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Outlaw
It definitely gets better as you get older. Of course, then there are more things to obsess about. Kidding! biggrin.gif Your boyfriend is right that it is about the whole package. I know many guys(but NOT all) are obsessed with boobs but remember they are trained to be by our culture. I want to say again (because I think it is sooo important) that having small breasts in a world that worships them is TOUGH! For me, it helps to acknowledge that because it validates very real feelings that not many other women can relate to. Regarding clothes, up until a few years ago, I had all these rules about what I could and could not wear because of my extra small chest. I would only wear boring loose fitting tops. It was atrocious. Now granted I can't wear tops with fitted cups, etc. and don't even get me started on bathing suits, but I wear what I want now. I can't say there is any particular store where I find more flattering tops but I just look harder and longer now. I try on more things that I used to think I could not wear and I am surprised. I was really limiting myself. Now whenever I go shopping I pull everything I like and always try something outside of my comfort zone. I am no longer afraid to wear more fitted clothing on top. Hey world, they are small ---deal with it!

Thanks for your response.

PS-- I saw your pictures--you are beautiful!
Alain
QUOTE(earlgreytea @ Jun 7 2012, 12:45 PM) *
I certainly hope it does get better for me as I get older. I have a bf, and he says he loves my boobs. He says it is more about "the whole package." But he also said "I have nothing against big boobs." This phrase pops up in my head every time I feel terrible about the fact that I barely have any boobs.
Are there any particular stores you've discovered that have flattering clothes for members of the itty bitty titty committee?

It does really suck that our society is so obsessed with breasts-- and not just breasts, but big breasts or at least "average" sized.
It surprised me that I would get such comments too, but pretty much because I can't understand why anyone would consciously be so cruel. Surely they must know how hurtful their words are, but they act as though I'm being oversensitive. If I dare get upset, then obviously I'm the crazy one. Sigh.

"Boobs are boobs" is a good mantra. Sadly, since I have less than As, I just don't believe it would apply to me.

Sadly my profile pic is just a particularly good pic of me. I don't look that good in real life. I feel that I am average-looking at best. :/ I look more like this:

http://i.imgur.com/JtkpP.jpg
http://i.imgur.com/jQvNO.jpg


Hey, I don't know if this happens often but I'm a guy! My girlfriend Is constantly on this website (I won't say who in case I'm embarrassing =P) and she showed me your post. What you said describes exactly our relationship! I've even told her many times that I have nothing against big breasts. I often feel as if she wants me to hate big breasts the same way she does, but I just don't. I don't find them particularly attractive, but I can't say I find them hideous either. The thing about the whole package is SO very true!!! It's a combination of all your aspects that determine if you're attractive and not the cup size of your breasts. And even there, being 'attractive' is very subjective. Everyone has different tastes. No guys is gonna say 'OH! I love blonde hair so I'm only attracted to blonds!' The same goes for breasts. Normal/sane guys don't work that way. We might have a few minor preferences, but it's all about proportions and how everything fits together. I'm not saying that individual parts of your body can't be good looking by themselves, it's just that what counts the most is how they all fit together. For example, I find that my girlfriend has the prettiest sparkling brown eyes, the hottest long flowing brown hair and the sexiest breasts that I've ever seen! (Plus, she has the thighs of a goddess!! xD). I think it could be possible that another girl, somewhere on this planet, has similar hair or eyes, but as long as she is not identical to her, she will never be as attractive to me as my girlfriend! There will always be something missing.

What your boyfriend meant by 'I have nothing against big breasts' obviously isn't that he would rather you had them. It just means that if it was your personality in another body with bigger breasts, he would still find you attractive and want to be with you. It's not the breasts that attract him, but the girl that has them. A guy shouldn't let one aspect of a girls appearance decide if she's good looking or not. To me, a chubbier girl with bigger breasts would be more attractive than a skinny girl with big breasts and a small/skinny girls would look more attractive with small breasts than big ones. (I am NOT trying to insult anyone, those are just MY personal preferences).

From the point of view of a guy, I think that it's important to mention that you should be careful how you act around your bf.. Honestly, I think there should be support groups like this one for guys who date small breasted girls lol. If he tells you something about breasts (or any part of an appearance) don't jump to any conclusions, start crying right away or get mad at him.. It's thing like that, that will make him put up walls and be more defensive when he's with you. He'll have trouble telling you how he feels in fear that you overreact and trust will be gone. Just don't worry, if he's with you, it's because he wants to. No one is forcing him. All I'm saying is to at least TRY to believe what he says and to not question his honesty. If he didn't like your breasts, he wouldn't be saying that he loves them all the time. He would just avoid the subject.

That being said, society does encourage the liking of big breasts with all the ads, songs, movies etc. BUT, do you really want to date a guy who can't decide what attracts him in a woman and follows trends like a guinea pig? I LOVE listening to pop, watching Hollywood movies, etc, but I generally find smaller breasts more attractive than bigger ones. If your bf tells you you're pretty, it's because he can talk for himself. I hope you believe him. And never forget that IF he didn't like your breasts, he wouldn't have been attracted to you in the first place. Btw, I saw your pictures and you're beautiful so stop complaining =) I'd like to add that guys will always stare at your chest! It doesn't matter if you have big or small breasts, guys are attracted to that area naturally! The problem is that small breasted women try to cover their breasts up and then complain about no guys flirting with them. Dress 'slutty', go out and be confident for one night and I promise that all the guys will be all over you! Confidence is sexy!

Sorry for the long post, I tend to get carried away when writing thing like this.. Oh and my name is Allen, I am 19 and the size of my breasts isn't worth mentioning =P Have a good day =)
Outlaw
QUOTE(Alain @ Jun 10 2012, 10:32 AM) *
Hey, I don't know if this happens often but I'm a guy! My girlfriend Is constantly on this website (I won't say who in case I'm embarrassing =P) and she showed me your post. What you said describes exactly our relationship! I've even told her many times that I have nothing against big breasts. I often feel as if she wants me to hate big breasts the same way she does, but I just don't. I don't find them particularly attractive, but I can't say I find them hideous either. The thing about the whole package is SO very true!!! It's a combination of all your aspects that determine if you're attractive and not the cup size of your breasts. And even there, being 'attractive' is very subjective. Everyone has different tastes. No guys is gonna say 'OH! I love blonde hair so I'm only attracted to blonds!' The same goes for breasts. Normal/sane guys don't work that way. We might have a few minor preferences, but it's all about proportions and how everything fits together. I'm not saying that individual parts of your body can't be good looking by themselves, it's just that what counts the most is how they all fit together. For example, I find that my girlfriend has the prettiest sparkling brown eyes, the hottest long flowing brown hair and the sexiest breasts that I've ever seen! (Plus, she has the thighs of a goddess!! xD). I think it could be possible that another girl, somewhere on this planet, has similar hair or eyes, but as long as she is not identical to her, she will never be as attractive to me as my girlfriend! There will always be something missing.

What your boyfriend meant by 'I have nothing against big breasts' obviously isn't that he would rather you had them. It just means that if it was your personality in another body with bigger breasts, he would still find you attractive and want to be with you. It's not the breasts that attract him, but the girl that has them. A guy shouldn't let one aspect of a girls appearance decide if she's good looking or not. To me, a chubbier girl with bigger breasts would be more attractive than a skinny girl with big breasts and a small/skinny girls would look more attractive with small breasts than big ones. (I am NOT trying to insult anyone, those are just MY personal preferences).

From the point of view of a guy, I think that it's important to mention that you should be careful how you act around your bf.. Honestly, I think there should be support groups like this one for guys who date small breasted girls lol. If he tells you something about breasts (or any part of an appearance) don't jump to any conclusions, start crying right away or get mad at him.. It's thing like that, that will make him put up walls and be more defensive when he's with you. He'll have trouble telling you how he feels in fear that you overreact and trust will be gone. Just don't worry, if he's with you, it's because he wants to. No one is forcing him. All I'm saying is to at least TRY to believe what he says and to not question his honesty. If he didn't like your breasts, he wouldn't be saying that he loves them all the time. He would just avoid the subject.

