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ananke
Back to swimsuits, I'm a 38M (Aust/US sizing, J in the UK apparently...sizing is so bloody confusing) so I gave up. Instead I've got a pair of boyleg trunks, a microfibre singlet and I just wear a bra. It's got a real 40s kind of vibe, but comfy and covers what I want covered.

If you want sexy, I have no idea.

As far as male attention goes, my mother is horrified by how much I cover up, but I spent my teen years being leered at, I still get leered at, I'd rather be somewhat covered. I use it as a kind of armour though - the more covered I am, the better I feel. Which is all knds of fucked up I know.
anna k
Ananke, I spent my teen years hiding my breasts by wearing big shirts and cardigans and coats, and felt embarassed about having what felt like large breasts to me. I finally got comfortable with them when I was 17, having lost some weight and felt more grown-up, and wore form-fitting shirts that were very flattering, and I ended up getting flirted with more and not realizing the new attention. I regret feeling so covered up back then, but I had a lot of mental crap to get through and hated my teen years.
anna k
Is it weird that whenever I read posts on Jezebel that are praising big full breasts of stars like Salma Hayek's (who are rumored to be implants btw), Lindsay Lohan's, and Halle Berry's mommy boobs, I feel really good about my own, like mine are really voluptuous and sexy and awesome?
funk0039
Ladies,

I'm a man, and I've been recently wandering about the internet. I found a website called hiddenfeet.com, and I read a lot of articles there. Apparently there is a lot of pressure on the part of women on other women to conform their bodies, especially their breasts to the Hollywierd ideal. I want you to know that men do exist out there that are kind, loving, and would happily put a huge smile on your faces each and every morning. I know what it's like to be picked on since I'm not exactly average myself. Technically they say I'm a genius(a fact I don't like talking about), but at least I can keep my mouth shut and delay being found odd. You busty ladies can't even do that! I wish I could help. Don't reduce your chests or hack up your bodies for other women. I for one would give anything to date a chesty woman (no matter how large) who has the strength NOT to succumb to this kind of crap. I get angry every time I see ads extolling the stick thin boyish figure on tv or in magazines. I LIKE big bust curvy women, so long as it isn't a health risk be whatever weight you like! Yes of course I want a woman with a brain and a good heart more than anything, but that's off topic. I'd be happy to reply to any messages you send. You ladies need all the emotional support you can get. No, I don't have anything sneaky in mind, I never was good at being manipulative and I can prove it, sigh. At least one man out here would love you AND your chest just as you are, dammit. I hate bullies! mad.gif
thirtiesgirl
My issue is that while I've met plenty of men interested in my big boobs, or who "appreciate a curvy woman," they tend to fetishize my body type specifically for those reasons. I find that they're not really interested in me as a person (the whole package: brain, bod, emotions), but just in my boobs or, *ahem*, curves. It's been a long road, weeding out the guys who fall into that trap. I think I've finally met one with a more 'holistic' attraction to me, but he lives 5 hours away. Such is the price one pays for living in a city where shallowness is the norm.
funk0039
I'm not sure you understand men in this particular area.

If women could detach their breasts and hand them to us, we wouldn't want them. It's because they seem to give a woman so much pleasure that we love to caress them. Sometimes I see women with huge latex breasts on the internet, and I'm not attracted at all because I know there's no sensation at all in those things for her.

The instant that I discover a woman is.... sick inside, selfish, just not a good person at all, I get grossed out and can't look at her at all. Once upon a time, I thought that Anna Nicole Smith was incredibly gorgeous. Then I saw a few episodes of her reality show and I grew nauseous every time I accidentally caught sight of her from then onward.

In the end I think it's also pure instinct that drives us to love women's breasts no matter what their size, since all men have different preferences.

You may laugh at this, but I've been used for sex by women before too, and it hurts me more profoundly than anything else that a woman doesn't give a damn about making me happy or being near me, she just want me to please her and then go away. Men are like that too you know, we're just taught to fight that instinct by our society. After a lot of attempted relationships, I realized something.

