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culturehandy
Dayglowpink, babeland has this handy how to about cock rings.
Miss Deena
dgp - I know you may laugh i did when I saw it. But Walgreen's has this vibrating cock ring that is made with silicone and is VERY easy to get on because it stretches so much. I would have never look in Walgreen's for a sex toy but it works and it is easy to use and the power of the little thing is quite surprising.

I use a vib egg on my clit while having my pussy fucked alot. At first it was looked at like what can't i do it right? But after he realized how great it felt to have a real vibrating pussy I have had no complaints..LOL

So I have seen the real dolls and also the replicas just of the pussy and ass.
http://www.adameve.com/Adult-Sex-Toys/Real...-ass-11073.aspx
Reminds me of those commercials where they find the love handles and double chin. So creepy!
LoveMyPugs
QUOTE(konphusion26 @ Apr 23 2008, 05:06 PM) *
Honestly yall, I dont know what it is that makes him dislike toys so much. He once even went so far as to say if I were to use the toy around him, he'd leave the room. I think its a psychological thing. Maybe he had a bad past experience or something. WHO KNOWS. He wont really talk about it except making generalizations like "in a man's mind, sex toys were created as replacements!" which we end up arguing about because i've never heard that from anyone else. I hate when he makes generalized statements!! In some ways its like he feels he should be enough to please me. And he does, but he just cant do what a magic wand can in 5 minutes. Period. The wand doesn't get tired, and without it, it takes me a long time to get aroused enough to climax. Perhaps I've desensitized myself.

I think its a silly argument for us to have, and usually ends with me being pissed off cuz he's jealous of a dang toy. Its almost like he feels as if I dont need him to satisfy me. There's more to satisfying me than an orgasm - heck I can get one of those alone. I definitely need his intimacy as well. We just can't seem to see eye to eye on alot of things. I like expermenting, but he's so closed minded he'd never agree to certain things... like pumping.

I admit I'm a very sexual person; he's not so much. We're still new (only been together since Jan.'06) and got married after a year and a half of dating so we're still kinda learning each other's kinks and quirks. I try to respect his views but, that kinda keeps me from getting what I need all the time.


konophusion - that generalization is wrong. Mr. Pug bought me my hitachi. I had always wanted one. I knew it would be very powerful and would bring me to orgasm very fast but I never got one for myself because I didn't want him to feel threatened. What's so funny is that he likes me having it.

First off, I can have multiple orgasms from it in one session. What takes me 15 minutes with my hand takes me less then three with the hitachi. I find that if I use it a lot in a short period of time it will desensitize me. Mr. Pug and I have sex a few times a week but most of the time it's on the weekends so I go most of the week with nothing and then we fuck like two or three times on the weekends. By Sunday night I'm pretty numb or even a little sore just from the intensity of our play.

Second, during the week when he's tired and I'm horny the hitachi can take care of business and both of us can get to sleep. Now do I use it and he rolls over and goes to sleep? No...of course not. He'll use it on me then I'll go down on him or give him a hand job. It's not replacing him.

Third, I still need Mr. Pug. Sure I could use the hitachi alone but using it with his cock in me or with him fingering my g-spot is a million, gazillion, bazillion times better. I take my man over the hitachi ANY DAY!!

You should encourage Mr. Kono to come onto bust and read what we are saying. Toys don't replace the guy. No way!! At least not for me. I still very much need Mr. Pug multiple times a week and I'm not talking about reaching things high in the kitchen or taking out the garbage for me. Although, come to think of it he is pretty handy. :lol
konphusion26
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Miss Deena
konphusion - My personal view on the bullet is that it is powerful enough (on high) to get me to orgasm multiple times while having sex. I have no use for light touches or vibrations it bugs me too. Now if you want a prolonged session of solo masturbation then its cool. But for that fast trip to that big O I would go for the wand or pocket rocket. If I was to have a complaint with the bullet it would be that they break pretty easy. Now that maybe the wear and tear I put on mine but i can't imagine I am doing anything spectacular. No high wire acts anyway.
LoveMyPugs
konophusion - i hope i don't offend anyone when i say this...there is enough drama around here. i always feel this little special connection to people in long term relationships. it's like we are all playing the same game and are all trying to win. i think single people have their own game going on too. shit if i was single right now i'd be out of the game sitting on the bench on the sidelines looking dazed. what i'm saying is that we all know what the others are going through. that's why i love this thread and the committed thread. i also love people who are over the top sexual people. i've really hit some sort of sexual peak in my life because god damn if i don't want it all the time.