That being said, society does encourage the liking of big breasts with all the ads, songs, movies etc. BUT, do you really want to date a guy who can't decide what attracts him in a woman and follows trends like a guinea pig? I LOVE listening to pop, watching Hollywood movies, etc, but I generally find smaller breasts more attractive than bigger ones. If your bf tells you you're pretty, it's because he can talk for himself. I hope you believe him. And never forget that IF he didn't like your breasts, he wouldn't have been attracted to you in the first place. Btw, I saw your pictures and you're beautiful so stop complaining =) I'd like to add that guys will always stare at your chest! It doesn't matter if you have big or small breasts, guys are attracted to that area naturally! The problem is that small breasted women try to cover their breasts up and then complain about no guys flirting with them. Dress 'slutty', go out and be confident for one night and I promise that all the guys will be all over you! Confidence is sexy!

Sorry for the long post, I tend to get carried away when writing thing like this.. Oh and my name is Allen, I am 19 and the size of my breasts isn't worth mentioning =P Have a good day =)



Wow, thanks Allen for the AWESOME post! It was a pleasure to read. Your girlfriend is very lucky. We small breasted women DO believe what you say but we are constantly bombarded with images that we don't look like so it's hard. But thank you for stating the obvious. We know you guys can think for yourselves and are attracted to more than one body part. But it's great to hear you say it so well. You rock!
skindeep1991
QUOTE(Alain @ Jun 10 2012, 03:32 PM) *
Hey, I don't know if this happens often but I'm a guy! My girlfriend Is constantly on this website (I won't say who in case I'm embarrassing =P) and she showed me your post. What you said describes exactly our relationship! I've even told her many times that I have nothing against big breasts. I often feel as if she wants me to hate big breasts the same way she does, but I just don't. I don't find them particularly attractive, but I can't say I find them hideous either. The thing about the whole package is SO very true!!! It's a combination of all your aspects that determine if you're attractive and not the cup size of your breasts. And even there, being 'attractive' is very subjective. Everyone has different tastes. No guys is gonna say 'OH! I love blonde hair so I'm only attracted to blonds!' The same goes for breasts. Normal/sane guys don't work that way. We might have a few minor preferences, but it's all about proportions and how everything fits together. I'm not saying that individual parts of your body can't be good looking by themselves, it's just that what counts the most is how they all fit together. For example, I find that my girlfriend has the prettiest sparkling brown eyes, the hottest long flowing brown hair and the sexiest breasts that I've ever seen! (Plus, she has the thighs of a goddess!! xD). I think it could be possible that another girl, somewhere on this planet, has similar hair or eyes, but as long as she is not identical to her, she will never be as attractive to me as my girlfriend! There will always be something missing.

What your boyfriend meant by 'I have nothing against big breasts' obviously isn't that he would rather you had them. It just means that if it was your personality in another body with bigger breasts, he would still find you attractive and want to be with you. It's not the breasts that attract him, but the girl that has them. A guy shouldn't let one aspect of a girls appearance decide if she's good looking or not. To me, a chubbier girl with bigger breasts would be more attractive than a skinny girl with big breasts and a small/skinny girls would look more attractive with small breasts than big ones. (I am NOT trying to insult anyone, those are just MY personal preferences).

From the point of view of a guy, I think that it's important to mention that you should be careful how you act around your bf.. Honestly, I think there should be support groups like this one for guys who date small breasted girls lol. If he tells you something about breasts (or any part of an appearance) don't jump to any conclusions, start crying right away or get mad at him.. It's thing like that, that will make him put up walls and be more defensive when he's with you. He'll have trouble telling you how he feels in fear that you overreact and trust will be gone. Just don't worry, if he's with you, it's because he wants to. No one is forcing him. All I'm saying is to at least TRY to believe what he says and to not question his honesty. If he didn't like your breasts, he wouldn't be saying that he loves them all the time. He would just avoid the subject.

That being said, society does encourage the liking of big breasts with all the ads, songs, movies etc. BUT, do you really want to date a guy who can't decide what attracts him in a woman and follows trends like a guinea pig? I LOVE listening to pop, watching Hollywood movies, etc, but I generally find smaller breasts more attractive than bigger ones. If your bf tells you you're pretty, it's because he can talk for himself. I hope you believe him. And never forget that IF he didn't like your breasts, he wouldn't have been attracted to you in the first place. Btw, I saw your pictures and you're beautiful so stop complaining =) I'd like to add that guys will always stare at your chest! It doesn't matter if you have big or small breasts, guys are attracted to that area naturally! The problem is that small breasted women try to cover their breasts up and then complain about no guys flirting with them. Dress 'slutty', go out and be confident for one night and I promise that all the guys will be all over you! Confidence is sexy!

Sorry for the long post, I tend to get carried away when writing thing like this.. Oh and my name is Allen, I am 19 and the size of my breasts isn't worth mentioning =P Have a good day =)


This post has made my day =D! I wish guys would post on here more often and give their opinion on things.
I know I'm guilty of telling my boyfriend that he doesn't like them when he says he does and is always groping at them. It's just because of past experiences. But posts like this make me smile because it makes me think that he does mean it... Thanks for making me smile
KeraBear
Hello by small boobied sistahs! Sorry it's been soooooo long since I've posted. I just finished off the first year of college, just started a new job. It's been so busy! Lots going on. Deerayy, your latest story put a big ol' smile on my face. You've come such a long way, grrl! I see we have some "new faces" too. Welcome! And earlgreytea, I agree with the conclusion of fellow small busties - you are absolutely beautiful. Small rack and all.

Did you know that today is National No Bra Day? Who's participating??? smile.gif LOL It's funny, a few years ago, I wouldn't dare even though days like those are practically taylor made for gals like us. But I've found since that it really can be quite... surprisingly liberating.

Hey I was watching some 30 Rock the other day and in one of the episodes Hazel (played by the always awesome Kristen Schall) walked into the writers room wearing just a bra. She said, "Hey guys, eyes down here. I do have breasts, you know!" LOL It was funny to me because sometimes we small bustiest have the opposite problem than our larger sistahs. Yea, it probably gets annoying having people stare at your chest alot, but for us sometimes simple acknowledgements that I actually have breasts would be nice now and then. Guys pay too much attention to my eyes! lol
KeraBear
QUOTE(skindeep1991 @ May 7 2012, 02:10 PM) *
Also Gem I thought these pages might be of help to you when you're having a bad day =]

http://theittybittytittycommittee.tumblr.com/

http://hoorayforsmallboobies.tumblr.com/

http://fuckyeahsmallboobs.tumblr.com/


These are great, SD!

I especiallg appreciated the first link because it was the only one that seemed to be a legitamite community. The other two seemed to be straight up pornographic. LOL!
EllenRose
Hey ladies, I feel like I need to vent a little. I wish I could love my 34A boobs...I really do. I've tried lying to convince myself that I'm comfortable with them...but I'm not. I hide them under padded bras. Having to wear swimsuits is a nightmare. I've been self conscious about them since middle school when all the other girls started budding and I didn't. I have a sweet, loving boyfriend who doesn't me feel bad about my tiny cup size...at least not on purpose. I know he's into large breasts and once in a while he'll make a comment about big tits that makes me REALLY uncomfortable. unsure.gif I fake having confidence but the truth is a lot of days I just want to break down and cry. Our society is so focussed on a false idea of perfection - being skinny, having large breasts, having flawless skin...I hate that it makes me feel disgusted with myself. My breasts aren't even cute like small ones are "supposed to be". They're a weird shape and I don't like my nipples. I just want so bad to feel good about myself...but some days it's just so hard...
Gen♥
QUOTE(EllenRose @ Jul 28 2012, 12:19 PM) *
Hey ladies, I feel like I need to vent a little. I wish I could love my 34A boobs...I really do. I've tried lying to convince myself that I'm comfortable with them...but I'm not. I hide them under padded bras. Having to wear swimsuits is a nightmare. I've been self conscious about them since middle school when all the other girls started budding and I didn't. I have a sweet, loving boyfriend who doesn't me feel bad about my tiny cup size...at least not on purpose. I know he's into large breasts and once in a while he'll make a comment about big tits that makes me REALLY uncomfortable. unsure.gif I fake having confidence but the truth is a lot of days I just want to break down and cry. Our society is so focussed on a false idea of perfection - being skinny, having large breasts, having flawless skin...I hate that it makes me feel disgusted with myself. My breasts aren't even cute like small ones are "supposed to be". They're a weird shape and I don't like my nipples. I just want so bad to feel good about myself...but some days it's just so hard...

