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stargazer
QUOTE(crazyoldcatlady @ Sep 19 2009, 08:40 AM) *
i sometimes wish i *hadn't* gone to school, and instead traveled the world or otherwise (happily) squandered my 20's.


cocl, yeah, I understand where you are coming from. I know it is the reason why I don't have many friends who are in the same profession I work in. I think having friends who work in different paradigms help me to stay open to life and doing things the off beaten path. It is amazing when I meet people in their 20s who have no life experience and went straight from high school to undergrad to graduate/doc school. When they find out how long it has taken me to finish my degree, they ask me what took me so long. I tell them, "Life." I think people get so used to the attainment of "things" that they don't know how to live. And doc school is all about surviving to get from one program to the next, etc. BUT, it sounds like you've been taking alot of risks for yourself lately. Keep it up! smile.gif

Freck, those boots are the hawtness that zoya was talking about. Go buy 'em!

Confession: All this talk about motorcycle riding, I think I might take a class at a Harley shop so I can learn too. There are a couple of shops not too far from me. Another thing to add to the to-do list.
raisingirl
Well, hell, if we're all doing grad school confessions here, I will say I'm so glad I didn't go to grad school directly from undergrad. I totally squandered my 20s, most of it unhappily. I wouldn't have appreciated furthering my formal education when I was in my 20s. I'm not scared or intimidated by the thought of being a good decade older than a lot of my classmates next year. I am all for life experience. If I go on to get a PhD, I may be 45 and still working on my diss, but I'd be 45 regardless. Bring it on. I'm doing it now because I want to, not because of what others expect of me.

I think I would have been miserable for similar reasons had I gotten married in my early 20s.

Maybe this is all a sign of 20something immaturity on my part.

Or maybe I'm not glib enough. I take things too seriously.

Oh, and I totally had a dream about riding motorcycles last night.
crazyoldcatlady
i think it takes more courage to fend for yourself and explore right out of the academic gate than it is to just keep taking the next logical--and basically secure--path... high school, college, post grad, whatever.

we're so ingrained with "get your ass to college" that no one has a chance to get educated about themselves. i think raisin brought up a good point; it's kind of like getting married young.

that being said, my education has taken me far, and although it's been painful 99% of the time, i am super-excited about the end product. fuck the journey, i want the destination.


unrelated confession: i think i'm becoming a twi-hard by accident. i find myself reading gossip about the next movie and being intrigued. i watched twilight one night long ago when i was in the mood for lifetime-movie-esque melodramatic crapness. i even kept thinking the whole time, "this is basically a co-dependent, emotionally abusive relationship... what are we teaching our girls???" (although i read my fair share of vc andrews when i was younger. never made me want to fuck a male relative, so i guess this sort of tween porn is harmless.)

related confession: i've never been on a motorcycle (!) the opportunity arose several times but i declined.

related-related confession: i wish i were a Bad Girl.
culturehandy
cocl, next time the opportunity comes up for you to go on a ride, take it. there is nothing like being on a bike. It's addicting. Things smell different, they look different. If you're out of the city, it's like you're just right out there, in nature. It's wonderful.

I'm also glad I didn't go to grad school right away. It's shitty that I didn't get in, but with everything that happened this year and last, I'm so so glad. I'm also discovering who I am, and if I was in school I wouldn't be able to do that.
zoya
QUOTE(culturehandy @ Sep 19 2009, 04:10 PM) *
cocl, next time the opportunity comes up for you to go on a ride, take it. there is nothing like being on a bike. It's addicting. Things smell different, they look different. If you're out of the city, it's like you're just right out there, in nature. It's wonderful.
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Agreed - and just a word of concern - I dont' know what the helmet laws are where you live, cocl, but regardless, please wear a helmet!!!! that is all. xx
roseviolet
Freck, you just let me know when you're coming to town! Wee!

