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thirtiesgirl
Suggestion for sucking big guy dick: curl your hand around the base of his penis and hold it as you give head. This way, you're not taking the whole thing in and you stop when you reach your hand. If you want to deep throat him and take the whole thing in, like GT said, practice.

Re: swallowing, here's my two cents. Years ago, I was giving a boyfriend head and he came in my mouth unexpectedly. It was so sudden, I swallowed most of it. Some of it got in my hair, and let me tell you, it was a bitch to get out. When it dries, it gets super sticky. The second he started to ejaculate in my mouth, I was so surprised that I moved my head, which is how it got in my hair. But the initial sensation of him cumming in my mouth wasn't bad, as it basically shot straight down my throat. I didn't even have time to *think* about swallowing. The next morning, though, I got sick. I ran to the bathroom and barfed a big one. (I'd sucked him off the night before and fell asleep in his bed.) Since that time, I've never swallowed and rarely let a guy cum in my mouth. If he does, I try my darndest not to swallow it, and instead prefer to spit in a kleenex.

I know that might seem a little 'cold,' to not want to swallow a guy's spunk, but I really don't want to repeat my experience of getting sick again, so I'm cautious when giving head. I enjoy doing it, have a good time and am enthusiastic about it, but I don't want to swallow his stuff.
mouse
weird, thirties...cum upsets my stomach a lil too. no puking just a tiny bit of nausea about ten or fifteen minutes after. but i think swallowing's hot, and i like to do it, so i put up with it.

not that i've had any chance to do any swallowing for ages, but in olden times. you know.
auralpoison
I point the cock the right way so it just goes down my throat. If it hits my tongue, it's a taste somewhere betwen the taste of musky mushrooms & a pool. There's an oddly metallic tang.
neurotic.nelly
I still cannot and will not swallow my sweet lover's spunk because it's too thick and tastes awful (and he does not smoke ciggs and he eats fairly healthy). I guess it's a good thing that he's got stamina like the copper top bunny because he rarely comes from oral alone.

thirtiesgirl, i don't blame you for not ever wanting to swallow again. personally, i just don't think it's necessary.

sageykins, good luck with the monster dick, i've always been turned off by em'. in high school, (while still a virgin) i had a boyfriend with a monster in his pants, it scared me and looked like an ant eater's snoot, so i dumped him and went out with a guy who had the tiniest little thing and the poor worm had zero stamina, and it still hurt me. sorry for the tangent but... it did have to do with big dicks, kinda.

back to oral, my boy and i are big fans of ball play. we play balls a lot. it's our favorite sport!
sageykins
well i have enjoyed his size and his staminz and am feeling pretty lucky that i get to be with someone who... well more than fills me. and he's pretty excited by my tiny size so we're both happy. i just wanted to work on oral and i want to be able to go down without worry i'm going to choke on his size....

as i said before though, i can't do anything about it currently as i haven't seen him in two weeks and his job, unfortunately is what it is, and i won't see him for probably another two...

anyway, thanks for all input. anyone else with ideas feel free to throw them my way...
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zoya
OMG this guy that I'm seeing has THE BEST tasting cum. Seriously. barely salty and it's kinda sweet. I don't know what he's doing, because he's not a pineapple eater, etc.. but whatever he's doing, it's working. He was laughing at me today because I even want to finish him off every time he jacks off (which I love watching) just so I can taste his cum. I can't stop tasting it when I get a chance to try and figure out if it tastes like anything in particular so I can figure out the secret! (of course I have posting the info in here on my mind the whole time... smile.gif )
culturehandy
Zoya, I was involved with a guy who had good tasting cum, and I don't know what his secret was. The only thing different about him was he was fixed.

