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edie52
Eep, now I'm in here instead of in the small boob thread by mistake!

I have to say, I don't think it's the intention of most of the ladies in the small breast support group to trash women with big boobs. We give ourselves and each other pep talks about the perks of having small breasts, which may come off sounding negative about big ones (practical stuff like being able to go braless or being able to wear certain clothing without looking inappropriate). We're just trying to support each other in a world where this particular body part gets waaay too much attention and some are considered better and more feminine and others are considered deformities. In my recollection, the only women anyone has expressed having a problem with are those who make mean remarks or those who choose to get huge implants, which perpetrates the "abnormality" of small tits. Many of us in there have stated that all body types can be beautiful.

A lot of us in there have gotten really insensitive comments from men or other women. So of course that causes some resentment and jealousy towards the "other half." But I like to think we're not hating on you guys, but the culture that creates this.

kittenb
I have to add that the whole Big Boobs=Trashy can be so internalized! I remember talking about it in therapy how sometimes I felt like I looked "slovenly" because I had 38DDD. And just the other day I asked my boyfriend if he found it unattractive how...I have no idea how to say this delicately...floppy, I guess, I looked braless. I'm not someone who tries top find sex positions that are "slimming" or whatever fat hating sex positions that Cosmo is promoting this month and normally I really love my breasts but I was feeling insecure that day. He looked at me like I was crazy and said, no, he had no problem with me having larger breasts. rolleyes.gif
starship
Im from the small boob group (i like to read this one too sometimes) & I second everything Edie said
Sometimes we may talk about the benefits of having small boobs over big but thats only because some of us would like bigger ones:/.
None of what we say is meant to be offensive or judgemental towards women with larger breasts. Infact most of us (myself included) probably wish we were posters in this thread rather than the small breast one. If you read most of the posts youll know that we've all had our fair share of hurtful comments towards our body shape and so i think we'd be the last ones to turn around and do the same towards other women.
And Hellotampon, its actually usually society and its portrayl of women that we blame for how we feel about our bodies, not ladies with larger breasts. thank you
Sorry for intruding here but, like i said, I like to read your posts too and was just a bit offended when i read that and wanted to stop any small vs big fandango in its tracks
pherber
Actually the irony is, if you have very big boobs, you also get insensitive comments.
I.e "How much did they cost?" rolleyes.gif
Another popular insult is the assumption, they must be saggy, by people, who haven't even seen me naked. dry.gif

In our stupid porno culture, and obsession with breast implants, people don't always realize, that for women, who have naturally big boobs, this was not a choice we made, and we have to learn to accept our bodies just the same way women with small boobs have to. wink.gif



hellotampon
QUOTE(starship @ Jun 9 2008, 05:39 PM) *
And Hellotampon, its actually usually society and its portrayl of women that we blame for how we feel about our bodies, not ladies with larger breasts. thank you
Sorry for intruding here but, like i said, I like to read your posts too and was just a bit offended when i read that and wanted to stop any small vs big fandango in its tracks


Well honestly was a bit offended too, reading things like, "big boobs are floppy and saggy" and that we can't be "cerebral (maybe our boobs divert blood flow from our brains?),"

and, "they allow me the rite to downplay my sexuality to such a degree that pure intellect is allowed to take its course. so many women complain that they are not taken seriously, and i wonder if the outward display of their breasts doesn't have something to do with that,"

and, "I'd definitely be more attracted to the woman who's a bit more physically modest but great personality, intelligent, etc. vs. one who has her tits pushed up and hanging out in public." So you want big boobs so badly, but you have to cover them up?

I know that most of the conversation centered around appreciating your small boobs and saying that everyone is beautiful, but the stuff I quoted made me feel like shit. For the record I was totally flat till i was at least 17, and assumed I would be forever, and I never would have said things like that about more boobed people.
starship
I can see how that could be taken as offensive yes. but i havent really been involved in the latest convo' and was refering to the general chat that usually goes on which isnt offensive to large boobs at all. Infact its usually saying how we'd like big boobs but then reassuring ourselves with a reason why that might not be all its cracked up to be. Thats actually one of the reasons i read in here from time to time. Hearing all you ladies disccuss the cons as well as the pros reminds me the grass isnt always greener. Im sure if i dug around in here deep enough i could find similar stuff but reversed. truth is i bet any of the people who made those quotes would thank their lucky stars if they woke up with big boobies
prophecy_grrl
I really don't want to cause a boob-war here, but I gotta agree with hellotampon.