a perfect example. this time two years ago...if i had an upcoming interview sex would be the last thing on my mind. however, last night i was so nervous about my interview this morning that i just couldn't settle down. i actually went to mr. pug and initiated sex. i think i surprised him a bit. it really helped me to relax and i got a good night sleep. my interview went so freaking great today and i think it's because i slept good because i was relaxed from the great sex we had.

sometimes i feel strange in my own skin being so horned up all the time. i'm lucky to have mr. pugs who is so open minded. i know you feel sad inside not having this. i feel sad for you and if i was with you i'd hug you. i agree that it sounds like he had a bad experience but he needs to get over it. you may be mismatched when it comes down to it but that can change over time. mr. pugs and i were very mismatched years ago. read back in the fun with floggers thread and see how we've changed over the last year and half. wow!!

i know everyone always says to keep talking, keep communicating but i find that men sometimes get frustrated having the same conversation over and over especially when it goes against their convictions. perhaps let it go for a while? i'm not really sure. mr. pugs was never threatened by toys. i don't really know what advice to offer. would he go to a sex toy store with you and look around? perhaps not a toy but a tasty lotion or something not "penis" shaped. just to warm him up a bit. i think the first thing mr. pugs and i ever bought that was sexual in nature like that was that stupid sugary motion lotion shit you get a condom kingdom. now look at us..rope, hitachi, dildos. as far as the egg vibe goes and needing something with more "Oomph to it"...don't you have a hitachi? girl if that thing doesn't have enough Oomph for you then you are on a whole nother clitoral stimulation level then I am. laugh.gif


konphusion26
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culturehandy
Konphusion, have you ever discussed this issue, outside the bedroom (I cannot emphasize this enough, when discussing sexual issues do not discuss this, EVER, in what is considered a really sexual place) about why he isn't? You can't work on the problem if he isn't willing to discuss it.

I'll bet that he finds toys emasculating.
damona
konphusion, i was with one guy who refused to use toys because he was pissed that my preferred vibe was bigger than his dick! however, he did allow me to use a vibrating cock ring on him, which of course, helped me too! have you tried something like that?

and ditto what ch said about not discussing such things in the bedroom. that always freaks guys out. i seem to end up having those type's of convo's in the car. that way, you don't have to look at each other if you don't want to or just can't talk about such things face-to-face, it's private, and it's quiet.
LoveMyPugs
QUOTE(konphusion26 @ Apr 25 2008, 02:28 PM) *
Its one of those things where if somethin were to happen to me (Lord forbid) and say my mother or anyone else had to come here and look through my stuff --wowza! somehow I dont believe a big purple floppy silicone dick would sit well with mommy dear. LOL


blink.gif Holy shit I never thought of that. Fuuuuuck unsure.gif I must tell my sister that if (God forbid) anything ever happens to me that she is to clean out my bedroom and only her. She already knows I'm a freak so I don't care.

I can see my mom pulling out the g-whiz attachment to the hitachi. Holy shit.

By the way, Mr. Pugs calls the hitachi the "thunder stick" and likes to inform everyone that it plugs into the wall. laugh.gif
konphusion26
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culturehandy
Konphusion, that comment certainly sheds some light. He is threatened by a vibrator. No one would make comments like that unless they were threatened. Maybe he has his own sexual self esteem problems, perhaps rooted, like you said, in a bad experience.

