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domiuno
Happy Easter to all members. D1
p_176
rabbit -
i have not personally had one, but the people i know who had one, had good results and minimal problems. i think the first step in alleviating your fears about breast reduction is to be referred by your dr to a plastic surgeon who has experience in doing reductions, and talk about all the steps from prepping for the reduction to any recovery issues.
p_176
auralpoison
*bump* for Damona, that gal needs her some new dainties.

Aw, who am I kidding? Dainties? We need the steel-belted variety for our bazoons!
srose36HH
Hey all! I am new to the site, and need some support. No pun intended. I am a 36HH after getting fitted properly for the first time this past week. I had been jammed into a 36/38 DD. Needless to say I was surprised. I am one of the lucky ones without back pain though. Anyway, for the support issue... my husband wants to do certain "things" that I do not have any experience with. Anyone with experience, please let me know. This is really embarrassing. Thanks. dry.gif
damona
i know ap bumped this for me a couple days ago, but it just occurred to me i didn't actually post here. oops. anyway, i wear a 38C, and i'm pretty sure that's the right size, but maybe i need to go to a 40C? does such a thing exist? my mom swears it does, but i can't find any! of course, i am looking at k-mart and wal-mart (ugh, but it's all there is) but, yeah. i always wind up with red marks under my boobs from the wires and strap marks on my shoulders, no matter if i let the straps out all the way or not. i'm tired of being uncomfortable dammit!
deschatsrouge
Damona, I went to lanebryant.com and they have size 40c so it does exist.
Megnog
hey guys.... I'm a 32F and need to find a corset/bustier to wear for a dance performance that I'm in. I have noooo idea how these things work.... would I order a small to fit around the band(32)? or would my boobs fall out? Sucks, please help!
tatiana
In general, if you go up a band size, you need to go down a cup size to keep the same cup volume.

In your case it sounds like your cups are too small if the wires are leaving marks on your breasts because the wires should sit on your chest (on the side), not on your breasts. It sounds like you need to find an independent lingerie store to get properly fitted. Department stores don't carry the larger band or cup sizes. The chain lingerie stores (like LaSenza or La Vie En Rose) don't carry the larger sizes either, but the independent ones do (and they carry pretty ones).

I wore a 36 DD and had problems like you describe. Turns out that's because I'm a 36F when I'm properly fitted. Also, the straps should not be carrying the weight of your breasts. You should be able to slip a finger under them. The band should fit tight enough so that it doesn't ride up in the back. Because department stores don't carry the larger cup sizes, many women wear back sizes that are too large to get a cup size that fits but then don't get the support (which comes mostly from the band).

QUOTE(damona @ Apr 2 2008, 10:59 AM) *
i know ap bumped this for me a couple days ago, but it just occurred to me i didn't actually post here. oops. anyway, i wear a 38C, and i'm pretty sure that's the right size, but maybe i need to go to a 40C? does such a thing exist? my mom swears it does, but i can't find any! of course, i am looking at k-mart and wal-mart (ugh, but it's all there is) but, yeah. i always wind up with red marks under my boobs from the wires and strap marks on my shoulders, no matter if i let the straps out all the way or not. i'm tired of being uncomfortable dammit!

auralpoison
Um, darlin', could you be any more vague? He "wants to do certain things"? What does that mean? He wants to titty fuck you or something? What hand does he have in your support?

QUOTE(srose36HH @ Mar 29 2008, 09:48 PM) *
Hey all! I am new to the site, and need some support. No pun intended. I am a 36HH after getting fitted properly for the first time this past week. I had been jammed into a 36/38 DD. Needless to say I was surprised. I am one of the lucky ones without back pain though. Anyway, for the support issue... my husband wants to do certain "things" that I do not have any experience with. Anyone with experience, please let me know. This is really embarrassing. Thanks. dry.gif

Letty
QUOTE(Juliesara @ Mar 22 2008, 02:16 AM) *
I hate humid summers for this very reason, its best to wear a cotton bra (not underwired if you can) so the perspiration can evaporate. I also put DrScholl foot powder in my bra - don't laugh - it really works - my mum ha been using it for years, its coarser than baby powders & seems to work better!


