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sassybrawd_v20
Busties- do most guys see this as a turn on or turn-off?
capilot
I've only experienced female ejaculation once that I know of. I was going down on her, and every time she came, I got doused. I was all "what the hell *glub* *sputter* *cough* is happening down here?!"

I for one, don't see the point either way. It's like those damn spam emails that offer to help me increase the "quant!ty of my ejacu!ations". Umm, explain to me why I would want to do that? Why would I want more to mop up afterwards?

Anyway, it's definately not a turn off for me, and if female ejaculation is a sign that she's really getting off, then I guess I'm all for it. But the turn-on comes entirely from knowing that she's turned on.

That's the key: If female ejaculation means she's having a great time, then yes, it's a turn-on for me.

But making it some sort of goal to be achieved? Is there some sort of checklist I didn't get? I dunno; seems that if you're getting obsessed with achieving it, that maybe you're letting some bad sex or porn site rule your life.
sassybrawd_v20
i only ask because i have "the skill" and am curious if this is off putting to guys.
sassybrawd_v20
any guys input?
erinjane
Sassy, it really depends on the guy. Everyone has different tastes. That being said, I don't think I've ever heard a guy say it's a turn off.
cleanoldguy
I've never met a guy who claimed to have seen it. I certainly haven't, and I like to think my youth wasn't entirely wasted. (Of course, since I'm only 68, I still have some youth to waste....)

It was a staple of such Victorian pornography as "My Secret Life" by someone who signed himself "Walter" and "My Life and Loves" by the journalist and author Frank Harris. These books were briefly popular in the 1960s when newly liberalized laws allowed their open publication, but these antiques were quickly rendered obsolete by the kind of porn that is still easily available. (I'm sure the books are still in print, but they'll never be best-sellers again.)

Anyway, these books were so overwritten and unrealistic that most readers--including me--assumed that female ejaculation was a figment of these authors' fevered imaginations. So it came as quite a surprise to learn it's real!

And I must say it would NOT be a turn off.
venetia
Awww, how can you say that about dear old "Walter"?! :-)
cleanoldguy
Venetia, maybe I'm just getting cranky in my old age. (And maybe my old age is dimming my memory of dear old "Walter"--maybe he was hotter than I recall.) But I thought even back then that he wandered from erotica into unintended humor.

I wonder if I still have a copy of his book....
skandelouslala
I kept this hidden "skill" from my fiance for a while b/c I didn't really know how he would respond to it.

I decided to test it out on him one night though and he loved it. It got to the point where he wanted to make me do it EVERY time we had sex. While highly enjoyable it can be exhausting lol I was really surprised how much he enjoyed it though.
ohsweetie
I had never ejaculated before my present partner, knew how, never had tried....then one day we're engaged in intercourse, missionary posititon and i squirt and its gushing all over our legs. he loved it of course, but i found it interesting that we werent trying to make my ejaculation a goal, and we did all of the "right" things to make it happen. but, can i just say, the smell? weird, pungent, fruity smell. hmm.
sexygal
hey everyone
sexygal
i masturbate often and i always reach an orgasm so i feel really good but i have always wanted to ejaculate! I hav tried fingering and finding my G-spot but it still doesnt work! Please help me coz i really want to ejaculate so that i see how it feels!
Thanks
maimy
Have you considered reading the thread? It's filled with information ...
monhae
A man's point of view.
My wife has done it since the first time she had an orgasm back when we started dating. I love it. We keep towels readily available, because you never know when. IT is an amazing thing, because I know when she has her orgasms. No worry of fakes and such. I love being under it. Especially the "mustache ride" situation. The first time it happened, she was worried, but I explained it (MEdical profesional), and told her how amazing it was and she quickly became addicted. Our sex life is amazing and I hope it never changes.
hoplssangl
who likes to play
greenaardvark
I love the sound of what a few people have said about the after-feeling of female ejaculation, it's a great feeling after coming but sometimes the feeling just doesn't last long enough. I've never ejaculated before, and i want to know, how do you know you're not peeing? Is it a very different feeling? Sometimes i feel like i need to pee when i'm being stimulated, and wonder if i let go maybe i would ejaculate instead. Hope that doesn't sound too random! :D
hummingbird
greenaardvark, for me it's about intensity, when i first started having really good orgasms, sometimes i felt like i had to pee, and one time i did, opps! We didn't know it until we'd finished. So, for safety I do go pee if I feel like I have to, but sometimes i think that I have to but I don't. It's just the intensity. So, then I can let go because I know that I won't pee. I don't know about other ladies here, I have ejaculated, but I can't do it at will. So, I just ride the wave.
boodles
ohsweetie, mine has an interesting smell also, does anyone else have a smell or is it odorless?