I pretty much understand how you feel. Today's standards of beauty are simply ridiculous and I am always disgusted by the values promoted in our society. And all those things simply to make us feel insecure and spends more money... ugh!! Back to the subject! I understand this need of feeling good about yourself... I always feel as if i want to be happy but I am not allowed to because I have small breast. But I shouldn't care about those who make me feel this way. I am now trying to accept my breast as much as possible and the best trick I found is actually to wear the least padding or... no bras at all! Also, the fact that your boyfriend is into bigger breast must be really hard and I think (in my opinion) that passing comments is a bit mean... Is he aware of your insecurities? Some psychological studies I've seen showed that a big part of men who prefer bigger breast are more easy to influence, they are followers. In other words, men are conditioned to like big breast but you can maybe reverse that (sorry for talking about your boyfriend as if he was Pavlov's dog). Talk to him about the advantages of your small breast like the fact they won't hang in the future so you will look young longer or the fact that they give you more pleasure when they are touched as there is less fat cells around the nerves... there is so many reasons for a guy to love small breasts smile.gif
maybe this link has already been sent here but... here it is again! http://www.cosmopolitan.com/advice/health/...re-good-for-you
DeeRayy
Hello busties! I know this board has long been abandoned but I thought I'd share some oil paintings which show small breasted, thicker women like myself in all their glory. Whenever I'm feeling down about my unique body type I just look up old Bouguereau paintings. It's much better than trying to flip through a magazine, as most of the women are either stick thin or impossibly curvaceous. I'm trying to appreciate the diversity in the female form. More importantly, I'm trying specifically to appreciate the beauty in my own form, and that's what these paintings help me do. Here are some of my favorites-

The Birth of Venus (not the super famous one, but one where venus seriously resembles me from the neck down)
http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m8g61e6h...blp7eo1_500.jpg

La Perle
http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4c1z4Bl...izpqvo1_500.jpg

Douleur d’Amour
http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m8jojqgA...zidz6o1_500.jpg

I see my own body in the shapes of these women, and that really helps me when I feel like a weirdo stuck in a weirdo body. I may be a lot thinner and in better shape than I used to be but I've come to accept the fact that there's always gonna be a small layer of softness to my body, and I'm ok with that. It's just not that common to see other women with small breasts who aren't extremely thin, and that has always been a big part of my problem. But looking at these paintings helps me see the beauty in my own body type.

Which brings up another fun little tool I've started using. Another problem I've always had with myself is that I look very young. I've got a petite frame (5'3), modest proportions, and I've got a plump little heart shaped face (I've playfully been called "chipmunk" before). Plainly put, I'm "cute". So, this has always made me feel very uncomfortable with embracing my sexual side. I've always associated sexiness with mature looking, voluptuous women (aka, porn stars). And that's just not me. Then, once I started looking at these old paintings I also started reading greek mythology and was reminded of the nymphs. You know, those deities that would disguise themselves as young women and playfully taunt satyrs with their beauty before turning into a tree of a bunch of reeds. Here's an image of one for reference-

http://conchigliadivenere.files.wordpress....nymph.jpg?w=534

A big part of what I love about them is how their young look and playful spirit was what would lure men to chase them. Because THAT, my friends, is totally me. I'm young and cutesy. In bed I'm totally playful and bubbly, and I love being a tease. So now instead of comparing myself to some porn star while I'm in bed, I like to think of myself as a frisky little nymph. It might sound silly, but it really helps. It just fits me so well and really helps me embrace who I naturally am. In fact, the last guy I slept with told me himself, "You're such a cute, horny little thing. I love it!". So I encourage you all to find a sexy little persona that YOU connect to, instead of looking to what porn and the media dictate as sexy. It could be a naughty schoolgirl, a sexy little pixie, whatever you calls to you!

Much love to you all smile.gif

KeraBear
Dee... those links were great! Definitely not something we see posted here often, plus it confirms my long-time suspicions about you - your body is a work of art. wink.gif Hee hee   and i LOVE that you seem to have come into your own in the bedroom (just based on what you've shared of your experiences in the past on this board.  Not that i know from personal experience with you or nothing... i felt like i should explain that to the other readers. LOL!). That makes me happy. Kind of inspires me to just say, "awww fuck it" and let my partner feel the full force of my personality the next time i am doing the deed. smile.gif it's difficult because when i am naked i feel so... vulnerable. But you go you frisky lil nymph you! ha! love it! smile.gif

beenm
Hi. I'm new to this forum. I've read some of the posts and I thought it would help me to talk about some of my own thoughts.
I'm a 32AA and sometimes I feel fine with it, but most of the time, I just can't help feel bad about it. From my experience, most girls that have small breasts are very slim all over. I'm not like that. I have a big butt, big thighs, and I'm short. I feel like my body isn't proportioned right. It also doesn't help that everyone that meets me thinks I'm 14 when I'm actually 19 years old. I think they base my age on how developed my body is (especially from the chest). At least, I know my grandmother does. She always indirectly mentions how small I am from that area. She says things like, "The neighbor's daughter looks older than you, she developed really quick" or (for any of you that speak/understand spanish) "tu mama llego tarde a la repartision contigo." The thing is that I don't really want to talk about it with her since she has a bigger problem than I do. She has gone through breast cancer twice and so had to get both taken completely off.
Aside from my grandmother past experiences with guy comments have really affected me. I was walking to class one day after lunch and a random guy saw me and said, "Even I have bigger boobs than her." I tried not to show that it affected me, but those words have stayed with me ever since. I know it's coming from someone whose opinion shouldn't matter to me, but it still does.
The one person who has helped me at some points is my ex-boyfriend who is now my best friend. (I know, it's weird.) He has always told me that he prefers small breasts and that mine are perfect. I can see he really means it, but his words just get put aside by all the other negative thoughts and words around me.
Sorry for going on for so long. It just helps to know I can I actually say this to people who can understand what I'm going through and the thoughts that constantly run through my mind.
Outlaw
QUOTE(beenm @ Aug 19 2012, 08:51 PM) *
Hi. I'm new to this forum. I've read some of the posts and I thought it would help me to talk about some of my own thoughts.
I'm a 32AA and sometimes I feel fine with it, but most of the time, I just can't help feel bad about it. From my experience, most girls that have small breasts are very slim all over. I'm not like that. I have a big butt, big thighs, and I'm short. I feel like my body isn't proportioned right. It also doesn't help that everyone that meets me thinks I'm 14 when I'm actually 19 years old. I think they base my age on how developed my body is (especially from the chest). At least, I know my grandmother does. She always indirectly mentions how small I am from that area. She says things like, "The neighbor's daughter looks older than you, she developed really quick" or (for any of you that speak/understand spanish) "tu mama llego tarde a la repartision contigo." The thing is that I don't really want to talk about it with her since she has a bigger problem than I do. She has gone through breast cancer twice and so had to get both taken completely off.
Aside from my grandmother past experiences with guy comments have really affected me. I was walking to class one day after lunch and a random guy saw me and said, "Even I have bigger boobs than her." I tried not to show that it affected me, but those words have stayed with me ever since. I know it's coming from someone whose opinion shouldn't matter to me, but it still does.
The one person who has helped me at some points is my ex-boyfriend who is now my best friend. (I know, it's weird.) He has always told me that he prefers small breasts and that mine are perfect. I can see he really means it, but his words just get put aside by all the other negative thoughts and words around me.
Sorry for going on for so long. It just helps to know I can I actually say this to people who can understand what I'm going through and the thoughts that constantly run through my mind.