While I did not read the archives to get a sense of the overall vibe of the small boob thread, when I popped in the most recent posts were pretty harsh towards the big boobed among us. I peeked in there when I was feeling a little sensitive, and I left feeling even more bummed out.

I totally get that people need a place to vent and share their feelings/experiences with similarly minded people and I would in no way suggest that anyone should censor their feelings, but it certainly gave me pause to read some of the things that hellotampon quoted below. I just wonder how productive it is in the long run to try finding comfort in cutting other people down. Even the comment my husband made to make me feel better in my moment of humiliation (yes that's what it felt like) was inappropriate, and I told him so - scrutinizing and criticizing women's bodies is the problem and cutting down other women is not the solution.

Ultimately, they can say whatever they want in that thread and I certainly will not post in there to chastise anyone for what they say. I will post in this thread and express to the other large busted busties how depressing I find it.
strongirl
I'm also from the small boob group but had to chime in here. I don't want big boobs - I love my small ones and have had nothing but positive feedback about them from lovers, men, etc - but I think large ones are lovely too and it totally bugs me when women of any size criticize and make assumptions about other women. I've posted a couple of times in the small boob forum asking for tolerance, support, and appreciation of other women, regardless of their breast size and their personal choices (implants included!).

It is unfair to assume large-breasted women are stupid or slutty!

It is just as unfair to assume small-breasted women are miserable or jealous!

Big boobs do not = trashy, any more than small boobs = unsexy.

We should all question our own assumptions. If the purpose of these "support groups" to provide support - then let's do that. If we just start putting other people down, they will start putting us down, and everyone just feels worse. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes...as do meanness and ugliness.

neurotic.nelly
Gosh, I agree with Strongirl so much. If any of my comments were offensive to you ladies here, I do apologize. Thank goodness the comments that Hellotampon referenced weren't any of mine, but they could have easily been, I make assumptions all the time about people (period). I am not perfect, sometimes I say things that are hypocritical and that I do not agree with, when examined closely. Strongirl is the best advocate for the small breast support group, what she said was key.
hellotampon
I agree that strongirl's post was lovely. Thank you!

One thing I noticed was that the small busties don't like how implants are normalizing big boobs. However, they also normalize boobs that are perfectly round and practically up your armpits- attributes that most naturally large breasts don't have. I've noticed that a lot of bras in my size don't fit me right- they seem made to hold softball-shaped boobs with no breast tissue on the sides, like implants. Overall I guess it sucks for everyone.
pug
I apologize in advance to anyone who has fake books but oh my lord yes they bother me! I hate talking to guys who prefer fake boobs to real ones b/c they "look better". I feel like no guys realize that real boobs don't stick straight out!If you really feel like the one thing you're missing in life is boobies, then by all means go ahead. But I hate feeling ugly b/c my boobs hang low by sheer weight, cause me to have that bit of supportive fat near/under my underarms that's visible in tank tops (I know you know what I'm talking about!), and aren't perfectly round and perfectly similar in size.
I'm only 23 and I know so many girls who had breast enlargements in their high school or college years b/c they wanted to be "attractive" to men. Most of them now have *scandalous* pictures on their myspaces of their perfect boobs. I've even joked with my mom that I should get my boob fat taken out and same sized silicone put in so mine are perky yet again!

*I realize there are real reasons for getting breast enlargements and I in no way want to be putting anyone down!

**My boyfriend thinks I'm insane and says he's never met a guy who thinks fake is better than real but I assure you I HAVE met them!
knorl05
yez yez that was me and some of the comments quoted were mine. not miserable by any means, i'm simply making and discussing observations. hey it sucks there are so many presumptions in society, but i think the way to get over that in ourselves is to work through them... discuss them, dissect them, deconstruct them. i'm not a perfect person, but i do work on getting the Truth out of the things that affect and influence me on the day to day. i've by far been the object of others' critiques, as we all have. and i was not intending to say that large breasted women are not intelligent.. i was saying i think society may make it harder for large breasted women to be taken seriously, because such attention is on their breasts. i was saying that i liked the fact that i can downplay my femininity, my sexuality, and i dont think many large breasted women have that same freedom. the only "insult" i may have made was not directed toward large breasted women specifically, but rather women who objectify themselves and who embody the barbie doll cookie cutter perfect little porn star mold. feminist i am, and women's choices i do support, but i know that a woman who appears to be -or rather presents herself to be- that superficial is not someone of whom i'd have much in common. better, worse, it is entirely a matter of opinion.

oh, and isnt it interesting that any woman without small breasts would hop into the small-breast support thread, to feel better about herself? i think that could make for a conversation as well...
neurotic.nelly
"The grass is always greener"

No matter what, we all have to deal with the consequences that come from being small breasted or large breasted or getting breast implants... the grass will always be greener and misunderstandings are bound to happen. I appreciate the discussion here between everyone.