Also, I only ejaculate with clit stimulation, it's happenned ever since the first time I masturbated.
ericamamerica
When it happens with me, it's both colorless and odorless. I'll never forget the first time it happened - that was so crazy! I didn't know WHY I was so SOAKING WET.

It only happens when the sex is REALLY REALLY GOOD. It's almost ridiculous how wet the sex is.

Every man in my experience has found it to be very, very sexy.

It's happened once to me by myself during clit masturbation - all other times have been during intercourse, and most of the times that is has happened, I've been on top.

It does SOAK whatever I am having sex on - couch, bed, car seat, ect. Never stains or smells.

Never heard about this until it happened to me and I had to investigate because after the first time it happened, like many women here, I thought perhaps I peed without realizing. Luckily, that wasn't the case!
seraphine
I have always been a bit in the dark on this subject. I did read through quite a few posts, so forgive me if my questions have already been answered. =P

I -think- I have ejaculated before, because often (if not always) when I orgasm, quite a bit of odorless, colorless fluid flows out of me. The more and more I orgasm consecutively, the wetter and wetter I become; but I have never actually squirted out this or any fluid before. However, my guy says it feels better for him the more and more I orgasm, because of the added fluid lubrication.

Is this still what one would consider ejaculation, or are there different kinds of fluids? Sometimes I even have a bit of a "gush" (though still not a "squirt") of a similar fluid if certain portions (clitoris, g-spot, anus, etc.) are stimulated in a just-so way, even if I do not orgasm. Though now that I think about it, the fluid is similar but not the same.

I'd appreciate input. It would be quite the experience to actually squirt out fluid upon orgasming. As to something to work toward, I can see why some busties would want to take on the challenge. ;) It sounds thrilling.

Many thanks in advance!
seraphine
Hmm. I fear I may have unintentionally killed this thread with my 'daring' inquiry. Where did everyone go? Do I smell? =P
_octinoxate
Hey seraphine, don't worry, you didn't kill the thread with that. I suspect people aren't responding just because those issues have been talked about quite a bit here before and they may be bored of it... you just have the bad luck of not being able to read that conversation because the archives (or whatever you call them) of the thread seem to have been erased. Maybe someone who knows more about this than I do can come chat, but I can say that a.) ejaculation doesn't necessarily have to be accompanied by orgasm, and b.) many women who ejaculate don't "squirt", but rather just have a gush like what you described.
theredhead
I think it's sort of the same as it is with guys, seraphine -- some guys ejaculate a long ways, and with some it just sort of dribbles out. I think both "gushers" and "dribblers" are perfectly normal, for men and for women.
maimy
Seraphine, it does sound very much like ejaculation. My only reason for not responding was the (faulty) assumption that someone else would. Probably a lot of that. I don't think anyone's bored, but maybe didn't have anything of their own new to add, so didn't post in response to you either.
seraphine
_octinoxate, theredhead, maimy: Thanks so much for the info. This was actually one of my earlier posts, so I didn't want busties to get the wrong impression that I'm focusing on one topic. I appreciate the explanation, and did notice recently that all of the threads were "cleaned" circa late April. So the answer to my question was probably in those deleted posts. Thanks again! =)
punkinbutt1829
i have a personal question. i hope someone can help me with this. when me and my husband gets really into it and i am about to cum and i think it is going to be a good orgasm i almost pee on him can someone please help me with this i also do it when i masterbate myself. please help me


also can someone tell me why i do this is this natural for some women or am i just weird? .
maimy
PunkinButt, the sensation of female ejaculation is very similar to the urge to pee. I'm guessing you know this, as you found this particular thread and are discussing the sensation of needing to pee.