I'm the only common element in all of them. Therefore, it's my judgment that's flawed because I chose them. Perhaps I was subconsciously thinking that I deserved pain, or that this was how relationships were supposed to be. I struggled to keep what my head wanted apart from what my perception/instincts saw in a woman. It's really hard to see not what I want to see, but instead what's actually there. I don't know if the people in your city really are that shallow, but there's a possibility that you were only attracted to the men that would treat you poorly, for whatever reason I don't know.

Since I tried to learn how to keep my wants separate from what I see, my relationships of ALL kinds have improved greatly. Still I know that I'm lonely despite my learning and my friends, and so I'm vulnerable to being fooled. That's how I lost my savings, you know. Have you ever wondered why all those "phone sex" lines and strip bars exist? Because we're lonely, so we imagine the women we meet there desires us, instead of our money. A long time ago I tried going to a strip club, but I knew it was an illusion. If a woman's being paid to pay attention to me, or if she only is near because she can get money from me, then it's an illusion. Unlike most men, I can't fool myself like they can.

I wish I could.
funk0039
You know something funny, ladies? I"ve read many of the posts on this thread, and I realized something odd.

Ladies, I think maybe your problem has nothing to do with the size of your breasts, nor does it really have anything to do with how men stare at you.
Ultimately, wearing minimizers and surgical reductions so you can fit in socially have more to do with your desire to control how other men and women see you! And, even more oddly, there's a truism none of you seem to realize:

No matter how hard you try, you can't force anyone to think or react the way you want them to. Ask a psychologist about it. For example, ever try to force or manipulate someone(in any way, including talking with them honestly) into loving you?

It's that same hard truth I had to learn about my family a long time ago, as I wanted my parents to essentially love me, and realize what they had done. So yeah, I know what I'm writing about.


Maybe your solution is the same one I came up with, one I took from therapy and extended further. Maybe your solution is changing your perspective, change the way you see your bodies? This sort of thing takes a lot of effort, and doesn't come easily. I've seen VERY few posts where women actually feel sexy or attractive because of the way their bodies look to them.

If I were a busty woman, I'd be looking at them and thinking that "Yes, they are physically a pain in the butt sometimes. And yes, men stare at them and other women get jealous so they call me a slut to make themselves feel better. Wait a minute, if men are fascinated with my chest, then maybe I could use it to attract the kind of man I've always dreamed about? You know, the kind that makes me feel like I'm floating on air? Large breasts can be a source of power, of sorts. Maybe if I stopped looking at myself with other women's eyes, and started looking at them the way men seem to, I might feel better about myself? Or maybe if I stop and look into the eyes of those people who seem prejudiced against me because of my chest, I might notice that they have a lot of deep seated insecurities. So maybe their opinions don't really matter to me because they don't make any sense?"

That's just a suggestion, just me riffing on the idea. Ultimately you have to decide how YOU want to view your bodies. Don't allow anyone or anything to ever make up your mind for you! Personally, I think women like the recently pregnant Salma Hayek, or America Ferrera, or Madison Michele are stunning creatures, far more attractive than the stick women that seem to be in fashion these days. Whose opinion about your bodies are you going to listen to? Have you figured that out yet, if not, maybe you should think about just who you're listening to?

Free will is a wonderful thing, exercise it! CHOOSE what you want to feel about yourself.
deschatsrouge
Good message funk, but a little bit preachy.
funk0039
Sorry. I was trying to help but not preach.
thirtiesgirl
QUOTE(funk0039 @ Sep 16 2008, 11:43 PM) *
I'm not sure you understand men in this particular area.

If women could detach their breasts and hand them to us, we wouldn't want them. It's because they seem to give a woman so much pleasure that we love to caress them. Sometimes I see women with huge latex breasts on the internet, and I'm not attracted at all because I know there's no sensation at all in those things for her.