In addition to this, I have even used an unscented deodorant and found it helps. Strange but true!
Letty
Hi, My name's Letty. I'm new on here. I actually joined because i found this thread, and I have a question I'm hoping someone can help with. I recently started dieting once that pesky BMI chart labelled me as "overweight" To be specific, I was 150 lbs, 5'3'' and a size 34DD (which is very hard to find a sports bra size for because my breasts are more wide than they stick out) I want to start exercising more vigorously, but it seems like any exercise I do is very painful with the bouncing! Granted, my chest is not as large as some I've just read on here, but it seems to be big enough to cause some serious pain! Do any of you have the same problem? What do you do about it?
(I have tried the double bra-it doesnt do a darn thing, and I would be devastated to lose what a lot of girls would consider a great gift, so breast reduction is not on my happy list!)
tatiana
I use the Enell sports bra. The Enell is kind of like a vest that just flattens your breasts against your chest. It fits like a straight jacket but there's no bounce which makes it more comfortable to exercise in. I use the Enell for jogging.


QUOTE(Letty @ Apr 9 2008, 05:32 PM) *
Hi, My name's Letty. I'm new on here. I actually joined because i found this thread, and I have a question I'm hoping someone can help with. I recently started dieting once that pesky BMI chart labelled me as "overweight" To be specific, I was 150 lbs, 5'3'' and a size 34DD (which is very hard to find a sports bra size for because my breasts are more wide than they stick out) I want to start exercising more vigorously, but it seems like any exercise I do is very painful with the bouncing! Granted, my chest is not as large as some I've just read on here, but it seems to be big enough to cause some serious pain! Do any of you have the same problem? What do you do about it?
(I have tried the double bra-it doesnt do a darn thing, and I would be devastated to lose what a lot of girls would consider a great gift, so breast reduction is not on my happy list!)
kaie
Ok so i am a 34D, i think (never been formerly fitted for privacy reasons) and the only bras on the market are 36Ds with removable straps so I can do crisscross straps. Those are the only bras that fit. Is there a good online swimsuit catalog that would allow me to find a bikini to fit? all the ones ive seen only go up to 34C and ive found that buying a bigger bikini and tying it tight is as uncomfortable as trying to fit my breasts into tiny cups. i dont want to look like a porn star (almost busting out) and with summer coming up i need help!!!!!!
Megnog
QUOTE(kaie @ Apr 10 2008, 07:46 PM) *
Ok so i am a 34D, i think (never been formerly fitted for privacy reasons) and the only bras on the market are 36Ds with removable straps so I can do crisscross straps. Those are the only bras that fit. Is there a good online swimsuit catalog that would allow me to find a bikini to fit? all the ones ive seen only go up to 34C and ive found that buying a bigger bikini and tying it tight is as uncomfortable as trying to fit my breasts into tiny cups. i dont want to look like a porn star (almost busting out) and with summer coming up i need help!!!!!!



You should get fitted!!!! I thought I was a 34D too but it turns out I'm a 32DDD, and let me tell you I don't know how I LIVED before in those 34D bras. So uncomfortable. Anyways, get fitted.....you don't have to get naked, at least I didn't. That's the first step. Don't invest in a bra that you're not sure is the right size for you... And I know how you feel about looking like a porn star, I'm in the same boat... I don't know what to do either!!!! So let me know when you find out haha. I guess all I can say is try on the suits, don't order from an online store unless you can return it. OK good luck.....get fitted!
auralpoison
Kaie, honey, really. You're a grown-up, you should get fitted. There is no reason to feel uncomfortable. Remember that the shop assistant has breasts, too & she sees boobies all the time so yours won't be any different. And look at it this way, is saving yourself few minutes of discomfort worth walking around with ugly tits/uncomfortable garments? Because that's what happens when you buy an ill-fitting bra/swimtop. Gather your ovaries & just do it, chica! I promise it won't hurt a bit & you won't be emotionally scarred for life!
tatiana
I'm not sure what you mean by "privacy reasons". Except for my training bra, I've always been fitted with a bra on so it's not worse than walking around in a bikini (better, actually 'cause you keep your pants on).