So, if you know this ... what exactly is your question? Do you want to know how to stop yourself? Because it seems you know that, as you haven't actually ejaculated from what you describe.

If you want to know how to push through and DO it, well ... you push through and do it. Don't concentrate too hard, just let your body lead you, and don't hold back.

The fluid is pretty universally described as odorless, or at least certainly not smelling like urine. Sexual partners most often seem to respond quite positively to seeing their woman ejaculate. It doesn't really stain anything, and all you need is a couple of towels and a good sense of fun to enjoy the experience. And, yes, it's perfectly natural.

What is it you need help with?
punkinbutt1829
well actually i really wanna know is how do i control this problem of me peeing almost all the time i masterbate or have sex with my husband? and it kind of makes me feel like i'm not having a orgasm sometimes i can't hardly have a orgasm when he is in me but when we do four play then i can but not all the time. can you tell me how i can make that happen? have a orgasm when he is in me and we are actually making love
hummingbird
punk, it's the intensity...that used to happen to me when, for me, i was almost pushing, trying to push out the orgasm, making it more intense...and it was a lil too intense and I felt like I had to pee and then one time, I did. Now, in terms of having orgasms through penetration, my suggestions are: use a vibe on your clit while he is penetrating you...OMG!...Another thing is, just practice and be in the right mindset, for me fantasizing is good...And finally, some women just do not orgasm from penetration alone...sorry...this is a fact that society would not like to admit...but it's true, cock alone sometimes just isn't enough...in fact I almost always need some good foreplay to orgasm from cock alone.
punkinbutt1829
thanks hummingbird i do that but still happens i guess i am just helpless when it comes to stuff like this.. well thanks anyways for you guys help.. i guess i will have to try some new ways on my own to try to figure it out.. but right now i am going to just hold it in so much if i feel like i have to pee then just stop and finish my husband off then worry about me later when i get do it alone.. but thanks again.. i'll come back when i have another problem or just want to talk to some of you..
hummingbird
Ok punkinbutt, keep practicing, it will change...
CuriousKat
QUOTE(boodles @ Jun 14 2006, 09:37 PM) *

ohsweetie, mine has an interesting smell also, does anyone else have a smell or is it odorless? <BR> <BR>Also, I only ejaculate with clit stimulation, it's happenned ever since the first time I masturbated. <BR>



When I masturbate I get really really wet, and the fluid is clear and it has an odor, am I ejaculating or is this just discharge. When I am with my guy I get really really wet, what is going on with me when I am with him, am I just really happy and excited, is that the female excitement compared to when a guy gets hard?
ericamamerica
QUOTE(punkinbutt1829 @ Jul 2 2006, 12:35 AM) *

but right now i am going to just hold it in so much if i feel like i have to pee then just stop and finish my husband off then worry about me later when i get do it alone.. but thanks again.. i'll come back when i have another problem or just want to talk to some of you..


You want to just stop caring about your own pleasure and just let your husband finish off?! I hope this is not something he advocates. Urinate before sex if you don't already. If you do pee during sex, you are with your husband, and should be comfortable enough that you should both go, "it happens" and move on, then discuss this with your doctor. Sometimes if you are unfamiliar with the sensations of g-spot stimulation, that could be it. Your husband could be "hittin' the right spot" but to you it feels more like an urge to pee.

When I was sixteen (I'm 21 now) and I was fooling around with a guy for the first time, he was fingering me and it made me feel like I had to pee. BADLY. And I was scared and uncomfortable because I was thinking about how absolutely MORTIFYING it would be if it happened. After that experience, I researched online about feeling the urge to pee, and figured out that it was normal to feel that way when your g-spot is stimulated.