Thanks so much for sharing that. I am new to the forum too and I know it is hard to put yourself out there. I do understand what you are going through. I remember all the negative comments too. The random jerk who made that totally rude comment to you is just awful and I am sorry. I have noticed in my own experience and on the pages of this forum that the men in our lives are often extremely supportive of how our bodies look but somehow it's not enough. I just think it is so hard to be a woman who doesn't look like the ideal woman we see on TV, etc. the image that society has stamped us with. But we all come in different shapes and sizes. My breasts are about your size or smaller. I am on the thin side but I too feel by body lacks proportion. I hate seeing thin women with larger breasts or even normal sized ones for that matter. For most of my life (and I am much older than most or all of you) I felt like I was somehow left out of the "woman club." I didn't get the right equipment so I didn't count as a real woman. I know that sounds crazy and I have moved past that in many respects but it was how I felt for a good chunk of my life. It does help me to connect with people that write about how I have felt in my life in this area. I wish I had more up top, even just a little more, but it ain't gonna happen. So I try to make the best of it. If I see someone looking at my chest, I think to myself, "that's right, they're small...deal with it." It has taken me some time to get to that point. I say embrace the curves you have and remember that sexuality and woman-ness are not confined to cup size.
DeeRayy
QUOTE(beenm @ Aug 19 2012, 06:51 PM) *
Hi. I'm new to this forum. I've read some of the posts and I thought it would help me to talk about some of my own thoughts.
I'm a 32AA and sometimes I feel fine with it, but most of the time, I just can't help feel bad about it. From my experience, most girls that have small breasts are very slim all over. I'm not like that. I have a big butt, big thighs, and I'm short. I feel like my body isn't proportioned right. It also doesn't help that everyone that meets me thinks I'm 14 when I'm actually 19 years old. I think they base my age on how developed my body is (especially from the chest). At least, I know my grandmother does. She always indirectly mentions how small I am from that area. She says things like, "The neighbor's daughter looks older than you, she developed really quick" or (for any of you that speak/understand spanish) "tu mama llego tarde a la repartision contigo." The thing is that I don't really want to talk about it with her since she has a bigger problem than I do. She has gone through breast cancer twice and so had to get both taken completely off.
Aside from my grandmother past experiences with guy comments have really affected me. I was walking to class one day after lunch and a random guy saw me and said, "Even I have bigger boobs than her." I tried not to show that it affected me, but those words have stayed with me ever since. I know it's coming from someone whose opinion shouldn't matter to me, but it still does.
The one person who has helped me at some points is my ex-boyfriend who is now my best friend. (I know, it's weird.) He has always told me that he prefers small breasts and that mine are perfect. I can see he really means it, but his words just get put aside by all the other negative thoughts and words around me.
Sorry for going on for so long. It just helps to know I can I actually say this to people who can understand what I'm going through and the thoughts that constantly run through my mind.


Hello! and thank you for sharing your story. I know exactly how you feel. I'm 20 years old, a size 36A, and only 5 foot three inches. I still get hit on by 14 and 15 year old boys. It really does bother me that so many people mistake me for someone so much younger. It really is hard to feel like a woman in my body sometimes. I find it funny that you don't like having large hips and a butt. I myself have small hips, small boobs, and a small (albeit round) butt, and I have always longed to at least be fuller on one half of my body. So just know that there's always someone that wants what you have.

I too have experienced negative comments. Some were from a past boyfriend , and since then I always have this nagging feeling of not being "enough", even though all of the other men i've been with have never said anything negative about my body. Some even praised it, yet it doesn't undo the damage that those few negative comments made. I'm sorry you have had to experience the sting of negative comments. It's painful and it's not easy to deal with, I know. But just remember that when someone makes comments like that to others it only reflects their need to bring others down in order to feel better about themselves. In other words, it's about them, not you.

Everyone's story is different, so I think it would be good to try and dig deep down to why you feel the way you do about your body. Ask yourself these questions-
Why do you feel that the size of your breasts matters?
What do you feel you would achieve by having larger breasts?

Just write down your answers to these questions and then leave them alone. Distract yourself for a bit and then come back later to try and look at them from a logical point of view. It is more than likely that you won't have a valid, logical answer to either of these questions.

Another thing you can do is challenge your own negative thoughts when you feel them coming on. If you're anything like me, you probably fall victim to downward spirals of negative thoughts- "I'm not womanly, I'm not attractive, My boyfriend is probably disappointed by my body". These thoughts don't actually have any truth or validity to them. It's just our inner critic spiraling out of control. I used to simply let myself fall victim to these thoughts and would get trapped in endless cycles of self-deprecation. But for the sake of your happiness and your mental well being, you should promise yourself that when you feel thoughts like these starting to ruminate you will make a conscious effort to stop them in their tracks. Just develop a mantra, such as "No! I am not going to do this to myself." or "Stop! These thoughts aren't true and they're only hurting me."

hope some of this helped!
Smalltatas
Hi, I'm new to the forum and wanted to share a similar story which might sound familiar to some of you. Before I share my story, I'm 23 years old, petite 5'00 ft, a 32b and I have a relatively fit body. One day I was chatting with this guy on Skype who is interested in me romantically. As I was about to leave and run some errands, I asked him to turn the cam to his face so I could see him. He jokingly said, "sure i'll do it for a price!" I then replied "what price would that be?" Then the words came right out of his mouth and my heart sank into my stomach, "get implants on me!" I tried to play it cool and keep myself together and asked him "what for?" he then replied "to make them grow!" I didn't want to look hurt so I laughed it off and kept myself together. I know he was joking but I couldn't believe how cold he was and obviously that really killed my confidence. Ever since then I've been infatuated with the idea of getting implants. It also doesn't help the fact that all the women in my family on both sides have bigger breasts than mine. I feel as if I still have a body of an underdeveloped 12 year old girl and not a 23 year old woman. It hurts so bad sometimes and the worst part is that I can't do anything about it. sad.gif
Outlaw
QUOTE(Smalltatas @ Sep 4 2012, 02:38 PM) *
Hi, I'm new to the forum and wanted to share a similar story which might sound familiar to some of you. Before I share my story, I'm 23 years old, petite 5'00 ft, a 32b and I have a relatively fit body. One day I was chatting with this guy on Skype who is interested in me romantically. As I was about to leave and run some errands, I asked him to turn the cam to his face so I could see him. He jokingly said, "sure i'll do it for a price!" I then replied "what price would that be?" Then the words came right out of his mouth and my heart sank into my stomach, "get implants on me!" I tried to play it cool and keep myself together and asked him "what for?" he then replied "to make them grow!" I didn't want to look hurt so I laughed it off and kept myself together. I know he was joking but I couldn't believe how cold he was and obviously that really killed my confidence. Ever since then I've been infatuated with the idea of getting implants. It also doesn't help the fact that all the women in my family on both sides have bigger breasts than mine. I feel as if I still have a body of an underdeveloped 12 year old girl and not a 23 year old woman. It hurts so bad sometimes and the worst part is that I can't do anything about it. sad.gif


God, that is such an obnoxious thing to say. What an ass! I am really sorry for the pain that has caused you. Personally I would dance in the streets if I had a B cup. I am less than A. Don't let this dumb guy mess with your self image or define you as "less than."You are too good for that BS. That guy revealed himself to be a total jerk. Only hang with people who think you are perfect as you are. I wish there was an easy way to purge those comments from our minds but I know how insidious they can be. But the more you think about what he said, the more power over you it has. Don't go there...
sweetpea22
Hey everyone!
I am also new to this so forgive me if I post in the wrong section etc! I often find myself on the internet when I'm feeling negative about my breast size which is a 32A and I am so pleased I found this group! Usually when I seek to reassure myself that I am not the only one with small boobs I find lots of posts from teenage girls around 14 or 15 struggling with their breast size. Of course I am not belittling their concerns and high school is a really tough time when everyone else seems to have boobs, yet I am 22 now and it is so encouraging to see that their are other girls my age who are still struggling with this! Where I live, summer is fast approaching and I am dreading it! The last two summers weren't very warm so I was able to get out of swimming and wearing really summery clothing. I managed to wear a lot of scarves to detract from my chest yet I feel the weather will be too warm for me to survive summer in this way again. Some of the things I have read regarding comments from males about small boobs are so disheartening! I actually have been fortunate never to have had that to my face (although who knows what is said behind my back!) but I have had very negative comments from other girls. One time I was trying on dresses for my friend's wedding and the lady measured my breasts and couldn't believe how small they are! It just sucks. If I'd been overweight she probably wouldn't have said anything but it seems that the same sensitivity doesn't apply to small breasts. Anyway I've never had a boyfriend. I have been asked out quite a few times but I am too self-conscious about my looks. I don't want to bring those insecurities into a relationship! I am waiting until marriage to have sex but these days I figure I don't even want a boyfriend cos one day I hope to get married and I worry they'll be disappointed! I have worn padded bras since I was 16 and I really want to stop but how do that now? I just wish I actually needed a bra to support my breasts rather than enhance! I just kept thinking every year they would grow and now it's just not going to happen. I also always get mistaken for being younger than I am and I'm convinced it's related to my breast size. Anyway I've gone on long enough so thank you to anyone who reads this! smile.gif
Smalltatas
QUOTE(Outlaw @ Sep 4 2012, 05:40 PM) *
God, that is such an obnoxious thing to say. What an ass! I am really sorry for the pain that has caused you. Personally I would dance in the streets if I had a B cup. I am less than A. Don't let this dumb guy mess with your self image or define you as "less than."You are too good for that BS. That guy revealed himself to be a total jerk. Only hang with people who think you are perfect as you are. I wish there was an easy way to purge those comments from our minds but I know how insidious they can be. But the more you think about what he said, the more power over you it has. Don't go there...


