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dolor
Zoya,

Well, sex is highly vascular... I've had some scary "vascular events" during sex... but my first guess would be that this might have happened from striking your eye on some other object (your partner?) during all the wild "pounding." I assume that there are no other symptoms than what you see there, right? No headaches? Distorted vision? Those are serious warnings. Hopefully it has subsided by now. If not, you might want to get it looked at.
sareybelle
On giving up the goods in general-

How do you know when it's the right time to get it on with a new partner? I am not looking for catch all advice, just would like to hear what you ladies think about too much, too soon, or too little, too late in the context of your own experiences. Obviously everyone is different, but was there any one moment when you thought, "okay, now we're ready."

Danke!
mornington
new25 - queefing is normal. very, very normal. Learn to laugh at it. Honestly, you need to focus more on what you find pleasurable about sex - masturbation is a good place to start - as if you're enjoying yourself, you partner is more likely to enjoy themselves. Also, vaginas are meant to stretch, so frankly, unless you've pushed a watermelon or eighteen through there on a daily basis, you're not too big. "tight" is just a myth perpetrated my fucking stupid porn.

sareybelle - every guy has been different; it's more a matter of when you feel comfortable (and in my case, horny) enough to go for it. I wouldn't say there's ever been one defining moment.
strongirl
OK, I'm new to this thread so forgive me it it's been covered or if I'm in the wrong place but I'd like to know if anyone else experiences this.

If I don't get sex - in the form of unprotected heterosexual intercourse with multiple orgasms for me - on a regular basis, I feel sick. By regular, I mean I need it 3-10 times a week to feel well. If I go over a week without sex, I start to be unwell. By 2 weeks, I'm hurting. At one month (only experienced this a couple of times) it's awful and the one time in my life that I went 3 months I was seriously depressed to the point of being suicidal.

My physical symptoms start with a weird headache that is like a pressure building in the top of my skull and go on to include fatigue, muscle weakness/soreness, weight gain and fluid retention, nausea, irregular periods, and irregular heartbeat. My psychological symptoms start with tension, anxiety, and general bitchiness and move into depression. I have difficulty perceiving what is real and what is not - I think things are problematic or dire when they are fine. I am normally not a depressive person at all, very optimistic, energetic and upbeat.

It seems physical and chemical rather than just psychological. It is actually helped by physical contact with male sweat - even snuggling my teenage son when he hasn't bathed seems to help. I have read before about a study in which swabbing male sweat on the upper lips of a control group of women helped to regulate their periods. This makes perfect sense to me and matches my own experience.

This is a cause of concern to me on many levels, not the least of which I am currently trying to maintain a monogamous relationship during a period of separation. Plus my lover worries that he may not be able to maintain our sex life as he ages (we're in our late forties) and while he wants me to be monogamous, he also wants me to be well.

Does anyone else experience this? Am I crazy? I'm sure I would have been diagnosed as a "nymphomaniac" or some similar label if I'd seen a psychiatrist during the times when women were assumed to be less sexual than men. I am a high functioning, happy, productive person...as long as I'm getting laid. Anyone? Help?
auralpoison
QUOTE(ananke @ Jun 30 2008, 06:54 AM) *
Drunk guys will often go for ages (in my experience) because there's little sensation.


I believe the technical term for this is "whisky dick".

girltrouble
stron, i've not heard of anything like what you are talking about, but have you tried masterbating? that should relieve some of your tension. and if you are in your forties, you had to have talked to a doctor about this, what did they say?

have you read the book nymphomania a history? it completely debunks the term and might make you feel a bit better.
nymphomania: a history

in the mean time, check out this very interesting interview with the author. salon.com groneman interview

dayglowpink
zoya- yes, that has happened to me. Anything that involves a lot of straining +/or tension could rupture a small blood vessel. I wouldn't worry about unless it persists or hurts or something like that.
auralpoison
um, it's totally possible to pop a vessel during shagging. Hurl hard enough & you'll give yourself petechia.
LoveMyPugs
zoya - i've never broke a blood vessel IN my eye. i've gotten these tiny red dots around my eyes sort of under my eyes after a intense round with Mr. Pugs. Usually happens if I'm trying to squirt. nothing a little coverup can't fix. laugh.gif but in your case it wouldn't work cause it's in the eye. laugh.gif TAKE IT EASY GIRL!! DAMN!! tongue.gif