It took experience to get past the urge to pee and to relax. I think part of the problem was that I was so nervous. Of course, I would be embarrassed if I did pee during sex, but I haven't ever felt the urge to. I HAVE had female ejaculation and it is different. For me, as other ladies have described here, it is a gush of fluid, it has no odor, and it is clear and cleans up easy.

It is NOT fair that you should have to stop focusing on your pleasure and "just let your husband finish." This is something that you really should feel comfortable discussing with a partner as close as one's husband, and find out ways you two can work things out in the bedroom together. Also, don't hesitate to bring this up to your gyno. It is an obvious area of concern, and I guarantee you it isn't the first time she has heard of something like this.

Bottom line, do not deny yourself the pleasure and gratification you deserve from sex.

-E
doubleblank
It has always been a myth amongst us guys. I have never been with a woman that could gush. Although, I had one buddy who claimed his girl would squirt all over him. It would turn me on if a girl gushed on my dick.

However, I did go through a time where I was put off by not only discharge, but a vagina.
wombat
As for me, I gushed in high school and knew what it was, cause it didn't smell like pee, and maybe the porn helped a bit too, but -- I will say that it doesn't happen all the time, and it is more of a g-spot thing,

as for the pee, doesn't most sexual stimulation feel KIND OF like having to pee, for both men and women? and yet, you will not pee if you come, the muscles block off the pee duct (oh, I didn't go to medical school for this terminology) during orgasm -- kinda like the food pipe versus the wind pipe.

Female ejaculation is a little less tied to orgasm than male ejaculation, ie, it's more often that females will come without ejaculating. Also, I'm not sure that female ejaculate would get "backed up" although women can feel achy more in the ovaries/kidneys sort of area if they get stimulated for too long without coming.

maimy
Wombat, I love your way with words. Hee.

I have only ever gushed during anal so far. It's actually a little hard for me to imagine how I'd be able to do it with a penis in the way so to speak. When kog3100 comes home, we're going to have to research this vaginal-intercourse fe-jaculation thing, I think.

*Nodding sagely*
wombat
Why thanks, Maimy!

For me, the dick wouldn't block the way because my pee hole is vey close to the entrance. It DOES COME OUT the pee hole, but it's not pee!
Kalevra
OK, I will chip in with some commentary here, as a result of my experience.....

I once dated a girl who used to make a proper mess! It started out being only a little bit, but as it turns out, she was holding back for fear of me getting turned off. I told her that it was a natural thing and she should definately not stop the feeling. After that, well the proverbial flood gates opened up and we were awash with her juices all the time. Sometimes, in 69, with her on top, I could almost have drowned smile.gif And certainly no odour, and colourless as previously explained here, and usually always the same viscosity. I was, and still am turned on by it, and as mentioned here again previously, it was more from the fact that she was in ecstacy rather than the juices. This girl used to totally lose control in an orgasm, and that alone used to drive me nuts.
Since then, I have only been with one other girl who gushed, it was a very short relationship, and when it first happened she was sooo embarrassed. She was on top, and at one point, I felt her tensing up, breathing was quickening, and I felt this warm liquid all over my crotch....I said to her after she had slowed down a bit 'Hey, look waht you have done' with a very proud smirk on my face....she could not believe it, and promptly went a bright scarlett from embarrasment. We stopped and I managed to persuade her how lovely it was, and once she realised it was not bothering me, but rather exciting me....she aimed for the big gushing O all the time...thats mutual pleasure.....pity we never really got on with each other, she was a lot of fun on the sack, and luuurved being pleasured ....mmm...

LoveMyPugs
I think I just need to come to terms with the fact that I know myself and that I don't think I will ever be able to ejaculate. When that feeling of having to pee comes I just don't have the mental ability to let go. I know it's wrong but I'd be embarrased if I gushed a large amount of liquid all over Mr. Pug. Even though I know he'd love it. It's just me. I don't think I can do it. Maybe I should start alone in the shower or something. Lucky women who can do this at will. blink.gif
maimy
LoveMyPugs, the only important thing in your sex life is whether you are satisfied with it, and whether you and your partner are getting what you need and communicating. Everything else is bells and whistles.