I rode on the back of a motorcycle a number of times while I was a kid. Then the guy who lives next door to us wrecked his bike, broke his leg in 4 places, and almost bled to death while waiting for the ambulance to arrive (we lived outside of town). Ever since then I've been too nervous to ride a motorcycle. It doesn't help that my dad is a cop & my mom is an ER nurse, so I've heard a LOT of horror stories.

But you all go right ahead! Just wear your helmet & your leathers, okay? Momma worries.


COCL, have you read the books? If so I'd love to hear what you think!


Thanks for the discussion about grad school, everyone. You've made me feel better. Lately I've found some old friends - people who went on to get their masters or doctorates & have jobs that make good money and sound terribly impressive. I love hearing what they're doing! But then they ask me what I do. I try to make it sound interesting, but the fact is that I studied theater in college and now I'm a housewife (or "gainfully unemployed" as I told someone yesterday). Sometimes I feel self-conscious about that, but now when I really think about it, I'm okay with it. I don't want to be an ear doctor. I don't want to design airplanes. I don't want to do lighting design. But I like taking care of our home. I like to cook. And I like having a flexible schedule that allows me to take whatever wacky little acting job comes my way. Maybe I'm not a doctor, but that wouldn't make me happy so who cares?
girltrouble
i like your attitude, rosey. you're happy, so fuck 'em.

i got kinda depressed today. last night i came across an old friend-- a girl i dated in hs who meant a great deal to me. while it was good to get back in touch with her, every time i get in contact with these old highschool friends, it's like finding a fault line, and then experiencing a tremor. i get these waves of unease. i hate it. i see all these people that i'd love to contact, but i feel like i can't handle it. that i'm really not up for it right now. i wish that i felt more solid in who i am, and not so afraid of rejection.

ketto, how was your day? *fingers crossed*

raisingirl
On an entirely unrelated note, I watched a home shopping channel yesterday just because Jillian Michaels was on it for an hour. Total girlcrush.
crazyoldcatlady
rv, do you mean the vc andrews or bad girl books?

QUOTE
Sometimes I feel self-conscious about that, but now when I really think about it, I'm okay with it. I don't want to be an ear doctor. I don't want to design airplanes. I don't want to do lighting design. But I like taking care of our home. I like to cook. And I like having a flexible schedule that allows me to take whatever wacky little acting job comes my way. Maybe I'm not a doctor, but that wouldn't make me happy so who cares?


well, think of it this way: you're working to help educate doctors (by being a fake patient), and that's pretty important. so remind your old friends you schooled them. smile.gif

QUOTE
Agreed - and just a word of concern - I dont' know what the helmet laws are where you live, cocl, but regardless, please wear a helmet


i live in a state with a fucked up motto and priorities; you can ride around unhelmeted or unbelted to your hearts content! (but no smoking in bars.)

QUOTE
last night i came across an old friend-- a girl i dated in hs who meant a great deal to me. while it was good to get back in touch with her, every time i get in contact with these old highschool friends, it's like finding a fault line, and then experiencing a tremor. i get these waves of unease. i hate it. i see all these people that i'd love to contact, but i feel like i can't handle it. that i'm really not up for it right now. i wish that i felt more solid in who i am, and not so afraid of rejection.


*everyone's afraid of rejection, it's human nature, so don't beat yourself up over that. just own the fact that you're feeling this way, and proceed in the way you're most comfortable with.

raisin, i watched qvc yesterday because b. makowsky was on selling his bags. i've never seen him, and i was a little sad that the dude who designed a bag i have looks like a used car salesman.

confession: i drove 1.5 hours to an outlet mall yesterday to do some serious shopping and didn't buy one thing. i'm not sure if that's an epic fail or an epic win.

confession: i feel bad for kanye. he's a narcissistic douche, but he's been *crucified* in the media for something that ODB did all the fucking time. and jay leno's a cunt for bringing up kanye's mom in the interview and tying it into the swiftgate.
roseviolet
COCL, I was talking about the Twilight series. I've read the books - hey, I have a beloved teenage girl in my life, okay? - but I would not consider myself a Twi-hard. And yet, I want to talk about the books with someone! Bah!