There are places that sell swimsuits by bra size, but you need to be fitted. From your description, I would be shocked if you WEREN'T wearing the wrong size.
kinkaju
So I went into Lane Bryant a couple of weeks ago and omg.... (cue enlightening harp music) they had what I was looking for! Yay! For years I had been buying bras in Walmart, KMart, and even Sears and stuff and hopelessly squeezing myself into a 40D, which seems to be the largest size those places carry. Why did I torture myself like this for all these years?? tongue.gif

Anyway, I ended up getting two non-wire Cacique bras in 40DDD and what an amazing difference. I came home and threw all my old bras away. Since wearing my new bras I haven't had that pain in and underneath my breasts, and I also haven't gotten digging red marks and that awful strain on my shoulders. I was amazed too at how I looked different in my clothes because I was actually supported! The one thing that I really love is that there is this wide, flat elastic band around my ribcage so I don't have those wires digging into the undersides of my boobs anymore, plus they don't try and "sneak out" from underneath like they had been doing hehe . I can totally feel the instant difference in support and comfort.

Just wanted to share my elation, and thank you all for inspiring me to start "treating my girls right." wink.gif
FaerieSin
I have been reading this board for a while, and have seen the same question about where to find cute bras pop up again and again. I have chosen to share my one day web surfing find! I am a 32F and for a long time couldn't find anything that wasn't white or beige, much less cute!! I found this site Bravissimo surfing one day. I have now been ordering from them for 3 years and have loved everything I've gotten! The thing is that they are in the UK. Now I thought that would be extremely expensive too, but after doing the math even after money conversion plus shipping it was still cheaper than picking up the same brands here in the states. (Yes I was shocked when I found that out too!!) They have really great things like tube tops, halter tops, spaghetti strap tops, pj's, dresses, button shirts, jackets, swimsuits (bikinis, tankinis, and full), and of course bras and panties. They get new styles every couple of months, and have really great pattern selections! I encourage you guys to check out the website!
rainbow
Le Mystere, whatever Oprah.
is not so good, but T-shirt bra, Dream Tisha Lace Bra is Good!
Also, Try T-shirt Bras from Chanttel and Fayreform.
rainbow
I'm 30ff & short person, so I understand your problem!
I also recommend to check with chiropractor for your back pain.
QUOTE(littleBIGgirl @ Mar 11 2008, 11:31 PM) *
I'm a 30FF and sometimes I feel like my body is too small for my boobs. I get a lot of back pain. I have been professionally fitted and wear very supportive bras but that's not enough. Any suggestions to ease the strain on my back?

rainbow
I (We) really want swimwear shop to carry big cup sizes! Even Nord Strom & Neiman Marcus don't have them! So I order swimwear from www.figleaves.com & www.undiebox.com, but I can't buy several items at once. So it's tricky to find right one. Customer like me, order & exchange many times until find good size..... It takes lots of time & energy sad.gif
rainbow
I made membership card of Neiman Marcus & Nord Strom, then pay minimum amount each month. Otherwise, I'll broke to pay for my bras! Ah~~~ sad.gif
QUOTE(tatiana @ Oct 11 2007, 07:12 PM) *
Once you get something that you KNOW fits, try online. That's probably the only way to get a cheaper deal. My local store has prices comparable to online, so I just go there where I know I can try them on. 'Course I usually pay ~$150 for a bra (makes me think twice about losing weight ... or so I tell myself).

jollycatrn
OMG!! I thought I would NEVER EVER EVER find a swimsuit that fit! Last week I ordered a two piece tankini swimsuit from www.biggerbras.com and it is seriously the BEST swimsuit I have ever gotten! I even got lucky enough to get the right size on the first try! Now I can go to Hawaii this month and not be afraid of the beach or the pool.

I'm so excited!
Ashtree_NZ
Hi there peeps...

I cringed last week when going to get proper fitting bras (18(40)E/F - i had been squeezing, very unsuccessfully, into 20DDs before). $NZ 50 for the cheapest blink.gif huh.gif crazy expensive, when you are used to being able to buy two for that price. The thought did cross my mind that i could survive in DDs, but since buying and wearing properly fitted bras, so much more comfortable. Back pain has been greatly reduced tongue.gif

Another thing... I found finding out that my bust was bigger than i thought somewhat devistating. But there is not much that i can do about it (exercise is a friend of mine, but doesn't seem to help make my cup size decrease), and my husband doesn't seem to mind that much laugh.gif


Right....

Love and Peace
jennifer19
I just noticed this forum from a friendly link on www.hiddenfeet.com

Lots of stuff to read here! She posted about this message thread a few months ago - great to see it still alive.