FYI, fetishization of a particular body part or body type doesn't mean seeing the body part as separate from the body as a whole. It means separating the body type from the person who inhabits it. I've spent nearly 10 years in the dating scene, off and on, and have met more guys than I care to count who can't seem to combine their appreciation for fat women with big boobs (my particular body type) with an appreciation of everything else a I can bring to a relationship or casual dating. So I think I know a thing or two about men. It's taken me that long to find a guy who (so far) is able to combine his appreciation for my body with an appreciation of my intelligence, independence, sense of humor, pop culture geekery and indie music snobbery. I think any woman would experience some discouragement and feelings of hopelessness after 10 years of dating nothing but frogs (so to speak). I certainly did, and often gave up and gave in to dating guys who were interested in a physical connection only. Sometimes it was ok, and sometimes it wasn't. But until you've walked a mile in my moccasins, or any single woman's with body, self confidence and dating issues, I might refrain from judgment.
funk0039
I don't doubt your competence. However, what you need to know is that most of humanity is nothing like you. I'm not talking about your breasts or your body weight. I'm talking about your head and your heart. What you're looking for is far more than a simple date, and you know it. You want a husband, and that entails someone who is a match for you intellectually as well as spiritually/emotionally. Because you are inherently unique, this is a difficult thing to find in anyone, male or female. Ever stopped and asked yourself, among your friends/family, who among them can you count on when things get desperate? Not many, and you know that. Now find someone who is also male, you are attracted to physically, can be the very best friend you've ever had.... That narrows the field considerably, doesn't it?

It doesn't matter where you live, you will always find it nearly impossible to find men that are a specific match for you. It's even harder if you are seeing what you want to see, rather than what's actually there. That is a very human tendency you know, fooling yourself. I can't see your eyes so I can't be more specific with you, thirtiesgirl. But ask yourself if the bad things that happened are coloring your opinions about men? Can you afford to condemn half of the human population, when you know full well that each and every one of humankind is different?

Finally, if you don't like something in your life, then find out what it is, and set about changing it. If you are overweight, then go to a doctor and explain that you are willing to radically change your life to lose weight. But only do this if it's what is making you miserable, you won't have the commitment to do otherwise.

I have endured pain well beyond the point of sanity. I've wandered all my life long, watching people, trying to learn and adapt. All I ask is that you try what I suggest rather than simply toss it away because I'm male or whatever other reason. I have no possible means of profiting from what you decide to do, and you, from what you've posted, have little to lose. Just think about it, ok? Give it a serious think, look at yourself and start asking questions.

Just please try. Your budding relationship is a step in the right direction, it means you haven't entirely given up hope. If you want to be happy, then you have to try to be happy, as trite as that sounds. But you've got to be willing to see yourself for what you are, and then try to build into what you want to be.
thirtiesgirl
QUOTE(funk0039 @ Sep 17 2008, 09:26 PM) *
I don't doubt your competence. However, what you need to know is that most of humanity is nothing like you. I'm not talking about your breasts or your body weight. I'm talking about your head and your heart. What you're looking for is far more than a simple date, and you know it. You want a husband, and that entails someone who is a match for you intellectually as well as spiritually/emotionally.

Um... I'm *not* looking for a husband.

QUOTE(funk0039 @ Sep 17 2008, 09:26 PM) *
Can you afford to condemn half of the human population, when you know full well that each and every one of humankind is different?

I'm not sure where you got the idea that I'm 'condemning half the population.' At no point have I written that "all men are bad." I'm writing about my own experiences, not generalizing about 'all women.' My own experiences have shown me that there are a lot of men out there who are looking for physical relationships. As far as I'm concerned, that's neither bad nor good. It just is.

QUOTE(funk0039 @ Sep 17 2008, 09:26 PM) *
Finally, if you don't like something in your life, then find out what it is, and set about changing it. If you are overweight, then go to a doctor and explain that you are willing to radically change your life to lose weight. But only do this if it's what is making you miserable, you won't have the commitment to do otherwise.

I know I should move this to the "take it outside" thread, but it's too late; I'm all in.
(1) I speak for some fat people when I say the word 'overweight' is offensive. It implies that extra weight is a bad thing, when some fat activists don't believe it is. That was your assumption, not mine.
(2) As a fat activist, the medical industry is the last group of people I'd trust to manage my weight. Do your research, hon, and know who you're writing about before you go there.