I know that larger breasted women have to deal with some stuff... like I've said in the other thread, I can only imagine and I am glad that I do not have to endure that because I don't like a lot of attention. Lucky for me, huh? rolleyes.gif

I agree with knorl05 here, "i'm simply making and discussing observations. hey it sucks there are so many presumptions in society, but i think the way to get over that in ourselves is to work through them... discuss them, dissect them, deconstruct them." This is how we grow as human beings and women.
Vendetta
How does it feel to have breasts? Physically and psychologically?
starship
QUOTE(knorl05 @ Jun 10 2008, 06:28 AM) *
oh, and isnt it interesting that any woman without small breasts would hop into the small-breast support thread, to "feel better about herself"? i think that could make for a conversation as well...


lol i was thinking the same myself! although in a way i do the same so didnt want to comment:/

this discussion is fascinating. If there weren't negatives to having large breasts then there wouldnt be a support group so i dont see why we shouldnt be able to discuss those negatives in our small bust group. so long as it's not in a derogatory way. as a more frequent reader of the people quoted i know that the impression that some seem to have got isnt necessarily accurate of their general views and opinions.
As for the boob jobs i think any 'natural' women, large or small, would agree that they give an unrealistic perception of the female form. The type of bodies seen naked everyday are not a fair representation of how most women look. It leaves men deluded and women feeling inadequate. I totally agree with Stongirl, as we all probably concur on more of our issues and views than you'd expect
pherber
QUOTE(hellotampon @ Jun 10 2008, 04:11 AM) *
I've noticed that a lot of bras in my size don't fit me right- they seem made to hold softball-shaped boobs with no breast tissue on the sides, like implants.

Oh that' what it is!!!
I always wondered about that.
The underwires of bras seem to get narrower every year.
I still have the same bra size and shape, but these days there's always some fat on the side bulging out.
prophecy_grrl
QUOTE
oh, and isnt it interesting that any woman without small breasts would hop into the small-breast support thread, to "feel better about herself"? i think that could make for a conversation as well...

hmm . . . did someone in here say that they lurk in the small thread to "feel better about herself"? I mentioned taking a look because I was curious to see what smaller women generally thought of larger women. After a personal incident where someone said (not directly to me, but in front of me) "big boobs are so trashy," I wanted to know if it was a fluke or if other small boobed women felt the same. I left the thread feeling worse, but didn't necessarily go in there to try to feel better - certainly not at the expense of others.

I think both the small and large busties struggle with the same issue - not fitting into this "normative" femininity that we perceive - I mean how many women out there really have "just right" boobs (or any other body part for that matter)? So, I actually don't think it's a "grass is always greener" issue, I think it's an over emphasis/sexualization of breasts that all women - regardless of the size, shape, condition, or degree to which she displays them - have to cope with on some level. That goes for women with implants, too - they've just internalized it on a level others have not. I've often wised that I had a more "normal" bra size to make shopping easier and less expensive, or that my button down shirts fit a little better, but I've never thought that women with smaller boobs necessarily have it "easier," so it surprises me a little that they think we do.

For anyone who's interested, here's a post from jezebel about a British documentary examining the downside to big boobs:
http://jezebel.com/5012463/for-some-women-...d-back-and-neck
neurotic.nelly
QUOTE(prophecy_grrl @ Jun 10 2008, 10:18 AM) *
I think both the small and large busties struggle with the same issue - not fitting into this "normative" femininity that we perceive - I mean how many women out there really have "just right" boobs (or any other body part for that matter)? So, I actually don't think it's a "grass is always greener" issue, I think it's an over emphasis/sexualization of breasts that all women - regardless of the size, shape, condition, or degree to which she displays them - have to cope with on some level. That goes for women with implants, too - they've just internalized it on a level others have not. I've often wised that I had a more "normal" bra size to make shopping easier and less expensive, or that my button down shirts fit a little better, but I've never thought that women with smaller boobs necessarily have it "easier," so it surprises me a little that they think we do.