I happen to be a gusher, and I think it's sort of cool, but the fact is, it isn't in any way a "superior" orgasm to any other orgasm I experience. It's just different.

Human beings are like crows and shiny objects; we are taken with variety. So it's natural to be interested in, ah, innovation, shall we say. ("Gushing? Holy moly!") But there's no prescribed set of varieties that are hotter than any others - like the fact that I dig anal and can gush is pretty nifty to kog3100, and we do talk about that stuff here ... but I'd bet plenty of money there is stuff you dig, and can do, that isn't on my menu either. We all have our kinks and bends, eh?

For me and kog3100, the gush thing is as much visual as anything. There's an incredible "silky" sensation to it - but the quality of sensation that leads to it is the same as it ever was before I learned I could do this thing. And visual stimuli are myriad and ever-changing. You can "show" things others never could, and that is more important than one interesting thing you don't find yourself able to push to.

We've probably all had some "thing" we try to push to accomplish, sexually. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. At the end of the day, satisfaction isn't always so specific. The only important thing is to know how to find it and give it, and make that the priority.

(All that said - I bet you will do it at some point. It's like learning how to fly: All you have to do is accidentally get so distracted you just forget to hit the ground.)
CuriousKat
I squirt when I masturbate, multiple times...sometimes it does depend on how horny and hot I am and what I have been thinking about or watching that day, etc.



My bf wants to get me off with just hands and no toys, when I get myself off its with toys. Only once have I been able to get myself off with my hands and I think that was the first time that I ever experienced an orgasm. Last night he tried, he rubbed my clit and I couldnt control myself because it was so intense, it felt soooo good but still no orgasm, just a lot of penetration. I got him off and he gushed all over my hand, it was amazing, it was my first time helping him out, oh I loved it!!

Does anyone have any suggestions on what we should do differently in order to get me off, I know where my spot is, a vibrator will wake up that spot and my clit and I go to town but with hands its harder to get off.

We havent had intercourse yet, we are going to someday but thats after I get on the pill and he buys supplies.

Ok so I need advice on what to do when I am with my guy and wants to get me off with no toys, just hands.

Also for anyone that is on the pill (birth control) what kind would you recommened (patch, pill?) Also I need a form of the pill that does NOT cause weight gain because I do not need it nor do I want it.

Thanks for reading:)
Erica4U
I Feel that gushing is very sexy and I get turned on by it! I gush but in a different way! Gushing is a sign that your at least having an orgasm! For some women the gushing intensifies the orgasm often because of the visual content as well! So is the liquid in any way thicker than pee and is there a gland that produces this liquid? has anyone tasted it? Men's cum is often a salty base but tastes much better when a man drinks or eats pineapple juice a few hours to ejaculation.
moosemunch
I've always wanted to squirt...I've read about it and have never found out about it until recently. I also just found my g-spot almost a year ago (I'm 18, so I'm sure a lot of you are older and more experienced). I've had lots of sexual experience, but I'd like to learn how to squirt. I heard that you can learn it, with sufficient g-spot stimulation and such, but apparently not all women can squirt. Still though, it's worth a try! ^_- Can any of you give me advice, or tell me how to do it? Or at least, how you get to it? The first time you did it, did it just happen naturally, or did you also "learn" or try to do it?
CuriousKat
Moosemunch,
When I first squirted I had been pleasuring myself for a lil while, I had just gotten my first toy in the mail and played with it almost every night. The first couple of times that I masturbated I didnt squirt but I had amazing orgasms, I at least worked myself up to it by using my bullet vibrator and then buying a g-spot vibrator and using them separately and at the same time, so I for one "learned" how to squirt, these days when I masturbate I gush pretty much every time, Oh My God it feels so damn good, give it a try, trust me its worth it!!!!






The other night my bf and I hung out at his condo, it was our date night:) We each had a beer and just sat and watched TV. I brought over some of my toys just in case we started to mess around...after a couple of hours we made out and were dry humping (the closest thing we have gotten to without having sex, we dont have the materials YET).

