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monht85
Thanks Katie for the response. I just want to clarify again, that I just kind of fell into this. I am not turned on visualy, its more that its fun to be silly together. We both know we are kind of breaking society rules and that is what is fun. I am just seeing a side to him that
has kind of brought us closer. I have always had positive experiences with men and lingerie. This is just the first time the guy has participated so actively.
monht85
Thanks Katie for the response. I just want to clarify again, that I just kind of fell into this. I am not turned on visualy, its more that its fun to be silly together. We both know we are kind of breaking society rules and that is what is fun. I am just seeing a side to him that
has kind of brought us closer. I have always had positive experiences with men and lingerie. This is just the first time the guy has participated so actively.
katiebelle2882
When you say it was attractive just bc he was willing to put away his pride for your amusement and how that is attractive, well, that is something I can totally and completely understand. I have had instances where being silly and stupid with a guy has really made me fall for them even harder!
doodlebug
*delurks*

I have been reading this thread but don't have a lot to contribute. The discussion is very interesting. And...oh, yeah...men in "women's" clothes? Hot. Eddie Izzard, very hot. Much hotter in heels and makeup. Yummy!

But I like it from the gender-bending perspective, which I have also enjoyed in female partners as well as male partners - it's just less noticeable in women, because we've pushed against more of those kind of gender restrictions. Western women were ridiculed when they first came up with the idea of wearing pantaloons on their bicycles! Heavens. A hundred or so years later, you couldn't force me into a skirt.

I love it when people have the courage to mess around with gender "norms," and especially if they are doing it to be more "themselves." It delights me. It's a huge turn on, probably connected to my feminism in all sorts of bizarre and as-yet inexplicable ways.

That is all I probably have to contribute, so I'll go back to lurking.

*relurks*
sheisdeadly
i love silly boys. i think all my guy friends would put on womans bras and lingerie. i hang out with nerds heehehee... pretty sure that my boyfriend would too. i mean it'd be different if he was STEALING your undies and trying them on haha... now thats embaressing.
ironyfetish
my ex once put on a skirt and women's cut tee shirt of mine when we were chilling in my room, and i painted his nails blue. he actually stole the shirt and never gave it back. i thought he looked cute like that, but after the fact got very defensive about it. i think cross-dressing is totally normal, and it makes me sad when people who do it even just for fun are ashamed of it.
cleanoldguy
From today's "Dear Abby" column:

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SHARING INTIMATES PUTS SPARK IN COUPLE'S 30-YEAR MARRIAGE

DEAR ABBY: Please tell me if I'm going crazy. My husband of 30 years recently admitted that he enjoys wearing my undergarments! At first I was shocked, but now I am over it. We went shopping together and bought him several pairs of panties and a couple of nightgowns. He was in seventh heaven.

Our sex life has never been better and we really are enjoying each other -- but still I wonder. -- MIXED UP IN FLORIDA

DEAR MIXED UP: You are not the first wife who has helped her husband cross-dress, and you won't be the last. He is a transvestite -- someone who enjoys wearing clothing that is traditionally worn by the opposite sex. Because your sex life has "never been better" and you are "really enjoying each other," my advice is to stop "wondering" and appreciate that after 30 years of marriage your husband finally trusted you enough to show you who he really is.
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This is a little more elaborate than the occasional playful dressing-up reported in this thread, but it tells me that there are a lot more variations on the theme than most people realize. "Dear Abby" ain't exactly "Savage Love." Her column runs on the Comics page of my family newspaper--I wonder how many of my small-town neighbors hid today's paper from the kids....and how many husbands left it open to that page in hopes their wives would see it....

BTW, the headline in our paper was "Wife hot for her cross-dressing hubby." Pretty strong stuff for our Bible-Belt town.
venetia
Tangential but I hate how people, including Dear Abby ("after 30 years of marriage your husband finally trusted you") assume that if someone gets off on something then its set in stone and it somehow means that deep down they ALWAYS liked it - and they ALWAYS will. For all we know he only picked this up three years ago.

When I was younger I felt I could only find true freedom to experiement in casual relationships because if I tried anything with an actual boyfriend it would be really hard to "undo" it again if it wasn't for me. Sexuality is not set in stone!!
cleanoldguy
"... Sexuality is not set in stone!!"

Amen, Sister Venetia. I just noticed this thread dying away at the bottom of the pile and thought it was worth one more look.

I'm kind of surprised that more people didn't contribute stories on this subject--maybe not necessarily the exact same thing (dressing up for special occasions, so to speak), but variations on the basic theme of erotic playfulness.

Let me recommend a book here: "Talk Dirty To Me: An Intimate Philosophy of Sex" by Sallie Tisdale. In spite of the title, it isn't even remotely pornographic. Instead, it's a very nuanced and extended view of "what makes sex sexy" for different people. Amazon has it for about ten bucks in paperback.

