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bambi
Okay, so I'm a teen girl and a virgin and basically an all-around goody two shoes. Needless to say, I don't know much about sex. So, I was wondering if it is really necessary for us girls to shave our pussys before we have sex. Do guys find hairy pussys unattractive? I've heard that since people in porn are always shaved then guys start feeling like it's a deal breaker if the girl doesn't shave. What do you guys think? Why should girls have to shave if the guys don't?
amazing_bass
There is already a thread about shaving here (in "Let's Thak About Sex") and here (in this topic, "Our Bodies, Our Hells").

You can edit your profile by clicking on the "Edit Profile" link in the pink leopard pattern on the left. You really should take your real name off of your profile (if that is your real name). Also, hide your e-mail address. If you leave your personal information available, trolls and weirdos know where to find you to harass you.

To address your question, I personally think it seems cleaner and more sanitary for pubic hair to be shaved (not that it necessarily IS cleaner or more sanitary, it just seems that way). I feel this way about my own pubic hair as well as women's. Keep in mind, though, that this is just one man's opinion.

Welcome to BUST.
mornington
bambi - amazing_ass is right in directing you to "caught by the fuzz"; we're a self-moderated board and can't delete extra threads.

But... he's one of the trolls they warn you about. There aren't many BUSTers here (male posters) and he's made several degrading comments before. I'd ignore him.

Welcome to BUST!
littleidiot
Bambi--
My .02:
Although I do shave down there most of the time now, the thought never even occurred to me when I was a teen--even when I was having lotsa sex as a teen. (I am 23 now so that just tells you how much things have changed in only a few years.)

BUT--whether or not you shave some or all of your pubic hair off is totally your decision. Don't worry about what guys want--if a guy didn't want to sleep with you because you weren't shaved, you shouldn't sleep with him anyway! If I were you, I probably wouldn't start shaving now... It's a PITA to keep up. I like the smoothness enough to make it worth the trouble but I'm sure many people wouldn't bother.
mornington
I forgot to add my two pence, bambi - sorry about that. I'm not yet 20, and my experience is limited but... none of the guys I've been with have had any objections to me not shaving. I was a little concerned too (more in a "fuck-you" way, though), but the first guy I slept with told me that not only was it my pussy to do what I liked with, but that he found a clean-shaved pussy a turn-off. Some guys do, some don't. They're all different.

But honestly... if you don't want to shave, don't. It's NOT a dealbreaker. Never. It's what you feel comfortable with that counts. Hope that helps, stick around.
hellotampon
I used to stress myself out about the shaving question when I was younger, then when I started fooling around with guys and having sex I realized it's not even an issue. At least, it hasn't been in my experience. Some guys will have a certain preference but I've never met someone who considered it a dealbreaker if someone did or did not shave, and they get used to whatever you do after a while, no matter what.

Personally, I think shaving is a pain in the ass and I only clean up my bikini line once in a while if I want to feel pretty. Otherwise, i just trim it very short with scissors and that's the best option for me.
pepper
personally, i don't want to have sex with someone whos sexual experience is predominantly from watching porn. gross. next thing ya know he'll want you to get fake boobs and bleach your nether regions so they're bubble gum pink.
real women have hair down there, only babies are bald. if a grown up woman *wants* to shave off her pubes 'cause she's a perv (like me, ha ha) then that's another story.
the deal breaker for me is someone who expects any special behavior all the time. sure, i'll shave it once in a while but i'll be damned if i'm gonna go to the trouble more than Once In a While and if he (or she) doesn't like it he can screw somebody else.
amazing_bass
Bambi, you should make up your own mind as to whom to ignore, instead of following what others say. However, someone who's juvenile sense of humor involves changing someone's name to an insult (which is most often done in elementary school) is generally someone whose input is less than valuable. Come on, Mornington, don't wow us so much with your creativity.
godslioness
I pity the sex life of anyone who genuinely believes that pubic hair is not "sanitary".
pollystyrene
I don't shave, but I do trim and it's not so much for my sex life, but just for comfort. It's horrible to be wiping and get a pube tangled around the toilet paper and yank it out.