And you're right! I do help educate doctors! I am an educator at one of the most prestigious medical schools in the world! Take that, suckas!

Have I mentioned that I love my Busties? Because I do.

(((((((((((((((GT)))))))))))))))))))))
I can't even imagine how difficult that must be. I agree with COCL that we all fear rejection so you should not feel bad about that part of this. However, in your case I can see how this would be so much more difficult. Have you only spoken to this person on-line? Has she indicated that she knows about your transition?

Is the media still harping on Kanye? Guess it's a slow news week. Granted, I agree that it was a douche-y thing to do (I heard someone say that it was akin to stepping on a kitten, which I think is right on). But even Taylor Swift wants people to shut up about it.

Confession: Despite all this, I must admit that I'm rather enjoying the "I'mma let you finish" meme.
culturehandy
(((((ketto and GT)))))

Further to the questions about the animal spirit guides, pay attention to which animals you see and what is going on in your life when you see them.

there are also two wonderful books on the subject, Animal Speak and Animal Wise both written by Ted Andrews.

It's all about being more aware to what is happening around you.
freckleface7
I tend to believe that small grey cats are my personal totem,. bc all my life it's the only type of cat I've Ever had. and each one has been.. unique in her own way. very much her own person. and each one of them has kept me on my toes & saved me in various ways.
but is a totem animal the same as spirit guide animal?

I rode the bike today!!!!
first a spin around the neighborhood- this time Sans Screaming - then to cracker barrell way across town w/ friends for brunch, and Then we rode out to a small town about 30 miles away to a Panera Bread for lunch & Cold Stone Creamery. all in all about 60 or 70 miles!

not Once did I freak.
my poor legs area aching like I've been riding a horse and my face feels funny from the windspeed, but I'll get used to it I'm sure.
the mr is SUPER happy with me and you know- the closeness of riding w/ him was.. sensual.

oh- as I don't have boots yet- I wore my Pink hightop Chucks for courage tongue.gif .
buttercups
I'm having a stressful night and can't stop eating my bf's chocolates that he got for his birthday...one bag down..another one to go...

candycane_girl
rv, I'm enjoying the Kanye meme as well but be careful! Apparently googling "imma let you finish" is now leading to all these different websites that have viruses. So don't click on anything! Still though, I'm amused by all the Kanye macros that are floating around.
girltrouble
rose, yeah, it was kind of funny, she said that my transition must have been the best kept secret because she had heard nothing. but it was pretty tightly controlled. i jettisoned most of my family and all but two of my friends from highschool, and had they not been so committed to being friends with me, i would have done the same with them as well.
cocl:my problem is that i am very conflicted about the situation. i do miss the friendship i remember, but i do not like some of them knowing about my life. i do not like the idea that they could so easily hurt me. i am letting only select people in, but all the same, part of me wants very badly to withdraw. i don't want any union between his life and mine, if that makes any sense. i hate the pull, the undertow of that past life that constantly pulls me back.

confession: i think i dislike one of my friend's new boyfriend. she asked me what i thought of him and... i was speechless. he's not a jerk so much as persona non grata. seriously dude, do you even have a peronality? i hate trying to pull conversation out of my friend's new SO, trying to get to know them, and they 1) don't bother to try keep up their end, 2) show no interest in getting to know me, or even talking to me, even though the three of us were going to hang out all afternoon. i asked him all kinds of questions, trying to start a conversation that either he didn't have the social grace, or skills to engage in. infact it was almost like he was trying to ignore me. he sux. x, you could have done MUCH better. every time you used a pet name with him i felt like throwing up.
missladyj
I'm glad I waited to get my master's degree and didn't get it right after undergrad because I had a much clearer idea of what I wanted to do and found the perfect program for me. It took me five years to finish but it was worth it and has helped me professionally.