anyways, enjoy the boy!
Heartbreaker
the guy im sleeping w/ is huge and my x was big but not that big so its hard to get use to opening ur mouth that far for that long haha...its def gonna take a lot of practice tho...and im looking forward to it haha
mouse
ok--so as most of you know from my extensive complaining on here, i am pretty much failing epically in the getting-any-ass-at-all department. and i'm trying to figure out why and what my own psychological blocks about it are too and whatever blah blah blah but anyway i have arrived at this question. so i'm totally down with the idea of casual sex, etc (once i get myself past whatever self-confidence issues i need to and so on) but i'm fucking terrified of stds. i keep hearing horrifying statistics and i don't trust people. so, i mean, condoms, OF COURSE. and that is fine and all for sex but i'm a girl who loves giving head so...my question is, how realistic is it to give head with a condom? i mean it just seems so unrealistic to me, and something that wouldn't be pleasurable to either party. but at the same time, it seems totally batshit crazy to have a meeting of mucus membranes with someone you don't know well enough to trust that they're telling you the truth if they say they're clean, OR if they even really know whether they have any stds. i mean, do people do this? or do people just play russian roulette when it comes to sucking dubious cock? or are the risks not that steep? any answers?
geekchickknits
QUOTE(mouse @ Oct 20 2008, 06:07 AM) *
ok--so as most of you know from my extensive complaining on here, i am pretty much failing epically in the getting-any-ass-at-all department. and i'm trying to figure out why and what my own psychological blocks about it are too and whatever blah blah blah but anyway i have arrived at this question. so i'm totally down with the idea of casual sex, etc (once i get myself past whatever self-confidence issues i need to and so on) but i'm fucking terrified of stds. i keep hearing horrifying statistics and i don't trust people. so, i mean, condoms, OF COURSE. and that is fine and all for sex but i'm a girl who loves giving head so...my question is, how realistic is it to give head with a condom? i mean it just seems so unrealistic to me, and something that wouldn't be pleasurable to either party. but at the same time, it seems totally batshit crazy to have a meeting of mucus membranes with someone you don't know well enough to trust that they're telling you the truth if they say they're clean, OR if they even really know whether they have any stds. i mean, do people do this? or do people just play russian roulette when it comes to sucking dubious cock? or are the risks not that steep? any answers?


There is a lot of conflicting information out there. From the research I've done, this is what I've gathered:

- HIV from BBBJ (bare back blow jobs) is extremely unlikely. There ARE cases where people have said they have contracted it from only oral, but they are very few and far between

- directly after brushing and/or flossing teeth increases risk

- any open cuts and/or sores in or around your mouth and/or on his penis increases risk substantially

- ejaculating in mouth increases risk

From what I understand the risk level of condom-free oral sex is the same as penis in vagina intercourse with a condom.

It's your choice though - don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.
crazyoldcatlady
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From what I understand the risk level of condom-free oral sex is the same as penis in vagina intercourse with a condom.


i think this is hyperbole. the incidence of getting HIV/Hepatitis from a bbbj is increased for all the reasons gck mentioned (sores, outbreaks, flossing/oral trauma), but in reality the case reports are few, mostly anecdotal, and have confounding variables.

but what i really wanted to say was that bbbj's can't really be compared to condom penis-vag intercourse. both orifices encounter the same std's (bacterial, viral, fungal), all of which can be prevented by barrier methods. a bbbj leaves you succeptible to each as much as bare back sex.

i specifically wanted to mention the increased rate of throat and oral cancers as a result of HPV strains that can cause cervical cancer. the literature and research is building on this (editorial side note: maybe now that men can get cancer from HPV it will be covered by insurance), and the links are striking. i wholeheartedly support the Gardisil vaccine for women; even if you're beyond the 11-26 age range, i know women 30, 32 who have gotten it and for whom it may still be of use. i've seen what cervical cancer does, on a physical, cellular level, in my line of work. i got my shots, and i just hope i didn't suck too much dick in my teens to be too late.


i KEED! (sort of. but also note, a good majority of women who do get or are exposed to HPV can clear it on their own.)

BUT BUT BUT, mouse, i didn't ad all this more to scare you. like dan savage says, sex *IS* russian roulette. so is getting in your car. it's determining your risk comfort level. you can still be intimate and sexual with someone without hobbin' the knob. and when you do want to, go to the free clinic with the dude, both of you get tested, and give him promises of mindnumbing head in reward for keeping his shit clean.
geekchickknits
Thanks for the info cocl.

I've been thinking about going to get the vaccine - just wish I hadn't been JUST too old when it came out to get it covered by my provincial healthcare.
kittenb
mouse - I recently posted here about giving a bj w/o a condom for the first time myself. I wasn't willing to until now and only JUST let him come in my mouth.

I know that my guy was able to enjoy the bj w/the condom. Yes, he might enjoy it faster now, but it can be done. I kind of hate the taste of latex but I needed time to get comfortable with everything before I was willing to go condom free.

So yes, there is enjoyment to be had with a bj w/a comdomw. I used the mint flavored ones if all we were doing was oral (never for vag penetration!) and that took away from the taste factor. The flavor doesn't last but it tastes kind of like gun while it is there.

Oh, and for those who gave me advice when I posted here, thanks. It was fun. I did do it and the Coke Zero chaser was very helpful. laugh.gif He enjoyed it too.
stargazer
QUOTE(crazyoldcatlady @ Oct 20 2008, 07:56 PM) *
i wholeheartedly support the Gardisil vaccine for women; even if you're beyond the 11-26 age range, i know women 30, 32 who have gotten it and for whom it may still be of use. i've seen what cervical cancer does, on a physical, cellular level, in my line of work.