I know your intentions are good, funky-man. I don't think you're a bad person. But I feel like you're writing as if you know what's best for all women, and that's the first mistake men make, to think they know what's best for all of us. Until you know me, until you know my heart, you can't speak for my desires, my personality or my body.
funk0039
Then, what are you looking for?

As for men just looking for physical relationships, this is by no means a male only phenomenon. I've encountered a lot of women who are the same way, and I agree it really hurts to find that your mate doesn't feel the same way as you do.

Personally, I like "overweight women", they're fun to snuggle with and are frequently ticklish. smile.gif
As long as I can find the essentials of her anatomy and it isn't a health risk, I'm quite happy with any woman with a few extra pounds. But that's not what I was writing about.

As for the medical industry, I wasn't referring to them in general. I have a lot of hatred for those damn weight loss commercials. Frequently I prefer the "before" to the "after." They actually LOOK female, IMHO.(I'm sorry, but I'd be scared of hurting a stick woman, and little boy bodies do absolutely nothing for me personally) I was talking about your doctor, whoever you trust with your health. That's usually a general practitioner, a family doctor, and a person YOU CHOSE to trust.

I'm not claiming to know what's best for all of you! Never did, in fact I'm confused as to where you got that inference. What I was saying is that each one of you has to figure out what is making you unhappy, and then DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT, AND DON'T GIVE UP. I used the example of weight because you brought it up. Hell, I need to lose some weight too, but that's not what's making me unhappy at all, so why would I spend all my efforts in losing weight when I have bigger fish to fry? I'm not telling you to lose weight, I'm telling you to figure out what's making you unhappy. It MIGHT be you, I dunno. Just don't automatically discount the possibility that it might be your perspective(or more likely, one you absorbed from someone else) that makes you feel that your breasts are too large.

I prefer women as they are, I don't even like it when they dye their hair. So, I have no stake in this whatsoever, I just had an idea and thought it might help.
funk0039
http://www.fabulousmag.co.uk/diets/diet_bo...s_issue_025.php

Apparently, men seem to prefer a size 12 female, while women want to have a size 8 body. See the survey results for yourself. Oddly, men don't seem to be as critical of women's bodies as they themselves seem to be.

Kinda bears out what I was writing about earlier, doesn't it? We like you curvy, we really do!
thirtiesgirl
Funk, you write as if I don't know these things already. I *know* men like fat girls. I wouldn't have gotten half the play I've had if they didn't. As far as my weight goes, I trust only one person: me. *I* know how I feel about my body; my doctor does not. I'll trust my general practitioner to prescribe antibiotics when I have the flu, or offer remedies for the common cold, but I don't discuss how I feel about how my body looks with my doctor, and I've specifically chosen a doctor who will not preach to me about weight loss and 'healthy eating habits.' That's not what I see her for.

Nor do I need someone to tell me to 'figure out what's making me unhappy.' I figured that one out on my own long ago. I have a strong relationship with my personal therapist. Again, it's offensive to me when a guy feels he 'knows what's best' for me and speaks/writes as if I don't have the critical thinking skills to reflect on my own life and make the changes I need to make for myself. Don't assume we're unintelligent creatures who can't reflect on our lives simply because we choose to kvetch about something or make an issue of it. We don't need you to fix it. ...Or, at least *I* don't, at any rate.
funk0039
Fine.
girltrouble
funk, you might try reading more, talking less. i don't mean to come down on you, but, it's been my experience that sometimes people aren't looking to be handed a solution, so much as be heard. many of the threads here on bust are people talking about their shared experience. if you don't have that shared experience, it's probably best just to listen. i'm not saying that you can't post in those threads, but rather, come from a place of humbleness, as one who is here to learn, to understand things, rather than somebody who's got all the answers.


just a thought.
funk0039
You've completely misinterpreted. I never once said nor implied that I have all the answers.

Fine, whatever you want.
kittenb
It is so arrogant to just step into a conversation and start telling people what should make them happy or that they even are unhappy. That's some male privilege right there. And I want to point out that girltrouble's efforts to help you were a lot nicer than I think she has any need to be. And the best response you have is, "Fine, whatever you want." What are you, 12?