I just signed up to take the GRE again and will be applying to an EdD program in the winter.
roseviolet
MissLadyJ, I'd love to hear what you think of the new GRE. Back whhen I took it they did not have the essay portion, so I'm curious about how that works.
ketto
GT, the day turned out to be lovely. I spent the morning in tears though. And when paperboy arrived I was still in tears. And while we were driving to the Farmers Market. But he just kept holding me and telling me not to worry about it and he brought me a bouquet of daisies and dill weed (because I LOVE dill). All in all, once the morning passed it was a great time.

(((gt)))
auralpoison
I also cannot get enough of "Keep fuckin' that chicken!"
crazyoldcatlady
i may feel sorry for kanye, but i've been highly amused by the meme since (see also: bill o'reilly, christian bale freak-out techno remixes)

((GT))
raisingirl
I'm sort of glad I didn't see the Kanye thing. Ignorance is bliss. It must have been something big if people keep talking about it.

I set a date for the GRE. Say bye-bye to a social life! Game on, LadyJ. (and good luck in advance!)
sybarite
Add me to the list of those who took time out to return to grad school; like all of youze, this meant I was more dedicated to the work, but also that I had more 'real world' (whatever that is) experience which meant I could deal with petty grad school bullshit with impunity when it arose.

Confession: after 8 days smoke-free I just had a cigarette on hearing some crap but expected news. I will not let this turn me back into a smoker.
roseviolet
Sybarite, that's a really great start! Keep up the fabulous work!

RaisinGirl, congrats! Are you taking a prep course or are you studying on your own? I took a prep course but that's just because I knew I'd be more motivated to study if I'd spent a chunk of change on a class & had to go once a week. If I'd just bought a study guide it would have sat somewhere until 2 days before I took the test. I'm crap like that.


Confession: Out of curiosity, I dug up my GRE results. Then I checked out the average GRE scores & GPAs of the people admitted to the graduate schools at UNC & Duke (since they're closest to me). To my surprise, it looks like I'd be an excellent candidate! It made me feel pretty good about myself. It reminds me that I still have lots of options.


When I was in college I always loved having real adults in my classes. You could tell that they were there because they really wanted to learn. They always added so much to the conversation and made the class more interesting. I think I identified with them much more than many of the younger students in my classes.


raisingirl
Nah, I don't have plans to sign up for a course. While I tend to be a very structured person and would benefit from a class in another circumstance, I'm motivated enough to do this on my own (and I think I only say this because my math score won't matter). Plus, I'm only taking the test once, so I think there's less of a tendency to slack off. If anything, I'd be resentful for paying for a class when half of the schools I'm applying to don't even require that the GRE be taken! Anyway, I really appreciate your votes of confidence for being an "older" student. I am really excited about it, all of it!

RV, I think GRE scores are good for three years. It's not too late. Putting the bug in your ear, heh heh!
girltrouble
yay! that's awesome ketto!


confession:hung out with mr. t today. i forgot how sweet she is to me. she loves complementing me, and did repeatedly. she puts up with my talking on and on about nothing, but does it like i'm saying the most important thing in the world. on the ride home i fell asleep, my head on her shoulder, our arms intertwined. sad.gif
kittenb
I bought the In Style: Weddings edition with Christina Hendricks. I just want to look at her in pretty white dresses. Now I have to find a place to hide it like the dirty porn it is. ph34r.gif
freckleface7
kittenb: maud knows I'm past the wedding stage, but I get such a wad out of looking at dresses still, you are so right- it IS like porn !
your secret is safe w/ me wink.gif cool.gif

gt: sweetie, no condemnation, but ohhhh baby. gird your heart if your head is taking a vacation.