And back to the thread topic: you mean nobody else has put panties on her boyfriend? Or had to make her boyfriend STOP putting them on? And none of the Busters here have ever tried on something frilly?
mr_falljackets
I wore one of FJ's g-strings around for a day once and enjoyed showing her, not because the thought of wearing panties turns me on per se but because I went on some momentary anti-establishment bender and the idea of showing FJ that I could wear her panties and still be my confident damnself was sort of affirming and funny at the same time. Also thought it was interesting to see how girls go all day with that dental floss riding up their bootygroove. Didn't agree with me much but then it rode differently on me on account of my equipment. That is all.
venetia
Ouch ouch ouch, now that is one type of underwear that really needs to be in the right size! Yikes.

Calvin Klein makes some really good men's cotton ones.
cleanoldguy
Before this thread dies out altogether, I'd just like to suggest that you ladies might encourage your men to wear your panties all day for safety reasons. It will make them EXTREMELY careful drivers.

Think about it. What guy wants to wake up in the Emergency Room, surrounded by nurses and interns, all giggling at his underwear?
pepper
we were making it the other day and he climbed Into my panties with me. sexiest thing EVER.

good thing that thong is made of super stretchy fabric. seriously.
i'm such a fantastically lucky woman.
cleanoldguy
pepper said:

"we were making it the other day and he climbed Into my panties with me. sexiest thing EVER.

good thing that thong is made of super stretchy fabric. seriously.
i'm such a fantastically lucky woman."

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Yeah, pepper, but apparently nobody in the whole Bust world can top that, so there goes the thread!

Seriously, I though Halloween might bring out a few more tales of creative dressing, but I guess not. Oh well. We still wear whatever we're in the mood for at our house....and we laugh when we think what our ultra-square neighbors would think of it.




_octinoxate
I spent the entire day in my ex's boxer briefs (though without him in them with me, pepper-style) and quite liked it. First of all, they were super comfy and didn't mosh up into my butt crack like women's panties do. And second, when I remembered I had them on it felt like a cool little secret, something vaguely subversive, gender-fucky, and sexual. I'm thinking about buying some more of my own...

But yeah, pepper, that is pretty hot.

Whu is it that so many men dress as women on events like Halloween, but not vice versa?
maddy29
heh-cause secretly most men want to dress up as a woman-do the whole thing up-pantyhose, skirt, heels, MAKEUP! i mean really think about how much fun we get to have with clothes and hair and makeup, etc. having boobs, smooth legs....

some men make SUCH pretty women! it's amazing to me sometimes.

i think my boy would like wearing silky panties, but would never admit it. hmm, maybe i'll try to get him into them. i did get him into some sexy black stretchy tight undies-he laughed at them at first cause he never wears briefs, but he wore them and said they were really comfy....yum!
hevonen
Let me add my 2 cents worth. I am a straight male that enjoys wearing panties. I like the way they feel and support me. I love the fabrics available in panties vs. the straight cotton fabric that is typically available for me.
That's all I have to say about that
pepper
hevonen, hello. might i suggest that you stop by the community forum and the newbies thread to introduce yourself and check out the loose rules? we like having guys around, we just like to know who you are!
cleanoldguy
Just about to start Christmas shopping, and of course (as usual) Mrs. Clean will get some nice new panties. But this thread make me think: wouldn't it be a hoot if she got me some, too?

Did any of you Busties ever give your man lingerie in hopes of starting some mischief?
girltrouble
ok, i have to talk about the exact opposite. a while ago i had a gf who loved wearing tighty whiteys. i thought they looked so sexy on her, i started wearing them, which i haven't done since i was in jr high. now my latest ex gf gives me soooo much grief about it, it drives her nuts (ooooooh bad pun), cos half of the time that's what i wear, i she says, "women don't wear tighty whiteys!" this one does. and, --tmi-- i just love how my bulge looks in them. bulge+ boobs+tighty whiteys= hawtness...!

_octinoxate
not tmi at all! I really dig genderfuckiness of any sort. (And for the record, I think it's very cool that you're so open and comfortable about being t.) I too have had partners tell me that seeing me in men's underwear gives them the opposite of an erection, but whatevs. Lately my thing is letting my pants hang down low so's my boxers stick out of the top for any/all to see.

Why do you think some folks react so strongly (in a bad way, that is) to seeing their partner in the "wrong" underwear?
Polymorphism
You would be amazed how many guys do this. I actually had to research crossdressing in college for a psych class. You'd be suprised how many elected officials cannot make a speech in front of the house or senate without wearing panties and/or a bra. If I remember correctly, the stats are 1 in 100 men cross dress to some degree. Who would have known? It's much more common than you think.

Plus, it's really no big deal. I've worn bras and panties before. Most men have tried on a bra at one point in their lives. They get curious or whatever, their girlfriend dares them, ect. My fiancee requests it now, so it's a frequent thing. I really don't see what all the shock and wonder is about. A bra is just underwear.
lingerie lover
QUOTE(Polymorphism @ Jan 29 2007, 02:39 AM) *

You would be amazed how many guys do this. I actually had to research crossdressing in college for a psych class. You'd be suprised how many elected officials cannot make a speech in front of the house or senate without wearing panties and/or a bra. If I remember correctly, the stats are 1 in 100 men cross dress to some degree. Who would have known? It's much more common than you think.