"The grass is always greener": When I wrote that I think I was referring to the issues that result from having larger breasts vs. smaller breasts, "our issues are worse than yours!" that is how it feels to us sometimes therefore the grass is greener over there because even though you have back or bra problems etc. y'all do not have to deal with the psychological torment of feeling inferior as a woman. Not every small breasted woman feels this way. I do not feel inferior, I have an abundance of curves in all the right places with small breasts. I still have to arm myself psychologically so as not to internalize false conceptions of beauty or womanliness etc.

If the breasts are too small or too large they are a target for criticism, and/or objectification. The C cup is the most ideal, I think, right in the middle, not too big or too small and therefore free from criticism and garment issues, but still not free from objectification =/
knorl05
perhaps it shouldnt have been in quotes, because it was not a quote... but that is the reason to go into support group threads. i'll italicize it. either way. the small breast group is NOT and has not been a place to trash talk large breasted women. every woman struggling with this issue, who expresses her views in that thread, is quite sensitive and compassionate by nature. to take a comment out of context is completely not fair. for the most part, we try to understand what society's fascination with breasts is in the first place... what we happen to observe and discuss from that vantage point is sometimes flavored with taking emphasis or importance off women's mammaries, whether small or large. othertimes, we look for the benefits of having small breasts, or we celebrate them, or we vent our frustrations, or share our experiences. none of this is intended to be at the expense of the large busted, but sometimes we (or rather i should speak for myself).. am not overly concerned with the hypothetical reaction of someone i may or may not be offending by expressing my opinions in a thread specifically intended for women with small breasts. so i do not recant anything i have said, but i will apologize for any misunderstanding.

again neurotic nelly, excellent points.
dj-bizmonkey
i've been out of the loop entirely for the last week and just now caught up on all the discussions. i'm posting a response to everyone in the 'take it outside' thread. not because i want to fight, but because i don't want to derail this thread or the sbsg thread any further.
pollystyrene
*delurks*

There's a quote that comes to mind, I think from Kathy Najimy, and paraphrased, it's something like "Men want us to keep competing with each other to stop us from taking over the world."

*relurks*

prophecy_grrl
thanks for putting things in perspective, polly. actually, that was really the point I was trying to make all along, though the quote certainly makes it more succinct. rolleyes.gif

dj-where is this "take it outside" thread that you speak of?


ETA: moved my final comments to "take it outside" - thanks dj!
dj-bizmonkey
prophecy grrl, it's under 'ladies who lounge' as opposed to the regular forums.
kool23kid
hi all,

i am new to this lounge. i feel good that there are women who have similar problem to mine.
I have size 32DDD. i kept getting thin and my cup size now look even bigger. its very hard to get bra for this size. even my breasts are sagging. so none of the bras give that much support. i have been buying wacoal bras. But they too after a month or so give less support. can anybody please suggest a nice bra for this size and which can give support for longer time. i am going through a self esteem problem because of this reason. please suggest...
missladyj
Hey kool you might want to check out this website.

http://www.figleaves.com/us/home.asp



I was at a rock and roll show that included a fashion show. the clothes were cute but I couldn't fit even a nipple in them. Is it too much to ask that someone designs clothes for women who have tits? I look at clothes and think can I wear a bra with this? if the answer is no, then fuckin forget it.
BustiRubi
PMS :?
BustiRubi
I'm sorry,
I just have to say is that it kinda bums me out to shop online for bras that have sizes or specialize in full figure bras but
I don't see very many full figured models....am I being awkward right now, I don't mean to offend but I don't really know how to imagine it on my body/ boobs if they're not large like mine. I don't know how to describe it. then it makes me reluctant to buy it because I must try it on to see the fit....does the photo matter any way? because it would end up looking different on me anyway...

I recently went to my doctor to talk about my back problems and that I would like to have a breast reduction, instead she recomended more exercise and prescripted drugs......
....

I'm perfectly fine with keeping my breasts, but I don't understand why they treat the symptom instead of the problem. Truth is I do have pretty poor posture etc..I'm so confused right now.

I might be sounding pessimistic right now but I'm PMSing and tired of having to deal with all the cons of having large breasts right now....

I've also just noticed that my boyfriend has started to comment how much he likes them...when before he told me he didn't care what size they were and was ok with the surgery because I needed it. I can tell he will miss them, and although I don't need his approval or anything like that, I'm just sick of them being such a topic of conversation and being teased about them sometimes from strangers or people I barely know. I don't think it's funny anymore.

mamsack
QUOTE(kool23kid @ Jun 19 2008, 12:24 AM) *
hi all,

i am new to this lounge. i feel good that there are women who have similar problem to mine.
I have size 32DDD. i kept getting thin and my cup size now look even bigger. its very hard to get bra for this size. even my breasts are sagging. so none of the bras give that much support. i have been buying wacoal bras. But they too after a month or so give less support. can anybody please suggest a nice bra for this size and which can give support for longer time. i am going through a self esteem problem because of this reason. please suggest...