sareybelle - i think having sex for the first time with a new partner is a totally personal thing. i don't think anyone here can give you a specific number of days, weeks or months. mr. pug and i were so young when we first had sex that we actually waited five months before doing it for the first time. we were also virgins. if i met him tomorrow being 26 and the woman i am today i might not even wait a month. i mean i don't think i would sleep with someone until i felt absolutely sure in my own mind and heart that i was ready. that's just me.
damona
i had such crazy intense sex this weekend that i squirted so much i soaked the bed. literally. it was like lake damona. he was soaked, i was soaked... it was just wild. i have never squirted that much, ever. just a random thought, is there a "normal" amount of that fluid? is there even a name for that fluid? i've never seen someone else do it, not even in a porn, i've only read descriptions of it online.

i also came so hard that i actually tightened up to the point that i was pushing him out of me. it was kind of cool. he thought he was doing something wrong tho, cuz i wouldn't "let him back in". laugh.gif it wasn't a conscious thing, it was just what my body was doing! something else i've never had happen.

zoya, i've had that happen. it usually goes away in a few days.
sareybelle
QUOTE
sareybelle - i think having sex for the first time with a new partner is a totally personal thing. i don't think anyone here can give you a specific number of days, weeks or months. mr. pug and i were so young when we first had sex that we actually waited five months before doing it for the first time. we were also virgins. if i met him tomorrow being 26 and the woman i am today i might not even wait a month. i mean i don't think i would sleep with someone until i felt absolutely sure in my own mind and heart that i was ready. that's just me.


Thanks, you are right that everyone's time table is different... the weird thing is, neither of us are kids. He's 37, I'm 31. I think that we both have this weird sense that "this is it" and so we're a little gun shy... for him, because as he put it, "I've messed these things up before," and for me, because I feel like we're going to be together for a long time, probably for good, and that... well I guess I'm just putting it off for some dumb sentimental purposes.

I have several married friends who slept with each other the first time they met, and I think that's awesome. But for me and him, I just have this weird feeling that this is going to be THE ONE, and I think he does too, and so we're just taking it really slow. That's different for me, but it's nice.

We are not completely chaste by the way, and the [limited] sexy times we've had have been GREAT. We're going camping in WV this weekend and we already talked about how that might be nice time to go all the way or whatever.

In the meantime, I'm crawling up the walls like I just got out of prison or something! It's ridiculous.
LoveMyPugs
QUOTE(sareybelle @ Jul 7 2008, 12:03 PM) *
In the meantime, I'm crawling up the walls like I just got out of prison or something! It's ridiculous.


laugh.gif

awww...the camping sounds like a nice idea for a first time.

Mr. Pug's and my first time was on my friend's mom's waterbed. we were both virgins and having sex on a waterbed isn't easy so it was ackward.


yuefie
Hey Damona, I was coming (no pun intended wink.gif ) in here to describe pretty much the same thing!

I've been having the most intense and best sex of my life the past six months (new relationship) and now I've begun squirting. I've never at any point in my life required any lube other than my own, which is beyond plentiful, and before this was more of what I would call a slight gusher. But lately it's been craaazy. Yeah, soaked us both and the bed. Man, I've been having to work my ass off at keeping the laundry done! And I also have been involuntarily tightening up after having an orgasm. I've even been asked to "please release the kung-fu grip" tongue.gif And the other day my orgasm was so intense that I saw stars (no joke, I saw flashes of light like I had a frikkin' migraine!) and nearly passed out.
mornington
damona - I've done the whole pushing-him-out thing... it's weird. And I don't think there's a "normal" amount of fluid, just as in how male ejaculate changes in volume. As female ejaculate is thinner, it stands to reason that it seems like a lot more, especially as we can come more than once. But fuck that, you're having fun, no?
damona
mornington, hell YEAH i've been having fun! and it was in a hotel, so i didn't really care if the sheets were soaked. at home i put down towels laugh.gif

anyway, thanks ladies, it's cool that it's not just me, especially the pushing out thing, cuz i know of squirting, but i've never heard anyone talk about that!
candycane_girl
In regards to the "pushing him out thing" I've heard it's because our vaginas majorly contract during orgasm. I've squirted too and I hate doing it in my own bed cause I end up having a biiiig wet spot that I have to avoid sleeping on.
strongirl
Girltrouble - thanks for the response. I had read the Nymphomania book some years ago and really appreciated its insights from a feminist/social perspective but it doesn't really speak much to my personal/health situation.