It seems to me, funk, that you either have misunderstod what has been talked about here or just don't want to know. I doubt that the men who freak out hellotampon by leering at her breasts really give a damn that she feels pleasure when someone that she cares about touches them. They are leering because in the male gaze all breasts belong to the men who see them.

So don't even try to pathologize thirtiesgirl. She's fine. You, however, seem to have some issues with women.

And why is it whenever a woman seems to be looking for someone withwhom she can share her life and her love it is always described as, "looking for a husband"? It is not the same thing in any way.

You are on a feminist board. Figure out what that means before you try and tell us what is wrong with the world.
deschatsrouge
Funk, may I suggest you take your asshat off and go sit in the corner for a while?
auralpoison
Look, Funk, it's obvious that *you're* the one that isn't grokking here. The main point is: It's tiresome when some guy comes in & thinks he can solve all of our issues by telling us "that what women don't get is . . . " It's arrogant & condescending to play armchair psychologist/Dr. Phil/Mr. Fixit unless you've walked a mile in a gal's dd cups. You have no idea what you're talking about/what you've walked into.

I've looked over what you wrote carefully & while a few good points were made, you didn't tell us anything we haven't already heard/didn't know before. There was no revelation, nothing new to chew on. Thirties responded to your thoughts pretty specifically & thoughtfully, so I don't know where you're coming up with "misinterpretation".

You came off as an asshat by basically telling us that our boobs aren't our problem, it's all in our minds. You even suggested that Thirties talk to a psychologist to back yourself up! Lemme tell you, my MIND isn't what makes my fucking back ache, bucko. It doesn't cause permanent grooves in my shoulders, it doesn't make it hard for me to buy a shirt that fits properly. Strange men don't shout, "Look at the big fuckin' tits on that bitch!" from across the street because of my mind. No, it's my tits that are responsible for that. If a psychologist can fix all that, then by all means get me to a shrink.

Although, I must admit, sometimes my mind makes it hard to buy a hat. Gotta have a big skull to hold all them brainsis.

Anyway, GT tried to give you a bit o' help/the 411 & you pouted like an infant. Way to get yourself taken seriously, dude. If you gotta take your ball & go home, feel free.

And for the record, you did come across as having all the answers.
girltrouble
ok.......we've offically entered bizarro world when i'm NOT the one attacking someone. lol

look, honestly i think funk means well, he's like a lot of n00bs who bust on into bust, and mistake it for your run of the mill forum.

we all know it's not.

funk i wasn't misinterpreting anything you said. i just think you are falling into a trap that lots of people do when they start posting here. they think, ok, i got this, and they post away. the lounge isn't like that. there are some threads you can just jump in and no one will mind. lots of ones in the media whores section are like that. there are other threads where, you'd be best to take your time, not post broadsides and just post a couple of lines at first to get the tone of the place correctly. otherwise you'll get swarmed.

i'm not interested in coming down on you, but rather suggesting that you stick to the wading end of the pool until you are a bit more used to the way things work round these parts, k?
auralpoison
Heh, I'm picking up your slack, bitch.

I don't think his intentions were bad, just misguided/misinformed. I mean, how much of the thread did he actually READ? I know the lil' gals thread has some bitching to the effect that they don't dig their mates interest in big boobs because it makes them feel insecure, but um, not us. I just find it galling that he obviously didn't take the time to read & he seems to think this thread is about our lack of mates/dates, whatever. 'There are lots of guys out there will love you for you!' Well, no shit Sherlock. That ain't the fuckin' point. What goes on in here isn't about finding/keeping a man. It's purely NOT. It's more about, "Where can I find a sexy EEE bra?" or "Some creep on the street made me feel really marginalized today" or "I caught sight of my tits in the gym today & realized how awesome they are!" or "Has anybody tried this sports bra?" It has very little to do with love or relationships or MEN & their opinions on breast size.
girltrouble
bitch? that's fluffy to you...lol





that said, why was he in here in the first place? funk has posted in about 3 threads and he was reading this one? why for? i'm not judging....ok i am....heh...
auralpoison
Awwwww! Poor fwuffy!