I'm new here also, found the site searching desperately (again, and still fruitlessly) for clothes for large busted women. I have had great success with Lane Bryant's line of cacique full coverage balconette bras (depending on the bra I wear 38DDD to 40G, in balconnettes the former size).

Stats: 5'8, slightly overweight but aside from a slight gut, it's mostly boob. They're driving me nuts. Not only the clothes issue (which really is driving me nuts) but sometimes just the "jesus, get them OFF ME" feeling. I would love to have surgery but for the pain and expense... maybe it's worth it, i don't know. I felt I should lose all the extra weight before I even thought about trying to get insurance coverage... at any rate, I'm looking for clothes.

SUGGESTIONS (particularly easy to wear professional garb)? ??
auralpoison
Mamsack, there is a thread in AbFab for clothes. I'll bump it for you.

I must admit that I've thought about a reduction at times, but it freaks me out that they move your nipples around & there is a possibilty of loss of sensation. I like my nipples. Barbie wouldn't have been smiling so big if she knew she'd misplaced her nipples.
mamsack
QUOTE(auralpoison @ Jun 22 2008, 06:32 PM) *
Mamsack, there is a thread in AbFab for clothes. I'll bump it for you.

I must admit that I've thought about a reduction at times, but it freaks me out that they move your nipples around & there is a possibilty of loss of sensation. I like my nipples. Barbie wouldn't have been smiling so big if she knew she'd misplaced her nipples.

mamsack
Good, thanks, I look forward to viewing the link, thank you!
geekchickknits
QUOTE(mamsack @ Jun 22 2008, 07:13 PM) *
Stats: 5'8, slightly overweight but aside from a slight gut, it's mostly boob. They're driving me nuts. Not only the clothes issue (which really is driving me nuts) but sometimes just the "jesus, get them OFF ME" feeling. I would love to have surgery but for the pain and expense... maybe it's worth it, i don't know. I felt I should lose all the extra weight before I even thought about trying to get insurance coverage... at any rate, I'm looking for clothes.


mamsack, if you're Canadian, the breast reduction surgery should be covered under your provincial health care plan (my sister's was, and we're in Ontario). She was very happy with it. I'm not sure about loss of sensation, and although she had a little difficulty with milk production once she started breast feeding, she was able to get it flowing enough to feed my niece without supplementing. That being said, I know given the choice she would still have the surgery again.
starre915
I have no idea how to post a new thing so I just replied to this one...sorry! I am 5'6 175 the girls are a whooping 38G. I hate it!!!! I am trying to find a new bra. I really like the Lane Bryant Cacique line. I have to have underwire and full coverage. I just ordered a Le Mystere Carina off ebay, it was so uncomfortable. However it made the girls look great in some of my dressier shirts, but in tshirts they looked like cones?!?! Anyone have any sugesstions on a bra that might work for me???
mamsack
QUOTE(geekchickknits @ Jun 23 2008, 12:56 PM) *
mamsack, if you're Canadian, the breast reduction surgery should be covered under your provincial health care plan (my sister's was, and we're in Ontario). She was very happy with it. I'm not sure about loss of sensation, and although she had a little difficulty with milk production once she started breast feeding, she was able to get it flowing enough to feed my niece without supplementing. That being said, I know given the choice she would still have the surgery again.


Thanks for the info--i am SO not canadian--stress there on (between the lines) not the insurance to cover it..
Juliesara
QUOTE(starre915 @ Jun 24 2008, 12:48 AM) *
I have no idea how to post a new thing so I just replied to this one...sorry! I am 5'6 175 the girls are a whooping 38G. I hate it!!!! I am trying to find a new bra. I really like the Lane Bryant Cacique line. I have to have underwire and full coverage. I just ordered a Le Mystere Carina off ebay, it was so uncomfortable. However it made the girls look great in some of my dressier shirts, but in tshirts they looked like cones?!?! Anyone have any sugesstions on a bra that might work for me???