Plus, it's really no big deal. I've worn bras and panties before. Most men have tried on a bra at one point in their lives. They get curious or whatever, their girlfriend dares them, ect. My fiancee requests it now, so it's a frequent thing. I really don't see what all the shock and wonder is about. A bra is just underwear.

i agree with you been wearin bras and panties long time there jus clothing but i sure enjoy wearin them its like a stress reliever.to be honest my girlfriend takes me shopping for all kinds of lingerie.which is a turn on in itsself i jus figure if ya cant beat them join them
lingerie lover
QUOTE(_octinoxate @ Jan 7 2007, 02:19 AM) *

not tmi at all! I really dig genderfuckiness of any sort. (And for the record, I think it's very cool that you're so open and comfortable about being t.) I too have had partners tell me that seeing me in men's underwear gives them the opposite of an erection, but whatevs. Lately my thing is letting my pants hang down low so's my boxers stick out of the top for any/all to see.

Why do you think some folks react so strongly (in a bad way, that is) to seeing their partner in the "wrong" underwear?



hey if my girlfriend can wear mens boxers why cant i wear her panties ther softer prettier and feel good
lindseyreneecampbell
hey i have got my husband in my dresses my mini skirts and even my cheerleading uniform and yes even my thongs and bikini i think it is sexy
BoyInPanties
Hi there! I think this is a dead thread, but I wanted to post in it anyways.

I'm new to Bust. My name is Scott. I'm 31 yrs old, and I crossdress. I've been crossdressing most of my life.

I found this thread looking at crossdressing resources. I'm always curious to read about gender.

Anyways, it's nice to meet you all!!

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mouse
hi scott, welcome to bust!

PLEASE head to the newbies thread to post an official "hi, i'm new!" post (i know it looks like nothing in there right now but that's always been our newbies thread and only recently had to be deleted due to some serious troll action...just say hi or somethin, it's polite and it'll make people happy).

a couple helpful hints to keep on busties' good sides: don't start a new thread without getting a few other busties to second the idea in the community forum first, keep your posts topical to the threads you post 'em in, and doubleposting (posting the same exact thing in two different threads) is also frowned on. also, keep any self-promotion to the self-promotion thread.

we're self-moderating here so these guidelines are in place to help keep the board uncluttered.

i know a lot of this probably sounds unimportant, but we're pretty sensitive about our space here and if newbies give the impression of not respecting it, we can get vicious wink.gif

that said, we always love hearing from open-minded dudes, so do stick around (just please play by our rules).

and again...welcome!
Christine Nectarine
i didn't know this thread was here...a pleasant surprise so early in the morning. *yawn*
i've found that i like to wear men's undies, although i've never had any yearning to see my male partner in female knickers. i think i'm mostly attracted to anything androgenous, which seems to be the effect more of the men's briefs on me. outward clothes too, i love to go for a dapper manly attire. and the bf definately looks good in make-up and women's pants.
niki
Is this thread still of interst to anyone? I'm a newbie who subscribed primarily because of this thread.

I'm a male who loves panties. My wife wears very modest, conservative underwear, and is beginning to wear boxers, but she loves to see me in sexy panties. We do role reversal in many other ways too.
auralpoison
Sadly, this thread doesn't get enough play. Many of us are cool with the whole gender-fucky, cross-dressing thing. It's just fabric. And it's sex-ay to unwrap a new package!

I think it's kinda sad the way many straight men limit their draw options. Boxers, briefs, bikinis, boxer briefs. Cotton or silk or polyblend. There is a whole wide world of underwear out there. I wish more straight men took advantage of it.

It seems to me that in the gay community there are a lot of guys that have underwear fetishes. There are whole websites dedicated to guys in different forms of genital accoutrement. Jockstraps, 2xist, etc. Cute underpants that make the junk look hot. I likes it, I likes it a lot.

A gf of mine got divorced recently because her hubby was all secretive about his cross-dressing ways. It wasn't the panties that bothered her, it was his complete & total denial about it that pissed her off. She KNEW he was buying manties online, but he wouldn't own it, which led to all kinds of trust issues.

I'm wearing boxer briefs & a wifebeater right now. I like boxer briefs. They are comfy around the house & don't freak out the fedex guy like panties would.
twelve_percent
Ooooo, silky undies!
kittenb
Maybe off-topic but my bf bought the 2xist undies once without knowing that they were anything special and HO-LY COW! It is like a push-up bra for men. I wish he wore them everyday and nothing else. Seriously, whomever reads this, if your guy doesn't have them, buy them for him. biggrin.gif
auralpoison
It's crazy, innit? Those things make the junk look so fuckin' hawt. Even HB noticed that his equipment looked really good in them & started wearing them exclusively. I lurve them draws on a man.
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