confession: I went in to Planned Parenthood again today & made phone calls for them, and hung out w/ the Director & another staffer & felt trully accepted & valued. and then they asked if they were going to see me at the Open House I was making the phone calls for, and I said ' Oh- am I invited?' (bc honest I nevever assume anything) and they said " of course!" like DUH!
this seriously might be one of the smartest moves I've ever made.
now if only they had a job opening & one I was qualified for so I could get paid to work there...

girltrouble
freckninja, you are so awesome!
roseviolet
Confession: I feel like our house is crumbling around us. I suspect that our foundation is fucked up, which is causing some of our doors to stick and subtle cracks to appear in our walls. I'm afraid our roof is leaking because a patch of the popcorn ceiling in our bedroom fell off this morning. Our back door started leaking during the bad rainstorm that hit this week. The crack in the driveway looks like it may have gotten larger. And lord only knows what else is wrong that I can't even see. Plus a couple trees in the back garden appear to have died & they need to be taken down & many of the other trees could use some trimming, too. And the furnace needs to be serviced. And we need to get a termite inspection done. And the property taxes are due. And and and and ...
I don't know where to start and I'm scared by how much this will cost.

Confession: At times like this, I wish we were still renting. sad.gif
freckleface7
QUOTE(roseviolet @ Sep 25 2009, 01:52 PM) *
Confession: I feel like our house is crumbling around us. I suspect that our foundation is fucked up, which is causing some of our doors to stick and subtle cracks to appear in our walls. I'm afraid our roof is leaking because a patch of the popcorn ceiling in our bedroom fell off this morning. Our back door started leaking during the bad rainstorm that hit this week. The crack in the driveway looks like it may have gotten larger. And lord only knows what else is wrong that I can't even see. Plus a couple trees in the back garden appear to have died & they need to be taken down & many of the other trees could use some trimming, too. And the furnace needs to be serviced. And we need to get a termite inspection done. And the property taxes are due. And and and and ...
I don't know where to start and I'm scared by how much this will cost.

Confession: At times like this, I wish we were still renting. sad.gif

((((((((rv)))))) in the last 2 or 3 years, we've dealt w/ pretty much all of that (minus the driveway issue).
I'd say Prioritize things and go from there. the furnace I'd honestly put towards the bottom bc w/ Fall the temps should be mellowing finally & it's good ways off til you'll be needing heat.
the foundation and leaks however- ASAP. if your foundation is shifting, that could be causing your ceiling to leak.
we got really really lucky & our leak had a totally simple & cheap ($20**) repair, but we still know we need to replace the whole thing when we can as it's as old as the house now.
the foundation was a whole other story & we learned it had been built/repaired cheaply & wrongly but it was too late from when we bought our house to take anyone to court.
- when did you purchase your home?
I'd first hire a good Home Inspector to go over the whole place & write out his findings for you.
yes you'll probably pay $2-300**, but that could ultimately save you a lot too from unscrupulous seperate contactors & repair people.
- do you still have any sort of Home Warranty or what about Insurance?
you might be suprised about what could be covered (esp roofing sometimes).
- feeling your pain ~

confession: I'm pretty sure we're about to get a 3rd dog.
roseviolet
Thanks, Freck. The house is 22 years old, so it's at that point where it's time to start replacing things. We bought it 2&1/2 years ago and there is no warranty. I agree that we should deal with the possible foundation problems first. I'm starting to think that the problem with the ceiling in our bedroom may not have anything to do with a roof leak after all. For one thing, there is no staining. Secondly, our attic is above the bedroom & there's no evidence of water damage there. So perhaps it's something else. We shall see.


Confession: Went to a play last night and burst into tears on the way home. The play was okay - good but not great. However, watching others perform is becoming very painful for me. I told Sheff that it's as if I am a painter whose arms were chopped off and now it's agonizingly painful every time I go to a museum or an art opening. I know I need to get past this, but I've been feeling more fragile lately and it's harder to put on a brave face than it used to be. That's not a good quality in an actor. We're ALWAYS supposed to be able to flick on that light and fake it.