If you're doing it because you feel dirty, or your partner is making you feel that way, then that's a problem. As is the case with any beauty regimen women put themselves through.

tatina
Come on Girls, you simply do WHAT YOU LIKE. You can never get it right for a guy anyway. You get a Brazilian and the next guy you date is crazy about pubic hair. Then you let it grow and his successor will scream:" Iyyykkk, a chimp". Useless. I like mine short, I shave it. Simple.
godslioness
Pollystyrene - "If you're doing it because you feel dirty, or your partner is making you feel that way, then that's a problem. As is the case with any beauty regimen women put themselves through. " This is exactly what I was saying, though from a different angle! Shave and trim by all means, but to think that a part of your body is intrinsically insanitary is just not healthy.
bunnyb
amazing_ass! *snort* mornington, you wow [ME] with your creativity, hunbun.

Different strokes for different folks, some men like it, some don't (others think it's unsanitary and they are to be avoided at all costs). Any guy who makes it an issue is not someone who should be taking such intimate steps with.

Personally, it depends how I'm feeling. My boyfriend has shaved me before and that's a very personal, intimate and sexy form of foreplay; I've also been "landing strip" sugared (I'm allergic to wax) and just now I'm letting it run wild. Anyone you are with you who loves you "just the way you are" will take the same approach to your pussy.
maddy29
yeah bunnyb-my boy just trimmed me a bit and he finds it incredibly arousing-it's cool with me cause it's more fun when he does it-to me it's just a chore like filing my nails. he also trims himself very neatly. i don't care so much, i never even tried trimming or anything until i was with him, and now i actually like it, but i dont go nuts with it.

those shaved porno women just look freaky and robotic an inhuman to me, with the fake boobs and no hair and just general yuckiness.

but yeah, if a guy you are with has a problem with your hairy puss, then he doesn't need to ever see it again.....his loss.
amazing_bass
I didn't say pubic hair IS unsanitary, I said it SEEMS that way. It's a big difference. Personally, if I have a wiry, oily bush, I just don't feel clean. Plus, imagine performing oral sex on someone and getting a mouthful of hair. Yuck.

Some of you women seem to pass off sheer laziness as feminism. (I’m not saying that all feminists do this, just some of them.) If you're genuinely happier with yourself with pubic hair, that's fine. Just don't attack me for what I like simply because your preferences are different from mine or because you're too lazy to shave.

Some of you women act the same way about shaving your legs, like it's wrong for society to pressure you to do so. Yes, a woman with hairy legs looks gross by common, modern standards of beauty. Yes, it's a chore to shave pubic hair, leg hair, facial hair, or any other hair. (Men usually have to shave, too, to meet workplace standards.) However, it's also a chore to bathe. Come to think of it, shame on society for pressuring us to bathe! Let's all just stop bathing and really stick it to the man! Come on, take a stand!
amazing_bass
I didn't say pubic hair IS unsanitary, I said it SEEMS that way. It's a big difference. Personally, if I have a wiry, oily bush, I just don't feel clean. Plus, imagine performing oral sex on someone and getting a mouthful of hair. Yuck.

Some of you women seem to pass off sheer laziness as feminism. (I’m not saying that all feminists do this, just some of them.) If you're genuinely happier with yourself with pubic hair, that's fine. Just don't attack me for what I like simply because your preferences are different from mine or because you're too lazy to shave.