OT I find is very horrifying when people attack a person about their sexuality or body parts. For example, I know women who, during times of arguments, have attacked their partners penis size (in one case, in front of other people!). What a horrible thing to do, I want to ask these woman how they would feel if their boyfriend/husband, whatever, said they had a big floppy vagina.

Anyways, maybe during a time of argument a previous partner attacked him about his sexual prowess. Think about how disheartening this is, I had a guy tell me that I really wasn't that good (this after he told me I had a problem with drugs, and I told him he shouldn't be dispensing advice on drug use when he drinks every day, his next comment was fuck you and I really wasn't that good in bed). Since I didn't care about his very much and thought he was a cuntwad, it hurt for about 3 seconds, but imagine if this came from someone you cared about.

Have you phrased in to him in terms of how this isn't replacing him, but enhancing what he already does for you. If you like DP, there is the whole vice in pussy/ass while cock is in other. Unless the man has two penises then one person DP'ing isn't possible. Tell him it's about pleasure for you both. He may very well see something with batteries as competition. I can see how some men would feel this way, they may find it emasculating.

Your comments about the purple silicone dick made me laugh, because I do indeed have a purple vibrator. heh.

I would be dead, so if someone found it, not like I could be embarassed or anything!!
konphusion26
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indiechick
slightly OT: indiecock is a little resistant about toys. he's interested in my vibe but surely doesn't want to have anything to do with it. except maybe watching me using it. ;-) anyways, we talked about cock rings and he kinda agreed that it might be cool. as with konphusion, i would have to be the one buying it, which i certainly don't mind. i thought about buying one made out of stretchy silicone as a starter. however, i am a little confused about the "fitting": does the cock ring only go around the penis or the balls as well? hooray to sex-retardedness! smile.gif
dj-bizmonkey
wait....vibrating cock ring? is that the one you can get at walgreens? that sounds AMAZING!
auralpoison
First of all, HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! I mean, really, is "big fat bitch" not in English . . . DUH! I can put it in a couple of different languages if that helps . . .

Kittenb, glad to lend assistance. I wish I knew what I said to help.

They do sell a condom that includes a vibrating cockring, DJ. Elexa by Trojan. It only has enough power for twenty minutes, though.

I have two purple vibes. One even has glitter in it!

I found my mom's vibe after she died. It's weird. She seemed to be more about length than girth. I'm definitely all about girth.

ETA, I am absolutely giggling my ass off. Tickled, even. I'm an asshole; I thought everybody knew I was an asshole: I fucking advertise. But somebody actually stepped out of their nice-y nice ivory tower & called me a bitch? Especially *after* they chastised me for supposed name calling? I mean, could it be any more rich? O, feminist superior!
knorl05
ap: you really need a hobby or something. maybe read a book. i dunno. it's really sad you're such a bitch, but hey, we cant all live in a "nice-y nice ivory tower" can we. feminists like you make me glad there are feminists like me in the world. damn. wear that label with pride dear.. cause it is very fitting.

this should have gone in the take it outside thread, but apparently this nonsense is keepin on in here so whatevs. i'm done anyway.

hope everyone is enjoying their sex lives to the fullest!!
starshine
Konphusion, so my guy and I have had an interesting ride, pun intended here, with sex and our various experiences and backgrounds. I come from a pretty liberal family, have had many partners and am pretty open about sex and sexuality, and don't view it as something that needs to be solely within a marriage-type relationship. He on the otherhand, was raised somewhat religiously has slept with one other woman, and when we first got together was very closed about sex. We actually just aobut broke up because I didn't want to wait to marriage, only to find out that we weren't sexually compatible. But that's a whole other story. Anyways, so we talked a lot about our differnet beliefs and sex, in a way that sounds similar to your experience. It was a lot of me talking, and him not opening up. At first. But before he opened up I actually had to back off the topic entirely, leave the door open, but not bring it up. We were intimate within the boundaries we had set up already, but we didn't talk about the fact that we weren't having sex. And I found this worked. It took the pressure off him, let our relationship grow and showed him that we were serious without the sex, and then the rest fell into place. And just as I was about to give up, he started talking about having sex. Which rocked my world. Literally by the way. And we've been moving forward since. So what I'm trying to say, somewhat longwindedly, is that at least with my guy (and I really should come up with a name for him),open communication was only the beginning. We really had to let the issue go for a while, with him knowing that I was open and receptive to where he was at, before we could move forward. It was incredibly hard to let it go, but so worht it, as we got to develop other areas of our relationship. Good luck.