The suckiest part? The main reason why I went was so that I could say hi to Director Guy afterward (he had the leading role) & maybe be introduced to other theater people like his wife. This was supposed to be a great networking opportunity. Instead I crumbled & ran home. Ugh.


Sorry for being a thread hog, gang. I know this sounds silly and frivilous and self-indulgent. However, acting has been such a huge part of my heart for so long. It's what makes me feel connected to the world and to people. Without it, I feel disconnected from, well, everything ... including myself.
culturehandy
(((((RV))))) you are an amazing woman, keep your head up, things WILL work out for you. Acting is deeply engrained in you and it is NOT frilly or self indulgent.

Freck, I'm so with GT, you are awesome!!!
girltrouble
(((rosey)))
while actors are supposed to be able to soldier on, most don't. we've got an artist's temperament, and feel things very deeply. which is how you access those emotions when you are on stage. from where i stand, i don't see a thing wrong with your needing to get that crying out of your system. you've got your heart on your sleeve, and it makes perfect sense. that profession is fraught with rejection. it leaves you raw and fragile no matter who you are. you want to get back into this thing that brought you joy, but, i think you realize this isn't going to be easy. it's gonna take some work, and that's a bit scary. don't beat yourself up for it. you remember the mantra every acting teacher said? use it. use those experiences. and when you get them put down little markers so you can find them again. but don't feel bad, don't feel shame. just use it. right your ship, turn it around, and take another little step in the right direction.

seriously, that you felt that deeply-- says to me that this is exactly what you should be doing, and you are fantastic at it. get back in there champ, and kick their asses!
wub.gif wub.gif wub.gif
raisingirl
Echoing what the others have said. I went to a reading this weekend and didn't stay afterwards to talk to the writer. I should have, but I didn't. You're not the only one.
zoya
I'm with GT, Rose - I find that when life wants me to feel something that strongly, it means that I should follow what life is telling me. It's never ever been wrong when I've chosen to follow that. Go for it, woman! follow your muse!!
auralpoison
RV, with the amount of joy you took in merely playing sick for med students, it's not surprising to me that you wigged out a little after seeing the play. Your soul is crying out for you to get back up on those boards! Listen to the Busties, we love you, we support you, follow your muse!
culturehandy
I spent a shade of money on a new bag. and it's read. and it's lovely.

it's also for my birfday! so I'm getting the money back.

anyways, here it is.

I confess, I spent 173.00 on said bag.
roseviolet
((((((((((CH, GT, Raisin, Zoya, AP)))))))))))))))
Thanks so much for the support. I just wish it weren't so much more difficult to break into theater here. I've been working on this for about 6 months now - since the big audition back in April. I thought I did really well at that audition, but none of those 13 directors called me back. That meant I would not appear in any plays for a whole year. It was a devastating blow to my confidence. Since then I've taken a few small steps and made some thin, tenuous connections, but shyness has prevented me from taking these opportunities to their best advantage. I'm grateful for the tiny bit of progress that I've made, but DAMN is it ever SLOW! The theatrical community is far more welcoming and open in the other places where I've lived. If this were New York, Chicago, or LA, I could understand why it would be difficult. But this place? There's no excuse for it to be so closed off. Still, I'm doing what I can. I've realized that the only way I can get ahead is by networking and meeting people. Unfortunately, there are VERY few opportunities for me to do that and this weekend was my biggest opportunity in months. And I threw it away. That's what made this especially devastating.

Anyway. Not all is lost. It could have been worse. I could have burst into tears in front of Director Guy and everyone else! Now THAT would have been disastrous!
culturehandy
RoseyV, I know things will work out for you. Perhaps, as devastating as this was, it was not meant to be at this exact moment (not to say it will never happen, heavens no!). not to say what you are feeling isn't devastating, but I give you an example of what happened to me in February of last year.