The mens *always* find their way in here one way or another, natch. Most of them just lurk & jerk, though.
girltrouble
*purrs*
kittenb
QUOTE(girltrouble @ Sep 18 2008, 02:12 PM) *
ok. we've offically entered bizarro world when i'm the one NOT attacking someone. lol


I was thinking that. wink.gif I try to often stay out of the fray, I think, but I just felt like I needed to speak up.

It looks like he is making friends in the "Frustrated Singles" thread too. Maybe his heart is in the right place but his tendancy to speak as though he has all the answers really muddles whatever point he is trying to make.
auralpoison
He dropped some valuable science in the Committed thread, too.

Eh, he ain't the first, he won't be the last. I remember the assclown that suggested that if I was annoyed by people not being able to understand my passport, perhaps I should use my DL instead. Cos y'know, I never thought about using something I *didn't* have.

Oh, and I forgot: GOOOOO TEEEEEAM TITTIE! BOOBIES RULE!
anna k
Yeah, I'd rather talk about how much we love/hate our boobies than have some noob come in to give his "enlightened" opinion on what we're thinking.

My boobies are annoying me because of PMS. I hate that feeling when my boobs feel fuller and my nips are popping out.
auralpoison
I actually have a bra that I only wear during my period that's a REALLY old, threadbare tshirt bra because it's murder otherwise. I use this Lush stuff to keep them moist & that seems to help, too. But that dull, throbbing ache remains.
girltrouble
not to derail anymore, but um.....


i love busties.


you should see the big ol' smirk on my face right now...
tankgirl
QUOTE(auralpoison @ Sep 18 2008, 05:05 PM) *
I actually have a bra that I only wear during my period that's a REALLY old, threadbare tshirt bra because it's murder otherwise. I use this Lush stuff to keep them moist & that seems to help, too. But that dull, throbbing ache remains.


Yah, I can't not wear a bra when I have my period, unless I am laying down sleeping, so ouchie.
auralpoison
See, I usually sleep on my stomach (I know, I know, I shouldn't sleep that way, but I always have.) but when I've got my date with Captain Bloodsnatch, I have to lay on my side & use my body pillow.
freckleface7
QUOTE(girltrouble @ Sep 18 2008, 05:29 PM) *
not to derail anymore, but um.....
i love busties.
you should see the big ol' smirk on my face right now...

I so agree.
I heart me some big (or not) boobied busties.

has anyone else tried the hanes her way bra's?
I have a cotton one that my mom gave me and it's wonderful. not the uber best quality for lasting, but is good for wearing around the house for comfort on my 'fluffy' days.
thirtiesgirl
Lately, I've gotten back to wearing the old lady comfort bras, Bali's wireless soft cup bras for big boobs. I went through a stage in college where I got rid of all my underwire bras in favor of more comfortable soft cup bras, and I'm apparently back there now. I haven't gotten rid of my underwires this time, though. I'm keeping them around for when I need a little uplifting, but I'm so enjoying the soft cup comfort and support these old lady bras provide.

Funk, I hope you stick around. I wasn't trying to scare you away, but I will assert myself when I feel people are underestimating me or women in general. As will the people on this forum. I like the idea of including other male opinions and voices on the forum, particularly well thought-out ones. I respect differences of opinion and feel that they keep the forum conversation vital and interesting. But again, I don't appreciate someone acting as if they think they know what's best for me and underestimating my own power of self-reflection and the choices I've made in my life.
funk0039
girltrouble, anna k, auralpoison, etc, I have just one thing to say to each of you:

Your recent behavior explains quite a lot about yourselves and why you live the way you are. I'm not going to flame you, but I do think each of you has a deserved reputation for being unforgiving and rather petty.

Flame me all you wish, nothing you say or do will hurt me in the slightest. I just stopped caring.

As for the rest of you:

Never once did I think I knew what was best for any of you. THAT was an attitude which was inferred, but never implied. A LOT of problems can be solved simply by changing your perspective, and one of the hardest things in the world to admit is the fact that your own pride in your current worldview may be getting in the way of your own happiness. I gave up mine, and thought you might be the same way I was years ago. Never once did I think I knew what was best for each of you because each of you would have to figure that out for yourselves.