And yes, I am a diligent masturbator (usually daily) and greatly enjoy it but it doesn't come close to filling the overall need, which as I said, seems to be chemical or hormonal more than anything else.

Based on the fact that no one else jumped in on this, I'm reinforced in my perception that this is unusual, which makes me feel kind of isolated and bummed. sad.gif

ananke
My take on it? All the symptoms are psychological. Presumably the time before you had sex for the first time didn't kill you. Never underestimate the way your mind will affect your body.
culturehandy
strongirl,

I've been thinking about this for a while, and while I'm no psychologist I have seen people with addictive personalities many a time before. I am curious about a few things, and I'm not trying to be an ass here.

Have you had addictions issues in the past before? It could be that you've replaced one addiction as a coping mechanism or whatever, with another.

I agree with ananke that this is also a psychological issue. Do you have sex during times of stress, is sex your coping mechanism and when you get stressed and you don't have the release of sex, your mind starts having an affect on your body? If that makes any sense whatsoever...
strongirl
Thanks for the feedback.

Actually, no, I've never had an addiction to anything. I did have an eating disorder a couple decades ago when I was in college but it was more about societal pressure to conform to a skinny ideal conflicting with family pressure to eat eat eat. Not really a food addiction. I partake lightly in alcohol and recreational drugs, but never on a regular or addictive basis.

I agree about the power of the mind/body connection and I do like the stress-relieving aspects of sex (beats the hell out of Xanax, which it seems everyone is gulping like candy). I'm just not sure that that's the whole story here. It seems improbable that my mind could throw my menstrual cycle off that dramatically but maybe. And there was another study recently showing that regular sex regulates women's cycles. So at least that part seems to be not just mental.

You're right, the time before I had sex didn't kill me but I've been having it pretty regularly since my teens so it's kinda hard to remember back that far. And I'm sure it wouldn't kill me to live without it now but I'm just surprised at the degree to which it seems to affect my overall well-being.

Thanks again for the feedback. We can drop this now - I was hoping that others would have similar experiences but I guess not. Thanks for trying to be helpful.

culturehandy
But stress can have an effect on one's cycle...
Moonpieluv
Strongirl----I can relate to feeling down in the dumps when I haven't had sex in a while... meaning after like four days of not getting it. My libido sorta went to sleep a bit when I was living long distance from an ex... only getting boom boom about once a month. I still masturbated, but only about once a week or so. Now that I live with mr. I find that I get down, weirded out, and overwhelmingly horny after 3-4 days... so much so that I can feel the need in intense waves, especially in my abdomen area.. it's primal..my body reacts in waves more intensely when around children in a maternal way. Every touch from Mr. Luv sends me in a shiver. I've never thought of myself as nympho like, if you will. I just know that I have a high Libido, that my intervals of waiting are much shorter than others with LL. I struggle with Mr. Luv because he is LL. I consider sex more important. I will say that it psychologically affects me when I do not receive it regularly from a person that I love and am attracted to.. call it what you will... affirmation? I did at one point go thru a phase of having sex to fill some void...I was extremely unhappy, lost-like, and all around insecure. It didn't help in the least. It just made me feel worse.
I've never experienced feelings of physical illness without it per se, but irritability and mild feelings of depression do come into play. IMO, I think that's pretty normal. We are sexual and loving beings with physiological needs.
I'm sorry that you are not getting direct experience from the busties. I suggest speaking with your gyn. especially if you feel it affects your menstral cycle.
strongirl
Moonpieluv - thank you so much for posting, that was extremely helpful! What you describe at 3-4 days of not having sex matches my experience pretty closely. Down, weirded out, horny...and having desire come in waves. Exactly! It's after a week that I start experiencing the more extreme stuff but the 3-7 day level is very much like you describe.