Jennifer
coela

Hey. Anyone out there with a big bust who lost a lot of weight?
Everyone kept telling me I'd lose from the bust area first of all,
but I've lost 28 lbs and nothing from the girls. I've actually had to go
UP a cup size to a G, since my band has become 1 size smaller
but my breasts have not. It's really annoying, not to mention expensive,
since I have more weight to lose and have to change bra size a couple
of more times. I naturally can't go without. :-P

I only have 2 bras right now, so I have to wash them in the sink daily
or every other day. It's not super convenient, but buying underwear
on the internet is too much of a hassle - and there aren't any stores
around that carry my size anymore since I went up a cup. Blah.


hellotampon
I've heard that if a bra doesn't lay flat against the front of your chest in between your boobs then it doesn't fit properly. I don't even see how that's possible... unless my boobs are just really close together. Does anyone else have that problem?
kinkaju
That's pretty much the same problem I have with every bra I've ever worn. The thing in between never lays flat against my body and over the course of the day some of my boob meat ends up migrating toward that gap and I end up with uni-boob mad.gif I'm thinking about putting some double sided tape inside my bra and see if that helps haha.
Megnog
That happened to me too.... A year and a half ago I lost like 30 pounds and I think my boobs actually got bigger. Some of us are just "blessed"!!

QUOTE(coela @ May 10 2008, 06:26 AM) *

Hey. Anyone out there with a big bust who lost a lot of weight?
Everyone kept telling me I'd lose from the bust area first of all,
but I've lost 28 lbs and nothing from the girls. I've actually had to go
UP a cup size to a G, since my band has become 1 size smaller
but my breasts have not. It's really annoying, not to mention expensive,
since I have more weight to lose and have to change bra size a couple
of more times. I naturally can't go without. :-P

I only have 2 bras right now, so I have to wash them in the sink daily
or every other day. It's not super convenient, but buying underwear
on the internet is too much of a hassle - and there aren't any stores
around that carry my size anymore since I went up a cup. Blah.

auralpoison
Has anybody noticed that your tops get worn out through friction on the boobs? I bought some lovely tops in a very fine knit that are now pilling where my arms brush my breasts. I first noticed this last year when I pulled on a very old t shirt & my bf laughed because the top was completely worn in the boob area. It was solid grey until you got to the chest where it was tissue thin.

And Mr. Boobie lover, go fuck yourself. There isn't anything to see here & your mere presence offends me.
hellotampon
Mine do that too! And all the necks of my tee shirts are stretched out from being pulled down over my boobs.
pug
Oh man I am so excited that this site exists! Probably like a lot of people I've been trying (unsuccessfully) to find a swimming suit.
Part of the problem is I'm not exactly sure of my size. Fredericks of Hollywood sizes me as a 34F (and their bras fit perfectly) but the sales lady assured me this is the same as a 34DDD and E's don't exist. But often I see 34DDD=34E. So I'm not quite sure about that...
I'm pretty specific with my desire for a swimming suit. I want support for sure but I also want some padding to stop nipplage. hahaha.
Victoria's Secret has some great looking swimming suits but they only go up to DD. I suppose its worth a try. Any suggestions for someone as picky as me?
Side note/story: Before I found Fredericks, most of my bra shopping trips would end with my crying and my mom feeling really bad for me. SO happy I FINALLY found something that works. Hah, one time I walked into Victoria's Secret to buy underwear and the sales lady was trying to get me to look at bras. I finally explained to her that their bras don't fit me. She didn't believe me at all (I do a whole lot of covering up). I finally challenged her to size me and lo and behold I was right!
anna k
On Tuesday in my dance class, I was feeling really good about my breasts, as well as the rest of my body. I felt like I had this fantastic shape. It's weird, but part of it came from watching a History Channel special about the origin of comic book superheros. The female characters were all shapely dames, and I would look in the mirror and liked my proportions, pretending I was one of them. It just made me feel happy.