You are definitely right about thoughts having power over me I started to notice it really has, now I'm shy to put myself out there with a guy. I guess the only thing I can do right now is just keep on wearing push up bras and hope for the best in the future!
Outlaw
QUOTE(Smalltatas @ Sep 9 2012, 01:36 PM) *
You are definitely right about thoughts having power over me I started to notice it really has, now I'm shy to put myself out there with a guy. I guess the only thing I can do right now is just keep on wearing push up bras and hope for the best in the future!


Trust me when I tell you, it won't matter as you get older. You are still in the age group when looks are overly important. It really does get better but I also know that I am my own worse enemy.
Smalltatas
QUOTE(Outlaw @ Sep 9 2012, 05:53 PM) *
Trust me when I tell you, it won't matter as you get older. You are still in the age group when looks are overly important. It really does get better but I also know that I am my own worse enemy.


Funny you should say that, I tell myself that all the time! I guess theres no way around but to accept it unsure.gif
DeeRayy
QUOTE(sweetpea22 @ Sep 9 2012, 01:03 AM) *
I've never had a boyfriend. I have been asked out quite a few times but I am too self-conscious about my looks. I don't want to bring those insecurities into a relationship! I am waiting until marriage to have sex but these days I figure I don't even want a boyfriend cos one day I hope to get married and I worry they'll be disappointed!


Girl, I'm an a-cup and on top of that i'm not particularly thin, but I've gotten plenty of attention from guys. I've dated five guys just this year and it's not even over yet! And you know what else? I slept with four of them and NONE of them said anything negative about my body. If guy is attracted to you , that's pretty much the bottom line. Furthermore, if a guy is willing to wait until marriage to sleep with you, he's going to be grateful to even be in the presence of your naked body. Just please try and get rid of your negative thoughts, they are NOT true. I've chased away one too many good guys with my crippling insecurities and believe me, you don't want to be that person.

This is my new motto for when I start having fears of disappointing someone:
Relationships are much more than just sex.
Human sexuality is much more than physical attractiveness.
And physical attractiveness is much more than the size of your breasts.

Do you see how small the insecurity feels when you think of it that way?
mopamopa
What's wrong with small breast? http://www.undergx.com/nude_photos/picture...173/category/11 I like it, seems attractive.
Smalltatas
This past weekend I was talking to my coworker whose sister is a model in NYC. My coworkers sister wanted to try out to be a VS model, but only to find out a requirement for VS model is that you have to have an a cup or b cup. My coworker also told me that they put extra padding in the push up bras and also duck tape on sides to really push it up.
I know I'll never look at a VS model the same ever again and it also makes me feel better about myself.
Hope this helps you all as well
KeraBear
Hey all you fine small busties!! Just thought I would check in.

> Trust me when I tell you, it won't matter as you get older. You are still in the age group when looks are overly important. It really does get better but I also know that I am my own worse enemy.

Thank you for this, Outlaw. This is so true! I am *only* 19, but i've done soooooooo much growing since i first came here as a 16 year old (well, not my booblets, *sigh*, but you know what i mean). i mean i was a hot mess. A lot of us were. Heck, DeeRayy wouldn't even take off her bra for a dude, and now she is like exotic goddess of the small boobies! laugh.gif I know she will send a pose soon disagreeing... but I don't care. smile.gif i guess what i am saying is that it is a process. Hang in there. we're on this journey together!!


> This is my new motto for when I start having fears of disappointing someone:
Relationships are much more than just sex.
Human sexuality is much more than physical attractiveness.
And physical attractiveness is much more than the size of your breasts.



LOVE IT! smile.gif

Sweetpea - oh i totally understand about the negative comments from other girls! I always thought that i would get the most teasing from guys, but for the most that hasn't been the case. I wonder why this is? maybe it is jealousy issues. i've always been quite petite and perhaps the snarky comments about my lack of boobage makes them feel better about themselves somehow? there is a lot of pressure to be skinny out there...

> I also always get mistaken for being younger than I am and I'm convinced it's related to my breast size.

Me too!!! And i am also convinced of this! But then i've always been of the mindset that boobs=femininity. And that since i have smaller boobs than most gals (including a fairly good number of junior highers, but don't get me started on THAT), i am somehow less of a woman. And that is so wrong wrong wrong!!!!

Outlaw - I have question. Since you are one of the "older" (i use that term loosely!) members here, and you don't have to answer if you don't want to. But you know how they say that one of the advantages to having small boobs is that they stay perky as you get older? Has this been your experience? Again, sorry if i get too personal!!

Outlaw
Outlaw - I have question. Since you are one of the "older" (i use that term loosely!) members here, and you don't have to answer if you don't want to. But you know how they say that one of the advantages to having small boobs is that they stay perky as you get older? Has this been your experience? Again, sorry if i get too personal!!

No, not too personal at all. They have sagged some but not much. Granted they are prettay prettay small but they don't look all that different from when I was in my 20s. I'm in my 40s now. So that's something, right!? : )

This forum is so nice. I wish I had it when I was all your ages. I suffered a lot, felt unwomanly, inadequate, you name it. I never had a guy express any displeasure with how I looked. So I really did torture myself needlessly. I can relate to much of what I read here and it helps heal some wounds even at my age. So thanks to everyone who has shared.
sweetpea22
QUOTE(DeeRayy @ Sep 13 2012, 07:37 PM) *
Girl, I'm an a-cup and on top of that i'm not particularly thin, but I've gotten plenty of attention from guys. I've dated five guys just this year and it's not even over yet! And you know what else? I slept with four of them and NONE of them said anything negative about my body. If guy is attracted to you , that's pretty much the bottom line. Furthermore, if a guy is willing to wait until marriage to sleep with you, he's going to be grateful to even be in the presence of your naked body. Just please try and get rid of your negative thoughts, they are NOT true. I've chased away one too many good guys with my crippling insecurities and believe me, you don't want to be that person.

This is my new motto for when I start having fears of disappointing someone:
Relationships are much more than just sex.
Human sexuality is much more than physical attractiveness.
And physical attractiveness is much more than the size of your breasts.

Do you see how small the insecurity feels when you think of it that way?


Sorry this is such a slow reply! I truly appreciate the time you took replying though DeeRayy! That is soooo true actually that they might just be happy to be in the presence of my naked body when the time comes. haha I hadn't even thought of it like that so thank you! That's so encouraging as well that none of those guys have said anything negative. I guess it really is all in our minds sometimes! Your motto is so good too! It's funny when you say it out aloud you wonder why you simplify things so much when there really are so many other factors involved! smile.gif
sweetpea22
Sweetpea - oh i totally understand about the negative comments from other girls! I always thought that i would get the most teasing from guys, but for the most that hasn't been the case. I wonder why this is? maybe it is jealousy issues. i've always been quite petite and perhaps the snarky comments about my lack of boobage makes them feel better about themselves somehow? there is a lot of pressure to be skinny out there...

> I also always get mistaken for being younger than I am and I'm convinced it's related to my breast size.

Me too!!! And i am also convinced of this! But then i've always been of the mindset that boobs=femininity. And that since i have smaller boobs than most gals (including a fairly good number of junior highers, but don't get me started on THAT), i am somehow less of a woman. And that is so wrong wrong wrong!!!!

KeraBear,

It's funny I actually never write on online forums and I wasn't sure what to expect with this one but it's so nice to know there really is someone out there who also understands this! My friends and family know I get annoyed when people mistake my age yet they don't understand why but you do. I do always feel my lack of boobs makes me look like a little girl. I didn't consider that maybe they were jealous as I am quite slim, especially when I was at school. But you're totally right boobs do not equal being less of a woman! I also just read Outlaw's reply to your question and at least I can look forward to not having sagging breasts! Also, Outlaw is so right- everyone on this board is really lovely!
earlgreytea
I recently bought a bralette online in size small...and it was too big. I'm still really angry/sad about it. I've had other bralettes in size small fit me, but they push my boobs down and make them look smaller than they really are. And a medium would just be too big. I don't know what I'm supposed to wear! 32As are too baggy in the cup. According to an apparently reliable online bra size guide, I would be a 30B or a 30C. That's way smaller than it sounds, trust me! The actual cup in a 30B or 30C is smaller than the cup in a 32 or 34 B or C. First off...It is really hard to find either of those sizes. And I don't know which size out of those I would be since I am kind of inbetween.
I haven't ordered a bra in either of those sizes mostly because I am afraid they will still be baggy and unflattering on me. It's my last hope for having a bra fit, so if it doesn't work out...I'm screwed.
I'm 23 and still hate my boobs. sad.gif I'm not even that thin! 5'4" and 115 to 118 lbs. :/
KeraBear
QUOTE(sweetpea22 @ Sep 26 2012, 03:38 AM) *
KeraBear,

It's funny I actually never write on online forums and I wasn't sure what to expect with this one but it's so nice to know there really is someone out there who also understands this! My friends and family know I get annoyed when people mistake my age yet they don't understand why but you do. I do always feel my lack of boobs makes me look like a little girl. I didn't consider that maybe they were jealous as I am quite slim, especially when I was at school. But you're totally right boobs do not equal being less of a woman! I also just read Outlaw's reply to your question and at least I can look forward to not having sagging breasts! Also, Outlaw is so right- everyone on this board is really lovely!


