QUOTE(Gen♥ @ Jan 2 2013, 03:14 PM)
It's going pretty bad right now... I just created an account on myfreeimplants.com but realized it's not what I want. I recently discovered that my boyfriend likes big breasts as much as small, it's only the shape that count... Until then he told me that he didn't care much about breast size but still preferred small. This made me felt a bit special but I discovered it was all a lie. I really wish I was with a guy who prefer small breasts, this would make me feel like the most amazing person in the world. Is it superficial from me to want that? Should I content myself with being with a guy that make me feel normal and insecure because it's stupid from me to not being able to accept his tastes in women?
Also, I was wondering if anyone ever followed therapy to help them in their acceptance of themselves?
I'm sorry to hear that you are hurting.
While it wouldn't be fair to say I know exactly how you feel, I can share that I have had similar struggles.
For years I have struggled with difficulty accepting my body, wanting a larger chest, but knowing I didn't want to give in to what society tells us small chested women we should look like. I knew I didn't want fake implants, I simply wished my chest was a bit larger.
I had to deal with the fact my husband, like your boyfriend likes women with all breast sizes, big, small, medium, etc. I would by lying if I said it doesn't hurt. Like you, I was hoping to have a man who preferred small breasts. I had to realize that I couldn't expect him to change his taste, anymore than I could change my taste in what I like.
What he has shown me though, is that he loves me (and my breasts) exactly the way they are, and that just because he likes one size doesn't mean he can't like another. He shows me how much he loves my body all the time, and that makes me feel reassured that he is sincere. He also has made me realize that I am not just a pair of boobs and that there is a lot more to me than just my chest. He fell in love with me as a person, and who I am is what he fell in love with. I am sure the same is true for your boyfriend and that is what truly matters at the end of the day.
Acceptance of myself (my bust) has been a struggle most of my adult life. There are good days and bad days, and I have come to realize that it will be a life long process of learning to accept myself exactly as I was made.
Watching TV, movies, reading magazines today can be a painful reminder to women with small breasts since society focuses so much on beauty being defined by thin women with big chests. In reality, how many people really look like that naturally? I'm sure that there are some women out there that do look like that naturally, but the rest of us come in all different shapes, sizes, colors, etc and we are ALL beautiful in our own way.
Probably sounds funny, but this is a subject I feel pretty strongly about, so strongly that I decided to design lingerie for women like myself. I wanted to wear lingerie but was virtually unable to find anything that fit AND was sexy and made me feel good the way that I am naturally and didn't make me feel worse by covering up my body. My hope is that women will find my line and feel like they finally found something special made just for them. When I first tried my products on it was the first time in my life I had ever put lingerie on and looked in the mirror and thought, "wow I look sexy" and REALLY felt it. That feeling, is what I hope to give to other women like me. I know how much struggling I have gone through and I hope I can help stop some of that in others.
I think that we as women have to "lift" each other up and support one another, not tear each other down. There are many derogatory statements out there like "real women have curves" or "being thin is more attractive" "women with big boobs are sexier" etc. With all the negative messages we get from society, we need to help each other accept that we are ALL beautiful and that beauty isn't defined by breast size, being thin, tall, etc.
If you would like to chat more, feel free to message me. If you are interested in seeing my products, you can see us on facebook www.facebook.com/NHBellaPetite.com
Our line is Made in the US and we are also a Veteran owned company.
Sorry for the long rant, I hope you are able to find comfort and acceptance with the fact that regardless of the size of your breasts, and the different body types your boyfriend likes, that he loves YOU exactly as you are.