I got two new bras from Lane Bryant. If I'm in a regular clothing store and trying to find bras, I'm too big. In Lane Bryant, they're too big. The saleslady would tell me that my back was small but my breasts were big, so I could be a 38DDD or even try on a 40F. The bras I got were decent, but didn't give me that strapped-in bullet bra look that I like.
geekchickknits
This is the store Toronto where I buy all of my bras (I'm a 34D) and they have an amazing selection. Even if you're not in the neighbourhood, I think they ship in Canada, and at the very least, you can check out what lines carry your sizes and then search for a local store. It's one of my favourite stores ever.

http://www.secretsfromyoursister.com/

Juliesara
Over here we have Bravissimo which has branches in all the major cities, it caters for us DD+ girls & is pretty cool. The website has just changed and its the best I have seen for showing the differences between a good & a poor fitting bra, I just don't know why nobody else has thought of it.

http://www.bravissimo.com/perfectfit/
Rachelle
OK
I definitely tried to read through most of this but I got a little tired and even more frustrated so here's my personal rant.

I'm 20 years old.. I live in Vancouver / Calgary depending on the time of the year.
I am a 34-36 DD when shopping in La Senza and what-not. I've never been fitted, I'm just worried about finding the right place to get fitted... I don't want to be shopping for bras my grandmother would wear.
I'm also a student with no-so-much money to spare on bra shopping.

Anyways, my issue with bra shopping is that I can't find anything that doesnt make my tits look like they're at my bellybutton. I'm 20!! This shouldn't be an issue... gah!!!!!!!! I can't get any advice from my mother because she was blessed with average sized boobs.
I want my boobs to sit where they're meant to sit, and I don't want to be stuck with average looking bras.

ALSO... I'm not a big girl... I don't know my size but I'm slim... I get comments all the time about how my boobs just don't fit on my body. So when shopping I tend to get disgustingly frustrated and pissed off because when it comes to buying shirts to wear I have to buy large just to fit my chest in them but usually with the current style of tops for people my age I look like i'm pregnant or something. I'd normally fit in a small if it weren't for the chest.
Anything from the cheapy kind of bar clothes stores usually have pre-padded boob "slots" (my nice way of putting it), and it makes it really frustrating when I can't buy anything because my large chest and small body just don't fit in the large boob slots.

Anyways... I really don't want to resort to buying expensive things because I just can't afford any of it. I am getting so frustrated with finding clothing to wear on nights out.

And if anyone has any legit information about breast reduction (i'm scared of scarring badly), could you pass it on?


Oh yeah, one last thing. I would really like to find a good strapless bra that doesnt make my boobs look like they belong on an 80 year old when I wear a tube top.



Thanks... sorry to sound so bitter, it just definitely gets me really frustrated after a day of unsuccessful shopping


PS: I'm scared to shop online for bras/lingerie because I'm worried about getting the wrong size
pug
Hey Rachelle. I have a similar dilemma as I am a 23 year old with 34F boobs and also more er slender elsewhere. The only bra I have ever found that made my boobs not hang low by sheer weight was at Fredericks of Hollywood. I can't even describe my love for the bra. (Don't worry the fit is not skanky or anything). Here's a link incase you're interested: http://www.fredericks.com/product.asp?cata...duct%5Fid=51004
As for shirts, the only thing that seems to work for me are "wifebeaters". And I have never found a strapless bra that works. I'm still crossing my fingers. I've tried everything including corsets to no avail.
DDDtataz
hey there ladies!
i'm new to this site but have been reading through it the last couple of days. ya'll have done a great job giving me fantastic ideas and websites! i have checked out bravissimo(sp?), figleaf, etc. i am having a ridiculous time trying to find a swimsuit that does not TIE BEHIND THE FREAKING NECK! thanks to you guys, it seems as though i now have options, thank you!

i would like to give back by contributing a store/website for bras. they're by no means "fabulous looking" however i swear by these bras for everyday use! it's called soma.com. it's actually owned by chico's and are very comfy! i am a 38DDD and i too have been known to cry on my way home from bra shopping as well sad.gif my fiance, sadly, got the blunt of it and was probably thinking, "WTF?!" i think he freaked out at my hysterics and actually took me back out to help me find a bra tongue.gif ( this was during a UT football game mind you ) i too got lucky at fredericks of hollywood! sexy bras but i have not found the comfort in them to wear them everyday. they too told me that ddd=f. i about shit myself to think i had entered yet another "letter catagory" but they did fit very nicely.