Try these - really good in tight fitting tops!


http://www.figleaves.com/uk/product.asp?pr...=trdipu20062008

http://www.figleaves.com/uk/product.asp?product_id=FE-4510
mrs-tess
QUOTE(kool23kid @ Jun 19 2008, 01:24 AM) *
hi all,

i am new to this lounge. i feel good that there are women who have similar problem to mine.
I have size 32DDD. i kept getting thin and my cup size now look even bigger. its very hard to get bra for this size. even my breasts are sagging. so none of the bras give that much support. i have been buying wacoal bras. But they too after a month or so give less support. can anybody please suggest a nice bra for this size and which can give support for longer time. i am going through a self esteem problem because of this reason. please suggest...


Kool: I have the same problem! LOL I went to my drawer to see what brand my two favorite bras are and one is Modern Movement by Cabernet at Dillards and the other is a wacoal. Something that helped my bras last longer was getting 7-8 bras (I know at this size it's a freakin' investment, but it has proved worth it for me) and rotate them every day, never wearing the same bra twice in one week. The cabernet one is pretty good and it was only like $35 (instead of $50-60 like most bras that are even available in this size). Do you have problems shoppin gfor clothes? I have a hard time finding tops; button ups - forget about it.


Mrs Tess
pug
Does anyone know a US retailer who carries anything from Bravissimo? I love the way their dresses look, but I'm one of those people who have to try every size on to know what fits me best and that doesn't really work for a store outside of the US... I checked figleaves.com and biggerbras.com but neither of them carry clothes. sad.gif I never fit right in a dress. I don't even own a single dress b/c I need to wear a bra underneath!
catherine9188
Hey. I'm new on here, just getting the feel of things. Its nice to know there are girls out there like me. I'm 19, 140 lbs, and am a 32-I. Its nearly impossible to buy clothes or bathing suits. Everything, with the exception of turtlenecks, makes me look like a skank. Does anyone know of any good stores for busty but small girls? I'd love to be able to look normal in clothes again, although I can't tell you the last time I could shop trouble free. I was a C cup in 7th grade, so I've always had a rough go of things. I finally did manage to find a good store to buy bras in though. If anyone is from Cincinnati, they should check out Candace's, near Kenwood. That woman is a miracle worker!
blackscorpion
Hey all, I'm a little nervous about posting this, but I have to b/c I really need some people who can understand where I'm coming from. I'm an 18-year-old w/38 F breasts who also happens to be a lesbian. I have a wonderful girlfriend (also on the busty side, but she doesn't want me revealing her size, at least not yet), but the two of us feel so alone in a world where half the populace can't look us in the eye because they think we're doing something sinful, and the other half can't look us in the eye because they're too busy staring at our chests. I love my breasts, I think that I have them for a reason, and I realize that guys are pigs and religious nuts are religious nuts. I would, however, like some other women to talk to (for me and possibly for my girlfriend) who understand. You don't have to be a lesbian too, and I don't care if you just want to talk about breasts. I'm just looking for someone to talk to. Thanx. smile.gif

irishrockstar987@yahoo.com

My name's Lissa (not short for anything).
auralpoison
WELCOME NEWBIES!

Um, no reason to feel nervous around here, Blackscorpion, it's the big bust thread for a reason. Skip back to June 9th (Top of page three) to skip all the big/small boob kerfuffle & read backwards. You'll see that you're not alone. Engage in conversation with us & you'll get a response.

Oh, & it's not a good idea to include an email addy in your post or your profile. We get a lot of trolls & stuff, so I'd go back & delete that from your post unless you want drama.

And Catherine9188, you do not look like a "skank". Saying that perpetuates the male-founded stereotype that those of us bustier gals are more promiscuous than those less prodigiously lunged. I understand that you feel uncomfortable with your appearance in *average* clothes (Scroll through the archives & you'll finds loads of tips/websites for bigger busts.), but I assure you, you do not look like a "skank" for being overly gifted genetically in the tata area. There is no correlation between a big bust & whoredom.

Through all the pain, frustration, & ungodly amounts of money we spend to keep the girls happy, we need to remember first that they are OUR breasts & nothing to be ashamed of. Nobody should make you feel bad about them. I know we all sometimes want to bang our heads against the wall & wail in pure misery, but it could be worse. I'd rather be judged on my supersize boobs than live in a mudhut in Rawanda, y'know what I mean?
mamsack
[quote name='auralpoison' I'd rather be judged on my supersize boobs than live in a mudhut in Rawanda, y'know what I mean? [/quote]
that's for dang sure. good answer

Two things:
1) AP, did you send me that quote for the clothes (comment, below)? could you post it here?
2) blackscorpion, sorry you're having a rough time. i, for one, don't care if you're a lesbian and got my own boobs to stare at wink.gif ignore everyone else and just enjoy your girlfriend and your boobs. and her boobs. smile.gif
auralpoison
I bumped the thread again. It's in AbFab.
mamsack
QUOTE(auralpoison @ Jul 6 2008, 12:06 PM) *
I bumped the thread again. It's in AbFab.