I was particulary struck by your reaction to being around children. My son is 13 but breastfeeding him when he was a baby was a wonderful experience for me and he nursed for over 2 years. Even now, over a decade later, when I hear a baby cry my breasts tighten and contract as if they are going to let down milk! At times it's almost painful.

This relates to the sex thing in that I think, in general, I am much more connected to and aware of my body and its needs and reactions than a lot of people are. I am an extremely physical person and very connected to my senses and the state of my physical health and comfort. There have been several times when I had minor medical conditions and the doctor said "Wow, I can't believe you detected this so early!" I hear my body's whispers when many people have to wait till the voice is louder, or even screaming.

I almost wonder if this creates sort of a "biofeedback loop" when I'm not having sex, where my mind picks up on the subtle physical differences, reacts with concern, which causes more physical stress reactions, etc etc. Maybe I'll try meditations/affirmations next time and use my mind to tell my body that it will be ok, that more sex will come in the future, and it just needs to settle down and relax. It doesn't address the hormonal/chemical component but it might help and I've never tried it.

I also know what you mean by high libido/low libido in a relationship (not a problem in my current relationship but has been in the past). That's a very difficult thing to deal with, especially if both partners genuinely love each other and want to meet each others' needs.

Thanks again, Moonpieluv - very helpful!



HieronymusxBosch
Hi,
I'm new to posting here (I already introduced myself in the newbie thread) but I was wondering ether anyone can commiserate with me.
Last night I think my boyfriend may have gotten hot pepper into my vagina. He had cooked earlier and cut up some peppers, and when we were having sex he fingered me, and almost immediately I started to feel burning. It was mild (thankfully) and although it pretty much put an end to the sex thing(this was not the kind of hot sex that I wanted...), it went away in a few hours. Has this happened to anyone else? Is there any other reason that I would feel burning?

-B
tesao
HBosch, the same thing has happened to me, except that *i* was the one cooking with habanero peppers. i made habanero pepper pasta. got the stuff all oooooooooooover my hands. after dinner, mr hotbuns and i were fooling around in front of the fire place. i unzipped him and played with him, then we got down to business. i think i felt it about the same time that he did - except that i got it once removed. took me a while to figure out *what the frell* was going on. i laughed my head off. he wasn't quite so tickled; course it hurt him more.

not to worry, though, we were both fine within 24 hours, no need to go to the er. just chalk it up to experience! (and a pretty funny shared memory for future cold nights. hee!)
CandyMandyDandy
today i heard something on Kiis FM its a radio show in LA and there were 3 girls who were dating one guy for a VERY long time and they confronted him and he actually had the nerve to say that it was the girls fault that he did what he did and one of the girls actually still slept with him right after they confronted him WOW
auralpoison
Okaaaaay.
girltrouble
aural, erm. i am going to have your internets babies....
tesao
(((((((aural))))))))
courtiegirl
Hi everyone,

I'm new to this but have been reading about birth control reviews etc. on here. I've been on the shot for a while but need to switch because of the side affects this poison has recently been introducing to my body; ie low libido, anxiety, some hair loss.... ANYway that's not what I'm posting this for.

I'm getting frustrated because I have never had an orgasm before- I don't think. Is it something I'm doing wrong? Something he's doing wrong? Sex is amazing with my boy, I just never seem to reach that "climax" point.

Help?
stargazer
courtiegirl, welcome to the lounge. please visit the newbie thread to introduce yourself and let yourself be known to the lounge.

there is a thread in the our bodies our hell that talks about bc choices and reactions to different methods if you need more info and support.

in terms of orgasm, or lack thereof, what positions do you normally have sex? do you masturbate and if you do, have you had an orgasm on your own?
courtiegirl
QUOTE(stargazer @ Aug 2 2008, 07:51 AM) *
courtiegirl, welcome to the lounge. please visit the newbie thread to introduce yourself and let yourself be known to the lounge.

there is a thread in the our bodies our hell that talks about bc choices and reactions to different methods if you need more info and support.

in terms of orgasm, or lack thereof, what positions do you normally have sex? do you masturbate and if you do, have you had an orgasm on your own?



