than As, I just don't believe it would apply to me.

Sadly my profile pic is just a particularly good pic of me. I don't look that good in real life. I feel that I am average-looking at best. :/ I look more like this:

http://i.imgur.com/JtkpP.jpg
http://i.imgur.com/jQvNO.jpg

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