Hey Cocl, can you post here about why you support gardisil? i'm still on the fence about this shot. although, i'm not sure if at 33 that i'm out of this range. the doc didn't really seem to give me a big talk about it when i went for my yearly exam.
mouse
thanks for the info. very useful and fucking terrifying. now people have more chance of being diseased than i thought before.
geekchickknits
QUOTE(mouse @ Oct 22 2008, 01:49 AM) *
thanks for the info. very useful and fucking terrifying. now people have more chance of being diseased than i thought before.


Mouse, you have to do what is right for YOU. In spite of what cocl has said, I don't think I'm going to start using condoms for bjs. Even though the mouth and the vag are both orifices, they have very different purposes and cultures, bacterially etc. And believe you me, I've put stuff in my mouth that had I put somewhere else it probably would have made me sick. (Point in fact, I had a partner recently that when we would be having sex, particularly the foreplay, that my vulva would get really swollen and kinda dry - not sex swollen. It confused me until I remembered that he had a cat - and I'm allergic to cats - and he hadn't washed his hands between petting the cat, and petting me. However, his fingers were also in my mouth, but did my lips and throat swell and close? No.)

But the reality of the situation is, if you're going to be in a relationship, or have sex with someone, you have to trust them, and then take the consequences, good or bad, that come with that trust.
dayglowpink
Just as an aside about BJs with condoms- I used to do this with a boyfriend who had genital herpes. I was paranoid about that (rightly so, I think), so we pretty much always used condoms for oral. I actually didn't like it at all, because condoms taste gross, and I didn't find it anywhere near as sexy as bare back, but it worked okay for him. Unfortunately, I never took the time to practice applying the condom with my mouth. That's a skill that would be fun to have.
zoya
bump for eleanorrigby2008
eleanorrigby2008
Thanks smile.gif

There is some useful stuff in here.
angelabeach50
On the subject of blow jobs, I love giving them and the more the better! I crave the feel and warmth of a big cock in my mouth and look forward to tasting my reward. I've found that younger men have sweeter tasting semen and yes it does vary some as to what they eat. I've never found a clean cock ever that was distasteful or not worth sucking. For me the taste is like dessert after a fine meal.
mouse
i totally call hoax on this semen-based cookbook but it's hilarious for half a second.
culturehandy
Hee hee mouse, I saw that too. I magnified the ISBN on the back of the book and it's for The Tales of Beetle Bard by J.K. Rowling.

Hysterical non the less though. Crap, did I ever laugh when I saw it.
ihateoly
QUOTE(culturehandy @ Nov 28 2008, 09:41 AM) *
Hee hee mouse, I saw that too. I magnified the ISBN on the back of the book and it's for The Tales of Beetle Bard by J.K. Rowling.

Hysterical non the less though. Crap, did I ever laugh when I saw it.


Thank goodness this isn't a real book. This reminds me of a girl that had a beer booth at the Seattle Octoberfest a couple years ago who was selling OPB aka Original Pussy Beer. Supposedly she used her own vaginal yeast to make the beer, but it turned out to be a joke. But still. In a sexual context, swallowing someone's come is fine, but mixing it with food seems just wrong to me.
vixen_within
Have you read the comments? "I've worked in MacDonald's and Pizza Hut and I've been doing this for years." laugh.gif
mouse
the thing that bugs me is you can actually purchase it online....what are these people getting, or are they just getting $25 poorer?
candycane_girl
I know this probably gets asked a lot but is there any way for me to learn to relax my gag reflex? With my new boy it's like, he'll barely be inside my mouth and I feel like I'm going to throw up on his dick. It sucks because just once I'd like to be able to give him a nice blowjob but instead I just end up mostly licking around his head and not much else. Just once I'd like to do it without gagging on him.
tommynomad
candycane_girl, I don't have any gag reflex at all. I learned with popsicles. I'm serious.

I'm sure there's a tutorial out there somewhere: try scarleteen.