And does anyone know of a good non-latex brand of large/extra large condoms? I live in a rather small town and we have nothing in town, and the pharmacist has been calling around for two weeks looking for us, but she has come up with nothing. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
konphusion26
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starshine
QUOTE(konphusion26 @ Apr 27 2008, 02:36 AM) *
And about the non-latex large condoms - i was looking at Condom Depot and they don't really have any extra large non-latex hats, but they suggest trying a female condom. It's made out of polyurethane (think i spelled that right). tongue.gif Lucky azz! LOL tongue.gif Just kidding luv.


Thanks konphusion, I will definitely check that out. And yeah, I know I'm lucky. I have a really hard time talking about this latex/size "problem" with my pharmacist or doctor without grinning ear to ear (kinda like I'm doing right now! And the kicker is my boyfriend has no concept of just how special he is. crazy boy!). So yeah, it is by and far the best sex "problem" I've ever had. Though you would be amazed how hard it is to find condoms that fit in a town of 5000, and we haven't been to the city in months, as the nearest one is a minimum 4 1/2 hours drive away, when the roads are good.
auralpoison
I gotta say, the female condom is weird as hell. It's like you have a jellyfish hanging out yer Britney.
LoveMyPugs
QUOTE(auralpoison @ Apr 27 2008, 06:56 AM) *
Britney.


AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAA

"Britney" That's fucking funny. Sorry I'm stupid I've never heard that one before.

Re: polyurethane

I think they feel like cellophane personally but it's been years since i've used them.
auralpoison
Hmmmm. I wonder what poor Deepthinker would think of this:

http://www.sundayherald.com/news/heraldnew...e_sex_early.php

Did he fully bail after the whole, "I'm a moron ex-Catholic hassling a gal that might need an abortion" thing? Or was it the, "I want my first time to be meaningful" thing?

I was also wondering . . . do you suppose he was jerkin' it while Busting? He was on here 24/7 for a few days & I kept thinking to myself that he was talking porn habit in here whilst indulging IRL.

I was talking to a friend who said she could marry somebody without having taken a test drive. That seems like such a landmine to me. I mean, I think we've all dated a guy/gal we really liked where the sex just . . . sucked. They were great, everything was kosher, but they were like, a rabbit fucker or something. And it's even worse when they think everything is great while you're thinking about your schedule for the next day & wondering, "Will she/he ever finish?!" I dated a foot fetishist that was fun at first & I really liked him, but I got tired of foreplay/sex really centering on my feet. To find that out on my wedding night? Ah, no thanks.
indiechick
dear sex goddesses, is anyone of you able to help me out?

luv,

indiechick

QUOTE(indiechick @ Apr 26 2008, 05:24 PM) *
slightly OT: indiecock is a little resistant about toys. he's interested in my vibe but surely doesn't want to have anything to do with it. except maybe watching me using it. ;-) anyways, we talked about cock rings and he kinda agreed that it might be cool. as with konphusion, i would have to be the one buying it, which i certainly don't mind. i thought about buying one made out of stretchy silicone as a starter. however, i am a little confused about the "fitting": does the cock ring only go around the penis or the balls as well? hooray to sex-retardedness! smile.gif

auralpoison
CH posted this less than a week ago, Indiechick. Hope it helps.

http://www.babeland.com/cock-ring.html
indiechick
thanks, AP, i read that earlier but i simply can't get my mind around the idea that the ring also goes around the balls. i thought i should better check before i tie off indiecock's balls.
auralpoison
I dunno what to say, then. There's really not much anybody can say that's gonna improve on Babeland. Seriously.