I see, sorry--I thought you meant you were going to bump it... over here. thanks!
thirtiesgirl
Just thought I'd join in on the big boob thread, since I'm often a big boob. Tee hee! wink.gif

Seriously, though (ach...can I get a rimshot please?), mine would fall under the description of big but not huge, as I have the 'apple shape' body type, with broader shoulders, torso & waist, with slimmer hips and a flat ass. In proportion to my shoulder width and torso size, my boobs don't look huge, but they definitely stand out. I'm not quite 5'5" tall, and wear a 40D bra.

In my favor, I have fairly long leg bones, particularly my thighs, and my torso is rather short. This enables me to get away with the tunic top/dramatic top over long pants look, which is what I most frequently wear to work. The tunic elongates my mid-section while kind of disguising my tummy (I say kind of, since it doesn't *always* work, depending on the top). Lately, a lot of mid-price designers have started making all sorts of cotton jersey and cotton t-shirt like tops with cute details like puff and raglan sleeves, cross-over necklines, shirring, etc., so it's just like wearing a t-shirt with a little more flair. For casual and work, I do a lot of shopping for tops & pants at places like Old Navy, JCPenney, Mervyns and sometimes Lane Bryant. I also like to have kind of a vintage flair to my style (I don't call myself thirtiesgirl for nothing!), so I try to look for pieces that have some kind of vintage detail, or something that you might have seen on Norma Shearer or Joan Crawford in The Women. Maybe not the stiff fabrics they wore, but something in a similar shape.

I alternate between wearing underwire bras for the lift and support, particularly Playtex seamless support bras that won't show under cotton material, and wire-free bras, particularly Bali's double support seamless bras. They're not all that sexy, but for comfort and support, I haven't found anything better. And they don't show a thing under t-shirt material, not even a high beam headlight on a nippy day. Some of them even come with a 'spa back' closure that's supposed to be more comfortable than their regular bra closure, but I honestly can't tell the difference.

Thanks for the heads-up on the Bravissimo site. I'm definitely going to check out some of their intimates and clothes. Yay! (As if I needed to do more online shopping!)
mamsack
I have exactly the same physical profile, but taller with bigger chest. however. i would argue/caution/wonder: does the tunic over pants exaggerate the "barrel on stilts" effect we have (I have) going on????

QUOTE(thirtiesgirl @ Jul 8 2008, 01:07 PM) *
Just thought I'd join in on the big boob thread, since I'm often a big boob. Tee hee! wink.gif

Seriously, though (ach...can I get a rimshot please?), mine would fall under the description of big but not huge, as I have the 'apple shape' body type, with broader shoulders, torso & waist, with slimmer hips and a flat ass. In proportion to my shoulder width and torso size, my boobs don't look huge, but they definitely stand out. I'm not quite 5'5" tall, and wear a 40D bra.

In my favor, I have fairly long leg bones, particularly my thighs, and my torso is rather short. This enables me to get away with the tunic top/dramatic top over long pants look, which is what I most frequently wear to work. The tunic elongates my mid-section while kind of disguising my tummy (I say kind of, since it doesn't *always* work, depending on the top). Lately, a lot of mid-price designers have started making all sorts of cotton jersey and cotton t-shirt like tops with cute details like puff and raglan sleeves, cross-over necklines, shirring, etc., so it's just like wearing a t-shirt with a little more flair. For casual and work, I do a lot of shopping for tops & pants at places like Old Navy, JCPenney, Mervyns and sometimes Lane Bryant. I also like to have kind of a vintage flair to my style (I don't call myself thirtiesgirl for nothing!), so I try to look for pieces that have some kind of vintage detail, or something that you might have seen on Norma Shearer or Joan Crawford in The Women. Maybe not the stiff fabrics they wore, but something in a similar shape.

I alternate between wearing underwire bras for the lift and support, particularly Playtex seamless support bras that won't show under cotton material, and wire-free bras, particularly Bali's double support seamless bras. They're not all that sexy, but for comfort and support, I haven't found anything better. And they don't show a thing under t-shirt material, not even a high beam headlight on a nippy day. Some of them even come with a 'spa back' closure that's supposed to be more comfortable than their regular bra closure, but I honestly can't tell the difference.