soma also just came out with a sports bra but have not yet tried it out. they can't seem to keep them in stock which i guess means they live up to the advertisements! until then i guess i will continue doing the whole "2 bra" thing mad.gif
jessf
Hi there,
I'm brand new to this group and I have a question for you all. I am engaged - getting married next summer and of course, I would like to buy some sexy lingerie for my honeymoon. I have always been a Victoria's Secret shopper (never found any other bras that fit my 36DDs better). I'm a petite figure (only 5'2") and my problem is that any lingerie I've ever tried on (in a medium, for example) fits in the body, but not at ALL in the boobs and then I don't look sexy at all - just stupid! Is there anywhere that anyone knows of that sells lingerie by bra size?? Doesn't seem like that novel of a concept to me, I'm sure it's out there, just don't know where to look. Thanks in advance for advice!
geekchickknits
QUOTE(Rachelle @ Jun 1 2008, 10:49 PM) *
OK
I definitely tried to read through most of this but I got a little tired and even more frustrated so here's my personal rant.

I'm 20 years old.. I live in Vancouver / Calgary depending on the time of the year.
I am a 34-36 DD when shopping in La Senza and what-not. I've never been fitted, I'm just worried about finding the right place to get fitted... I don't want to be shopping for bras my grandmother would wear.
I'm also a student with no-so-much money to spare on bra shopping.

Anyways, my issue with bra shopping is that I can't find anything that doesnt make my tits look like they're at my bellybutton. I'm 20!! This shouldn't be an issue... gah!!!!!!!! I can't get any advice from my mother because she was blessed with average sized boobs.
I want my boobs to sit where they're meant to sit, and I don't want to be stuck with average looking bras.

ALSO... I'm not a big girl... I don't know my size but I'm slim... I get comments all the time about how my boobs just don't fit on my body. So when shopping I tend to get disgustingly frustrated and pissed off because when it comes to buying shirts to wear I have to buy large just to fit my chest in them but usually with the current style of tops for people my age I look like i'm pregnant or something. I'd normally fit in a small if it weren't for the chest.
Anything from the cheapy kind of bar clothes stores usually have pre-padded boob "slots" (my nice way of putting it), and it makes it really frustrating when I can't buy anything because my large chest and small body just don't fit in the large boob slots.

Anyways... I really don't want to resort to buying expensive things because I just can't afford any of it. I am getting so frustrated with finding clothing to wear on nights out.

And if anyone has any legit information about breast reduction (i'm scared of scarring badly), could you pass it on?
Oh yeah, one last thing. I would really like to find a good strapless bra that doesnt make my boobs look like they belong on an 80 year old when I wear a tube top.
Thanks... sorry to sound so bitter, it just definitely gets me really frustrated after a day of unsuccessful shopping
PS: I'm scared to shop online for bras/lingerie because I'm worried about getting the wrong size



Wow, ok, a lot to deal with here......

If you think you're a 34/36 DD you're probably more along the lines of a 32F. If you're saying that you're a petite person in everywhere except your breasts, you probably want to be looking for a smaller number, larger cup. If all of the bras you try on give you grandma boobs, it's likely the band is too wide, and the straps are not adjusted properly.

I understand your frustration, but you need to get sized! If you're worried about getting sized incorrectly, get sized at several different places and see what the consensus is.

I also understand the conflict of being broke, and wanting nice sexy things, but here's the deal - with bras, you get what you pay for. It's an investment. Also, a bra that fits properly makes you look and feel better, and makes all your clothes fit better too. Once I dropped $250 on 4 bras, but I didn't need to buy any new bras for FOUR YEARS. It was totally worth it.

There is a store in Toronto I love (I know I've mentioned it here before) called Secrets from your Sister, and their website is fantastic. Lots of great tips, and all of the styles they carry are modelled on the site by real people, so you can get an idea of what it will look like on. I don't think they have any outlets, but they may know of a good store in your area, or at the very least, by searching the site, you can get an idea of what brands you may want to look for. I think there is also a section on how to get measured, so grab another busty friend, and measure away! You shouldn't measure yourself because it will be inaccurate.