Don't psyche yourself out, IC. You aren't just gonna spring it on him like, "Hey, dick in a sling!" They're his *balls*! If it isn't comfortable, he's gonna say something. And voiciferously. It's not like you'd be putting on an elastrator (Um, don't ask if you don't know because you don't want to!), your aim isn't testicular death. Just heightened & extended pleasure. As long as the ring isn't metal, it isn't rocket science. You & Indieguy's nuts will be juuuuust fine. Promise.

Do try the Elexa. It's CRAZY stretchy like Miss Deena (Is it weird that I enjoyed typing that? It's not like she's *my* mistress or anything. Not much of a sub.) & pretty much idiot proof. I doubt you could hurt him with it unless he's not smart enough to say that his balls are hurting. Which I doubt.
LoveMyPugs
QUOTE(auralpoison @ Apr 30 2008, 02:33 AM) *
Did he fully bail after the whole, "I'm a moron ex-Catholic hassling a gal that might need an abortion" thing? Or was it the, "I want my first time to be meaningful" thing?


I really hope you all don't think that all Catholic people are like DeepThinker. I'm Catholic and I'm pro-choice. I mean I have my opinions like everyone else but I don't consider myself "close minded". I do believe in God, Jesus and Mary and I try not to sin in my everyday life even though I'm living in sin by living with Mr. Pug and not being married. I always think that God knows me and knows my situation and he knows why I do what I do and that he loves me anyway. I mean in all honesty I've only ever slept with one man and it is the man I'm going to marry when I have the time and money to plan a wedding. I mean I don't follow all the Catholic "rules" so to say but I still consider myself Catholic and I really don't consider myself a moron like DeepThinker (who absolutely is a moron). Just wanted to throw that out there.
Miss Deena
AP you made me grin... biggrin.gif
damona
on the cock ring thing... i've used a scrunchie as an on-hand substitute. most interesting.
fuzzz_brain
QUOTE(damona @ Apr 30 2008, 11:11 AM) *
on the cock ring thing... i've used a scrunchie as an on-hand substitute. most interesting.


AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

Oh my word, I can't even breath.
damona
*shrugs* what can i say? it works! i haven't had any complaints!
auralpoison
Using a scrunchie was actually a sextip in Cosmo ten or so years ago. I don't think I could keep a straight face, though. Every time it brushed my Britney I'd have to laugh.

And I don't think all Catholics are nutso. Xtians either. Hell, Muslim, Jew, Hindu, it's all good with me if that's what you wanna do. I just know what too much organized religion can do to people sometimes. All that guilt! My mom was Baptist & she could dish out shame like no other. I thank Jesus we weren't Catholic or Jewish because that would have been the stuff of nightmares according to movies & tv. Such tsuris!
snow white
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culturehandy
snow white, there is an oral sex thread that i"ll bump up for you, it has some hints and discussion about techniques and so forth. As for what to do, just take his cock and start sucking it. just do what you feel like, if you feel like get fucked doggie, then get all fours and show him your pussy. Or tell him what you want.
auralpoison
This was so fucked up.

Okay. I had company over the weekend. So we were going at it. I'm straddling his lap doing my thing. I'm almost there, I'm almost there, I'm almost there, I'm there. And I burst into tears. Not little trickles. No runnels, no rivulets. I'm talking great body-wracking, soul-deep SOBS. I tried to keep going, I *really* wanted to. But it threw my rhythm off & I was all snotty & making cry-face, which is way worse than O-face. It freaked HB out a little bit & he insisted we stop right there. And I proceeded to cry for I don't know how long. Long enough that he lost his wood & went to make me a cup of tea (At a truly manic moment I started to laugh at the image of a naked man walking his flaccid penis all over my mother's house. She'd have had a fit!). He stretched me out & scratched my back until I chilled out. I guess the stress had finally gotten to me & decided to come out at such an odd interval. We tried again later & everything was fine. Weird, huh?