My boy and I usually do missionary, me on top, or from behindd with me on top (which is amazing in the morning).I've tried masterbating a couple of times, but it never seems to do anything for me. I've read all through those BC posts; my point of adding that into this one is that BC tends to lower lilbido and decrease the ability to orgasm in some women, so I thought that may be part of me problem...?
tesao
hormonal birth control can have various side effects related to sex. so can a number of other drugs.

i agree with stargazer that this topic would be better discussed in the bc threads

i notice that you avoided answering the question if you can have an orgasm when pleasuring yourself.

i'm confused by what you mean when you say with you on top from behind. can you explain how that works?
courtiegirl
Stargazer said the Birth Control part was better discussed in the other thread. And I did say that masterbating "did nothing for me" meaning it's kind of tickling yourself in the stomache- if you're ticklish and tickle yourself, it just doesn't tickle as much. Ya know?

And on top from behind- It starts off with us both just on our sides- spooning if you will. Then he pulls me on top where it's easier for me to arch my back, and you can take it anyway you want from there. You really should try it. It's delicious.

For now I'm going to blame my BC, and the girls in those threads are more concerned about which methods work better for which people, side affects, etc. I don't think they know how to allude the libido problems.
stargazer
well, courtie, you could just ask if anyone had libido issues while on BC. i'm don't take BC so i can't help ya out there. i don't think what tes was asking was anything special. it is hard to tell by your post about the pleasure you receive from the positions you hold during sex. and if you cannot get specific, then i may think that you are still learning about your body and how responsive you are to different sex positions. it sounds like you are doing reverse cowgirl...are you on top straddling him with your back to him? plus, do you stimulate your clitoris during sex and/or masturbate? cause let me tell you, masturbating does not feel like tickling to me.

sorry to ask so many questions, but it is the only way you can get some answers to your question. but, if you feel ok blaming it on your BC then that's cool too.
auralpoison
A conversation can't be had unless somebody starts it, Courtiegirl. If you want people in the BC thread's info on BC/libido, you need to ask them specifically. You alluded that your laundry list of new symptoms was bothering you, but didn't really bring home the point that it was the decrease in your sex drive that has you seriously trippin'. If that's what you're really worried about, then ask about it. We're a fairly smart set & we tend to share any info we can.

I may not be able to tickle myself, but I can certainly say masturbation definitely does something for me!
girltrouble
i've never got that self tickling argument, anyways.

the point is not just pleasure, but self knowledge. if you know what gets you off, hopefully you can show your boy how to get you there. cos, i have my sneaking suspicion that you've probably spent more time with yourself than he has with you. just a guess. so, perhaps you ought to try the self tickling. just so you can be a good tour guide.

plus, i might be all on my own here, but sometimes, it's sooo much nicer to just rub one out. no drama, no bullshit, just me making me climb the walls. no having to please anyone, no having to meet so and so, no small talk, just me and my jollys, getting off. thank god for my right hand, for reals.

but that said, there are 1000+reasons why your boy can't take you to the big o. and sometimes it's just not humanly possible. your body may prefer a showerhead, or a "massager" things that body parts can't replicate. but you'll never know until you try, and if you ask me, when it comes to sex-- having a closed mind is the biggest turn off evah.
roseviolet
Courtiegirl, how long have you been on the shot? Did you start taking it before you became sexually active?

I have heard from a lot of women who reacted badly to the shot. Some of them felt a loss of libido & had a lot of difficulty reaching orgasm. Maybe you'd be better off trying a low dose pill instead. Definitely talk to your doctor about this. There are other options out there.