Until then, work the sides. Run your mouth along his dick from the outside. I know deep throat is a mythical ultimate, but you should know that:

1. it doesn't feel that different, or that much better than a regular bj
2. 99.999% of men are just thrilled you're down there and not biting
Jane Lane
I'm kind of in the same position, candycane_girl. Some things that have helped me--making sure I'm breathing pretty deeply through my nose, keeping him at an angle so that his dick isn't hitting any particularly sensitive parts of my mouth (like towards the back of the roof of my mouth), and not trying to suppress a gag, instead taking a break while using my hand or, like tommynomad said, working the sides.
RandyBrador
QUOTE(candycane_girl @ Jan 5 2009, 12:12 AM) *
I know this probably gets asked a lot but is there any way for me to learn to relax my gag reflex? With my new boy it's like, he'll barely be inside my mouth and I feel like I'm going to throw up on his dick. It sucks because just once I'd like to be able to give him a nice blowjob but instead I just end up mostly licking around his head and not much else. Just once I'd like to do it without gagging on him.


I think you are trying to judge yourself. "Do I give a good blowjob?" Let me tell you that us guys don't identify that. ALL BJ's are good ones. The biggest turn on for any guy is your willingness to please him this way. Make life easier on yourself and place your hand around his shaft and his head in your mouth. And think to yourself how much he is enjoying it. Because he is!
ketto
Candycane, I did a search in this specific thread (scroll to the bottom and there's a box that said "search thread", put in deep throat and click that). There were lots of results, including some good old ones from Tesao.

"let's go back to deep-throating and how to practice that.....

maimstress had mentioned something about my technique of hanging my head backwards off of the bed, and letting him fuck my throat.....

something about the position WORKS like a charm, don't ask me how." - tesao

http://www.bust.com/lounge/index.php?act=S...=%2Bdeep+throat

Lovemypugs had some good advice too.

Honestly, I think practice is really what does it. I used to not be able to do it at all but now it's nothing for me.
culturehandy
Big thing, you need to relax, that's what I know from deep throating, and i've deep throated some big motherfuckers before.
geekchickknits
If you've ever done any theatre or voice training, that should help. There's a technique they teach called "opening the throat" which is the correct position for your soft palette when singing.

Here's how to practise:
Relax and think about creating space in the back of your throat - the root of your tongue melting into your voice box and your soft palette lifting up behind your nose. If you start yawning, you're on the right track. Don't force it, breath, and don't let him push you down or hold your head in place - if he skull fucks you like this, you'll either have trouble breathing or your gag will kick in and it will not be nice!
candycane_girl
Thanks for all the tips. It's not even that I want to deepthroat my guy (I know that it's just not the thing for me) it just felt like so many times as soon as we got into a good rhythm my gag reflex would start up and it got really annoying. The other day I went down on him and remembered something that I had learned early on: make it messy. I let all of my saliva just drip down his shaft as I was working on him and he loved it.
PosieRider
My goodness girls, it's shaped like a penis and your mouth is shaped like a mouth. It can't be too difficult to work out. I judge this forum as a shame to our feminine ingenuity and hope to god the next person to go down on me has thought this much about how to do it beforehand.
kittenb
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I judge this forum as a shame to our feminine ingenuity...


When I first read this I was planning on writing a response that would have ripped you apart for being rude and condescending but then I read your other posts and I have to expand that to annoying and kind of bitchy. Either you are an actual troll or you are one of those faux-feminists who thinks that the best way to make your pathetic self feel better is to tell other women they are stupid.

Either way, fuck off.
culturehandy
I judge this forum as a shame to our female ingenuity.

Then leave.

hope to god the next person to go down on me has thought this much about how to do it beforehand.

Doesn't that completely make your above comment completely redundant and contradictory?

And as anyone who has ever sucked a dick will tell you, there is more to it than knob gobbling. There is such a thing as a bad blow job, just as there is such a thing as a person who doesn't know how to eat pussy.
zoya
my goodness boys, it's shaped like a taco and your mouth is shaped like a mouth. it can't be to difficult to work out. I judge this forum as a shame to your masculine ineptitude, and hope to god the next person to go down on me has actually read what we like and taken some heed.

so eat it, asswipe.

and I don't mean my pussy because clearly you don't know how. Fuck off.
girltrouble
i heart busties!
Christine Nectarine
ah, bustie love! wub.gif

candy, i find it can help to take a "break" too...as in, take him in your mouth as much as you can, but if you feel the gag coming on, open your lips and back up a bit, or just remove your mouth altogether, take a quick breath, and back at it! i don't gag too quickly, but it def happens, so this works for me.
hellcat
I am so up for going down! The problem? The man I want to pleasure (over and over) is a 14hr drive away and I don't have a car. Sigh. I haven't seen him in the buff for *counts on fingers* 6 years, since we were in our teens. I can, however, remember how I thought he had the most amazing boy stuffs I'd ever known. Now, at night, I try to rekindle ancient memories of how he felt and tasted. Back then I refused to swallow and now...now?!?! It is all I can think about!!!!