I told him that I brought over my toys and needed to release, it was my turn because I hadn't orgasmed in his presence yet. So I brought them out and got to work, he got to help but lost target so I took over and couldn't get off, it was so frustrating and the reason why was because he was watching me...we had the TV on so I told him to turn around and watch TV, he did and I orgasmed like 5 times and made deep groans that made him turn around, I wish I could do it with him watching me, I have my eyes closed, I dunno its weird. I know he enjoyed hearing my moans and breathing, he was pretty turned on before I started.
It was amazing, they say that masturbation is second best to sex, and that was awesome to do that in front of him, my courage and confidence got a good boost!!

Does anyone have any advice though as to how I could masturbate with him watching me and no being obvious? He stares at me while I do it, Im a blur to him because he cant see without his glasses but I think its just the fact of having an audience that makes me unable to orgasm.

If anyone has any advice I would absolutely love to hear it:)


Thanks for reading!!
stephanie_erin
i have quite an embarassing issue with squirting.
the thing is, any time i'm daydreaming about some hot guy.. i let out a little.
at first i didn't think anything of it.. but it's getting worse. it's never been so much that it shows from outside of my jeans, but it certainly makes me nervous.
any suggestions?
i suppose talking to my gyno about it would be best..
but if there's some easy way to control it, please let me know.
thanks so much.
anna k
When I ejaculate my feet get a cold chill, like a freezing feeling. It's a cold and numbing rush straight through my legs to my feet.
auralpoison
CuriousCat, just curious... do you ever wank together? If you're watching him pleasure himself while you're pleasuring yourself it might take some of the pressure off of you. Plus it's really hot.
curiouskat6
Hi, this is CuriuosKat, same person who has been posting here for a lil while but I had to change my name due to not remembering my password, lol:)

We have never wanked together, he claims that it feels better when my hands are on him and not his own.

OK I have a couple questions/concerns...

My bf loves to finger me, he told me the other night that he has yet to find my clit and g-spot and he really wants to get me off without the help of toys. He was fingering me on my clit and it was so intense that I was telling him to stop but he wouldn't, I had to tell him 4 or 5 times to stop before he actually took me seriously(he had had 2 drinks prior to our fooling around)

So since he pleasured me he wanted some to. I started rubbing him through his jeans, he was getting really hard and apprently I over stimulated him after awhile, he started shivering, I had never seen that before so I stopped for awhile and he said he was in pain and needed to release but I'm still new at the foreplay thing and in order to finish him off I would have had to take off his pants and see his member in full, which I have not seen yet, he has seen me, all of me but I'm still hesitant.

So after awhile of not touching him he said he was in pain and I wanted to finish him off but he said the feeling was gone. I had to leave anyways because I had work the next day, we were saying goodbye when he started fingering me again while standing up and I went to pleasure him some more and grabbed his member not knowing how much it would hurt and cringed to the ground, I felt so horrible!! sad.gif

Now he tells me that I am not allowed to come over ever again and that he is off limits, no more messing around and that goes for me to. Now I know he sounds like an ass (he knows he can be one, but its not going to make me stop loving him) but my fear is that he is actually very serious and its hard to tell when he is serious and just messing around with me.

Well I was so upset about what I did to him that I told him he has to stop teasing me about sex and pleasuring him and stuff, no more teasing about that, and he stopped, but of course he could start back up when he returns from North Carolina next week.

Ok so my question/concern is, I think that he is only about 4 to 4.5 inches long, how do I determine without having sex with him that he is long enough to reach my g-spot during sex? He said I could measure so we know if we need to use toys or not but again I am hesitant because I have never seen his penis or a guys penis up close ever for that matter,how do I go about measuring him without getting scared? Also how can I master my fear of seeing his penis and getting use to it, how can I go about doing that? ANYONE WHO CAN HELP PLEASE RESPOND!! smile.gif
boblink
QUOTE(curiouskat6 @ Dec 23 2006, 06:46 PM) *

Hi, this is CuriuosKat, same person who has been posting here for a lil while but I had to change my name due to not remembering my password, lol:)

We have never wanked together, he claims that it feels better when my hands are on him and not his own.