Last year I did not get into grad school, i was devasted, I thought my life was over, I thought I was stuck as a social worker forever. Well, at the time, my dad also got really sick (imagine being in grad school when that shit went down). Fast forward to this year, I got sick, you're aware of the history there, looking at where I am now, I'm glad that I didn't get in.

Moral of the story, things will work out, just keeping on putting yourself out there, you don't know if you don't try. I know it's hard and it sucks, especially when it's something that is your passion and theatre is something written into who you are. I know you were talking about grad school, could you do something in furthering your education in performing arts?
Persiflager
Confession: I'm really glad that there's a discussion happening in the dating thread now, as it's 4am and I can't sleep and it's making me feel less lonely.

Confession: Sometime: when I get bored, I fantasise about setting up another login to start arguments on the board. Not a troll, just a shit-stirrer - entertain me, people!

(I promise that I won't)

Confession: Now I'm wondering if other people do that....
zoya
hi persiflager!! I'm up too!!!

can't sleep, feh.

auralpoison
It's barely ten pm here, but I'm sure I'll still be awake in six hours when you're all asleep.

Pers, I do know that at least one Bustie was embarrassed by wanting to ask a dumb question & set up a whole other profile to do it. I wasn't sure why, the question wasn't dumb & it's not as though we'd have stoned her or something.
lapis
I'm scared I'll never finish and all of these people are believing in me for nothing. I'm terrified that I'm a crap model for my daughter living this totally entitled life. My family could support me forever but life should be more meaningful than that. It's almost impossible for me to get my head clear enough to think about my thesis let alone write it. I don't want to hire out a mommy to take care of the kid but at the same time it seems impossible to get anything done. I think about consulting with yogis, professors, and others with mystical talents but what it all comes down to is this is the hole I've dug. I need to do my work and move on. But the scary thing is not knowing if there will be any jobs when I finish.

#2 i am kind of slobby and hate it. I wish I could keep everything super clean but it feels like entropy follows me around.

#3 These are the unsavory things i think about all the time. then I get freaked out for being so negative.

thanks for letting me share.
flanker_ji
Confession: I'm too lazy to PM this...

RV, I've been in the state you're in, for different reasons. Having just an hour a week, over a year, of support from my therapist was amazingly helpful for taking the steps I needed to get reconnected with myself and get what I wanted out of life. I couldn't have gotten out of that ugly period of my life without her help, and I hope this gentle reminder gives you another option for coping to consider.
zoya
I'm locked and loaded, got my finger on the trigger and the target in the crosshairs. Watch out, Mister 26 year old cute funny guy, you are so walking right into my clutches and you will have so much fun once you're in them. tongue.gif

culturehandy
All I want to do is go home and get high then meditate (which leads to some cool ass shit). BUT I'm forcing myself to go for a run before I do anything.

Zoya, doooooooooooooooo it!!!!

Persiflager
Confession: Deep in the prejudiced depths of my heart is an unshakeable conviction that only the English speak English properly. And when I say English, I really mean central England - none of these Yorkshire or Cornish dialects. And not the Midlands. Or most of London. We're basically talking about the Home Counties (minus Luton and Watford) plus Cambridge and Oxford. And minus anyone who speaks 'mockney'.

Essentially, the entire population of the rest of the world could agree on standardised English pronunciations, and I'd resist until I died still clutching P.G. Wodehouse and listening to Radio 3.
sybarite
Oooh, them's fighting words Persi! Being from the US but having lived in Britain, you can believe I've had this debate several times. After all, there are more people living speaking North American English than British English... wink.gif
Persiflager
I know! But this is far, far too deeply ingrained in my psyche to be extracted by any sort of logic.

I could be listening to a lecture by a north american Professor of English Literature, who's written more books on the language than I'm capable of reading and has much better grammar than me, and I'd still be thinking "ha! she said aluminum" and feeling superior.

Obviously, aluminium is an important literary concept......
culturehandy
The woman beside me is licking and sucking on her teeth, I'm having such a difficult time concentrating, I just want to go and deck her. That is my confession.
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