Yeah, it really is nice to be around people who understand what we are going through! yeah, looking and feeling like a little girl sounds about right. i dunno... growing up i always felt like getting "boobs" was like some kind of rite of passage into womanhood and i sorta got cheated out of that. And of course bveig the last of my friends to start my period certainly didn't help things either (although these days i wish i coulda gone a lil longer without that. LOL) But again, WRONG thinking! But yes! When we are older, we will certainly appreciate looking younger, yea?!? Yay for perky lil booblets! smile.gif

QUOTE
Also, Outlaw is so right- everyone on this board is really lovely!


Thanks, you are lovely, too! smile.gif Yeah, this board has been great. i recommend just taking some time to read through some of these PAGES and PAGES of conversation from over the months (or years, geeez, that is a lot of small boobie talk). That's really helped me out some. Go back far enough and you'll probably even stumble across a few of my own emotional meltdowns - like that time that i found the porn on my BFs computer or when my younger sister first started growing "real" boobs. OY. Not my finest moments, but my small bustie friends here helped me through it all.

Outlaw - thanks for the response. Any time you want to know anything personal about MY boobs, just ask. i can't promise an answer. Depends on how personal you wanna get. LOL But your response was encouraging! smile.gif

earlgreytea - yea shopping can suck so muuuuch sometimes. Especially when you are shopping online because sometimes you just never know what you are gonna get! sad.gif Hang in there, grrrrl and hope you find what you are looking for!!
KeraBear
A victory for small busties everywhere! smile.gif

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haneul
It's nice to know that there are other girls out there who get how I feel sometimes.. it can get difficult having small boobs.

I recently re-measured myself and found my numbers to be 28.5" and 30.5" for my underbust and overbust. Does this put me at a 28B size?
buttercups
Hi ladies, remember me?? Sorry to bust in here (no pun intended), I've missed you all and have had very little time to myself due to starting a new job where a work 12 hr days, but that's another story. I'm being faced with a dilemma that only my small busties can help me with and I need your advice desperately.

I've been taking birth control pills for about 10 years now, and about 2 years ago I tried that new pill seasonable where you don't get your period for 3 months. That part was great but I got a very bad side effect- it killed my sex drive completely. I put up with this for a year because the pill enlarged my breasts a bit and it lasted for 3 months instead of the monthly deflating effect I had had with any other pill. However this side effect grew to be unbearable so I ended up switching back to my old pill, lo estrin24. Needless to say my sex drive has still not returned and I now have little to no interest in sex. I feel asexual and it's completely unlike my old self. I was doing a lot of research on this and it turns out that this side effect may be irreversible, as the estrogen in the pill binds to all of the testosterone in your body thats needed for your sex drive. I live with my long term bf and as you can imagine this is really starting to take a toll on us.

Lately I've been getting sick of feeling this way and have been considering taking myself off the pill for the first time in 10 years (I went on it in the first place for management of horrible periods, which also scares me) to see if my libido might return at all. However I am only about a AA cup with the pill and without it I am completely 100% flat-chested. My small cup size goes down even smaller the week I take placebo pills, and I hate how I look so much and can't wait until i start the estrogen pill to makes them go up again. The only reason I've stayed on the pill this long is because of my breast size, and I'm really scared about how I will feel when they go back to their original size of not even a AA cup. I also have body dystrophic disorder to make this even worse and the size of my chest has been my biggest tormentor. This has been put at bay a bit by the small increase in size I get from the pill. Also, I've been with my bf almost 5 years and I'm terrified because he has never seen my true breast size. I still get self-conscious about him seeing my chest now, so what will happen when it gets even worse?

So the question is should I stop taking my pill and risk losing what little breast tissue I have and deal with horrible periods to try and get my libido back, or should I just stay on the pill and remain disinterested in sex completely so I can have the body I feel more comfortable in? Any opinions would be most appreciated from the only people I expect to most understand, feels good to be back !
KeraBear
QUOTE(buttercups @ Oct 11 2012, 10:11 PM) *
Hi ladies, remember me?? Sorry to bust in here (no pun intended), I've missed you all and have had very little time to myself due to starting a new job where a work 12 hr days, but that's another story. I'm being faced with a dilemma that only my small busties can help me with and I need your advice desperately.

I've been taking birth control pills for about 10 years now, and about 2 years ago I tried that new pill seasonable where you don't get your period for 3 months. That part was great but I got a very bad side effect- it killed my sex drive completely. I put up with this for a year because the pill enlarged my breasts a bit and it lasted for 3 months instead of the monthly deflating effect I had had with any other pill. However this side effect grew to be unbearable so I ended up switching back to my old pill, lo estrin24. Needless to say my sex drive has still not returned and I now have little to no interest in sex. I feel asexual and it's completely unlike my old self. I was doing a lot of research on this and it turns out that this side effect may be irreversible, as the estrogen in the pill binds to all of the testosterone in your body thats needed for your sex drive. I live with my long term bf and as you can imagine this is really starting to take a toll on us.

Lately I've been getting sick of feeling this way and have been considering taking myself off the pill for the first time in 10 years (I went on it in the first place for management of horrible periods, which also scares me) to see if my libido might return at all. However I am only about a AA cup with the pill and without it I am completely 100% flat-chested. My small cup size goes down even smaller the week I take placebo pills, and I hate how I look so much and can't wait until i start the estrogen pill to makes them go up again. The only reason I've stayed on the pill this long is because of my breast size, and I'm really scared about how I will feel when they go back to their original size of not even a AA cup. I also have body dystrophic disorder to make this even worse and the size of my chest has been my biggest tormentor. This has been put at bay a bit by the small increase in size I get from the pill. Also, I've been with my bf almost 5 years and I'm terrified because he has never seen my true breast size. I still get self-conscious about him seeing my chest now, so what will happen when it gets even worse?

So the question is should I stop taking my pill and risk losing what little breast tissue I have and deal with horrible periods to try and get my libido back, or should I just stay on the pill and remain disinterested in sex completely so I can have the body I feel more comfortable in? Any opinions would be most appreciated from the only people I expect to most understand, feels good to be back !


Hi Buttercups! Yea, how could we forget you?!!! Wow. Yeah, i can totally understand your frustrations over this situation. I guess you have to ask yourself which you really value more - a healthy sex drive or maintaining the breast tissue that you have. For me it would be the former. From what it sounds like you're BF really seems to care for you - big breasts, small breasts, or no breasts - otherwise he wouldn't have stuck with you for so long. But if you two aren't connecting physically anymore, it could create some huge problems. I'd focus on the low/no sex drive bit. Have you talked with him about all this? I would do that. But I think maybe the best thing to do, if you haven't done so yet, is maybe talk to a doctor. Maybe there are still other pill alternatives yet that you could try? And then still enjoy the "best of both worlds"? Hang in there, grrl!
Rosaletta
I have an additional problem besides being small breasted. When I had surgery to correct inverted nipples, the doctor removed most of areola. Where there is no areola, there are scar lines. The doctor also added a skin graft around sides of areola, which is white and will not tattoo. I look like a breast cancer patient who has not yet had nipple/areola reconstruction. It is stressful for me to be put under for surgery because I do not want medical staff seeing my nipples. Since I did not have breast cancer, others must be confused why my nipples look this way. I am too embarrassed to have any heart or mammogram tests.
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melymay
Hi I am new here...I am happy that I have finally joined since I realized I could use a supportive group of women to help me get thru. I have had my boobies on my mind a lot lately since I have been single and unemployed. I am just in a muck of insecurity and feeling down and the people in my life are just making it worse. So thank you ladies for being a part of this forum because I feel soo much better knowing I am not alone.
I have mostly had family and friends make fun of my small boobies otherwise I would like them very much. So ever since I have felt bad and worthless due to these comments from the people I thought loved and cared about me I have been obsessed about my boob size and it is really stopping me from being successful because I literally stare at women's breasts just to decipher what size they are to see who is more attractive. I know it's horrible but it's true and I reallllly want to stop.
Anyways, on a positive note, a guy I met awhile ago once saw my small boobies while we were kanoodling on the couch and he stared at them and said they were Perfect! I still can not believe my ears when I recall this...This has got to be the nicest thing any guy has ever said to me! smile.gif
I wish I could get myself to believe it so I could stop feeling so down....
melymay
QUOTE(Rosaletta @ Nov 9 2012, 09:23 AM) *
I have an additional problem besides being small breasted. When I had surgery to correct inverted nipples, the doctor removed most of areola. Where there is no areola, there are scar lines. The doctor also added a skin graft around sides of areola, which is white and will not tattoo. I look like a breast cancer patient who has not yet had nipple/areola reconstruction. It is stressful for me to be put under for surgery because I do not want medical staff seeing my nipples. Since I did not have breast cancer, others must be confused why my nipples look this way. I am too embarrassed to have any heart or mammogram tests.