Also, I feel like I did my womanly duty by sending a couple guy friends the posted article on how to go down on a lady. I agree, that shizzz should be mandatory reading!
PosieRider
Troll? Faux-feminist? Bitch? None of the above I promise! Please don't mistake my North London irony for genuine rudeness, I didn't intend to 'break the flow' but just to make light of the flow, you know, like don't panic, it's within your grasp, relax and it will come, so to speak. As a peace offering, I've managed to find an article I read eons ago from Vice Magazine, when I myself was not such a pro at the blow and which I found helpful at the time. If my memory serves it had a sister-article detailing how to go down on a lady.

In experience, I'd recommend not panicking if the gag reflex does kick in when deep throating- it's a bit like having cramp in your toes, if you relax it just sort of disappears. Also alternating between less demanding moves and the deep throat to give yourself time to breathe. Not sure what else! Lots of spit?
culturehandy
The vice article has been posted before....
PosieRider
QUOTE(culturehandy @ Jan 19 2009, 12:44 PM) *
The vice article has been posted before....


Oh really? Sorry. It was so long ago I read it.
candycane_girl
Wow, Posie. There have been a lot of trolls that have come to Bust over the years but the ones I find most annoying are those who choose to insult the rest of the community and then claim that they are just being ironic or funny. Piss off.

Anyway, I figured out a few things to do to my guy and he's been singing my praises ever since. Thanks for your support busties.

Oh, and by the way, a gag reflex is not like a toe cramp that just goes away. Eventually, if the gag reflex is stimulated enough, you will end up vomiting all over the place.
culturehandy
CandyCane_Girl, I'm hoping you did not find out about the gag reflex and puking the hard way...
candycane_girl
I hate to admit it but I did. I tried to just ignore it and the next thing I knew....
culturehandy
At least one day you can look bad and laugh at the situation. I think this has happened to someone else, and there was a soup story and oral sex, but for the life of me I can't remember who it was.
larabuckerton
Guys:

Now I can begin to suck. Watch me closely. I take a cock from the right pocket of my greatcoat, suck it, stop sucking it, put it in the left pocket of my greatcoat, the one empty (of cocks). I take a second cock from the right pocket of my greatcoat, suck it put it in the left pocket of my greatcoat. And so on until the right pocket of my greatcoat is empty (apart from its usual and casual contents) and the six cocks I have just sucked, one after the other, are all in the left pocket of my greatcoat. Pausing then, and concentrating, so as not to make a balls of it, I transfer to the right pocket of my greatcoat, in which there are no cocks left, the five cocks in the right pocket of my trousers, which I replace by the five cocks in the left pocket of my trousers, which I replace by the six cocks in the left pocket of my greatcoat. At this stage then the left pocket of my greatcoat is again empty of cocks, while the right pocket of my greatcoat is again supplied, and in the right way, that is to say with other cocks than those I have just sucked. These other cocks I then begin to suck, one after the other, and to transfer as I go along to the left pocket of my greatcoat, being absolutely certain, as far as one can be in an affair of this kind, that I am not sucking the same cocks as a moment before, but others. And when the right pocket of my greatcoat is again empty (of cocks), and the five I have just sucked are all without exception in the left pocket of my greatcoat, then I proceed to the same redistribution as a moment before, or a similar redistribution, that is to say I transfer to the right pocket of my greatcoat, now again available, the five cocks in the right pocket of my trousers, which I replace by the six cocks in the left pocket of my trousers, which I replace by the five cocks in the left pocket of my greatcoat. And there I am ready to begin again. Do I have to go on? There was something more than a principle I abandoned, when I abandoned the equal distribution, it was a bodily need. But to suck the cocks in the way I have described, not haphazard, but with method, was also I think a bodily need. Here then were two incompatible bodily needs, at loggerheads. Such things happen. But deep down I didn't give a tinker's curse about being off my balance, dragged to the right hand and the left, backwards and forewards. And deep down it was all the same to me whether I sucked a different cock each time or always the same cock, until the end of time. For they all tasted exactly the same. And if I had collected sixteen, it was not in order to ballast myself in such and such a way, or to suck them turn about, but simply to have a little store, so as never to be without. But deep down I didn't give a fiddler's curse about being without, when they were all gone they would be all gone, I wouldn't be any the worse off, or hardly any. And the solution to which I rallied in the end was to throw away all the cocks but one, which I kept now in one pocket, now in another, and which of course I soon lost, or threw away, or gave away, or swallowed ...

tongue.gif xxx

PS: I'm new here obv.!!
culturehandy
Ummm WTF?
ketto
I don't understand...
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