OK I have a couple questions/concerns...

My bf loves to finger me, he told me the other night that he has yet to find my clit and g-spot and he really wants to get me off without the help of toys. He was fingering me on my clit and it was so intense that I was telling him to stop but he wouldn't, I had to tell him 4 or 5 times to stop before he actually took me seriously(he had had 2 drinks prior to our fooling around)

So since he pleasured me he wanted some to. I started rubbing him through his jeans, he was getting really hard and apprently I over stimulated him after awhile, he started shivering, I had never seen that before so I stopped for awhile and he said he was in pain and needed to release but I'm still new at the foreplay thing and in order to finish him off I would have had to take off his pants and see his member in full, which I have not seen yet, he has seen me, all of me but I'm still hesitant.

So after awhile of not touching him he said he was in pain and I wanted to finish him off but he said the





feeling was gone. I had to leave anyways because I had work the next day, we were saying goodbye wh

en he started fingering me again while standing up and I went to pleasure him some more and grabbed hi
s member not knowing how much it would hurt and cringed to the ground, I felt so horrible!! sad.gif


CuriousKat6

Chances are you can get good answers to these questions online. I suggest that you Google Betty Dodson and find good, solid, factual information. You'll find good drawings of the female anatomy that can educate the boy. Print out one or more that are consistent with your own structure and show him, along with some explanatory material that can be helpful to you both.

Also it would be helpful to Google G Spot. There's a ton of material that'll give you a good education in that subject -- far more than anyone can give you with reasonable effort in this forum. Print out some of it for him, too.

Good luck and good loving.







Now he tells me that I am not allowed to come over ever again and that he is off limits, no more messing around and that goes for me to. Now I know he sounds like an ass (he knows he can be one, but its not going to make me stop loving him) but my fear is that he is actually very serious and its hard to tell when he is serious and just messing around with me.

Well I was so upset about what I did to him that I told him he has to stop teasing me about sex and pleasuring him and stuff, no more teasing about that, and he stopped, but of course he could start back up when he returns from North Carolina next week.

Ok so my question/concern is, I think that he is only about 4 to 4.5 inches long, how do I determine without having sex with him that he is long enough to reach my g-spot during sex? He said I could measure so we know if we need to use toys or not but again I am hesitant because I have never seen his penis or a guys penis up close ever for that matter,how do I go about measuring him without getting scared? Also how can I master my fear of seeing his penis and getting use to it, how can I go about doing that? ANYONE WHO CAN HELP PLEASE RESPOND!! smile.gif

maimy
I may not be clear on the nature of the relationship, but it doesn't matter in the context of the advice I'd give you, Curious.

1) He doesn't stop when you tell him to stop. Drinks shouldn't enter into that. "No" isn't magically translated to some other meaning because he's had a flippin' beer.

DTMFA.

2) He plays LUDICROUS games centered on sexual satisfaction, but won't actually, you know, communicate about it. I'm half suspicious he wasn't trying to pull the moldy old "I've got blue balls, you have to finish me off" game with you, but if he was even that lame-assed maneuver was so lamely attempted it was pathetic in the extreme.

DTMFA.

3) He is using sex as a bargaining chip, but (sing it with me if you've heard the words, kids!) won't actually, you know, COMMUNICATE ABOUT IT.

DTMFA.

4) He seems to be ignorant enough not to understand that it isn't entirely the job of physical proportions to get you off. If he doesn't know even the most basic fact, that a certain amount of TECHNIQUE will be required as well (geez, wouldn't stop AND couldn't find your clit? Oy), he hardly needs access to your genitalia. Dr. Ruth may be old, but her central mantra would be good for this boy to learn - The brain is the most important sexual organ.

DTMFA.

This kid sounds like vastly more aggro, drama, and trouble than he can possibly be worth, given the level of relative contribution he appears to be making, or interested in making.

DTMFA. Find a smarter one.
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