Hi Rosaletta, I am new in this forum but I just want to say that I understand that you feel like you don't want anyone to see your nipples due to surgery because I sometimes feel bad about my inverted nipple, the little bit of hair around my nipple, and the my skin around my breasts is acne prone. So I understand feeling like you don't want anyone to see it but believe me you are not alone because my boobies are small and I have these other issues. But you still should get your mammograms and heart tests because it is for your health and well-being. And I'm sure you have a lot of great qualities too and you can see them better if you don't focus on what's just wrong but also on what's right.

Sometimes I think of all those people born with deformities and still lead happy lives. I feel we should do the same.

Hope this helps! You are not alone!
Smalltatas
I recently went to VS and found out I've been wearing the wrong bra size this whole time! Instead of a B-cup I'm an A-cup...i came home devastated sad.gif
I've been thinking a lot about getting implants. Nothing over the top like DD's, just nice full C's so I can be confident when I wear a bathing suit...
A told a friend of mine about getting implants and she told me, "If you do, I will take them out and slap you with them! DON'T do it!"
Any help anyone?? does this seem like an ok idea??
melymay
QUOTE(Smalltatas @ Nov 20 2012, 08:18 PM) *
I recently went to VS and found out I've been wearing the wrong bra size this whole time! Instead of a B-cup I'm an A-cup...i came home devastated sad.gif
I've been thinking a lot about getting implants. Nothing over the top like DD's, just nice full C's so I can be confident when I wear a bathing suit...
A told a friend of mine about getting implants and she told me, "If you do, I will take them out and slap you with them! DON'T do it!"
Any help anyone?? does this seem like an ok idea??


I personally wouldn't do it eventhough sometimes I feel really bad about myself....I just don't think it's worth the pain and all the risk that come with surgery. Honestly, I don't mind having small breasts, it's more about how other people treat me and talk to me that bother me. If you have people in your life that love and respect you like your friend who told you not to do it does, I would just stay natural.
melymay
I went into a flurry of tears today....My mom came in my room while I was watching a movie and looked at my thighs and said wow you are getting fat....you don't look good. And I got sooo upset because I am pear shaped so most of my fat goes to my thighs and so my boobs are still smaller than my bottom half. I think it should be a crime to criticize people's bodies. I think I feel horrible because I think no guy would ever like me because of my shape but then I realized...one day a guy is going to find my shape perfect and I won't have to worry about rude comments.
I draw strength from women like Audrey Hepburn and Lea Michele. Lots of women with small busts lead fabulous lives...I just gotta figure out how.
StephanieBPL
Hello everyone! biggrin.gif

My name is Stephanie and I am the owner and founder of a lingerie line which is made for US!!

Like many of you, I have struggled with my body image for years and a lack of confidence in my bust.

After months of frustration in trying to find lingerie for my upcoming honeymoon I expressed my feelings to my husband about how horrible it made me feel to never find anything in my size. I half joked to him that I should just make my own. His reply was simple and to the point "Then do it".

Shortly after we married Jeff deployed to Afghanistan for a year and to make the year pass more quickly, I researched the lingerie industry. My hope was to scour the internet and find products designed for small busted women like me and to open an online boutique with those lines.

I quickly realized that there was NOTHING made just for small busted ladies. Sure there were things made in small sizes, or padded so thickly that it just makes you feel worse when you take it off, but nothing specifically made for us.

I started sketching things that would work with our body types and our curves, no matter how subtle they may be. I researched what designs work best for the petite busted frame and came up with two initial items to produce.

Jeff returned from Afghanistan with some injuries which would require a year to recover from due to several surgeries which were needed. He spent his year researching American based manufacturers and we found a partner here.

Our line is different from others in that we produce products which are specifically designed for us. As I mentioned, everything off the shelf in chain stores are made for sizes 32A all the way to 38DD. We know that we have much different needs and different things flatter us as opposed to our friends with much larger sizes.

I use sweet heart and plunging necklines which draw attention to the center of the chest. There is a small contrasting bow which is hand sewn on each item in the middle. I also use an Empire waistline with elastic under the bust to help gather the material and allow you to fill the cup, no matter your size. The products are made of sheer stretch material. The piece highlights the petite bust as opposed to covering it up under thick padding. Women should feel proud to show off what they have, no matter what size they are.

I have a drawer full of lingerie I never wear because they don't make me feel sexy or attractive. The first time I put on my piece I felt like a million dollars. I felt sexy and attractive because for the first time I had a product which worked with me, rather than against me. Now of course you expect me to say that because it is my product, but our model, who can be seen on our page, had the same reaction.

I have faced similar struggles as many of you over the years, and my hope is to spare others the continued pain of feeling like the lingerie industry has forgotten they exist, or worse, feeling like they are not attractive enough to where lingerie since they are petite busted.

I encourage you to check out our website and see our two new Sheer Collection items. Since I am a petite busted woman, I have tried my own products and can truly attest to how they not only look and feel great on, they also make you feel amazing, which is equally as important.

I hope you will share this with your petite busted friends so we can allow other ladies to look and feel great in their own skin!

Warm wishes,

Stephanie

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anarch
Drive-by posting a link to this Guardian piece on campaigns against everyday sexism in media that creates a crap environment for women, both generally and for those of us with small breasts: A woman is worth more than her cup size

I haven't been around for several months, but it's nice to see familiar usernames and new ones too!

Buttercups, the same thing happens to me with every pill I've tried. Thanks for your info as I never researched it and had no idea that the low libido may be unfixable. Yikes. I've been off the pill for other reasons for about 3 years now (just using condoms) and my libido came back, enough, but not nearly what it was. Personally I'm happier with my libido back & un-pill-enhanced boobs, but that's just me. Could you maybe experiment for a few months, go off the pill & see how you feel about your body? You could always go back on them.

I've been meaning to post here as well because in the past 6 months I started hitting the weight machines at the gym that exercise the pectoral muscles, and whee, just like Stronggirl said, the pec muscle development did nice things for my chest! It didn't make my breasts bigger, but (as I think she said) it gave them a real solid, firm foundation that somehow helped fill out my cups more nicely than they had before. Is Stronggirl still around?

StephanieBPL, I particularly like this set and this babydoll.
StephanieBPL
Hello Everyone!

Anarch, thank you for the feedback! That set is one of my favorites too and my husband is a very big fan of the Babydoll wink.gif The link you posted was broken, so here it is again Babydoll that Anarch and my husband like!

I also wanted to share a sale we are having now!

Save 20% on our Sheer Collection today through Friday! We will also throw in free shipping when you order our line of products, using the coupon code freeship. Ladies, share your wish list with your partner. Guys, not sure what to get your lady? Order her a gift certificate!

http://www.BellaPetiteLingerie.com

Regardless of which religious holiday you may celebrate, or none at all, we hope you have a safe and happy Holiday Season!