Here's the site, I hope this rant back at you helps........

http://www.secretsfromyoursister.com/
prophecy_grrl
rachelle, I second the recommendations made by geekchick - if you get professionally fitted, your bra will lift the ladies nicely and there will be no saggy grandma boobs. Don't underestimate the importance of the band size - that's where like 90% of the support should come from, not the straps.
When I was 16 I was a 36C and gradually put on weight over the years and just assumed my band size increased exponentially, at one point I was wearing a 42D just out of trial and error. When I finally got fitted, I was told that mine was the most common mistake women make when they increase sizes; there has to be a serious change in your body to go up 6 band sizes and cup sizes fluctuate more with weight gain/loss. Anyway, turns out I'm a 38DDD. I got some fantastic bras and my ta-ta's are perky and my back and shoulders are happier not doing so much work.
It's great to have a size, even if it is a hard one to find. You are going to have to spend more money and you will be limited in where you can shop but you can still find a variety of styles from basic to sexy. If your funds are limited, try just getting one really good bra that you can wear with anything - nude, smooth cup, plunging center works with button downs, t-shirts, and low-cut tops. I was having a really hard time with strapless too, but my month-long quest ended with a very helpful clerk at Nordstrom - Fantasie, 38E.

Well, I actually came in here to post my frustration with big boob-stigma and got side tracked by the bra finding discussion tongue.gif Anyway, my husband and I have been spending a lot of time with his brother and SIL and their circle of friends. SIL and friends are dancers by profession and as such have athletic frames and small boobs. They have made comments in the past about other dancers who have (gasp) C or D cups and have to actually wear bras during performances and how ill-fitting their costumes are or how it distracts from their dancing. OK, those comments are annoying but I kind of blew them off as a "dancer thing" but last week SIL's friend comments that "big boobs are so trashy" mad.gif First of all, hello standing right here with obvious big boobs - do you think I'm trashy? I was just so upset by it - it took me right back to jr high when I was branded a "slut" because I had boobs before the other girls. It took everything I had not to explode. The hubby was sweet about it, assured me that I had a beautiful, feminine figure and they look like 14 year old boys (hee hee), but it didn't make me feel better. I mean we're f**king adults - I still have to deal with this shit?

Has anyone else been in this situation? How did you handle it? I'm sort of regretting not saying anything.
hellotampon
"Big boobs are so trashy" sounds like a deliberate dig from a jealous person. I usually think it's lame to chalk up every little thing to envy, but that's really what it sounds like here. I'd wear a really low cut top next time you see her and dangle them in front of her face.

I've gotten flak for wearing low-cut shirts all the time. But what people don't seem to understand is that when I wear a shirt with a high neck my chest looks *huge* and oddly-shaped. I need a low neck to visually cut that part of my body in half. I like to wear cardigans too, so they don't look so wide. Not only do I have big boobs, but they're sitting on top of a large ribcage, so I look like an upside-down pear. It sucks.

On that note, I don't know how a lot of girls find the right band size. As huge as my ribcage is, I only wear a 32, and that's the smallest size I ever see in stores... sometimes all I see are 34s. I'm not a big or tall person to begin with but I wear a size 5 pants and my ribcage is disproportionately large compared to the rest of my body, so I don't get how girls that are smaller than me aren't swimming in their bras.
pug
Apparently I've grown somewhat in the last couple of years and I went to get re-fitted and I apparently should be wearing a 28GG. The girls said I had no hope of finding that ever and that I should just go with a 30G.
Le sigh. Apparently nothing in the area has been working out for me lately!
Juliesara
QUOTE(pug @ Jun 7 2008, 03:59 AM) *
Apparently I've grown somewhat in the last couple of years and I went to get re-fitted and I apparently should be wearing a 28GG. The girls said I had no hope of finding that ever and that I should just go with a 30G.
Le sigh. Apparently nothing in the area has been working out for me lately!


Both Freya & Panache [Both UK brands!!] do small back sizes, so don't let them try & fob you off with a band size that is too large as you won't get enough support.

Some nice ones can be seen here


http://www.bravissimo.com/products/lingeri...k=28&cup=gg
pug
Hey I looked at that site (thanks!!). Do you know if they ship to the US?
I feel like Canada and Britain have these amazing stores and the US has... nothing.

One more thing and this feels like an odd topic to bring up: Does anyone have a problem with what I refer to as "nipplage": basically, noticing the outline of er "cold" nipples under bras. I notice all these nice bras from bigger boobs, but none of them have even the slightest padding to alleviate this problem!
auralpoison
Big boobs are trashy? The fuck is that nonsense? That just smacks of ignorance. Those women are insecure cunts for saying that. Boobs are boobs. I don't care if you have tatas like ripe melons or little nipples on a tiny pillow of flesh, they're yours, so love 'em. Our breasts do not define us!