As for masterbation ... well, different strokes work for different folks. Personally, I'm not big into masterbation, so I totally understand your "tickle" comment. Obviously there's a big difference between masterbating & tickling; that isn't your point. The point is that a lot of women just don't really like masterbating themselves with their own hands. They prefer for there to be a sort of second agent involved. That's okay! There's nothing wrong with that! Especially in this day & age because there are a lot of sex toys that can help you along. Some people love clitoral stimulation & vibrators are great for them. If you prefer penetration, then a dildo may work for you. Personally, I would recommend something that offers the best of both worlds so that you can experiment & see which you prefer. If you feel intimidated by using your toys alone, then ask your boyfriend if he'd like to play with them with you.
crinoline
I guess I'll chime in here. I've experienced a "dulling" of sensation and more difficulty to orgasm since being on the pill. This seems to come and go cyclically, but it is annoying. It's not just with the boy, it's also when I'm by myself. We deal with it by spending more time on me in foreplay, and more clitoral stimulation during intercourse. (the boy has recently been really into going down on me -kinda new for us- and this helps a lot)

Courtie- in this position you speak of, are you lying down on top of him, your back to his front? We like to do that one, because it gives him total access, but he can't go deep enough to, um, "lose it".
geekchickknits
Courtie I'm in agreement with everyone else that masturbation is a good thing, and it's nice to not only be able to take care of yourself, but also to be able to show your partner how to do you right.

But there are so many other factors unrelated to BC and masturbation.

In my personal experience, I've found that North American guys tend to go "stampeding toward the clitoris". I've had quite a few international lovers over the past year, and I've found that although they certainly are aware of and enjoy the clitoris, they make love to a woman's whole body, not just her genitals. I don't have the libido/orgasm issues you're having, but perhaps you need some extended foreplay the doesn't focus solely on the sexual bits of your body.

I once had a partner who would start to turn me on (kissing me, my neck, etc.) fairly early in the date and then stop when I would start responding. "not yet" he'd say. He'd do this several times and then when we'd actually get down to business.......HOT DAMN! Because all the sexual energy had been building up, I would come to orgasm faster and more intensely.

Whew. Long post. Hope it helps.
courtiegirl
QUOTE(roseviolet @ Aug 4 2008, 09:14 PM) *
Courtiegirl, how long have you been on the shot? Did you start taking it before you became sexually active?

I have heard from a lot of women who reacted badly to the shot. Some of them felt a loss of libido & had a lot of difficulty reaching orgasm. Maybe you'd be better off trying a low dose pill instead. Definitely talk to your doctor about this. There are other options out there.

As for masterbation ... well, different strokes work for different folks. Personally, I'm not big into masterbation, so I totally understand your "tickle" comment. Obviously there's a big difference between masterbating & tickling; that isn't your point. The point is that a lot of women just don't really like masterbating themselves with their own hands. They prefer for there to be a sort of second agent involved. That's okay! There's nothing wrong with that! Especially in this day & age because there are a lot of sex toys that can help you along. Some people love clitoral stimulation & vibrators are great for them. If you prefer penetration, then a dildo may work for you. Personally, I would recommend something that offers the best of both worlds so that you can experiment & see which you prefer. If you feel intimidated by using your toys alone, then ask your boyfriend if he'd like to play with them with you.


Thank you for understanding. I went on the shot shortly after I became sexually active, and I didn't know it then but looking back, I can see that I was turned on much easier before hand. And yes, I didn't mean that it FELT like tickling, it was just an analogy. Also, I was thinking about the Mirena IUD- what's your opinion on that? I have an appointment for it in two days; kind of nervous, but they may tallk me out of it since I haven't had children but I know of many others who were still able to get it.

My Boy does the clit stim. stuff real well. I always get almost there, then it's gone and hard to get back again- not that I'm immediately turned off, it just takes longer to get 'almost there.' I may have to try a vibrator, my Boy knows the people who invented the "Oh mIbod" contraption- Ever hear of it? Apparently it has a certain mechanism inside that mimics speakers and the bass in songs (while playing music) but the bass acts as the vibration synth... Sounds awesome to me.

Crinoline- Yes that's the one. I like that one.
kissmeducky
I'm not quite sure what all the hype is about girls being on top. I've read countless tips and stories saying that the only way to have an orgasm during sex if you're a girl is to be on top. I personally hate being on top except for a few out of the blue occurrences and have never been even close to having an orgasm or even enjoying sex while up there. It just doesn't hit me the right way and I become too distracted by being the center of attention and doing all the work that I barely even feel it. I've rarely had orgasms from sex anyways (and it's practically always been my second orgasm after having one during foreplay) but they've most often been when he's from behind. It's the angle that works well. *Shrug* maybe I'm just different.
auralpoison
Um, I can't say being on top does that much for me. It only really works for me if there's a pillow under his butt to change the angle & I arch my back really hard. I prefer from behind as well. And there's something satisfying about the weight of a man during missionary . . .