Y'know, if I was a guy, I'd be torn about mine being the first dick a gal sucked. On one hand, "Yea! She likes me weiner & wants to suck it!" on the other, "She has no idea what she's doing! Watch the teeth!"

My advice is enthusiasm. *Careful* enthusiasm.
snow white
thanks culture
dj-bizmonkey
back to vibrating cockrings, has anyone tried the reusable omazing? it's $50 on amazon, but i found it at drugstore.com for $11.
authorsimms
Hi, dj-bizmonkey

No i didnt try that vibrating cock ring but i did treat myself to the booster cock ring from this sex toys supplier.

Worked like a dream and my partner was very very happy!

Can only recommend it.

Cheers,

John
AsparagusBerry
Has this ever happened to anyone?

My boyfriend and I always have incredible, mind (andotherthings) blowing sex...well the other night, afterwards, I was still incredibly horny! I don't know why...he almost always makes me orgasm, and if he doesn't, its still incredible, but this has happened a few times, and it makes my boyfriend feel inadequate, maybe I m just a freak? wink.gif
Lady Selena
Oh that happens to me. I can have more than one orgasm and still be ready for more after. He just looks at me and calls me greedy.. =)
auralpoison
OMG, yes! You're totally normal, AB! Often once I get that first one, I want more, more, more. Thankfully my partner loves to watch me masturbate, so I usually come again by myself & he gets so worked up he fucks me again.

Anybody try the new KY Yours & Mine? HB bought some for an upcoming tryst, but he tried the guys one on his own & found that it burned. He applied a bit o' the woman, to see if that helped, but he said that it made it worse. Any practical advice before I try this stuff?
obelix2
My only advice would be to read the label. I'm prone to yeasties, and if I use any lube with glycerine, I'm instantly the owner of a lumpy, itchy crotch.
LoveMyPugs
ap - i used to be very prone to yeast infections and i used ky all the time. i switched to ID Glide and the problem got significantly better. since then switiching to a silicone lube I haven't had any yeast infections. the one I use is called Swiss Navy. It's great stuff. IMO KY is crap. I'll never go back to a waterbased again.
culturehandy
I agree with Pugs, KY is a shitty shitty lube. I don't get yeastie and KY caused me to feel like a fire crotch. It was horrible. I like Oh My! It's a hemp based lube and a damn good one at that.
konphusion26
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geekchickknits
If you don't have the accessibility of your local neighbourhood sex shop for the fancy lubes, my favourite drug store brand is astroglide - although I do find the bottle leaks. I tend to carry my own lube with me because for some bizarre reason, men only ever have KY, which is horrible and sticky, and, yes, gives me UTI/yeasties.

I also stay very far away from anything with nonoxidal-9.
auralpoison
I've never used KY for the reasons the many reasons you all stated. But the formulations are different for the Yours & Mine than the regular KY. The womans is water based, but I did note that the mans isn't. I know he's a scientist & that he likes to experiment, but I don't think so.
damona
i'm not a fan of ky. it's starts out nice but it gets sticky n weird feeling really fast. i also have a bottle of this stuff called probe, which has the same effects. not sexy. i have a great herbal oil that i use on those rare occasions that i need a lube, but i don't have to worry about condoms anymore, so i'm sure that's not an option for most of you. if i ever get a new vibe tho, i'm going to have to get some kind of decent lube, so i'm taking notes here!

eta: i haven't had any trouble with yeasties that can be traced to ky or the like, but every time we used condoms with spermicide i'd get one. coincidence? i think not!

Lady Selena
KY? *giggle* Crap that is what i used as a teen... We use oil or Wet Platinum now when we need it. My then boyfriend (now hubby) could not use spermicide condoms for after he would have pain and burning for quite a long time. And he did not like me to giggle at his pain.
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