Frankly, I don't really remember *not* having breasts. By my eleventh birthday I was an A cup. By thirteen I was a healthy C. As a grown damned woman I am a 38DD. I like my tits & I'd like them just as much if they were horribly uneven or if I only had one or they were blue or something. Hating on them would be like hating the fact that my smile is crooked or that my left pinkie toe has no nail. They're just one physical part of me. And as I'm sure everybody knows, I like the fuck out of me.

Um, I *like* nipplage. In a weird way, I find it confrontational. Like, "Yeah, you can look, fuckstick, but that's all you're gonna get. I am strong, warm, & in command & these tetas are well beyond your reach. You wanna keep on wishin' though, I ain't gonna stop ya. But go for it & I'll cut you in half with a quickness." It's like my lady-boner, but not as creepy as a regular boner. I feel no shame in cold weather conditions. Maybe a little discomfort if it's really cold, but even that's kinda cool.
Juliesara
QUOTE(pug @ Jun 7 2008, 08:45 PM) *
Hey I looked at that site (thanks!!). Do you know if they ship to the US?
I feel like Canada and Britain have these amazing stores and the US has... nothing.

One more thing and this feels like an odd topic to bring up: Does anyone have a problem with what I refer to as "nipplage": basically, noticing the outline of er "cold" nipples under bras. I notice all these nice bras from bigger boobs, but none of them have even the slightest padding to alleviate this problem!


Hi Pug,

Yes they do ship to the States, but its a bit steep about $15!, they do returns but it will cost you!.

Don't forget that US & UK cup sizing is different & varies between different manufacturers & sometimes styles! For instance I am a H cup in Fantasie & Freya & an HH in Panache!.

This website gives a clue to what I mean, but note its about three years out of date!

http://www.plussizebras.info/size.html

I would try & find a store in the US near where you live who would be willing to order you bras so that you could try them on in the store. That would mean that you get properly fitted (hopefully) & don't have the hassle of sending any back.

As for the "cold nipples" under the bra -tell me about! - my nips are supersensitive to changes in temperature. I had a summer job two years ago in a factory with no air-con, they messed up my pay & I had to go over to fianance at a certain time. Well the office area had air con & it was really cold compared to the factory, I nipped into the loo (rest room to you!) befoe seeing them & I could see my nips rock hard in the mirror. I could have died!. When I went into the office it was full of mostly old men & I could see hem all looking in my direction!

I learned from that, nowadays I get silicone nipple covers or petals which hold them down -get them on e-bay. Also good for nights out as the same thing happens to me when I see a hot guy!
sassygrrl
Hi busties. I think that "big boobs are trashy" is total bullshit for people that are jeolous bitches. Some of my A cup friends are always bitching saying they want bigger tits. I guess it's the whole grass is greener thing.

I finally got sized yesterday, and found out that I'm between a 40DD and 40DDD. This shocks me a little, but damn I just notice so much difference. My whole body feels different. I just wish I would have done this earlier, but it feels really good to finally know my size.

hellotampon
I just went in the small boob thread by mistake... don't. It's pretty insulting- not overtly, but ya know- there's just something about it that says, "we are miserable and it's all the big boob ladies' fault."
prophecy_grrl
thanks ladies! I'm not as upset as I was, just because ultimately, I think she looks like the idiot for saying something so ridiculous. Like aural mentioned below - boobs do not define us! Calling someone trashy is a judgment of their character; how absurd is it to judge a person's character based on a body part?

yeah, hellotampon, I made the mistake of lurking around the small boob thread, too. I just wanted an idea as to whether or not my incident was a fluke or the general consensus among smaller boobed ladies. Apparently, the woman who made that comment in my presence is unique only because she said it out loud. Evidently, people do judge your character based on the size of your boobs. I appreciate their need for a space to vent their frustrations, but I have to say it has never occurred to me to say insulting things about women with smaller breasts to make myself feel better. To me it just smacks of female-on-female hate and it is so disappointing to see among women who consider themselves feminists.

I've learned to except that fact that there are certain styles of clothing that are not flattering for me (though that's more about individual body type/shape than boob size), but I think it's offensive to suggest that women with large boobs should just hide them because they're distracting. If someone is so distracted by my breasts that they can't see the rest of me (physical and otherwise), they are the one with the problem - not me or my boobs!
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