Some of you women act the same way about shaving your legs, like it's wrong for society to pressure you to do so. Yes, a woman with hairy legs looks gross by common, modern standards of beauty. Yes, it's a chore to shave pubic hair, leg hair, facial hair, or any other hair. (Men usually have to shave, too, to meet workplace standards.) However, it's also a chore to bathe. Come to think of it, shame on society for pressuring us to bathe! Let's all just stop bathing and really stick it to the man! Come on, take a stand!
maddy29
yeah, god i would HATE to get HAIR in my mouth when there's already a penis in there. now that would just be sick and nasty. ewwwww!!!! i mean cum is fine, but hair??!!!! HAIR????? SICIKKKKKKK!!!!!!

puhleeze. sorry i know i'm feeding the troll. i'll stop
lucizoe
Wow, thanks for your input, amazing_bass. Just for my own curiosity, do you think it would be better for me to pull my body hair out one by one with tweezers, rather than shaving? I mean, I would hate to be accused of being lazy and of not, you know, conforming myself to society's standards.

I'm really concerned about this. I mean, I guess I've been letting the side down, so to speak, what with my laziness allowing me to neglect manicures, pedicures, hot waxes, electrolysis, facials, hair appointments, make-up application, shoe shopping and of course, self-flagellation. Please assuage my fears.

And where did you learn so much about women's bodies, anyway? I'm so in awe - I mean, you're the first person who ever told me that my periods could synch up with other women's. I would have thought that maybe attending a women's college, they would have mentioned that. And your extensive knowledge of feminism in general. Awesome. We're so so lucky to have such an understanding man here to help us sort things out. Imagine if we tried to handle this all on our own! Ick!
pollystyrene
A few more hours and dealing with the likes of amazing bass will not be an issue (((sigh)))

Sorry man, I almost felt bad for you, "oh, he just made a bad impression- who hasn't done that? Let's see if he can redeem himself" Then you just spout off stupid shit like that and make me more delighted to be getting an ignore button.

lucizoe- lol! Hard to take his opinions about women's health seriously when he doesn't even get that "Our Bodies, Our Hells" is a pun on one of the most classic, groundbreaking books ever written on women's health.
venetia
So we're really getting an ignore button?! :-)
:-)

pepper
YEAH!! ignore button. awesome.

i trim, bush and underarm too. it eliminates the throat full of hair thang and is also cooler. don't know about an oily bush, that sounds absolutely nasty. no wonder you have to come here for female attention, what woman would get near a crotch like that? ugh.

ha ha, i can say whatever i want for now 'cause we're gettin' an ignore button. hooray!!

hey, my fool around session last night was so funny. he was rubbing my legs and i laughed a bit and said that i obviously hadn't meant to let anyone take my pants off that night 'cause i was so all prickly. he laughed right back and sorta guffawed and said, "hey, that's au naturelle. it's nice."
dang, he doesn't look like a hippie but mmm mmm, i love it that he acts like one. boys that like how a girls body is naturally just turn me on. as far as all my last few lovers have been concerned, panties and that junk are just for taking off and throwing on the floor to get them out of the way of the goodies. ha.
amazing_bass
My crotch isn't "like that" (with an oily bush) because I groom myself, which includes regularly shaving my pubic hair. It's an easy issue to resolve, so I don't have a problem with it. Oh, and you can say whatever you want with or without an ignore user button.

So I've never heard of one book. Even if it's a high-profile book, there are so many books that I can't know all of them, not even all of the famous ones.

Although I think it was quite obvious from my previous post, I'll clarify that I wasn't targeting all women or even all feminists. There are some women who just seek the opportunity to succeed, and there are women who work out and groom themselves for optimum health and beauty (although Lucizoe's list is overkill even by my standards), but I'm not talking about these women. I'm talking about those who act like they're fighting some crusade against oppressive standards of beauty just by letting their health go to hell and generally being a sloth. If this doesn't describe you, you shouldn't be offended, because I'm not talking about you.
funnybird
Umm, how does have body hair negatively effect my health? And my "seeking the opportunity to succeed"?
So I don't really need brains, talent and hard work, I just need a bald coochie?
Damn, wish someone had told me that before now...

Umm, how does having body hair negatively effect my health? And my "seeking the opportunity to succeed"?
So I don't really need brains, talent and hard work, I just need a bald coochie?
Damn, wish someone had told me that before now...
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