Courtiegirl, I gotta say the OhMibod is not a very good vibrator. The actual vibe itself plasticky & cheap like a grocery store kids toy.
geekchickknits
I don't usually feel the top vibe either. Some times it's good, but there are positions I quite prefer. I've also had several partners who can't sustain when I'm on top.

I think my favourite position is on my back with one leg up on a shoulder and the other wrapped around his waist or ass. This is particularly good if his cock curves to one side. Yum!
culturehandy
Oh gosh, I Loooooooooooove being on top. I have hard squirty, juicy orgasms.

I also love getting it from behind, kissmeducky, I say do what works for you. You like what you like, you come how you come.

All my ex ever did was missionary, it was boring, redundant sex and it's not something I enjoy that often. He was also a cockwad so....
dani1983
QUOTE(geekchickknits @ Aug 5 2008, 08:28 AM) *
In my personal experience, I've found that North American guys tend to go "stampeding toward the clitoris".

OMG YES YES!! Like 3 months ago I had sex with my ex, ( I havent seen him for 2 years). First, the whole thing SUCKED. Somehow I created this whole lie in my brain that he was actually big. Well he wasn't. Damnit, strike 1. Strike 2, he suddenly lost his erection! Here I thought I was Carrie with Mr Big, I ended up being Charlotte with Trey! Double damn. Strike 3: while I was trying, with all my heart and soul(and mouth), to make him get hard again by giving him a bj, he started "fingering me". oh no, not fingering. maybe playing morse code with my hoohah would be a better definition . I swear that's what he was doing. It was like TAP TAP TAP TAP, no circular movement, nothing! and the guy has HUGE fingers so I was in sooo much pain! but i was trying to work up Mr Penis, so I was afraid to scare him.
Sststststutter
Well, I feel like I can relate to Courtiegirl in a way, although I've never been on the pill. I went for about a year without having sex before I met my current man and was quite satisfied taking care of my own needs. But recently I've been having a hard time coming--with AND without him--and it's stressing me out. I seems to be taking me for.ev.er. to O lately, if at all. He can get me sooo close, but then I seem to lose it, and the longer it takes, then I start to feel bad... i KNOW, i def shouldn't feel bad, but even **I** don't like to wait that long. He keeps telling me that maybe I need to do some self exploration and show/tell him what to do..and I agree, but the problem is I am having trouble getting my own self off lately without the help of my showerhead. And the tub faucet/showerhead doesn't quite feel good anymore either... its like I need way too much power to even come, which isn't that comfortable, and then when I do, it's not as great as it used to be. Can one overstimulate herself??

Are the days when I could have incredible orgasms just with my fingers really gone? Le sigh...

And sex... well, I don't know if I've ever had an orgasm during sex. I feel like when I'm on top I don't really get that much stimuation, and not enough to come.. maybe I need to try what aural said and use a pillow under his butt. Maybe I need to buy myself a vibe... I'm just feeling so forlorn about this! I've lost my O!
kissmeducky
This isn't exactly about sex but I don't know where else to put it. I have something kind of gross to share/ask about.

Last night I was with my boyfriend and we were being silly and he was biting my neck (not very hard) and teasing me about giving me a hickey. Now, obviously I couldn't see what I'm about to describe so I can just relate what he told me. He was sucking on my neck a little, but not hard enough to give a hickey from experience, and then lifted his head up and started freaking out and asked if he was bleeding. He wasn't. Then he told me that when he picked his head up he saw a drop of blood fall and noticed there was about a dime size spot of blood on my neck but by the time he could react and look back at it it was completely gone! He says it was like my neck reabsorbed the blood or something. When I got home I checked and there's absolutely no mark or anything.

What the hell happened??
bob4both
I'd say a bad mushroom...
erinjane
Yeah, was the lighting bad? It sounds like his eyes were playing tricks. If it really was blood there would have been some sort of stain.
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