S.
Smalltatas
QUOTE(melymay @ Nov 24 2012, 08:52 PM) *
I went into a flurry of tears today....My mom came in my room while I was watching a movie and looked at my thighs and said wow you are getting fat....you don't look good. And I got sooo upset because I am pear shaped so most of my fat goes to my thighs and so my boobs are still smaller than my bottom half. I think it should be a crime to criticize people's bodies. I think I feel horrible because I think no guy would ever like me because of my shape but then I realized...one day a guy is going to find my shape perfect and I won't have to worry about rude comments.
I draw strength from women like Audrey Hepburn and Lea Michele. Lots of women with small busts lead fabulous lives...I just gotta figure out how.


I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. I know a lot of people including me who wish they had your body shape. But sadly people like me are skinny all over with absolutely nothing to grab on to. So hold your head up high and forget about those comments! I also found this online and im starting to do this workout: http://www.fitnessblender.com/v/article-de...ure-Workout/52/

hope it helps
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_Vendetta
Hei girls, I was a serious "poster" about 4 years ago, gladly I think I've gotten better over time. I did not think about this forum for a long time until now. Long story short, for the last 6 months my AA breasts have gotten bigger from the pill and suddenly, a month ago, they deflated again. That happened to me before some years ago. It fucking hurts.

So about an hour ago, I got this early Christmas present from this friend, like the most beautiful, perfect woman ever - and she has implants due to 2 pregnancies, and she said to me that they were the "best thing ever" for her confidence - oh well she offered me lingerie. She knew I could wear barely any lingerie but she thought she should give it a try - "they were the smallest on the store" - Guess what: it didn't fit.

For the first time in years, all alone, I bursted in tears when I tried the damn bra. I looked so ridiculous. And I know she's going to ask for it tomorrow and I don't know if I should tell her the truth or lie just to see her happy. Shit. How can I feel less of a woman for this? I'm 28 and still don't understand.

Cheers for u all :*
StephanieBPL
QUOTE(_Vendetta @ Dec 22 2012, 06:56 PM) *
Hei girls, I was a serious "poster" about 4 years ago, gladly I think I've gotten better over time. I did not think about this forum for a long time until now. Long story short, for the last 6 months my AA breasts have gotten bigger from the pill and suddenly, a month ago, they deflated again. That happened to me before some years ago. It fucking hurts.

So about an hour ago, I got this early Christmas present from this friend, like the most beautiful, perfect woman ever - and she has implants due to 2 pregnancies, and she said to me that they were the "best thing ever" for her confidence - oh well she offered me lingerie. She knew I could wear barely any lingerie but she thought she should give it a try - "they were the smallest on the store" - Guess what: it didn't fit.

For the first time in years, all alone, I bursted in tears when I tried the damn bra. I looked so ridiculous. And I know she's going to ask for it tomorrow and I don't know if I should tell her the truth or lie just to see her happy. Shit. How can I feel less of a woman for this? I'm 28 and still don't understand.

Cheers for u all :*


I'm sorry to hear about your struggles during what is supposed to be "The most wonderful time of the year!"

For so many of us this is a daily struggle. You are hardly alone in that regards. It is hard to remember sometimes, but there is much more to being a woman than having big breasts. Remember that we are as we are meant to be and we are our own worst critics.

Lingerie can be a struggle for us as most of it isn't designed with us in mind. It is hard for our more "well endowed" friends to remember that since most lingerie is designed for them anyway.

I hate to use this as a sales opportunity as I don't want all of my posts to be about that. If she is your true friend she will understand the truth. Tell her you appreciate the thought and ask that she check us out and get something in your size. Everyone who has tried on our product has said that for the first time while wearing lingerie they felt sexy and confident. Having a product designed with your own body type goes a long way in that regard.

Bella Petite On the web

I hope you have a happy Holiday!

Stephanie

StephanieBPL
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays everyone! I hope this season has been full of blessings for all of you!
Gen♥
It's going pretty bad right now... I just created an account on myfreeimplants.com but realized it's not what I want. I recently discovered that my boyfriend likes big breasts as much as small, it's only the shape that count... Until then he told me that he didn't care much about breast size but still preferred small. This made me felt a bit special but I discovered it was all a lie. I really wish I was with a guy who prefer small breasts, this would make me feel like the most amazing person in the world. Is it superficial from me to want that? Should I content myself with being with a guy that make me feel normal and insecure because it's stupid from me to not being able to accept his tastes in women?
Also, I was wondering if anyone ever followed therapy to help them in their acceptance of themselves?
StephanieBPL
QUOTE(Gen♥ @ Jan 2 2013, 03:14 PM) *
It's going pretty bad right now... I just created an account on myfreeimplants.com but realized it's not what I want. I recently discovered that my boyfriend likes big breasts as much as small, it's only the shape that count... Until then he told me that he didn't care much about breast size but still preferred small. This made me felt a bit special but I discovered it was all a lie. I really wish I was with a guy who prefer small breasts, this would make me feel like the most amazing person in the world. Is it superficial from me to want that? Should I content myself with being with a guy that make me feel normal and insecure because it's stupid from me to not being able to accept his tastes in women?
Also, I was wondering if anyone ever followed therapy to help them in their acceptance of themselves?



Gen
I'm sorry to hear that you are hurting. sad.gif While it wouldn't be fair to say I know exactly how you feel, I can share that I have had similar struggles.

For years I have struggled with difficulty accepting my body, wanting a larger chest, but knowing I didn't want to give in to what society tells us small chested women we should look like. I knew I didn't want fake implants, I simply wished my chest was a bit larger.

I had to deal with the fact my husband, like your boyfriend likes women with all breast sizes, big, small, medium, etc. I would by lying if I said it doesn't hurt. Like you, I was hoping to have a man who preferred small breasts. I had to realize that I couldn't expect him to change his taste, anymore than I could change my taste in what I like.

What he has shown me though, is that he loves me (and my breasts) exactly the way they are, and that just because he likes one size doesn't mean he can't like another. He shows me how much he loves my body all the time, and that makes me feel reassured that he is sincere. He also has made me realize that I am not just a pair of boobs and that there is a lot more to me than just my chest. He fell in love with me as a person, and who I am is what he fell in love with. I am sure the same is true for your boyfriend and that is what truly matters at the end of the day.

Acceptance of myself (my bust) has been a struggle most of my adult life. There are good days and bad days, and I have come to realize that it will be a life long process of learning to accept myself exactly as I was made.

Watching TV, movies, reading magazines today can be a painful reminder to women with small breasts since society focuses so much on beauty being defined by thin women with big chests. In reality, how many people really look like that naturally? I'm sure that there are some women out there that do look like that naturally, but the rest of us come in all different shapes, sizes, colors, etc and we are ALL beautiful in our own way.

Probably sounds funny, but this is a subject I feel pretty strongly about, so strongly that I decided to design lingerie for women like myself. I wanted to wear lingerie but was virtually unable to find anything that fit AND was sexy and made me feel good the way that I am naturally and didn't make me feel worse by covering up my body. My hope is that women will find my line and feel like they finally found something special made just for them. When I first tried my products on it was the first time in my life I had ever put lingerie on and looked in the mirror and thought, "wow I look sexy" and REALLY felt it. That feeling, is what I hope to give to other women like me. I know how much struggling I have gone through and I hope I can help stop some of that in others.

I think that we as women have to "lift" each other up and support one another, not tear each other down. There are many derogatory statements out there like "real women have curves" or "being thin is more attractive" "women with big boobs are sexier" etc. With all the negative messages we get from society, we need to help each other accept that we are ALL beautiful and that beauty isn't defined by breast size, being thin, tall, etc.

If you would like to chat more, feel free to message me. If you are interested in seeing my products, you can see us on facebook www.facebook.com/NHBellaPetite.com or www.bellapetitelingerie.com Our line is Made in the US and we are also a Veteran owned company.

Sorry for the long rant, I hope you are able to find comfort and acceptance with the fact that regardless of the size of your breasts, and the different body types your boyfriend likes, that he loves YOU exactly as you are.

Best,
Stephanie

bgalicia
QUOTE(star @ Apr 30 2006, 08:23 PM) *
soooo, im an a cup, but have some shape there. my problem is that i HATE wearing bras. but the shirts i like to wear tend to be form fitting [and basically, you can see the shape of everything!]. i like to atleast show off a bit of my attributes, but it seems to be all or nothing. what kind of shirts are the best to go braless in [that are acceptable for a not-so-formal work attire]? i cant wear black every day of the week!

you can wear silicone pasties so they cover your nipples from showing or pointing. also, since you stated you are an a cup with a little shape there, i would advise in a push up bra by victoria secret to enhance your bust line plus small ones SAG too. trust me, they do.
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