Thanks for the heads-up on the Bravissimo site. I'm definitely going to check out some of their intimates and clothes. Yay! (As if I needed to do more online shopping!)

thirtiesgirl
QUOTE(mamsack @ Jul 8 2008, 04:39 PM) *
I have exactly the same physical profile, but taller with bigger chest. however. i would argue/caution/wonder: does the tunic over pants exaggerate the "barrel on stilts" effect we have (I have) going on????

Personally, I think it depends on the tunic. The uber-long ones that hit below my hips and butt often have that effect. The shorter ones that reach just to my hips, or right above them are generally pretty good, as long as the top is cut so that the fabric under the bust line and down isn't too flowy and billowy. To quote Clinton's line from 'What Not To Wear,' as long as it 'floats gently away from the body,' it tends to look ok on me. Too flowy & billowy and I start looking like I'm about to do a Stevie Nicks twirl, looking like a barrel on stilts. And that just ain't right.

Oh, and I also wear a lot of kimono-type tops, too. Which are sort of tunic-y tops, but with less billow going on below the bustline. Those work well for me, too, and look tres dramatique!
vesta
Hey ya'll, I'm finally back to the lounge after a mental sabbatical and need your help! On Thursday (yes, as in 2 days from now) I have to get a portrait taken with my sister (Note: STICK figure) that will forever hang on my parent's wall. I'm at a point right now that I absolutely HATE my body and since we're having the pic taken in a garden, we've been instructed by the photographer to wear white (yeah, right) or a lighter color top. So, not only can I not wear black but I have to stand next to my sis who I've got about 60 pounds on (and we're supposed to match). My dilemma is what in the hell to wear that will not make me look like a complete blimp. Any suggestions? I'm 'only' a 38D (post-reduction) and I just for one day (screw that, one hour!) want to feel beautiful so that I don't have to worry about crying every time I see this picture (which will be 16" X 20" on the freakin' wall!).
mamsack
QUOTE(vesta @ Jul 8 2008, 08:07 PM) *
Hey ya'll, I'm finally back to the lounge after a mental sabbatical and need your help! On Thursday (yes, as in 2 days from now) I have to get a portrait taken with my sister (Note: STICK figure) that will forever hang on my parent's wall. I'm at a point right now that I absolutely HATE my body and since we're having the pic taken in a garden, we've been instructed by the photographer to wear white (yeah, right) or a lighter color top. So, not only can I not wear black but I have to stand next to my sis who I've got about 60 pounds on (and we're supposed to match). My dilemma is what in the hell to wear that will not make me look like a complete blimp. Any suggestions? I'm 'only' a 38D (post-reduction) and I just for one day (screw that, one hour!) want to feel beautiful so that I don't have to worry about crying every time I see this picture (which will be 16" X 20" on the freakin' wall!).


something tailored around the waist, pick a collar that suits you (square neck?), stand 3/4 to side with hands on hips if possible, chin down. might as well make the girls look tall and proud, if you're next to the stick. anthropologists will find that picture later and feel sorry for her that she was clearly too small to breed. wink.gif
kittenb
I went from a 38DDD to a 38DD last year. Loosing weight can make a difference but not as much for some of us. I don't know if my breasts actually look that much different or if they just seem to fit into clothes better now.
This is all my opinion, btw. I think that larger breasts often look quite lovely.
One thing I would like to suggest for women having posture issues related to breast size is pectoral massage. Find a massage therapist who you trust and who is willing to work within your comfort level (pec massage can hurt like a mofo the first couple of times. Never trust a therapist who does not respect your pain. There might be discomfort but you will know the difference. Take it from a professional.) Maybe look for an MT who deals with fibromyalgia. They are used to working w/people with a lower pain tolerance.
Pec massage can open and loosen the muscles that spent all the waking hours supporting our busts. As these muscles tighten and compress, our upper back muscles are forced to over stretch and work too hard to hold us upright. Pec massage can feel like the therapist has given you permission to breathe again. smile.gif
hellotampon
I do get back/neck pain from my boobs, but I think my bad posture is mostly my own fault. I constantly roll my shoulders forward and round out the top of my back to minimize my bust. I look like quasimodo and it gives me a gut but it's so automatic. when I stand up straight I feel weird, almost naked, and when I look in the mirror I am horrified. It looks like I could poke someone's eyes out.
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