I didn't know if you had thoroughly examined yourself, thirtiesgirl, I had no idea, but I thought it might be a possibility so I tried to suggest it. Too bad you took it as an insult. Funny thing was, that's the furthest thing from my mind. I never ONCE believed I was better than you, so if I came across that way it wasn't intentional! I was trying to help, not assert myself over you! I dunno, you seem really defensive as if I was trying to attack or hurt you. I'm sorry if that was my effect. That's the exact opposite of my intentions. Keep in mind I only knew about what you had posted and had managed to find.

This is the last time I will be posting in a lot of things and perhaps never again, simply because I've noticed a lot of viciousness directed towards me, maybe it's because I word things oddly, or maybe it's because I'm male and couldn't possibly comprehend what it's like to be judged based on appearance, eh? Many of you made assumptions as to my nature and intentions, and I'm tired of the offensive nature I seem to be stirring up. Obviously nothing I write will help at all if I'm being flamed incessantly by people like girltrouble etc, they aren't listening so what's the point? If my intent is to help, there's no point in going onward. Yes, this includes the depression and insomnia threads. Apparently I'm being hunted.

I did learn a lot about the nature of women in packs, however, and for that I thank all of you. If this is what it's like to interact with one, I just don't think I want to be a part of it. I'm quite sorry I managed to inspire a flame war. Maybe I just don't have the stomach for it, or maybe it's just that it's awfully hard to give a damn when you're under fire for simply existing and making mistakes, no matter how well intentioned they might have been. I continually stumble across unwritten codes of etiquette that I had no idea existed!

So yeah, you win. Feel free to crow your victory, the more you do, the more you prove my point about your nature. Assure yourselves of your superiority, I'm sure you deserve whatever's coming to you, for better or for ill.
girltrouble
well he certainly told us.

and in crowing, you know you've let the terrorists win. dry.gif whatever.
*sigh*

perhaps i should have been mean. at least i would have had fun.

believe it or not, funky, that was me being nice. oh well. so much for that. now we return you to girltrouble being a bitch, again, already in progress.

hey, let's review, shall we?
QUOTE
Flame me all you wish, nothing you say or do will hurt me in the slightest. I just stopped caring.
which is why he wrote this long post. because he doesn't care tongue.gif
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I'm not going to flame you, but [here comes the flaming] I do think each of you has a deserved reputation for being unforgiving and rather petty.
hee hee. oh i'm not petty, i'm just a hot headed bitch. biggrin.gif
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... the fact that your own pride in your current worldview may be getting in the way of your own happiness
but then
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Never once did I think I knew what was best for any of you.
oh really? you don't read your own posts, do you? if you go back and read them they are full of these know-what's-best-for-you pronouncements that came out of nowhere. see the thing that you don't understand....bah. never mind. you wouldn't bother to listen. i've tried to explain it to you in my other posts to you, and you never heard a word, you just did what you accuse others of: you got defensive.
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I've noticed a lot of viciousness directed towards me
actually, speaking only for myself, i was very careful to couch my posts saying i wasn't coming down on you, and that i thought you meant well. i think you are a bit defensive. honestly, that was me being nice to you. ask anyone. you'd know if i was pissed off at you. i curse like a sailor, call you names and talk smack about your mother. do me a favor, go back and read my posts in this thread. i was not insulting you at all. i was kinda defending you.

good bye funk, we hardly knew ye.
auralpoison
Didn't he, though?! I feel so very chastised now. I am going to change my name to auralniceness & mend my petty, prideful, unforgiving, vicious ways.

*BUUUUURP!*

No. Wait. That was just gas. My bad. Carry on then.

Me thinks the boy doth protest too much.

I must say it's amusing that he feels he's being "hunted". I am assuming it's because I posted in the Insomnia thread (He gave me excellent directions on how to cut a pill in half!), dunno 'bout the Depression thread, that weren't moi. Um, I posted in a LOT of threads yesterday since I hadn't been on in a few days. It had nothing to do with Funk. Self-important & paranoid much?

Since we have been given *tacit* permission to crow: You can give a monkey a keyboard & he's most likely gonna type gibberish.

Damn. That first morning hit of superiority is the best hit of the day!
kittenb
Dammit! I actually call somone out on this board and do I get any of the credit? NOOOOOOOOOO! It's always auralpoison and girltrouble stealing my thunder! I'll even own up to "hunting" him, although I prefer to consider it "research."

Anyway, now I am mad and pouting. I need a pouting emoticon! Sometimes I want to be known as one of the Bust Board Bitches too, you know!

GirlTrouble, considering your tag, maybe instead of referring to yourself as "a hotheaded bitch" we should just call you a "hot twated bitch?" I think we can take it to mean the same thing. smile.gif

girltrouble
i know, right? god kitten, it's like we had our "freaky friday" moment on thursday. i'm pissed that i didn't get credit for being nice. mouse thought i was gonna go off on her last night, cos of another dumb ass troll... and Voooop! i discovered all my nicety had left the building.

at least he didn't try to call me fluffy, like merlin. hmph.


pssssst! aural.... pass that superiority, yo! stop hoggin' it!
auralpoison
Poor KittenB! In my eyes you will always have BFB/HTK street cred.

*passes superiority pipe to GT, nods sagely*

You're never alone as long as you've got your jones!

ETA, DRAMA QUEEN! COULD YOU BE A BIGGER WEENIE!?
deschatsrouge
I told him to take off his asshat and sit in the corner, but nooooo.

*sigh*
girltrouble
uh.... what's htk? and as a charter member in bfb, i would be over the moon to have you as a member. i've been trying to catch up on my sleep and it'd be fantastic to know that "ye old shop of bustie bitchin'" has someone behind the counter while a have my 7am night cap and pass out in a pool of my own spittle.

*(bloodshot) eyes her morning long island ice tea, before raising it*

i'll drink t' that! *hic* barkeep, an drink fer mah bionic bustie bee-oches!

*passes out*

[sally kellerman appears for a lovely, sassy, gravel voice over]
...now back to our previously scheduled program...
auralpoison
Hot Twat Keyboard. HTK.
girltrouble
tha's right. *smacks her forehead, looking at her super secret htk wi-fi locater ring.*

silly me.
ananke
Oh Lord, don't you just love tha advice? I think this is my brother in law, the dckhead without a degree telling me how to publish work I've done. For my Masters. That is already published.

i do love the "noooooooooooooooooo don't get rd of your boobies just because people are mean and they hurt because you might get a guy with them!" - as if the guy I married did it because I have a rack, rather than because I am a smart arsed bitch...

In any case, I absolutely love the rec for figleaves I got form here ages ago - I can order shit cheaper from them, posted to Oz, than I can buy. Mind you, I'm stuck withone brand and style, the rest don't suit my odd shaped bod.

And Kitten? You'll aways be BBB to me!!
kittenb
I am so feeling the love in here. Thanks everybustie! biggrin.gif
prophecy_grrl
Spreading the big boob love today . . . . I <3 Joan from Mad Men.

I like to think that at my age and level of social consciousness that I am immune to the soul-crushing advertising/media/hollywood images of tiny (in all respects) women, but I get a little lift in self confidence every time I see Joan on the screen. x-posted this in the Mad Men thread - check out the Office Manager tshirt from glarkware.





and check her out at the emmys (hot!)

kittenb
I think I need to buy that shirt. I'll just tell people I posed for it. biggrin.gif
blackscorpion
QUOTE(prophecy_grrl @ Sep 26 2008, 06:06 PM) *
Spreading the big boob love today . . . . I <3 Joan from Mad Men.

I like to think that at my age and level of social consciousness that I am immune to the soul-crushing advertising/media/hollywood images of tiny (in all respects) women, but I get a little lift in self confidence every time I see Joan on the screen. x-posted this in the Mad Men thread - check out the Office Manager tshirt from glarkware.





and check her out at the emmys (hot!)



OMG I love Christina Hendricks! She's so lovely, and her breasts are so sexy! I adore Mad Men.
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